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what's worse - a mean, manipulative back-stabbing "friend" or a hypocritical, following, will do whatever the "mean" one does to a person "friend"? which one is worse - friend #1 or friend #2? or are they both equally bad in their own ways?
Both are bad... thats for sure. But the "follower" is just as bad as the first one.
In a way they are exactly the same because they are both being manipulative and back stabbing. The only difference is that number 2 is easily changed while number 1 has their minds made up.
Ok so i like this boy and his name is Justice! i am madly in love with him but he has a girlfriend he is madly in love with. I wanna brake them up but he loves her almost as much as i love him (which is saying alot). he said if they ever brake up he'd go out with me. but recently he told me he thinks of me as a sis! i am so sad and don't know if they brake up if he would go out with me ! i don't want to ask him again cause he might get mad! What do I do?
(First off... the word "break" is not the same as "brake". So please revise your spelling so you don't look like a complete jackass.) Now to answer your question, it is completely wrong to try and break someone up for your own personal feelings. So you like the guy? He loves somebody else. He has someone else. If he broke up with her for you, how long do you think it would be until another girl would come along and he would break up with you for her. It is a vicious cycle you can't get out of. Karma will come back and bite you in the ass. Trust me it will. And that guy is lucky to find a girl he truly loves and won't cheat on. So take note of his true feelings and move on. If you truly care for him then be happy for him and his girlfriend and the love they share and find someone that is single like you. No one thinks highly of someone who is willing to break up a happy relationship just for themselves. That is called being selfish. So take yourself out of the equation and consider him. Leave him alone and let him be with who he loves. Unfortunately it isn't you, but you will find that guy someday. Just give it time. The fact this guy said you are like a sister is a clue in that he doesn't like you like that and he never will. Unless he is into incest. So move on hun. Things will get better.
~Sherah
PS:) Hun, I'm not on this site for ratings, so rate me a one. Do I care? No. I am not a jerk, I am just honest. Don't ask a question and expect to get the answers you are wanting to hear. Should you break the guy and his gf up? No. Why? Because it is selfish. I'm sorry I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear. But the truth hurts. So learn to take advice critically.
I want the corvette coupe 2007 when I turn 16 but i might get the 2008 version because my b-day is in december so does anyone know a place around oklahoma where they sell those kind of cars? and where can i get spinning rims from? how much are spinning rims? do i have to put them in any special way?
First off, not trying to bitch or anything, but a 2008 Corvette for an unexperienced driver who just got their liscence is not a good idea. Your insurance will be extremely expensive. Also, a Corvette is a SPORTS CAR. Do not EVER put spinners on a sports car. If you are going to spend alot of money on insurance and buying a brand new Corvette in the first place, why the hell would you put spinners on it? That would be a whole lot of money down the drain. It won't look cool and it won't make you get attention. Not good attention anyway. People will look at the Corvette and laugh. And the only thing they will be questioning in their heads when they see you roll by is, "Why the hell would someone put spinners on a Vette? And who the hell would buy a kid a Vette in the first place?" Your best bet is to go to Walmart and get some plastic, chrome sprayed spinners, because spinners are not even worth spending alot of money on when all they do is cheapen the look of your really expensive ride. So if I were you, and please PLEASE please heed my advice, go with a stylish racing rim. If you want something flashy that makes your ride stand out go with some 20 inch rims... Chrome if you like. Or black for some contrast. But NO SPINNERS! I guarantee if you don't agree with me now, you will in the future. Think more Overhaulin and less Pimp My Ride.
~Sherah
PS:) To the guy below me, I am an "American" and you might want to watch what you say. Some Americans are jackasses that don't know jack shit about cars. But there are jackasses like that in every country around the world. You can't judge an entire country by a few people's stupid decisions on how to customize their car. You sound like a pig-headed son-of-a-bitch that needs to open his eyes to the real world. It is really sad that you don't even realize how stuck up you sound. I am disgusted by people like you, that sit on their high-horses and assume that everyone is alike. It is a good thing this world consists of many different people with many diverse ideas, because if everyone thought and acted like you, I think I'd get on a space shuttle and live on the moon.
