f-17
bf=m-17 almost 18
we've been dating 15 months going on 16 in december.
i have NO clue what to get him for Christmas.
i dont want to give him something i already have obviously so here is what i Have gotten for him.
-Cologne
-Shirt
-build-a-bear bear
Need good ideas i can spend up too $100 on him cause that about all i have. :(
i'm buying him a not so serious gift too-a mr. potato head!
so this one i want to be like not a serious but i good and semi pricey gift.
thanks! =D
wellllllllll i currently don't have a boyfriend, but my friend has been going out with her boyfriend almost as long as you and your boyfriend and so far she told me she is going to get him:
a gas gift card
a picture frame with a picture of them two
mountain dew and kit kats (haha his favorites)
a shirt
a necklace
now i know you said you already have gotten your boyfriend a shirt, but you can always get him like a sweatshirt or something like that. nobody can ever have enough clothes! i love the idea of getting a boy their favorite candy, i did this with my ex boyfriend too and he loved it. as for the necklace if your boyfriend wears jewlery this could be a good idea. just get him like a plain silver or gold chain. my brother's girlfriend got my brother a gold chain with a cross on it, and he wears it everyday. if he has his ears pierced, you can always get him some earrings :) you COULD get him tickets to a concert that may be coming up, or a sporting event if he is into sports. a video game? not sure what he is really into. a hat! i love getting guys a hat, but i'm also not sure if he wears hats! if you don't like any of these ideas, you can let me know what kind of things your boyfriend likes and i'm sure i could help ya out more! ♥ LU
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So I'm 16 and I'm female.
I haven't had a boyfriend since 8th grade. And all the guys I meet end up being just friends. I'm really bad at flirting because I get too nervous. I have no idea what to do and all my friends get boyfriends all the time. It makes me insanely jealous. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do to get guys to notice me in that way. Help ?
i use to be just like you. i had so many guy friends, and pretty much every one of them liked me but i could only see them as friends, or even like my brothers. i thought i would never find someone, i thought there was something wrong with me. finally two years ago, i decided it was time for a change. i needed to not care what other people thought of me, i was going to be crazy and just have fun! joke around with them, and have confidence. guys love a girl with confidence and they love someone who can make them laugh. don't ever try to be someone your not. wouldn't you rather have someone like you for who you are, rather than someone your not? you have to flirt, and i know you said your not good at this but trust me it is easy. first thing first, flirting is a way to impress a guy with your natural beauty and personality. it is NOT something where you should completely change who you are to gain his attention. if you do, you are most likely setting yourself up for disaster. dress up on days you expect to see your special guy. lets face it, guys are attracted to girls who can take care of herself. this does NOT mean wearing skimpy skirts and lots of makeup. wear clothes that compliment your body and makeup that enhance your facial features. guys are not attracted to a girl who wears more makeup than a circus entertainer. looking good does very little if you don't have confidence! again, don't go in extremes. be confident in the way you walk and talk, but not to the point where it may come off as arrogant. confident and humble is a good mixture to have. eye contact is an extremely useful tactic you can use to your advantage. nothing says "come here" than a dreamy glance into a guy's eye. if you two are in a room with many people,catch his glance for no more than 2 seconds then look away. it leaves an air of mystery. when talking to him manage to give him just enough eye contact to make him feel confortable. how can you tell? normally, a guy will stare at your face when you are having a conversation. he will start looking down and shifting his feet if he begins to feel uncomfortable. if you see these signs minimize the eye contact and step back a little. giving the guy a second to catch his breath works wonders. okay, we've talked about the outside appearance, now lets get to the most important part....YOU! afterall, the outside only advertises what's so great about you. guys like girls who are funny and know how to have a good time. make sure you're smiling a lot around him. when giving a conversation, be interesting! it can be hard to keep any guy's attention in a conversation, so be energetic (but not hyper). talk about something you both share in common, whether it is sports, music, or even a funny incident you both happen to have just witnessed. if you feel like he's giving you the tell-tale signs of being attracted to you (smiling, leaning in, keeping eye contact, standing feet shoulder length apart, etc) touch him subtly. touch his shoulder slightly when talking or give him a joking push. talk to other guys around him. show him you are desirable, BUT do not flirt too much with them. you'll put yourself in the situation of him thinking you are too flirtatious. i hope this works for you. i know you can do this, you will find a boy! but don't go looking for one. they really do come when you least expect it. good luck hun and if you need anything else let me know ♥ LU
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Im a 16/m. Today my kinda girlfriend told me that she started talking to her ex and her feelings came back for him. I say kinda because i never asked her to be my girlfriend because her parents didn't want her to be in a relationship. I told her that if im keeping them apart then i would stop talking to her. She said she cant be with him right now but she didn't say why i think it was a distance thing. Then she told me that she still wants to talk as friends but i cant do that she already hurt me before i don't think i could take it again. So i said goodbye and i asked her if she could stop talking to me completely so i could get over it faster. I don't know what to do i feel sick ive been crying for the past 4 hours and i have to see her tomorrow at school i have her for my last class of the day. And i see her in the halls.
