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I need advice with this guy..14 f
Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me for no reason at all. Back then, I thought he was kinda hot but never seriously considered him as a potential bf because a guy 2 years older than me having a crush on ME? The notion was impossible.
But as time went on I noticed more and more hints being dropped by him..for example, he always holds open doors for me and makes a huge scene of it "HERE, [myname], LADIES FIRST!". And when any of his friends try to talk to me, he instantly turns and stares at me. Whenever I talk to HIM, he stares right at me and gves me this huge grin.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.
Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance?
oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T
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Don't worry about the length and sorry for not answering sooner, but I got really busy over the weekend. Anyways, this could be one of two things. Either he really likes you and wants to go out with you or he just thinks you're hot and likes flirting/looking at/and otherwise being around you and would possibly try to date you just to get some. Until something happens between the two of you, there's no way to find out. Even when and if anything does happen (such as going to the dance together) it is often very difficult, especially in high school, to be able to tell the difference. In any case, this guy does like you a lot in some way. Going to the dance with him would help you figure out if you liked him enough back to want to pursue anything further with him. I think that you should try to get him to ask you to the dance. Hint at it, but see if he will actually do the asking. My advice for you is to try not to let the fact that he likes you get in the way of your deciding of whether or not you like him back. When someone likes you, it makes you feel good. You may never have even thought about your feelings for them before, but upon learning that they like you, your feelings suddenly come out of nowhere and they're usually very strong. Don't let your true feelings for him get in the way of how much you like that he finds you so interesting/attractive/etc. Good luck. :)
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Alright, first off.. never NEVER think a guy is not going to be interested in you because of your age or grade. Being that he is a Junior he is probably around 16 or 17 years old. I have a couple guy friends, all of which are Seniors like me, or are already graduated who are dating girls who are 15-16 years old. One of my guy friends is 18 and a Senior in HS and his gf is 15 and a sophmore... and that is a 2 year difference. His friends give him shit but he doesn't care. Some guys find the age difference to be a big deal, while others don't. I guess it also depends on the girl. When I was 14 or 15 years old, I had tons of guys who were older than me hitting on me. Why? I guess it was because of my confidence and how mature I acted. And you seem to be pretty mature too. So if you seem mature maybe your age isn't that big of a deal to him. Now if this guy had been teasing you over a month or so and talking to you, I'd say he has some interest, like maybe he likes you or is crushing on you, but it might not be a huge deal. But it has been over a couple months and he seems to try to include you in his conversations. It is obvious he likes you. Now is it a serious thing? I don't know but a great way to tell is jealousy. Every guy gets jealous. Some don't like to admit it, but every guy does. So try and make him jealous. Sounds like a bad idea right? Well trust me, as long as you don't go overboard, it will be perfect. If you really like someone and you see them talk to another girl, you get jealous. Why? Because you like them more than just a crush. So the next time you are in class or the hall talk to a guy when he is near you and maybe a little flirting... See if he looks. And if he brings it up the next time you guys talk (he might not, because he might be the silent type... is jealous but doesn't want to show it) then he is definetly into you more than just a crush. Now when it comes to the dance. Ask him. You made him a card. Alot of girls would be scared to even do that! So casually ask him about it. Do what he did with the basketball game. Ask him if he is going and if he is taking someone. Then mention you are so excited to go to the dance but you don't know who you want to go with. The rest is up to you guys and how the convo goes. Keep me updated hun. Best of luck!
~Sherah
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Yes, from the looks of things, there's a very very good chance that he likes you. In fact, I'm positive there's something going on there.
But before you jump into it, there are a few things you need to take a look at. Relationships between freshman and juniors and sophomores and seniors aren't as rampant in high school because it's a little bit of a taboo considering the age gap. Guys two years older than girls usually "see" them and have sex with them. A lot of the times, these hook ups aren't counted as relationships at all. I'm not passing judgment on anything because I don't know him at all but you do, so I hoped you have the sense to think it out and figure out what he really wants from you. Yes, he likes you, but is it because he genuinely wants to be your boyfriend, or is he just looking for a booty call with a really cute girl?
