Hey, my name is Althea and I live in New York City, but I go to baoarding school in northern massachuttes. I really love my school, NMH. My dream someday is to attend juilliard and someday become a broadway actress. I love to sing, dance, act, play violin and piano, take photos (photography), and paint. Really, I love to do anything artistic. I also love fashion and music (preferably any subgenre of rock, but also some pop and underground rap, none of that mainstreeam stuff) and ben and jerrys. I am a straight A student and I have a boyfriend who I love so much, but we have a lot of drama and issues.
I am so excited to answer your questions and have some of my own question answered, so please, dont hesitate!
Website: my xanga, but I have a myspace too (just ask)
Gender: Female
Location: somewhere over the raimbow
Occupation: porn star.
Age: 17
Member Since: August 11, 2005
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So basicly I am head over heals for this guy.. and I saw him the other day and was all over him and everythign and we did stuff and all that stuff.. we basicly cut off the relationship thing awhile ago due to a fight but i cant help him I want him for myself and I dont want anyone else touching him! WHAT SHOULD I DO!? (link)
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hey,
You're not alone. I felt like that last year for about 3 months. Honestly, it can be the most difficult thing in the world, but you have to be patient. If you wait a while and see if the feeling goes away, your garunteed to steer far from disaster. If you still feel this way about him after waiting awhile- connect with him. Get in a conversation, that your both fully engaged in. I remember in my situation we sat out in the cold for about 3 hours talking. That was the turning point- he started calling me and we got closer. So I admitted my feelings for him and before I knew we were dating for 5 months.
If its not meant to be- its not meant to be, and you have to move on. Remember to be a friend for him first- dont push it. If it doesn't come naturally its not meant to happen.
Happy holidays,
me.
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I was just wondering if anyone had any cute but not lame costume ideas for Halloween?! I might be wearing it to school, cuz at my middle school we have this lame parade thing. So it has to be good!! I don't want to be scary!!! (link)
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hmmmm
uh Id go with a movie character, those can get really clever. Such as.. Charlie ang the chocolate factory's willy wonka, or maybe you and a guy friend can dress up as mr. and mrs. smith. Get creative and make sure its modern. Try not to be steriotypical, keep it unique.
If you want to specify more, Im sure I could give you more help- feel free to ask!
- Althea, the sexy beast.
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my hair is pretty straight and i want to have curly hair like the mary kate and ashley ( not permanently though ) so what can i do to make it curly.. i dont have a hot iron curler thing so im not gonna go and buy one.. any tips? \
ps. i have those like curling things that you wrap your hair around .. if i were to use those, should my hair be wet or dry and how long should it be in there (link)
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Hey,
I would try using wash & curl shampoo its really great for getting the mary-kate and ashley look. For curlers you have to put them in your hair while your hair is wet and then spray hair spray that doesnt have a strong hold (I would suggest Rave by Suave). The should be in over night, or another long period of time (3-5 hours) and curlers can be very hard and complicated to use if you dont know how to use them right.
I personally have curly hair, and I've always wanted my hair to be straight. Now I'm starting to see that my hair is really beautiful the way it is and I think its more important to realise that your hair is awesome then try to make it something its not.
I hope this helps, feel free to ask me a question anytime!
-Althea, the sexy beast.
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O. My. God. I don't know what the hell to do! I'm 13f and I just discovered I like my teacher (he's a guy). This is sooooooooooo embarassing! And he senses it, too, which is even worse. Because every time I see him I blush and I can't make direct eye contact. I should not be liking him. What can I do to NOT like him? How can I control blushing? (link)
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WOW. And I thought that this only happened on lifetime soaps.. but here we go...
You can't control who you like at what time or where. So your just going to have to persevere. Dont let your teacher distract you. When he's teaching concentrate on your notes and whats on the board and try to ignore him (obviously not what hes saying, but his presence). When he walks by, look into your notebook. This a good way to perservere through this.
There are no real ways to STOP liking a person, you can't control how you feel. However, there are ways of yeilding your feelings. So in class if you do look at him try your best to find the least attractive feature about him. His clothes, a mole, hair cut.. anything even imagine up something like nose hair or a lot of ear wax and if youre not in love with him, this will probably help you to tone down how you feel.
The only other way I can think of to help this problem is to try placing your feelings with someone else closer to your age and focus on being with them. It is perferable that they be in your class so that you can focus on them and not the teacher. Eventually (hopefully) the liking for your teacher will fade and your feelings for this other boy will increase.
Just remember to focus on your studies and getting a good grade- that is most important.
I hope this helps, please feel free to ask me a question anytime!
-Althea, the sexy beast.
