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Why can't I let myself be happy
19f, Ok it seems like when I like someone, really like someone, they always end up disappearing somehow. And the people that really like me who I sorta settle for for are the people that I always end up hurting. I don't understand why I can't be happy with the nice ones. for instance one of the guys im talking to right now is really sweet and really likes me. I don't know why I am so reluctant to enter into a relationship with him. Why can't I just let myself be happy with the person who would try their best to make me happy versus one Im not sure cares. The other guy that I am interested in, who I like just a little more, I don't talk as much and I don't know if he REALLY likes me like he says he does. But somehow I find myself thinking about him more than the other guy and wondering who to choose. Its not like I don't talk to the other guy AT ALL and when I do talk to him he seems into me but he doesn't show as much interest as the first guy I mentioned. SO why am I still confused. I should know exactly who I want to be with and it should be the one that shows me they really care, right? I mean I do like him...I just happen to like the other guy too and a little more...i think. I just don't kno. I am so confused. Help me!!!
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It sounds like you need a challenge of some kind in order for you to be really interested in a guy instead of appreciating who and what comes to you easily. You said that they guy that's really into you is sweet and I gather he wants to spend time with you and probably treats you the way you want to be treated. So why are you less interested in the nice guy? Probably because the other guy is more of a mystery to you because he doesn't show as much interest and he leaves you wondering about him and his motives. Don't fall for it and risk losing a wonderful guy in the process. I too used to go for the guys that were a "mystery" to me way more so than the ones that were really interested and doing that always left me hurt and even more confused. So when a really nice guy came my way, I learned to really appreciate him, the great attention he gives me and all the terrific things about him and I've been so much happier. So my advice is to let mystery man go and put your attention into the guy shows you without a doubt that he really likes you. Your life will be much happier.
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i love this quote and i think it can relate somewhat to your problem:
"sometimes you have to be strong for yourself. you have to know that you are a good person and a good friend. what is meant to be will end up good, and what is not won't. relationships are worth fighting for but sometimes you can't be the only one fighting. at times, people need to fight for you. if they don't you must move on and realize that what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you, hopefully, they realize great things when they come around and don't lose something real. always fight until you can't anymore, and be fought for."
this quote has a lot of meaning. you see, you can't be the only one fighting, the only one working for the realtionship to start, or to work out. we like the ones that don't seem as interested because we like the challenge. you know the other boy will always care for you and love you no matter what. the other guy may feel the same way but doesn't show it and since the other guy shows interest in you, you know he will never hurt you, you know that he will always be there waiting for you when you're ready but the other guy is a mystery and you want to see what happens, you want more. everyone want's more. but i would try it out with the boy who really shows interest in you, give him a chance. you don't want to chase the other guy, they're suppose to chase you! :) if it doesn't work out with the one who shows interest in you maybe you and the other guy can work something out. hope i helped ♥ LU
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