I'm going to be 16 next year, and i have a lot of money saved up for a car. (almost 6 grand) and i've always wanted a V8 Firebird (the one the guy held for me is $5500). but my parents dont want me to get it because they said if i get good grades (3.5 gpa or better) they would pay insurance, and if i get this car, and keep my gpa up, they would have to pay it.
reality check, who would, it would be $1,200 every 6 months at the LEAST. and if i was a girl itd be $800, (according to online thing i used).
i know it shouldnt be that big of a deal, but ive got my car all picked out and insurance is holding me back.
how can i convince my parents, and or get the money to pay for it, without spending all my time working, and not dumping pay check to pay check into insurance.
im a rater.
Now if I were you I would look into some other options. Although you want a Firebird, maybe widen your options and look for a Trans Am or a Camaro. They are all very similiar body styles. Now I am assuming you are wanting a Firebird from the 90's correct? Those usually run around the price you mentioned. I wouldn't recommend getting a Trans Am from the 70's though. They are cheaper because they are older, and they are usually not dependable. You can't find a Trans Am from the 70's just anywhere. You would probably have to get it from a private owner which isn't a guarantee it is in the best of condition. You may end up spending alot more money in the long run if the car turns out to be a lemon. Not only would the car have a lot more mileage, but it could also have some pretty bad rust problems, the interior could be in bad shape, exhaust might need replaced, and god knows what else could go wrong with the motor later... So your best bet is to go with a newer vehicle for now, like something from the 90's. Insurance will still be cheaper than a newer car and the car will be more reliable. Now the problem with insurance being higher is that you are a guy and also the fact you are really young. Those two factors including the fact you are going after a sports car, especially a V8 makes your insurance incredibly high. (Guys tend to drive faster and get more speeding tickets than girls, so that is why it is more. Stereotypical, I know...) Now I don't understand why your insurance would be that high every 6 months. I have a 2004 Cavalier LS Coupe with a completely customized interior and exterior, and a few engine mods. Almost everything in completely aftermarket in my car and mine is around $1500-$1800 every 6 months plus I have full coverage. So an older vehicle like the one you are looking at should not be that high. If I were you I would look around for an insurance company that offers low rates for younger, less experienced drivers. Weigh in your options and don't just settle on that one Firebird. You could get another Firebird or Trans Am for less if you wait and look. And since you pay for it cash, if you are buying from a car dealer not a private owner, you don't have to get full coverage. So if I were you I would get minimum coverage to lower the insurance costs. And also you might want to go for a V6 for the mean time. It will lower costs alot. If you want a fast car, you can always modify the motor later when you have more money, or even do a motor swap. But if you are stuck on a V8, prepare for the costs to be more. I hope I helped.
~Sherah
I know this is a kind of personal question, but I've always kind of wondered what girls think when a guy gets a hard-on dancing with them. So basically, I only want girls to answer this question. Do you like it? Does it freak you out? Is it more of a compliment or is it offensive? Basically, just tell me what you think about when you feel a guy get hard when he's grinding with you, etc. thanks.
Well if a girl is grinding real hard with you and you guys are feeling eachother, than she would like it and feel flattered. But if you are just sort of dancing with a girl and you are don't know her real well, she might be freaked out. It just depends on how well you know the girl. I'm guessing if you are grinding on the dance floor with a girl, it is kind of something most girls will expect. Only immature girls find it offensive or would "make fun of" someone because of it. It just means you are turned on, and its pretty much hard to control. So miss "Imperialistic" at the bottom is the immature girl that I am referring to. So basically don't dance on immature bitches lol Hope I helped hun.
~Sherah
Hi, I was really friendly with two girls from my class. I could do anything for them. I treated them like my sisters. But then one day because of a girl in opur class who was really close to my friends interfeared in our friendship and my friends broke up with me. I tried speaking to them but they just used abusive language and did not even talk. Then I avoided them and they too did the same. Soon I became friendly with all the popular girls of our class (which they wanted to so much when we were friends) and I made abvoyfriend who is one of the most popular guys in skool (he's the football team captain and everyone used to fantasize about him) and I also became the Art and Craft Club president. Now my Ex-best friends are so jealous they are tellin people stuff about me and i had a fight with three girls from school because of them. Talking is of no use because they are not ready to do so. I feel like murdering them but that's not possible. Am hurt. Help.