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okayy ! well i went out with this boy for almost 3 months and he was short .. and he knew it.. well we had an argument like a niqht before we broke up cause i didnt see him for like 3 weeks then if we didnt hang out today (the day of the argument) i wouldnt get to see him for another week .. soo anyway .. i got mad cause he wouldnt hang out with me ( am i right about getting mad ?) and i made steph my friend talk to him .. but i was sittinq on the floor rockiinq back and forth and then i was whisperinq i can do better i need to dump him because he treats me like ass.. but anyway then he heard and got mad so i forgave him about not hangin out but he didnt really forgive me but i talked to him the nxt day when i was babysittinq and then he said that he was ten like messinq around and i was like suuureee ..and he goes why do you think im soo short .. i said i dunno maybe you have growinq problems then he said what do u tell your friends you go out with someone whose short and i said nahh i say i go out with a short kid & he got mad and hung up so i called him back and he said dont fucking call me again bitch ! so i didnt...
what should i do .. oh yeah by the way im 14 and a Female (link)
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Hey,
wow you got yourself into a crazy mess. My name is Althea and Im a 15 female and Im currently dating a guy that I havent seen in almost 3 months! We actually dont live that far from eachother but whenever we try to get together something comes up. So I really understand what your going through because not seeing the person your with can create a lot problems.
First off, when you were mad at him in the begining you forgave him because he got mad at you. That was a bad choice. I think the problem you two are having is communication. I know that it sounds weird and queer, but you have talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you were mad about not seeing him you have to say to him "look, it really frustrates me that you didn't want to see me after I hadn't seen you in 3 weeks. You have to understand why I was mad about that" but at the same time, you have to understand his point of view: "Im sorry about what I said before I didn't mean it, I was just frustrated."
Since you aren't talking right now I would trying calling him and talking to him about things, if he doesnt put it any effort and just says "fuck it" then you should do the same. Because an asshole that won't give you time to talk and won't put any effort into the relationship is NOT worth your time. Maybe when he sees that he can't have you when he treats you the wrong way he'll realise that he's missing out.
If he does put in the effort to at least talk, recognise that he is trying, which is a really good thing and thank him for that.
When it comes to him being short, you have to respect that he obviously is insecure and instead of saying I have short boyfriend or your so short say I have an amazing boyfriend who I love and compliment him on the things about him that your attracted to like, "your hair is amazing" that will help him get over his insecurites.
Well, I really hope this helps and please feel free to ask me questions anytime!
- Althea, the sexy beast.
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What do consider love? Just pour your heart out and ill try to respond (link)
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Love is anything and everything you want it to be.
For me, Love is the feeling on Christmas when you pause from opening presents and breathe in everything around you deeply.
But sometimes, Love is that moment when your with someone and you realise that you dont want anything. You couldnt ask anyone for any wants or anything. And all you have now to do is give what you have. Thats what I feel when Im with my boyfriend, I need nothing else.
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I've been trying to get my layout for myspace to work for the past couple of hours and have had no luck. I used http://www.strikefile.com/myspace/reborn_3_2.htm to make my layout and when I preview you it looks right but when I put it into the "about me" section it doesn't come out the same. The size of the tables seem to change. The tables on the right with the "Latest Blog Entry", "about me", "friends" etc. sections turn really small. Does anyone know how I could possibly this and get the tables alligned properly?
Thank to everyone that helps! (link)
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Hey, I have a myspace too so I know of the woes that it takes to make it awesome. It sounds like your using an editor thats too complicated Id try a simple form of it here:
Thomas' Myspace Editor V3.6
once youve perfected the use of this you can find awesome pre-made layouts like this:
some chicks myspace Editor V3.6
You'll find links for editors all over myspace! Just look under peoples' "about me"s and youll find one that works for you.
Hope this helps, feel free to ask me questions anytime!
-Althea, the sexy beast
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my best friend of 3 years that me and her have been through soo much and we have both had each others back. but this summer at summer school she meet a girl that is chalden just like my race and i meet her today and i knew her because she used to go to my bible study group that i used to go to but see this girl i dont like her and she tryin to be all up in my friends bussiness and tryin to basically take my friend away from em and actin like me when there is only one me and she had the nerve to call me a camel when she dont noe me... my other best friend was by my side and held me back i was abotu to knock her out and show her who the camel is... but it was my first day.. what should i do??? if i talk to my friend what should i say and i dont know if i have to make her choice between me and this other girl?? i really dont want to loose my best friend! someone help me out... (link)
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hey,
I would try to let it go. Try ignoring this other girl and hopefully, she'll fade a little bit. Try to focus on being a good friend to your best friend and not mean to the other girl. This will really shine through to your best friend eventually Im sure that your best friend and other friends of yours will see the animosity that that other chick has shown you.
Just play it cool and try to not let it get on your nerves!
hope I helped, feel free to ask me a question anytime!
