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No idea what to do. ):
So I'm 16 and I'm female.
I haven't had a boyfriend since 8th grade. And all the guys I meet end up being just friends. I'm really bad at flirting because I get too nervous. I have no idea what to do and all my friends get boyfriends all the time. It makes me insanely jealous. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do to get guys to notice me in that way. Help ?
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i use to be just like you. i had so many guy friends, and pretty much every one of them liked me but i could only see them as friends, or even like my brothers. i thought i would never find someone, i thought there was something wrong with me. finally two years ago, i decided it was time for a change. i needed to not care what other people thought of me, i was going to be crazy and just have fun! joke around with them, and have confidence. guys love a girl with confidence and they love someone who can make them laugh. don't ever try to be someone your not. wouldn't you rather have someone like you for who you are, rather than someone your not? you have to flirt, and i know you said your not good at this but trust me it is easy. first thing first, flirting is a way to impress a guy with your natural beauty and personality. it is NOT something where you should completely change who you are to gain his attention. if you do, you are most likely setting yourself up for disaster. dress up on days you expect to see your special guy. lets face it, guys are attracted to girls who can take care of herself. this does NOT mean wearing skimpy skirts and lots of makeup. wear clothes that compliment your body and makeup that enhance your facial features. guys are not attracted to a girl who wears more makeup than a circus entertainer. looking good does very little if you don't have confidence! again, don't go in extremes. be confident in the way you walk and talk, but not to the point where it may come off as arrogant. confident and humble is a good mixture to have. eye contact is an extremely useful tactic you can use to your advantage. nothing says "come here" than a dreamy glance into a guy's eye. if you two are in a room with many people,catch his glance for no more than 2 seconds then look away. it leaves an air of mystery. when talking to him manage to give him just enough eye contact to make him feel confortable. how can you tell? normally, a guy will stare at your face when you are having a conversation. he will start looking down and shifting his feet if he begins to feel uncomfortable. if you see these signs minimize the eye contact and step back a little. giving the guy a second to catch his breath works wonders. okay, we've talked about the outside appearance, now lets get to the most important part....YOU! afterall, the outside only advertises what's so great about you. guys like girls who are funny and know how to have a good time. make sure you're smiling a lot around him. when giving a conversation, be interesting! it can be hard to keep any guy's attention in a conversation, so be energetic (but not hyper). talk about something you both share in common, whether it is sports, music, or even a funny incident you both happen to have just witnessed. if you feel like he's giving you the tell-tale signs of being attracted to you (smiling, leaning in, keeping eye contact, standing feet shoulder length apart, etc) touch him subtly. touch his shoulder slightly when talking or give him a joking push. talk to other guys around him. show him you are desirable, BUT do not flirt too much with them. you'll put yourself in the situation of him thinking you are too flirtatious. i hope this works for you. i know you can do this, you will find a boy! but don't go looking for one. they really do come when you least expect it. good luck hun and if you need anything else let me know ♥ LU
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