Can someone help me.Tell me about your experiences, or how to get over this, something to look forward to; should i try to get back with her or let her go?
i've been through this situation, and i'm going through something similar right now so hopefully this will help you out. i'm friends with this guy, we've been friends for three years now and he has a girlfriend. he always tries to get with me though, and he knows i would drop anything for him but he can't seem to do the same for me. he has hurt me, many times but for some reason i keep talking to him, hoping things won't work out with him and his girlfriend. he said he wants to be with me, but just can't leave his girlfriend. i told him he needed to figure out what he wanted, because he wasn't being fair to me or his girlfriend. finally i decided to give up and move on. i've waited three years and i don't want to waste my time on a boy who will probably never be mine. we got in a fight, and we weren't friends anymore. this hurt, really bad. i couldn't take it and i thought that by not talking to him anymore things would get better but it just made everything worse. i needed him in my life, if he wasn't going to be my boyfriend i still needed him as my best friend. maybe it's not best that you told her she should stop talking to you, we need certain people in our life and even though many people don't think this, it can make things better. wouldn't you rather still have her in your life? she makes you happy, right? why just throw all of that away, why put yourself through this? i've learned the hard way, i don't want you to make this mistake. tell her to figure out what she wants, maybe give her some time, she WILL miss you. trust me on this one. this is something that you're not just going to get over, i wish i could tell you differently but certain people leave a bigger impact on our life than others. time heals everything, it really does. sooner or later she will figure out what she wants and maybe it will be you, maybe it won't but as of right now it's all on her. you seem like a great guy, don't give up hope. i know things will work out for the best and if you need anything else, let me know ♥ LU
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kayy i like this but hes not really showign interest do i give up or try harder?? i really like him but i think ive tried alot..?
thanks
i know how that feels. i went through that for four years and i kept holding on, hoping that maybe he would care, i tried so hard but you know what? after this weekend, all that work just came back and slapped me in the face. i put four years into a boy, into our friendship. i was always the one trying to make things work, no matter what he did to me i kept taking him back, hoping things would change but they didn't. the longer i held on, the more it hurts now. i was a strong believer that people should never give up on something they want but now i have a completely different view on that. if someone is not putting forth the same effort you are, why waste your time on them? maybe this is not what you want to hear, and i didn't want to hear it either from my friends. they told me i was wasting my time on this boy, that i deserved better than him and that i could find a guy that actually cared but i didn't listen. i thought he was different, i thought things were going to work out but i should of listened to my friends. i loved this boy, i couldn't possibly give up on him but i finally decided that enough was enough and i needed to do what was right for me. i didn't want to move on, trust me. he broke my heart, he didn't care about me as much as i cared about him. my grandma told me "don't ever fight for someone that isn't going to fight for you, don't ever chase them, let them chase you" and i realized she was right. so please don't make the mistake i made, move on. it may be hard, but in the end it will be on of the best decisions you'll make :) hope i could help ya if you need anything else i'm always here ♥ LU
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the guys i go for ALWAYS hurt me, as a result i have become pretty negative as far as relationships go. the person who messed me up the most though was this boy david. my neighbor jake brought me to a party where i ended up meeting a bunch of guys from his all boys school. the host was cute and we ended up making out but i found out he was a womanizer. well anyways, david had a girlfriend at the time of the party but i guess he got messed up and ended up making out with this really slutty not very attractive model. that was the night i met david. he gave me and jake a ride home from the party and he was cute and charming and asked for my number just in case he got lost going home and needed directions. from that night forward we began calling each other best friend and texting all the time. i eventually began to like him. we kept texting and he was very flirty and we went to the mall together. we were talking about a good 2 or 3 months while he was with his gf untill he finally dumped her for me. we started to have a thing immediately after and i was so happy but i wasnt sure i trusted him considering he has cheated on his gf and the fact he dumped her for me. he told me how we werent going to see anyone else and he was very protective of me. being my dumb self i bought into the fact that i was different. i told him about this guy who had reallyy hurt me and he promised he would never do that to me. i turned down many guys for him and went to a couple parties without him where i