Well first I would tell your friends that these girls you were friends with are trying to spread rumors about you that aren't true. Next, since you cant do anything to stop them, like yell at them or talk to them about it calmly, your best bet is to just move on. People who are ruined by what others say about them, take things far too seriously. So what if they call you a whore, say you have diseases, or whatever rude lies they are making up? Is it true? No, so why should it bug you. Girls that make up rumors that aren't true are obviously jealous and everyone will see that. Just act like it doesn't bug you. Trust me, it will work. I have had so many people talk shit behind my back. It is better to ignore it and live your life, then to constantly be defending this "image" and "reputation". Be you, and everyone will see what kind of lies these girls are spreading. You will see that when you don't make a big deal about what they're saying that it will stop. They are trying to intimidate and hurt you, and it continues because they see it bugs you. Life is all about the reality that there will always be people that dont like you, there will always be people that lie and talk bad about you, and there will always be people that will do anything to make you feel like crap. But learn to forget them. Ignore their comments and lies and people will see them for who they are. Be a celebrity. By that, I mean act like the way stars do when rumors and gossip go on about them. The celebrities that freak out and make a huge scene about all the lies and rumors and photographers are the ones that always get talked about, because they are adding more fire to the flame by their obnoxious reactions. You will notice the celebrities that don't make a big deal and ignore all the tabloids you don't hear about as much. So trust me hun, move on and ignore them. People will notice how ridiculously immature they really are when their entire lives revolve around trashing you, and when you can look at them and laugh and say, "Talk all you want because your lies don't bother me at all." Best of luck!
~Sherah
I've been broken up with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months now. I'm still really upset, he seemed to care for me so much while we were together, but the day we broke up he just stopped talking to me. I literally talk to him MAYBE once every week. I hate thinking about him everyday, and why he doesn't care, etc. I don't know what to do to stop thinking about him. I've tried hanging out with others, but there's still time once I get home to think about him. Any suggestions? I'm really hurting. I'm listening to the song outta my system over and over right now, because that's exactly how I feel. :/
It is always hard to get over someone. Trust me it may seem hard for you, being that he broke up with you, but it is probably hard for him too. Now my bf and me broke up over a year ago for only two weeks, then he asked me back out and we worked things out and have been good ever since. Those two weeks though were pure hell to me. He cheated on me with this other girl, then dumped me, and still didnt have the balls to admit he had cheated on me and had dumped me for this girl. I was in so much pain. I couldn't stop thinking about him and how much I cared. At the time Mariah Carey's song "We Belong Together" came out and it really made me think. One part in the song says something about the other girl not ever comparing to her, and that is how I felt. I knew he had a new girl, but I knew she could never be me, never act/talk like me, never kiss like me, she could never EVER replace me in his heart. And that made me feel so much better. With that in my head I learned to move on. I hung out with other guys and realized it is not bad to be single. Sometimes break-ups are important. They teach you so much about yourself, about your ex, about past relationships, and about life. Just remember never to beat yourself up about it. He ended it for whatever reason, but realize that that is his loss. That you are worth it, and if he didnt see that in the past, he will realize it someday. Just focus on other things hun. Take a few days to think over everything you guys had. Cry, mope around, look at old pics and things you guys did together...etc. After that, take all of it and burn it, throw it away, trash it. Get rid of it. That should be a symbolism to you to move on with your life. You don't need him to be happy hun, trust me you dont. Just keep telling yourself you are worth it and that he has lost the best girl he will ever had. It will be hard, but time heals all pain. Hope I helped. Need anymore advice about this or anything else, note back my inbox. I'm always here to talk to.
~Sherah
Well, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months, he is 21 and i am 19. i had just asked him if he would give me his myspace password and he said that he wouldn't. He said that he had nothing to hide but that he felt that we should have our own space and if i did look through his myspace i would take things that his women friends write and take them the wrong way, (which i do alot.) He does have alot of women friends and i do get a bit jealous. So i guess i was just wondering if his answer was valid or is he trying to hide something?
Well he could be hiding something, but every guy does have a right to his own space. I have myspace and I am also on a site where you can rate people and I would be a tad offended if my boyfriend started wanting my password. People on those sites do write me things sometimes that are inappropriate. If my bf saw them he would get mad and flip out on me, even though when I am on those sites and read those kind of messages, I delete them or respond with something like, "Please don't write me back." He is just trying to avoid a confrontation with you about something that you could take wrong. Now he could be hiding something, but you need to give him his space and allow him to have your trust. I hope I helped.
