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Okay so lately I've been screwing up alot of stuff and I want to make my parents proud of me. Tonight I blew out the tire on our car from hitting a curb (I till have my permit) and even though my mom tried to say it wasn't completly my fault because that curb sticks out, it still makes me feel horrible. I also don't have a job but I'm trying so hard to get one, it's not like I just don't care. I'm sick of using their money and I want to be able to pay for my own stuff. It's so hard to be 16 and find a job where I live, I've applied to at least 10 different stores. I'm also trying to cut down on drinking and eliminate smoking (both kinds- i dont do either often at all though) because I feel deceitful. Finally, I want to spend more time with my family. I'm planning on going to the movies with them on Friday. I need some advice on how to manage/make all of this work, I've never felt this bad about anything I've done until tonight. I'm 16/f, & thank you :)
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As a side note, I'd like to mention that just applying doesn't cut it. You will NOT get a job if that's all you do. You need to call back every place you applied to and inquire about the position, whether it's been filled, when interviews will start, etc. This gets your application to the top and shows you have interest in the job. Interest in job = getting job. Easy. After you do your interview, mail a letter (not email) thanking them for their time. It's cheesy as hell and you'll feel like chopping off your fingers but it works and gets shit done.
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maybe try a family game night or movie night at your house with some popcorn or something. keeping the house clean and doing a lot of the chores relieves a lot of stress on your parents. Little things around the house maybe cook dinner for everyone. stuff like that.
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i'm so proud of you :) this made me happy when i read it. it's good that you want to change, for the better. first for the driving part, just keep driving more with your parents and you will get better at it, i promise and don't feel bad because you're just learning and parent's understand that. i've done some pretty stupid things with my car but as long as i told my parent's about it and we could get it fixed they weren't very mad. for the job, KEEP TRYING! getting your first job is tough and it does take patience. keep applying to places that are hiring and i'm sure that someone will call ya back or you could always babysit or do things around the house and maybe you can earn your money from that until you do find a job. as for the drinking and smoking, well i've never had this problem but try and stay away from people who are doing it so it doesn't tempt you to do it too. you don't want to do this, especially at 16, it seems so young and it is not good for you at all and i'm sure you know that but if you wan't to quit smoking it may be hard. now it doesn't sound like you are very addicted, if at all since you said you don't do it all the time but stay busy so you wont think "i need a cigarette" let me ask this question. why do you smoke? is it to release stress? you can always exercise to release stress. is it to be cool? if it is, smoking really isn't that cool, most people don't like to be around people who smoke. just think about why you do it and i know there are alternatives you can do instead of smoking. now for the family part. i'm very close with my family. it's good that you are going to the movies with them and maybe once a weekend you can go out to dinner with them before you go out with your friends or on the weekdays you can eat dinner with them everynight if you don't already. always remember, family will always be there for you no matter what happens. they will always love you no matter what you put them through. i know you're a strong girl and i know you can get through this. ♥ LU
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