was completely loyal. he at one point told me i wasnt as skinny as most girls he goes for (i am 5'5 and 118 pds with a flat stomache and boobs). i had never been body concious until he said that. he ended up getting mono from his previous gf and lucky me, i got it too about a week and a half after him. i got it alot worse though and had to go to the hospital for three days because of it. he didnt visit me. then when i got out about two days later he came over and that was when i started to realize just how dumb he truly was. like this kid is actually a complete idiot! well i lost 10 pounds from the mono he had given me that i wasnt yet recovered from and i looked so disgustingly skinny but he told me how much better i looked and how i shouldnt gain my weight back! he pounced on me despite the fact i wasn't fully recovered and shoved his tounge down my throat. he had recovered mono and men cant get it a second time so the fact i still had it didnt matter to him. oh and i left something out, throughout our whole relationship he ALWAYS mentioned to me how ugly that model was and how he regret kissing her, and he would make fun of her and her ugliness every time she put up new photos on facebook. well anyways he went to lax camp that weekend but he made sure to call me every night. friday night was the night he decided to give me the rule that i was no longer allowed to talk to any other guys. that saturday he was texting me all day as usual, but at night he decided to spaz out on me about the fact that i dont tell him i like him enough therefore i must not like him. he was being rediculous. the next day he was normal and i called him out for the night before and he took me all wrong and got super offended. he was comming home that day and had wanted to chill but he stopped talking to me. that night he didnt call and i knew something was up. the next day i texted him and he broke things off saying he wanted to be able to do stuff with other girls but still wanted me as well. i knew something was up. that night, pictures went up and i got to see a lovely photo of david from the previous night making out with the ugly model. i was in shock. it was a terrible feeling. i moved on quickly to this cute senior and didnt reply to any of david's texts that week. the next week he began to beg for me back when i actually replied to him. i didnt take him back and he stopped talking to me again. then he tried to get me to be his "friend with benefits". i was NOT for that and intentionally gave him worlds worst blue balls. then he tried to get me back several other times after that. he also came to a party at my house, puked in my sink i clearly told everyone not to use bc it doesnt work properly and didnt confess untill he wasnt even at my house anymore. i got grounded for the rest of the summer. i kind of left out the fact that after things didnt work with the senior i made out with a TON of different guys. i was so hurt that i thought it would make me feel better. well we ended up talking again and being friends again and he asked me to his homecomming and i said yes. we talked over the fact we were just going as friends despite the fact he still liked me. i wasnt over him he didnt know that though, and i am not dumb enough to ever go back to someone who hurts me like that. the whole night he kept trying to be all touchy feely and was trying to make out with me. i distanced my self a bit and of course my other friends from his school new everything so i looked dumb even being there with him. i dont know if it was the fact that i didnt want him or what but he immediately ditched me at the after party. me and this girl stole the alcohol bottel and i drank untill i was no longer upset. i dont remember much of that night, i guess i meade out with 6 guys though including david. 2 of which were at a different party i dont even remember being at. i left david a couple drunken voicemails then went to bed. the next day i tried to call to appologize for being an emberassment and thank him for taking me, he didnt pick up. he never called back. my good guy friend later informed me how proud of himself alex was over the summer when he did stuff with the ugly model and that he had gotten head from her! also i guess he was talking about how he wasnt going to call me back or respond to my texts. i was really hurt, all i wanted was to talk to him. i had ALWAYS heard him out and he couldnt listen to me the one time i messed up? also my drinking buddy told me he had planned on trying to get with her and texted her earlier in the week trying to see if shed do stuff with him at the afterparty. i wonder if that was before or after he tried to convince me to go as more than just his friend. i wonder if he planned on kissing us both! basically he hates me, i probably dont even cross his mind and i am pathetic and i still think about him all the time. and i still starve myself sometimes because he has me so afraid of my weight. i dont know what to do, or how to deal with it or him. everyone at his school hates him now because he ratted out a ton of kids including some of his best friends for having drugs and alcohol just to save his own skin from getting expelled. he got two kids expelled 1 of which is not on probation and 10 suspended, all just to save his own ass. how do i still care about someone so selfish and decietful? how can i get over him? and honestly do you think that one night mistake i made was as bad as everything he did to me? please just tell me anything you think. thankyou. sorry this is so long.