~Sherah
hi ummmm i wanted to ask you a question about sex and i need advice as soon as possiable. okay so me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time march the 5th of this year. and we did it twice that night. okay well a day later we did it three times. well its still hurting me. and bad too. is that normal? what could be wrong?
Well if you were a virgin then it is bound to hurt. It was your first time and it takes time for your body to get used to you having sex. Now even if it wasnt your first time, it can still hurt. Now by hurting what do you mean? Is is sore, painful when you pee...etc That could be normal, but if it is extremely painful and unbearable you might want to see a doctor. Is there any weird colored discharge or smell? That could mean you have a bacterial infection, which can cause sex to be painful. So you mught want to go to any local drug store and buy some medicine to help that. They have creams and suppositories that you can use to help clear it up, usually in a few days, if that is the case. You just shouldnt have sex while you are using these meds because it can cause your man to break out or itch, which would not be so great. Only buy these products if you are positive that this is the case. Generally the symptoms are itching, weird smelling and looking discharge(thick white or yellow in color), and pain having sex and peeing. And did you use a condom? Some girls are allergic to latex or to the lubricant on it, so play around with using non-lubricated condoms and buying your own lube, a hypo-allerginic kind. Other than that, if your only symptoms is slight pain and discomfort during sex, and you feel sore,it is just because of the fact that you are haivng sex and your vaginal walls have to become used to stretching when this happens. The more you have sex, the more your body will adapt to this and it will not hurt anymore. Hope I helped.
~Sherah
how many miles do you have left when your gas light comes on? i have an '02 dodge neon, by the way.
You try driving 30 miles or so you will run out of gas. Now it does depend on the vehicle and how well it runs. Now I have a 1987 s10 and it is known to eat gas like a mother fucker. It can only get about 10 miles until it runs completely dry. But your neon is quite smaller, so the gas tank will run out much quicker. So I think you can only get about 15 to 20 miles before you can't drive anymore. It also depends on how you drive too.
okay my boyfriend cheated on me multiple times.
i really need to get back at him. how can i
make him really jealous or heartbroken?
and trust me when i say this.. HE DESERVES THIS
i know that revenge isn't good but sometimes
there is exceptions. dont start lecturning me
because i wont listen. k thanks
Cheating as in how? Kissing another girl? Sexually flirting with another girl? Having sex/messing around with another girl? I have been in the same boat. And I will tell you revenge is sweet to a point, but it can backfire and make things worse. With that caution note said, I always go with the rule "An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth"... Now I am not saying to totally whore around either. If he kissed someone else or flirted way too much, do it back. That shouldn't be difficult to do. Find a guy friend or even better, one of his friends and come up with a plan to piss him off! Trust me it works. I did the same thing. My bf had cheated on me on my prom night! And to make it worse, he dumped me the next day for the bitch. And what did I do? Hung out and flirted all over his best friends. I would show up at his school and pick his friend up for lunch. And then I would make out with this guy he absolutely hated. He was so much more hot then my bf too which made him even more green with envy. Now if he was messing around or having sex with another girl/girls that is crossing the line! Kissing and flirting is bad, but messing around or having sex with another girl? That is basically telling you that all he wants is pussy and that he is an immature, self-centered, son-of-a-bitch that deserves what is coming to him. And trust me honey, he will have that happen to him someday and will see how it feels. So you better dump this asshole and make him feel like the piece of shit that he is! Now don't go around and start randomly hooking up and having sex with people. You need to have respect for yourself. But you can always do what I put up above. Or you can plan to spread a rumor about hooking up with his best friend, as long as his best friend doesn't mind lol. Either way, it could get messy, so steer away from anything to manipulative. Either way, dump this boy quick, if you haven't already, and make him realize what a HUGE mistake he made!
~Sherah
recently all i can think about is sex,
ive only had sex twice in my life but i feel it is required. Do any other girls feel like this who have had sexual intercourse?
