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Is my boyfriend hiding something?
Well, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months, he is 21 and i am 19. i had just asked him if he would give me his myspace password and he said that he wouldn't. He said that he had nothing to hide but that he felt that we should have our own space and if i did look through his myspace i would take things that his women friends write and take them the wrong way, (which i do alot.) He does have alot of women friends and i do get a bit jealous. So i guess i was just wondering if his answer was valid or is he trying to hide something?
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Well, I think he's hiding something. A good healthy realationship is when you can trust the other person and have no secrets. I'm not saying he should allow you access to his private email and myspace comments, but the fact that his "women friends" wrote something that COULD be interepereted the wrong way isn't good. I am not a big fan of the Myspace world, but I know people hide stuff on it. I'm not quite sure how to handle it, but you obviously don't find him trustworthy and you shouldn't have to be jealous, the guy should make you feel so loved and important that you arent. Whether or not he is hiding something, you don't trust him so it isnt a good relationship. Just my opinion though
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Hey i dont think you have anything to worry about. You have to trust him..if he didnt trust you at all you would probably be mad about it..dont think anything is going on unless you reeeeally have a feeling something is weird. definately trust him..i know how you feel about the jealousy..but just keep in mind he is with you..he likes/loves you a lot..he could probably have other girls but he chose youu :) thats how i think about it if i get a little jealous with my bf.
-melissa
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His answer is absolutely valid. You cannot expect to have access to every bit of his life, and in fact, if you continue to try, you'll probably drive him away.
Have faith. You wouldn't want him going through your things, reading your emails, reading your journal if you have it, and leaving you with absolutely no privacy, would you?
Trust him until he does something obvious to prove he doesn't deserve that trust (and at that point, if it comes to that, no snooping will really help).
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He's right. I wouldn't give a girlfriend my password either. Why don't you compromise and make a joined myspace together?
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Well, I actually said that to my boyfriend. And I am not up to anything like that. So, it could be different because he is a male, and i'm a female and we have different tendencies, i guess you could say.
Sometimes, its best to just let things roll. because everything happens for a reason. I get jealous easily just like you do, so if i had my boyfriends password i would constantly be checking his messages and blowing things way out of proportion. sometimes things really aren't what they seem. And snooping oculd cause problems.
so in short, id say his answer is fairly valid, and if he is hiding something, you will eventually find out, and move on to someone who wont do that to you.
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Well he could be hiding something, but every guy does have a right to his own space. I have myspace and I am also on a site where you can rate people and I would be a tad offended if my boyfriend started wanting my password. People on those sites do write me things sometimes that are inappropriate. If my bf saw them he would get mad and flip out on me, even though when I am on those sites and read those kind of messages, I delete them or respond with something like, "Please don't write me back." He is just trying to avoid a confrontation with you about something that you could take wrong. Now he could be hiding something, but you need to give him his space and allow him to have your trust. I hope I helped.
~Sherah
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