-Althea, the sexy beast.
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ooooooooooookay. so i have a boyfriend that i totally love with all my heart. but the thing is...he lives in a diff state than i do. and im kinda crushing on sum1 that lives near me. i just got in a fite with my friend and she told my bf that i have been "cybering with other guys" thats totally not true. so he called me up and he kinda got mad at me. i started thinking about the whole other guy thing and now im so afraid to dump him for the other kid cause i really do love him.ahh idont know whut i should do about my bf and the other kid. Puhlez help i rate high! (link)
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Of course there isn't one answer to this question so here are two options and you can let your heart decide:
one - If you really love your boyfriend you can work it out, because crushes do come and go. And if you are in love with your boyfriend then he probably loves you as well and eventually it will be worth it. If problems still persist youll find yourself falling out of love (which is okay!) and moving on. As long as you tried to work it out, you'll probably feel better about the situation. However you may feel like it wasnt a cause worth your time in which case...
two- I dont know how old you are but if you are fairly young, it's not like this relationship is going to last very long and if you can get in a big enough fight that makes you consider ending it, then maybe it is best for both of you that you break up. Its not like the relationship will last the rest of your life anyway. Now is the time to have fun and not stress out over little things, and being committed to a long distance relationship completely contradicts this. Just because you break up now, doesnt mean you can t be friends and if he does care about you he will understand. Also, just because you break up now doesnt mean that you can't give it another try later.
Hope I helped! and feel free to ask me a question anytime!
- Althea, the sexy beast.
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hello ms. the_sexy_beast, I was wondering:
what are your man hunting strategies? I need some lovin, and i need some lovin soon.
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There are many ways to woo men.... and Id go with these.
1. location- Dont fall in love in outer space, long distance doesnt work.
2. Do things- and you will find someone
3. get a target- with your location and activity this should be possible.
4. Make yourself look good- put some time in yourself, not only do you deserve it, but he will notice and if he doesnt you need someone with good taste.
5. flirt- show your best qaulities. The fact is, women know what men want (that came out wrong, but I mean in personality). Show your personality in an attractive way.
6. If hes not wooed by then or is taking too long, paint your toe nails and find a new one. You shouldnt have to wait around.
And remember, no one likes a slut!
Once you find one, give me the 411 and maybe I can get you some more help.
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much! (link)
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hey..
really fond of the exclamation points, arent you? Well, thats a very complicated situation and you definantly dont want to get him something that says "I want you now" or "I care about you a lot", because he has (techinally) a girlfriend and you really dont want to be that "other chick" especially being his ex!
Anyway, I would go with something really personal, you obviously know him well so something simple, but personal would definantly do the trick. I know that seems fairly broad, so Ill give you some pointers.
1. EBAY. So lets say he has a favorite band if you search that band on ebay maybe you could find something thats signed by that band or something else really special.
2. if you dont that much time visit a place he shops like a clothing store or something and find a thing or two that you think he would say wow I love this, I have to have this. If it something that he really loves, it will mean more than the amount it was.
3. anything you get, make sure you add a card. thats something that is priceless (not too mention you can get it for free). Just take a pen and paper and write something that really opens you up. Thats what my boyfriend did for my birthday and it was the best thing he got me. The best part is, it will be a big deal to him without showing that you put too much effort into something.
I hope this helps, and if you need more advice feel free to ask again about it!
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
P.S. Guys appreciate blow jobs.. but that isnt classy.
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k, i kno dis iz a lil dirtey but, i luv bein spanked. i jus luv it! it completely turns me on. my bf is rlly into "WHOLESOME LOVING" tho, nd thats not my style. i really like him a lot, but i need sum satisfying sex. mi frends wont giv me advice cuz it makes them "uncomfortable" please, i rlly need help!
- the lost nd unsatisfyed lova (link)
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hey the lost and unsatisfyed lover,
Can I first off say that its actually a good thing that he is into wholesome loving, that means he really loves you and he really wants to make love to you, not just have sex. If you start visualizing the real emotion and feeling in that, you may be able to enjoy the sex much more.
But.. it may not. So, to get your guy going, you have to tell him what you want in a way that compliments him (in way). So lets say your in foreplay, wisper sultry nothings in his ear that hint at what you want and makes it seem likes hes doing what you want. For example, "I love it when you grab my ass" or "please spank me." etc... that whisper will turn him on and probably get the picture through to him.
You could always higher a hooker for inbetween sex, where you pay for him to satisy you! Though I have to say most of those guys are not eye candy.