woah that was long. i'm sorry for everything you have been through, it's horrible. no girl should ever have to go through ANYTHING like that, but we all seem to at least once in our lifetime. for your weight, david must be fucking crazy. i would like to tell that kid off seriously. im 5'5 too and i weigh around the same as you and people are always telling me how skinny i am, and how good of a stomach i have and i actually think i look TOO skinny sometimes. you are nowhere near fat, and you definately don't need to be losing any weight. please please please don't ever let a boy bring you down about your weight, you are fine just the way you are and it just shows how shallow of a guy david was. it is hard though to know that you should hate someone, but you just can't bring yourself to do it no matter what. i'm in a situation like that right now too. that one night you messed up is NOTHING compared to what he did to you. david needs to grow the hell up and realize that nobody is perfect, especially not him. you're so much better than that sweetie, you're such a strong girl. you deserve SO much better than him. i feel sorry for the next girl david tries to go for, because if he puts her through half of the stuff he put you through she will be devastated. lose all contact with him. go out with your friends. i think you just need to take a break from guys right now. hang out with your girls and just get back to being yourself :) don't ever settle for anything less than you deserve. you deserve a guy who will come see you at the hospital, who will bring you flowers, who will be loyal to you, who you can trust with everything you have, who loves you just the way you are and wouldn't want it any other way. find a guy that loves you and only you. the one that gives you butterlifes, the one who will come see you when you're sick and just lay there with you while you watch movies. i hope you find this someday, because you sure as hell deserve it girl. i am so proud of you, you are one strong girl no matter what anyone says. you have been through so much but i know that it has only made you realize that you don't need certain people in your life. things change, no matter how hard you try to stop them from changing. sometimes they change for the better and sometimes for the worse, but they change and when they do, you're not always ready to let go or to grab on. don't be discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward. if something happens you cannot control, then life isn't going to wait for you to catch up, you just have to keep on moving with life. when you have a problem like this, then think, i'm worth way more then all this. i'm going to make it and life goes on. i believe in you, you will make it ♥ LU
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I don't know if anyone in particular is good with "sex" questions but.. i have a slight problem in that department. I've been with my boy for 4 years now but only have been having sex for 1.5 yrs of it. The problem is.. he doesn't last long at all, but he used too. Any tips as what to do? We intend on getting married but I can't if sex just isn't fun. Is that low to say?!.. Anyhow, I hope you can give some kind of advice. Thanks.
ohhhh noo :( this is not fun for you. to tell you the truth, men want it bad, they want it now and they burn out fast. guys have a wider range of things to think about and things that can turn them on such as face, body, voice, and smell. if you guys do foreplay beforehand, you might want to stop doing that from now on. i mean, he is already excited when you do that so when it's actually have time to have sex, he doesn't last very long. i've never had this problem but i know my friend and her boy did, sad thing is one time he lasted two minutes haha, but he told her it was because he was just really horny. i understand on the getting married part, it would be extremely hard. i don't think it's a low thing to say, we all want a good sex life and if your boy isn't fulfilling that i know it's a problem. is there something you two are doing different now than you were before when he could last longer? i'm sorry i couldn't help you much on how to make him last longer, but i tried my best and i hoped it helped you out somewhat. if you need anything else, you know i'm always here to help ♥ LU
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16/f
okay so today ive been having a lot of completley clear discharge and its the first time this has ever happend and theres been enough to where i thought i wet my pants.
Its kinda freaking me out.
any ideas on what could be going on??
it's normal. it sucks, i know, but it's completely normal. i went to the doctor for this problem because i had alot like you do and the doctor said she couldn't do anything for me because it's normal. as long as it's clear there is nothing wrong with you. your body does this because it's cleaning itself out. now what you can do is wear a pantyliner and you can get these pretty much anywhere. places like target, wal-mart, k-mart and walgreens. it doesn't get all over your pants. i'm still trying to deal with this problem because it sucks that there is nothing we can do to stop it, but it's a way of life and something us girls unfortunately have to deal with. ♥ LU
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i dated this guy for about 2 years and i was in love. its been about 7 months now since weve broken up, and im not over him due to the fact that for the first 5 months after we broke up we would still hangout and he would still tell me he had alot of feelings for me until i couldnt take all of that bullshit anymore. just last month hes been saying that he missed me and that he still loved me.. then i wouldnt hear from him for another couple weeks.. its just confusing and annoying like if he really loved me he would actually be trying, but he doesnt and i just want to be done with it all because ive been so hurt by all his bullshit! anyways!! i really just want to get over him, any advice on ways to forget somenoe you were in love with? i really wish i could find a new guy to replace him and make me forget him but ive been trying and im just not into anybody.. i thought finding a new boyfriend would be much easier but its not at all. i go out a lot with friends but, it doesnt exactly help me get over him?