Yes, I feel the same. At times it can be frusterating because feeling like you want it all the time makes you feel kinda slutty in a sense. I have only been with two guys, and my current bf frustrates me sometimes when he doesn't want to and I have this urge to want to ALOT! It really sucks. I guess I have to learn to control these thoughts and urges. Just remember... Never confuse affection and love with sex. Sometimes a relationship is better with sex, but I have had to learn that if what I want and have urges to do doesn't happen, not to get frustrated and to understand that just because these urges aren't fulfilled all the time, does not mean the guy I am with does not care about me. Sometimes controlling these thoughts is a good thing. Just try not to worry about it too much. Everyone feels this way once in a while.
So i did stuff with my ex boyfriend who has a girlfriend then i told her cuz i felt bad about it but i still really like this guy but anyways she wont let him talk to me anymore now..how can i get him to talk..ive tried emailin he wont write back he doesnt see them cuz she deleted them first or he just doesnt write back he knows my voice on the fone so he hangs up wen he knows its me and hes always with her wen i see him ..i really need to get some answers from him, but i cant get him to talk..any idea?
Well it is always a mess when you hook up with an ex, but it is even worse when he has a gf. Obviously he cares about her and is mad that you told her about what happened. I don't blame him for avoiding you either. He doesn't want to make his gf mad and end things with her. So avoiding you is what he is going to do. She doesn't want him talking to you, because she can't trust him talking to you or being near you, for obvious reasons. Why would you let your bf hang out with his ex that he cheated on you with? I sure as hell wouldn't. Whatever "answers" you need, you will have to figure out yourself, because I think you have done enough. Leave your ex and his gf alone and let them work through their problems. They are together, you are not even in the equation. So don't try to push it. He doesn't want to talk to you. Enough said. When a guy avoids you after doing stuff that means one thing. He regrets what he did and considers it a big mistake. So just move on. Sorry if I am being blunt but its the truth.
Ok here it is I 15 and a male. I have a best friend. He's very important to me. He took me off his friends list on myspace. I mean Im third on his top 4. I used to be first for over a year. I have a manic depressive disorder he says its not because of that. He always says hes my best friend. However he makes fun of me. Hes the first best friend Ive ever had. We had so much fun together. I wish he would put me back on his number one spot.
Well this is why I hate ratings on websites, including this one. Competition. It sucks. I have moved people around on my top 8 and then people that used to be on there that weren't would get mad at me. That is really sad if changing spots around on a website can make someone literally really mad. I base my ratings not on how well I know the person, but how often I talk to them on myspace. My sister is my top 1 and I used to be her 2nd and now I'm not even on her list at all. And she shows her top 12! At first I got offended but then I learned to deal. It isn't that he likes you less. Maybe you guys talk more in person and stuff than on myspace. His reasons for moving you down a couple spots has nothing to do with your guys friendship. It is best to not worry about it okay?
Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me for no reason at all. Back then, I thought he was kinda hot but never seriously considered him as a potential bf because a guy 2 years older than me having a crush on ME? The notion was impossible.
But as time went on I noticed more and more hints being dropped by him..for example, he always holds open doors for me and makes a huge scene of it "HERE, [myname], LADIES FIRST!". And when any of his friends try to talk to me, he instantly turns and stares at me. Whenever I talk to HIM, he stares right at me and gves me this huge grin.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.
Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance?
oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T
Alright, first off.. never NEVER think a guy is not going to be interested in you because of your age or grade. Being that he is a Junior he is probably around 16 or 17 years old. I have a couple guy friends, all of which are Seniors like me, or are already graduated who are dating girls who are 15-16 years old. One of my guy friends is 18 and a Senior in HS and his gf is 15 and a sophmore... and that is a 2 year difference. His friends give him shit but he doesn't care. Some guys find the age difference to be a big deal, while others don't. I guess it also depends on the girl. When I was 14 or 15 years old, I had tons of guys who were older than me hitting on me. Why? I guess it was because of my confidence and how mature I acted. And you seem to be pretty mature too. So if you seem mature maybe your age isn't that big of a deal to him. Now if this guy had been teasing you over a month or so and talking to you, I'd say he has some interest, like maybe he likes you or is crushing on you, but it might not be a huge deal. But it has been over a couple months and he seems to try to include you in his conversations. It is obvious he likes you. Now is it a serious thing? I don't know but a great way to tell is jealousy. Every guy gets jealous. Some don't like to admit it, but every guy does. So try and make him jealous. Sounds like a bad idea right? Well trust me, as long as you don't go overboard, it will be perfect. If you really like someone and you see them talk to another girl, you get jealous. Why? Because you like them more than just a crush. So the next time you are in class or the hall talk to a guy when he is near you and maybe a little flirting... See if he looks. And if he brings it up the next time you guys talk (he might not, because he might be the silent type... is jealous but doesn't want to show it) then he is definetly into you more than just a crush. Now when it comes to the dance. Ask him. You made him a card. Alot of girls would be scared to even do that! So casually ask him about it. Do what he did with the basketball game. Ask him if he is going and if he is taking someone. Then mention you are so excited to go to the dance but you don't know who you want to go with. The rest is up to you guys and how the convo goes. Keep me updated hun. Best of luck!