Once you get through that and decide that he wants a relationship, you have to look at other factors, aside from the usual "why boys get nervous asking girls out" factors, to see why he hasn't asked you out yet. When a guy asks a girl out from first year, he may feel intimidated because tons of guys his age are doing the whole doing-it-with-freshmans deal. He might not want to go through the ordeal of asking you out and having you reject him, then be ridiculed by his peers.
If you actually want to be with this guy, you'll need to be a lot more open so he gets clearer signals. Right now, it seems as if he's the one who is putting in all the effort. Start flirting, laughing around him, ensuring him that you two would look great together, and I promise, you'll see results.
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Bottom line:
It's obvious he likes you and is looking for you to "GET IT" and tell him what you think. He's been pretty patient too finding ways to get your attention when most guys would have long given up on you for not making a move. Invite him to the dance as I'm sure he will go.
If he accepts your invitation go ahead and use that time together at the dance to discuss a possible relationship. In the event he cannot go because you waited too late to ask just ask him straight up and with confidence if he likes you or not as you are getting mixed signals from him. Then you'll know where things stand.
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It definately sounds like he likes you! All of the input and information you gave me really seems that he has some feelings for you. I also can tell he's a bit of a flirt. Very cute =].
But yeah, you should ask him out! There's like a 90% chance he'll say yes, from the information you gave me in your question.
So I can't really put down more information about this, since you plainly asked if you should ask him out. But if you need more tips or information, I can always edit my answer!
But definately ask him out. Let me know how it all goes, girl! Good luck =]
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Haha, it's fine. I usually ask long questions too.
Anyways, it sounds like he likes you. And I'd totally ask him to the dance. The worst he can say is no, but I doubt he will from the way you described him.
Never say that an older guy liking a younger girl is impossible. I met my boyfriend when I was a 7th grader, and he was a senior. He always thought I was cute, but he never said anything because I was his best friend's little sister. But we're together now, so nothing is impossible. =) I've learned that after 4 long years of crushing!
And if he likes you, it's never wrong for a girl to ask a guy out, so take a chance. =) Let me know how it turns out!
♥T!NA
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first off,its okay,i like long questions,because they give me more info to help you (:. Anyways, have you ever met him befor in the past (befor the beginning of the year?) because if you have,then maybe he thinks of you as a good friend. But it deffinatly seems like he wants you to notice him. You want to know if this is just an act or not,so i suggest actually talking to him on the phone,i-ms,some place where its just you and him. it'll be uncomfortable though at first. oh,but dont ask to be just you and him in person,because thats for one thing too uncomfortable and another,he could want to take advantge of you. i kinda doubt that though :],maybe check out his reputation. I'd say work your way on becomeing closer to him,cause the best (flirty) friends make the best (flirty) couples. if you only flirt with him a little,kick it up a notch. But dont seem to annoying, just be sweet,and dont let him get his way all the time.Have play fights,you know,what couples would do. Picture yourself and him,do you think you;d make a good couple(obviously yes) Its always good to second guess,because what could be good at first might turn out bad later. Thats why you should move deeper into your friendship. I know im kinda off-topic,i know you asked me if you should ask him to the dance,but this will help you so much,you'll feel more assured. Personally im the person to flat out go for it,so yeah, i do think you should ask him to the dance. And if things do work out good for you two,it might be a good conversation starter if you mention that you wanted to go to the basket ball game but didnt think he liked you. Oh but be aware, he's 16,and he might think your vulnerable,dont go too fast. when your talking to him with his friends, look at his friends reations,and see if any of them have smiles that signal its all a dare(after your done talking). i really doubt it,but just to be safe. sorry i gave a long answer ;]. good luck
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