it is hard, it really is. love is one of the best things in the world, but can also be the worst. love teaches you everything. you will never forget someone you were in love with and two years is a very long time. you may never let go of the feelings you have for him, at least not for awhile and right now you don't have to let this one go so fast because certain people enter our lives at the most peculiar times, for the most beautiful reasons. they seem to make such perfect impressions while leaving behind an everlasting impact. some of the best things in life appear when you least expect them. things you can never forget. it may take years to forget about him, and move on like you want to but i promise it will get better in time. you need to stay strong. your girls will help you through this. i know that feeling that when you're with your friends and you just want to have fun without thinking about him, but it's all thats on your mind. i get that, i've been through that too many times to count. i've realized that it didn't work out for a reason, at first i didn't want to move on. i couldn't possibly see myself with another boy but then i realized that i didn't need a boy to make me happy, i needed to make myself happy first. there is nothing you can really do to completely get over him, it takes time. but keep yourself occupied, keep hanging out with your friends. don't find yourself sitting at home because it does make things worse. it is hard when he keeps talking to you, and saying that he misses you and that he still loves you but if you really want to get over this boy, you may just have to lose all contact with him. now maybe he just stopped talking to you because you were saying that you just wanted to be done with all of it, and maybe he just thought he was wasting his time on a girl that wasn't going to take him back so he didn't see a point in still trying. most guys seem to get over girls easier than girls getting over guys but don't ever think that he is not thinking about you when he is with his friends, don't ever think that he is not still wanting to be with you, and realized that what he had was one of the best things in the world. stay strong girl, keep your chin up. i know you will get through this, SMILE :) please!! i believe in you ♥ LU
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19f, Ok it seems like when I like someone, really like someone, they always end up disappearing somehow. And the people that really like me who I sorta settle for for are the people that I always end up hurting. I don't understand why I can't be happy with the nice ones. for instance one of the guys im talking to right now is really sweet and really likes me. I don't know why I am so reluctant to enter into a relationship with him. Why can't I just let myself be happy with the person who would try their best to make me happy versus one Im not sure cares. The other guy that I am interested in, who I like just a little more, I don't talk as much and I don't know if he REALLY likes me like he says he does. But somehow I find myself thinking about him more than the other guy and wondering who to choose. Its not like I don't talk to the other guy AT ALL and when I do talk to him he seems into me but he doesn't show as much interest as the first guy I mentioned. SO why am I still confused. I should know exactly who I want to be with and it should be the one that shows me they really care, right? I mean I do like him...I just happen to like the other guy too and a little more...i think. I just don't kno. I am so confused. Help me!!!
i love this quote and i think it can relate somewhat to your problem:
"sometimes you have to be strong for yourself. you have to know that you are a good person and a good friend. what is meant to be will end up good, and what is not won't. relationships are worth fighting for but sometimes you can't be the only one fighting. at times, people need to fight for you. if they don't you must move on and realize that what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you, hopefully, they realize great things when they come around and don't lose something real. always fight until you can't anymore, and be fought for."
this quote has a lot of meaning. you see, you can't be the only one fighting, the only one working for the realtionship to start, or to work out. we like the ones that don't seem as interested because we like the challenge. you know the other boy will always care for you and love you no matter what. the other guy may feel the same way but doesn't show it and since the other guy shows interest in you, you know he will never hurt you, you know that he will always be there waiting for you when you're ready but the other guy is a mystery and you want to see what happens, you want more. everyone want's more. but i would try it out with the boy who really shows interest in you, give him a chance. you don't want to chase the other guy, they're suppose to chase you! :) if it doesn't work out with the one who shows interest in you maybe you and the other guy can work something out. hope i helped ♥ LU
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Okay so lately I've been screwing up alot of stuff and I want to make my parents proud of me. Tonight I blew out the tire on our car from hitting a curb (I till have my permit) and even though my mom tried to say it wasn't completly my fault because that curb sticks out, it still makes me feel horrible. I also don't have a job but I'm trying so hard to get one, it's not like I just don't care. I'm sick of using their money and I want to be able to pay for my own stuff. It's so hard to be 16 and find a job where I live, I've applied to at least 10 different stores. I'm also trying to cut down on drinking and eliminate smoking (both kinds- i dont do either often at all though) because I feel deceitful. Finally, I want to spend more time with my family. I'm planning on going to the movies with them on Friday. I need some advice on how to manage/make all of this work, I've never felt this bad about anything I've done until tonight. I'm 16/f, & thank you :)