~Sherah
theres a guy had a crush on me in like september..i think he still likes me cuz he like flirts with me and stuff but not as obvious as he used to so i just want have someone else's opinion if he still likes me.
Well you crush on someone because you are interested in getting to know them better. They look good, they make you laugh, they some how caught your eye... Whatever the reason is, a crush happens when you like someone or you are infatuated with them. The only way a crush will turn into more is if you or him take it to the next level. The reason his flirting might not be as obvious anymore might be because he is starting to lose interest. So if you like him, flirt back. Never be afraid to flirt. Be discreet, but don't stay so reserved that he barely notices your existence. Make it clear to him that you still have interest in him. Just don't go overboard. Remember, a guy likes a little chase... He likes something he can work for. But if you like him and you guys actually end up talking more often and getting to know eachother, you need to learn how to slow down on playing hard to get. Because if you do it too much, he will think you are just a tease. So go for it, but know when to play hard to get and when to be more open.
my boyfriend is turning 18 on the 9th and i dont know what i should get him.
im thinking about making him cookies that are heart shaped and he keeps telling me that he already got what he wanted[me] but i told him that that didnt count.
but i just need some suggestions from a few guys or maybe girls because i really dont know what i should get him. =[
thanks.
Well food is the way to a guys heart. So ask him what his favorite meal is or his favorite dessert. Now it depends how much money and how long you guys have been together on how far you go all out for his b-day. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and his 19th b-day was today. So I cooked him a dessert b-day cake because he never gets one and it was cookies-n-cream, his favorite. Then I made a spicy shrimp dinner because he loves spicy food and seafood. I also got tickets to see monster trucks the next day because they only costed 20 bucks a person and I snagged some free pit passes before the actual show. You could also try and find a band or something he likes if they are playing in concert in your area and take him. Or you could take him to a movie coming out that he wants to see. Maybe a new restaurant he has always wanted to try. Or maybe he likes to paintball, skateboard, swim, rockclimb? Find a recreational place near your area that has these kind of activities. Remember, it isn't how much you spend, but how much effort you put into making his b-day special. Best of luck hun and if you need anymore advice note my inbox. Let me know how it goes!
~Sherah
I'm 15/F. I'm really crushing on a guy who's also 15. I've known him for 10 years now, give or take, and our relationship has been made up mostly of him teasing me.
I never really saw him as much else than "that guy who teases me a lot". Then about a week ago, I started liking him all of a sudden. But the problem is, now that I like him, I have no idea what to say to him! I really want to talk to him & such, but whenever I try I get really nervous and I can't come up with a good excuse to talk to him. If I do, then I come up with something really stupid. I actually talked to him about the weather...
I don't want to appear too obvious. =[
Advice please?
Remember when you were in first grade and all the boys made fun of the girls they liked? Well apparently this guy still is trying that method of flirting. And trust me, alot of guys sadly do this. You know why? Because what happens when a guy is an ass to you or makes fun of you in some way? You usually say something back to them. And do you remember who they are the next day? Yes, of course you do. Obviously he likes you, or he wouldn't be "teasing" you to try and get your attention. So what you need to do is play his game. When he teases you, tease him back. Show him you are interested and strike up a conversation without going overboard or sounding like you are totally into him. By playing his game and playing hard to get, it is going to help you gradually start talking to him more on a regular basis and then maybe the crush thing you have going on might turn into something more :) Hope I helped. Need anymore advice about this or anything else, note my inbox. I'm always here to help. Best of luck!