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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what would you call the look that is in right now? and how can you where best? (link)
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The look thats always in, when it comes to fashion, is modern. I dont care if vintage is "in", thats a modern look: to project a vintage style, you know? Well anyway, its not a look that you should want to be wearing, it should be your ( "you" should be underlined bold and italic) style. Your personality, and whatever reflects you and appeals to you, not what others want people to look. Go online, go to malls, find some stores you like and buy things you LOVE (not like), and a modern look will be acheived with your style. You know what I mean?
you have to choose your own style, heres some help.. if your earthy I would go with a bohemian style (Nordstroms and abercrombie(I hate to say abercrombie, but its true)), preppy: a girly style (abercrombie, delias), laid back: summer/surfer style (pacsun and delias), rocker: rocker. (hot topic (awesome band t-shirts and shoe laces), delias), SCENE (salvation army is a great way to acheive this style).
hope this helps...
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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hey Althea,
Ive recently tapped into rock (well this summer). Just mainstream stuff, but I love that indie shit. What do you suggest? I really just want to get exposure to a lot of different bands without spending a lot of time or effort haha.
well- thanks! (link)
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Hey there,
Thats awesome that you want to get exposure to different kinds of bands, I dont really know what your taste in but if you want to get a nice taste of a lot of different kinds of rock (not to many mainstream bands on there) I would suggest the following bands:
Bush
Copeland
the 5678's
the dresden dolls
311
AC/DC
Against Me!
Alice Cooper
Alien Ant Farm
Alkaline trio
the Allman Brothers
Ash
Audioslave
sound garden
blind melon
blur
bob marley
the bravery
bright eyes
cake
caesars
the knack
the pretenders
Coheed and Cambria
the clash
the dandy warhols
david bowie
death cab for cutie
the postal service
deftones
the doors
Eve 6
the foundations
frank jordan
franz ferdinand
the future heads
garbage
game face
the get up kids
glassjaw
guns 'n' roses
head automatica
hot hot heat
interpol
iron & wine
jimi hendrix
kind of like spitting
king crimson
the kinks
le tigre
led zeppelin
Humble
pink floyd
veracity
the libertines
mad at gravity
the marx volta
massive attack
muse
pavement
phantom planet
the pixies
poison the well
the police
the presidents of the united states of america
Radiohead
queen
rage against the machine
the ramones
raxorlight
RHCP
the rollingstones
Sam roberts
queens of the stone age
semisonic
the shins
snow patrol
spoon
steriogram
the stills
sublime
tenacious D
the troggs
the von bondies
the walkmen
weezer
the who
the zutons
thats about a fourth of my itunes, I tried to keep it as un-mainstream and not well know as possible. If you find some bands you like post again and I can give you even more But honestly, you need to do your own exploring and find your own taste. Thats the only way youll be a happy rocker.
Have fun!
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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but i feel great about myself, ive seen real results and i can sleep easier, and i have less and i can focus.
i guess you dont understand. maybe you do, but im hurt to see it or something.
i just wanted you to know i could change. (link)
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uh okay! Next Question!
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this is chris~
that was my question about if you hate me or not
ya know, i lost like 3 inches on my waist, and i did it all for you..i miss you (link)
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... if that wasn't so creepy because we never talk, it would...... still be a little creepy.. and strange..
Chris, you shouldnt lose weight for someone else, only yourself; to make yourself happy. Because, honestly, your the only person that its worth it to lose weight for.
I dont hate you, I never hated you.
And the best way to get over missing someone is to...
stop.
Hope that works out for you.
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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Hey Althea-
Its summer and your supposed to be wild and mess around right? well I think I took it too far. See Ive had a bf for two and a half moths (we got together right when school ended). And although I have seen him a lot, I have cheated. With more than one guy. But I was just having fun, and I think thats what summer is about, right?
What he doesnt know wont hurt him, right? (link)
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I found myself in the same situation a little while ago and... Actually, excatly the opposite. What he doesnt know, will eventually hurt him. If you really care about him, you have to tell him. If hes worth being with, he will understand your philosophy about summer and except it (though not without a fight to warn you). If he isnt okay with it, maybe you guys arent ready for a committed relationship, sure you can get back together, but whats the point if you cant commit?
I learned that the hard way, and now Im fully comitted.
I personally dont disagree with permisquosy, but its no fun when theirs guilt attached.
Another option would be to behead him, then I can garuntee what he doesnt know about you cheating wont hurt him, but the guilitene will.
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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would you ever kiss me? or do you hate me? (link)
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Well I dont know who this is, but Im sure I dont hate you.
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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i agree with you being a sexy beast? do you mind? your not beastly, but you're sexy (link)
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I dont mind at all, in fact- keep thinking that way (I may be able to use to my advantage someday).
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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i have a gun...is that ok?
its a rifle..
and i own an air rifle.. (link)
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then I would say go with dog-sitting or another animal, those shits get shot all the time! and it would be a bit more normalized.
Thanks for your question,
Althea, the sexy beast.
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