i'm so proud of you :) this made me happy when i read it. it's good that you want to change, for the better. first for the driving part, just keep driving more with your parents and you will get better at it, i promise and don't feel bad because you're just learning and parent's understand that. i've done some pretty stupid things with my car but as long as i told my parent's about it and we could get it fixed they weren't very mad. for the job, KEEP TRYING! getting your first job is tough and it does take patience. keep applying to places that are hiring and i'm sure that someone will call ya back or you could always babysit or do things around the house and maybe you can earn your money from that until you do find a job. as for the drinking and smoking, well i've never had this problem but try and stay away from people who are doing it so it doesn't tempt you to do it too. you don't want to do this, especially at 16, it seems so young and it is not good for you at all and i'm sure you know that but if you wan't to quit smoking it may be hard. now it doesn't sound like you are very addicted, if at all since you said you don't do it all the time but stay busy so you wont think "i need a cigarette" let me ask this question. why do you smoke? is it to release stress? you can always exercise to release stress. is it to be cool? if it is, smoking really isn't that cool, most people don't like to be around people who smoke. just think about why you do it and i know there are alternatives you can do instead of smoking. now for the family part. i'm very close with my family. it's good that you are going to the movies with them and maybe once a weekend you can go out to dinner with them before you go out with your friends or on the weekdays you can eat dinner with them everynight if you don't already. always remember, family will always be there for you no matter what happens. they will always love you no matter what you put them through. i know you're a strong girl and i know you can get through this. ♥ LU
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I want to get my bf something really sweet and cute, but something that he'll actually use alot, and think of me when ever i use it. We've been dating for almost a year now so i want to get him something special. But he's kinda tight on money right now so i want to get him something pretty cheap because i dont want him to feel like he should have gotten me something expencive. So for sure under $40. And i have absolutely no idea what to get him :( HELP
well it depends on what kind of things your boyfriend is into but i think i can give you some ideas. you can get him a nice shirt or sweatshirt from a store that he likes, a hat, get him some of his favorite candy (my ex loved it when i did this haha) get a frame and put a picture of you two in it. well thats all i can think of right now, but if you could tell me what kind of things your boyfriend likes i'm sure i could give you more ideas! ♥ LU
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I am 15/f and my ex is 17/m. We went out last year (freshman and junior) and we kinda rushed things. all we did was hook up, but we broke up after a month. we had great chemistry(same interests, same music, same sense of humor, both did track), but he said it wasn't working. but that was then. i was his first gf, and i think maybe close to his first kiss, if not the first.
after that, we said hi in person when i saw him and actually had the guts to smile.. but thats all. we also talked on aim a few times. then in the summer we only talked like twice.
so this year... we pass eachother in the hallways a lot. sometimes when i dare to look at him, we make eye contact. and we recently smiled at eachother for the first time since like june. we've talked on aim recently, and it went really well. he even remember a lot of things about me, and was talkative.
I never got over him, and i still really like him. He's different than any boy i've ever dated, and it seems stupid but I don't think theres anyone i'd rather be with now.
Is it possible he still likes me ? (I was his first gf)
Any tips on trying to get closer, and maybe move into a relationship?
TIP #1: TAKE THINGS SLOW :)
don't ever rush into anything when you first get into a relationship. taking things too fast could go two ways. one, he could just be using you because he knows that you will hook up will him only after a couple weeks of going out or two, he just got really scared because you were his first girlfriend and maybe he was scared of committment and just thought things were moving too fast. now if you want to get back together with him, you have to start talking to him in person. it's nice that you smiled at him, but you have to have the courage to start talking to him again in person and after you have the courage to do that maybe you two can start hanging out again. don't be shy about this, it seems as if both of you are just nervous and it's normal to be like this with someone you like. i know that feeling when you can't see yourself with someone else and right now i'm going through something like that and you know what, i'm not giving up. don't you ever give up on something you want because if you want it badly enough, you can get it. if you need any other advice leave it in the inbox. i hope it works out for the best ♥ LU
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Well , I was in a relationship for a year & 3 months ... he Broke up with me 5 months ago .. Me and this guy Jason have gotten really close over the months and we're like the BEST 0F FRiENDS , we know everything about each other . Well he dated this girl for a year & 8 months , she broke up with him I believe in the begining of October fest. My bestfriend dated my ex in August and that killed me [ ofcourse we're not friends anymore! ] -- Well n-e ways ... Me and Jason hang all the time , well our feelings [ both ] are kinda growing more than " best friends " . I really don't wanna hurt Liana [ his ex ] but she broke up with him .. I know how it feels but I think it hurt me way worse because I was still in love with Justin [ my ex ] and wanted to be with him . I don't know what to do , I ALWAYS think of someone else before me .. that's just who I am . I'm scared to let my feels grow for my bestfriend but I can't help it either . I don't want to hurt anyone but my mom says I need to put me first ... but I don't wanna step on anyone . Jason [ the best friend ] wants to gradually evolve into somthing more , am I wrong for going along ? Please be honest .