~Sherah
me & my boyfriend are in a fight and i dont really know why.we were at a school event and my 2 friends locked me in a dark room with him.i told him i wanted to leave becuase i was afraid of the dark.then he asked me to sit on his lap but i told him no bcuz i was afraid they would lock me in there again.
so i went on the stage which in near that room and was sitting on my friend [who i would NEVER go out with's] lap.i didnt realize he saw and he didnt seem mad so it was fine.then we were in the hall and i was sitting on my friend [whose a girls] lap.he was sitting next to us.i whispiered something that had nothing to do with him in her ear.
he sed i was being mean to him and talking about him and making him look like a reatrd.which i wasnt.
then he told my friend that he tried to give me a hug and i didnt give him one which is totally untrue.
i miss him like crazy and i cant stop crying.i love him so much,but i feel like i cant talk to him bcuz if i say sumthing wrong he might break up with me and i cant lose him, i would die.thanks SO much.=/
Well I think he is mad because you sat on your guy friends lap. You wouldn't sit on his lap in that dark room so maybe he doesn't fully understand why you did that. And maybe he thinks you were talking bad about him and ignoring him since you were seeming to hang out more with your friends at that school event than him. Either way you need to sit him down and talk to him. And don't apologize. If I were you I would say something like this: "Hey (his name). I tihnk you are mad at me and I don't know why. I don't think I did anything wrong, but I won't understand if I did something that made you mad unless you actually talk to me about this. I love you so much and I just want to work things out. Please just talk to me, cuz I feel like I can't talk to you about this, since you are totally avoiding me."
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
Well I am 18 years old and I have used this site for over a year now. In reality there are alot of people, young and old, who give advice on this website. Some give good advice based on personal experiences in their life and offer insight on how to handle certain life issues. Others offer advice that is hardly advice in that. Alot of the young people on this site around the ages of 13-15 give advice that could be said to be immature and not even all that helpful. But there are alot of younger kids that give great advice. And there are alot of people on this site, despite age, that have gone through alot in their life. Do you honestly know? No. You think just because you read a few answers from younger members and maybe look though a couple pages that you can say these people have no valuable life experiences. It seems to me that you are senile and ignorant. At the age of 14, I had gone through alot more in my life, then some people have in 30 years of living. Do you have a right to judge everyone on this site as a whole, based on a couple answers you have come upon? No.
You have no right to deem everyone on this site unqualified to give advice, based on age, gender, or how they have answered certain questions. Like you said: You were browsing and found this site. If you do not like its content, then move on. It is as easy as that. Click the BACK button and go to another website. What I find ironic is that most likely you yourself were looking for advice or looking to give advice and probably came upon this website because of it. And then you think you have the right to pass judgement on everyone on this site, because of what? Your standards. And why do you feel you are a "godsend" to everyone on this website? Everyone on this website intends to give helpful advice.
Maybe a seventeen year old girl can give advice on conceiving. In this imperfect world there are alot of young girls that are already young parents. There are also alot of girls who have older siblings who hav egone through pregnancies. You don't know. So again, do you have a right to judge? No. You do not.
When you look up the definition of advice you will come upon this:
Ad·vice –noun 1. an opinion or recommendation offered as a guide to action
Advice is in fact an opinion. Not some technical, "qualified" answer. Anyone can give advice. Age is not a factor. A seven year old child can give advice. Will it be accurate or helpful? Probably not, but any human being is capable and qualified to give advice. This site is an advice website. Not a website where people with major physcological problems get answers from random people. If you need advice or guidance on something involving a more serious issue in your life, then you probably should be consulting a doctor or therapist. Most questions fall under the category of Love, Friendships, and Sex. Anyone is "qualified" to give advice about that. There are tons of people, young and old, that have experienced love, friendships, and sex in their life so far. So if you were seeking more qualified and more technical insight than you should probably consult the closest therapist near you.
Ignorance is bliss. You may feel that everyone on this site has no right to give advice, but I don't feel like you will ever fully mature and come to realization with how ignorant, judgemental, and prejudice you really are. Can I do anything about it? Sadly no. But I do have a voice and the right to speak freely. That is what this website is about. If you have a problem with it then you can move on to a different website.
Best of luck in the future. Hopefully your therapist can help you.
Best regards,
Sherah