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What can or should i do?
Im a 16/m. Today my kinda girlfriend told me that she started talking to her ex and her feelings came back for him. I say kinda because i never asked her to be my girlfriend because her parents didn't want her to be in a relationship. I told her that if im keeping them apart then i would stop talking to her. She said she cant be with him right now but she didn't say why i think it was a distance thing. Then she told me that she still wants to talk as friends but i cant do that she already hurt me before i don't think i could take it again. So i said goodbye and i asked her if she could stop talking to me completely so i could get over it faster. I don't know what to do i feel sick ive been crying for the past 4 hours and i have to see her tomorrow at school i have her for my last class of the day. And i see her in the halls.
Can someone help me.Tell me about your experiences, or how to get over this, something to look forward to; should i try to get back with her or let her go?
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Because of the fact that you two aren't in an official relationship, its hard to give advice. If you guys were really together, my advice would be to break up with her. When did she start talking to her ex? When did she get those feelings for him again? Honesty and communication is essential in a relationship and something that is lacking on her part.
In your case, I also think you did the right thing. If she wants to talk to her ex, those feelings are NEVER going to go away. So even if you stayed "kinda boyfriend/girlfriend", you'd have to deal with him always being in the picture. And if you guys were talking as friends, your feelings for her will NEVER go away.
Its hard right now, trying to get over her and it might take awhile. It took me about 6 months to get over my ex...6 MONTHS! of crying and depression. But I'm just a complete wierdo so I'm sure that won't happen to you. My point is, it won't be easy at first but you just have to stay strong. Take this time to find out more about yourself. A very important thing is, don't try to find another girl to replace her/to make you happy again. From experience, I've learned that the best thing to do is to get over that person completely. Get over them to the point where you're happy again, just being single and loving yourself. You don't want another girl to be the rebound and you don't want to still have feelings for this other girl.
I hope all this helps.
♥ steph.
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Well honey, it seems like this girl broke your heart. Sometimes when people know that you are going to be there for them no matter what, they tend to take you for granted. If you can be just friends with her then you should not shut her out, but if it would kill you inside to see her with someone else then you may have to take a break from her.
You said that that you have to see her in class and it seems like you are pretty broken up about it. How i got over my similar situation was to get my emotions out. I cried until I could not anymore, and then I found things to occupy my time. It sounds lame, but i started to find other things worth thinking about. i started to hang out with my other friends, i focused on my hobbies and things that I may like to do.i was so caught up in my own life that i forgot about the problem.
You seem like a great guy and I think that you backing off so that she can be with her ex was a noble thing for you to do. My advice is to focus on all the good things in your life. If you keep thinking about your problem then you might be missing all the other females that might think that you are a great person. I see it happen all the time!!!!!!! It will work itself out. I believe you will be o.k. before you know it!!!!!! hope this helps!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!
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i've been through this situation, and i'm going through something similar right now so hopefully this will help you out. i'm friends with this guy, we've been friends for three years now and he has a girlfriend. he always tries to get with me though, and he knows i would drop anything for him but he can't seem to do the same for me. he has hurt me, many times but for some reason i keep talking to him, hoping things won't work out with him and his girlfriend. he said he wants to be with me, but just can't leave his girlfriend. i told him he needed to figure out what he wanted, because he wasn't being fair to me or his girlfriend. finally i decided to give up and move on. i've waited three years and i don't want to waste my time on a boy who will probably never be mine. we got in a fight, and we weren't friends anymore. this hurt, really bad. i couldn't take it and i thought that by not talking to him anymore things would get better but it just made everything worse. i needed him in my life, if he wasn't going to be my boyfriend i still needed him as my best friend. maybe it's not best that you told her she should stop talking to you, we need certain people in our life and even though many people don't think this, it can make things better. wouldn't you rather still have her in your life? she makes you happy, right? why just throw all of that away, why put yourself through this? i've learned the hard way, i don't want you to make this mistake. tell her to figure out what she wants, maybe give her some time, she WILL miss you. trust me on this one. this is something that you're not just going to get over, i wish i could tell you differently but certain people leave a bigger impact on our life than others. time heals everything, it really does. sooner or later she will figure out what she wants and maybe it will be you, maybe it won't but as of right now it's all on her. you seem like a great guy, don't give up hope. i know things will work out for the best and if you need anything else, let me know ♥ LU
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Let her go. You told her good bye for a reason and you may or may not know what that reason might be. It will be hard to get over her. My son's father i didn't think i would ever get over but knowing that he hurt me makes me feel better about he and I not being together. Everything will work out and the girl of your dreams will just fall out of the air. its crazy. My fiance and I meet offline yeah i know everyone warns people about that kind of stuff. But we were started off talking as friends and didnt want a relationship and wasnt looking and its just he mad me so happy and he said i was the most amazing girl ever and stuff its like being shocked into reality when you meet that special someone. there are a ton of girls out there. go after what you want and if it doesnt want you back it didnt deserve you anyways.
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