honestly, your not wrong at all for going along. i understand where you're coming from though because i always think of others before myself too but that didn't get me very far in life. i realized that i had to go after what i wanted, and whats best for myself and screw everyone else. that might sound harsh but im being serious. she broke up with him anyways, and so she couldn't possibly be mad at you if you and jason did end up dating. you don't want to go on wondering your whole life what could have been with you and jason, you have to take the risk :) listen to your mommy when she says you need to put yourself first because she is right. don't care what other people think, it's your life and don't let anyone live it but you! best of luck to you ♥ LU
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Hi, im a sophomore girl in highschool and i seem to be having problems with boys. i like boys im not gay. People tell me im gorgeous and i know i am cause i hear it from so many guys that try getting with me and im really confident about my looks.(not to be concieted)i shouldnt be having a problem with boys but for some reason when i start talking to a boy and i like them, and am about to hang out with them to hook up or whatever i dont want to. I dont know what to do about it cause all my friends are getting on with their love lives and im not. i dont know if im prude or what, if i am how do i fix it? i dont know what is my problem but i get nervous or scared or something when i see the guy. what should i do? please help!
i'm just like you :) people told me that i was so pretty, and i never had a boyfiend until a couple years ago and people never believed me when i said this. i always pushed guys away when i heard they like me and i think this happens to the best of us. we're scared to be in a relationship, we're scared of committment. i wanted to be with someone so bad, but i was scared that i was going to mess things up, and i didn't know how to act with a boyfriend. i didn't really do anything sexually with boys either even though i wanted to. i would tell the boy that i wanted to and when it came time i bailed out and i felt like such a tease but that was not what it was at all, i was just nervous because it was something new. i certainly was not a lesbian but i was scared that people were going to think that about me because i never had a boyfriend. well finally it changed about two years ago. this boy liked me and well i did like him too and finally i had the courage to go out with him because, what is there to lose? it's great that you have such a high self-esteem i am proud of you, now all you need to do is not care what other people think about you and just go for what you want. life is all about taking chances, and everything happens for a reason! it's normal to be nervous or scared when you see the guy you like, but he likes you for you so don't ever change. if you need anything else, just leave it in the inbox. good luck girl i know you will be fine ♥ LU
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So for the past 8 months I have been dating my boyfriend Anthony whom I absolutely love to death! He has been nothing but wonderful to me and has treated me like a princess. Way back in high school I date this kid James who I went out with for only 2 months...but something happened tonight that freaked me out. James was my first kiss and boyfriend.
Anthony smelled just like James...and I felt when I kissed him I was kissing James. Anthony took a shower and he no longer smelled like James but I keep thinking this is more then deja vu. I don't know what it is...could it be closure? I'm not sure. James and I really don't talk but he will randomly text, call, or even IM me...when we haven't talked for over several months.
What should I do? HELP ME PLEASE!
Signed,
InLoveWiThAS
you will always remember your first boyfriend, and your first kiss. i think that james is always going to be a special person in your life because he was the first person who cared about you even if it only was for two months. i wouldn't necessarily break things off with anthony if thats what your thinking about doing. just like how people say you will always remember your first love, but that doesn't mean that they have to keep going back to them while they are in a good relationship with someone else they care about. trust me, i know it's hard trying to forget about james and focusing on anthony. i had this trouble with my first love and my second boyfriend but i realized that things didn't work out with my first boyfriend for a reason and the second boy i was with made me happy, and he actually cared for me and i didn't want to lose that because i couldn't get over my first boyfriend. you have to keep looking forward, don't look at the past it's over with :) if you really want to try and forget about james, stop texting him and answering his phone calls because that really does make it harder but it would be awesome if you could still be friends with him without it ruining your current relationship because i understand he is a special person in your life, you shared your first kiss with him, he was your first boyfriend and i wouldn't want you to completely forget about that. i am still really good friends with my first boyfriend, but i realized that there is more out there, and that i need to look ahead because there is so much out there waiting for me. what's meant to be, will happen. if you need anything else hun let me know and good luck i know you'll make the right decision ♥ LU
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how do you get rid of genital warts?
