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Love Triangle..mess
So i did stuff with my ex boyfriend who has a girlfriend then i told her cuz i felt bad about it but i still really like this guy but anyways she wont let him talk to me anymore now..how can i get him to talk..ive tried emailin he wont write back he doesnt see them cuz she deleted them first or he just doesnt write back he knows my voice on the fone so he hangs up wen he knows its me and hes always with her wen i see him ..i really need to get some answers from him, but i cant get him to talk..any idea?
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You have your answer. He doesn't want to talk to you.
You say you "did stuff" with him. Whatever that means, it's clear that it's the kind of "stuff" he shouldn't do when he has a girlfriend. Then, you told her about it. You got him into serious trouble with his girlfriend because you couldn't keep your hands to yourself and then you couldn't keep your mouth shut about it. Sure, part of it was his fault. But here's the point:
You told her about it because you "felt bad". Did you ever consider HER feelings? Or HIS feelings? Did it occur to you that maybe you should have just lived with your guilt and not tear up their relationship just to make yourself feel better?
He's not talking to you and he's not GOING to talk to you because he is seven shades of pissed off, and I don't blame him. Stop thinking about what you need and start thinking about how much hurt you're causing. LEAVE HIM ALONE - you've done enough damage.
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I honestly don't blame her for wanting to keep you away from him. You knew he had a girlfriend, but you did stuff with him anyway. Pretty trashy, no? There is no way to talk to him, so give up. But honestly, on her part, she should be mad at both of you. She should be mad at you because you skanked it with her boyfriend, and she should be mad at him because he cheated on her with a skank.
Nice going.
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Can you honestly blame her for not wanting him to talk to you? I can't. And good for him for trying to make things right with her by avoiding you. He must be somewhat intelligent to not want to upset her further by talking to you.
I doubt he is refusing to talk to you because she won't let him. I'm sure she asked him not to and he gladly obliged. He chooses to not speak to you, or he would at least answer your email. Also, lets be realistic here. He's surely angry with you for telling his girlfriend what happened.
My opinion? Drop it. He obviously feels your questions aren't important enough to risk his relationship to answer, so why should you? Drop it- let him go. He's not worth your effort anyway, considering what he did with you while having a girlfriend.
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Well it is always a mess when you hook up with an ex, but it is even worse when he has a gf. Obviously he cares about her and is mad that you told her about what happened. I don't blame him for avoiding you either. He doesn't want to make his gf mad and end things with her. So avoiding you is what he is going to do. She doesn't want him talking to you, because she can't trust him talking to you or being near you, for obvious reasons. Why would you let your bf hang out with his ex that he cheated on you with? I sure as hell wouldn't. Whatever "answers" you need, you will have to figure out yourself, because I think you have done enough. Leave your ex and his gf alone and let them work through their problems. They are together, you are not even in the equation. So don't try to push it. He doesn't want to talk to you. Enough said. When a guy avoids you after doing stuff that means one thing. He regrets what he did and considers it a big mistake. So just move on. Sorry if I am being blunt but its the truth.
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honey, you should learn the most important dating rule, never go back. he is an ex for a reason. and if he cheatin on his girl with you, what makes you so sure he wouldn't do it to you if you did end up getting back together? your best bet is to leave it alone. let him have his life and find yourself a new guy.
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You totally can blame him for avoiding you since his girlfriend probably told him to. You are going to have to talk to his girlfriend and have her there when you talk to him since he can't be trusted and neither can you.
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First off, I would just like to commend you for telling his girlfriend. There are so many girls who do these kinds of things, but hold them inside for forever, and it stays there and eats at them, day after day. The best advice I can give you is to talk to his girlfriend, and explain to her that you really need to talk to him. However, you're going to have to have a very good reason, for her to probably even consider letting you talk to him. Even though he does have his own free will, he probably is listening to her, being as that's his girlfriend.
I wish you the best of luck!
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i'm sort of in the same situation... you should talk to his current girlfriend, and if that doesn't work then just wait, he'll get over it eventually
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Hm. Try emailing him again, but this time, tell him how sorry you feel and that you just really need to talk to him. I've never been in this situation, so I honestly don't know what to do. You could always try the infamous three way call attack. Have a friend of yours call him & three way you and tell him to wait, and before he hangs up, tell him how you feel and how sorry you are. Hopefully, he will understand and things will get better.
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You need to be more responsible about who you do stuff with, know their status. But if I were in your situation I would try to befriend his girlfriend, IF your goal is to talk to him, NOT to date him again. If you're trying to get back with him then try to make it in person.
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