to try and rid genital warts seems very easy, but is easier said than done. warts have no permanent cure and can affect a person again after being dormant for quiet some time. in order for the following treatmens to work you have to keep your immune system in top condition. Cryotherapy is a very suitable remedy for genital warts. in this treatment, doctor freeze off the wart with liquid nitrogen. Electrocautery or Diathermy physically destroys the warts by burning them. Local or general anaesthesia can be used.Imiquimod Cream: this cream helps in destroying genital warts. Podophyllin is a chemical compound that must be applied by a doctor or nurse to the affected area of the skin. Fluorouracil Cream is used mainly to get rid of pain, that occur during intercourse. Surgical Excision: your doctor may use special tools to cut off warts. You'll need local anesthesia for this treatment. Did you know that there are over 60 thousand viruses on your skin? If you have contracted HPV you must pay strict attention to your hygiene. for your underwear wear only 100% cotton underwear and change them more then once a day. only use natural detergent to wash clean your underwear. this is the best i could find, i hope i helped somewhat :) good luck ♥ LU
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i had a cold sore when i was in 5th grade. now i am in college and have never had one. i know that cold sores are a class of herpes so my question is do i have it? and if i do is it going to come back?
cold sores are pretty common and alot of people do get them. the first symptoms of cold sores may include pain around your mouth and on your lips, a fever, a sore throat, or swollen glands in your neck or other parts of the body. after the blisters appear, the cold sores usually break open, leak a clear fluid, and then crust over and disappear after several days to 2 weeks. however the herpes simplex virus that causes cold sores cannot be cured. after you get infected, the virus stays in your body for the rest of your life. if you get cold sores often, treatment can reduce the number of cold sores you get and how severe they are. After you have been infected with the virus, there is no sure way to prevent more cold sores. But there are some things you can do to reduce your number of outbreaks and prevent spreading the virus. avoid the things that trigger your cold sores, such as stress and colds or the flu. always use lip balm and sunscreen on your face. too much sunlight can cause cold sores to flare. try to avoid sharing towels, silverware, toothbrushes, or other objects that a person with a cold sore may have used. when you have a cold sore, make sure to wash your hands often, and try not to touch your sore. this can help keep you from spreading the virus to your eyes or genital area or to other people. so as you can see, you may or may not get another cold sore but it is possible since you had one before. hope i helped ♥ LU
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i just got my ear pierced...my targus? or something idk how to spell it.
that little part.
they put this earing in it thats a little hoop with a ball on it...but i dont know how to take it out! i just need to clean it!
okay like the person said below me, do NOT take it out! you shouldn't have to take it out to clean it. i have the same piercing done and i just kept turning the ring and put the ear care solution on it, or you can use neo sporen. but you should wait to take it out because otherwise it will close up, and plus that piercing is really hard to get in and out, i have to have someone do it for me because it is in an awkward place :) good luck ♥ LU
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im an 18 yr old girl and there is this guy i have known for all my life told me that he has feelings for me.. that he loves me and would marry me any second all i have to do is say yes. but the thing is he has a gf that he has been with a lil over a year but he says he is tired of her and wants to break it off but cant b.c he dont want to disappoint her family.. i have loved him for a longgg time and i want to be with him for the rest of my life but i dont know whether to believe him or not. please help me!!
wow, i'm going through the same thing right now. i've liked this guy for years but he's had a girlfriend of two years and he said that he would do anything for me, and i was like why do you stay with your girlfriend then? and you know what he told me? he said because he is close with her family and he would feel bad. just like that guy said to you. i honestly was crushed i was just like okay well then you're never going to break up with her so have fun with her for the rest of your life and he was like that won't ever happen. i still love him, always will no matter what people tell me. everyone says i can do better than him and maybe i can, but i don't want to. it's so hard, i know and honestly nobody understands me and they think i'm stupid for putting myself through this but he is more than worth it. i've waited so long for him, why give up now? you never know what may happen. i wish i could tell you what the outcome will be, and i wish i knew what it was for me too but you have to take chances because you dont want to ever wonder "what if.." im sorry i couldn't really tell you exactly what to do, i could if i knew! but just know i'm going through the same thing and i know where your coming from so if you ever need anything let me know. i hope things work out for you ♥ LU
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Okk so I am a senior in high school and i'm starting to think abotu what i want to major in next year. But i have no clue what i want to be.
I really love kids (except i deffinatly don't want to be a teacher)...i was thinking like social worker or something like that.
Can anyone PLEASE give me some job ideas, or major ideas (not necessarily involving kids). I'm not a science person btw...hhah
Thanks so much in advanced!!
you really don't have to decide right now! like the person said below me, thats what your generals are for. to see what kind of things you're interested in. i'm a freshman this year in college and i've recently decided to major in business. like business administration- management or finance. the job outlook for business right now is incredible and there is a high demand. but really, it's all about what YOU like. i'm good with math and computers and i'm such an organized person so i think this major fits me well but it could be totally different for you! need any other ideas let me know ♥ LU
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