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"JUSTICE"
Ok so i like this boy and his name is Justice! i am madly in love with him but he has a girlfriend he is madly in love with. I wanna brake them up but he loves her almost as much as i love him (which is saying alot). he said if they ever brake up he'd go out with me. but recently he told me he thinks of me as a sis! i am so sad and don't know if they brake up if he would go out with me ! i don't want to ask him again cause he might get mad! What do I do?
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(First off... the word "break" is not the same as "brake". So please revise your spelling so you don't look like a complete jackass.) Now to answer your question, it is completely wrong to try and break someone up for your own personal feelings. So you like the guy? He loves somebody else. He has someone else. If he broke up with her for you, how long do you think it would be until another girl would come along and he would break up with you for her. It is a vicious cycle you can't get out of. Karma will come back and bite you in the ass. Trust me it will. And that guy is lucky to find a girl he truly loves and won't cheat on. So take note of his true feelings and move on. If you truly care for him then be happy for him and his girlfriend and the love they share and find someone that is single like you. No one thinks highly of someone who is willing to break up a happy relationship just for themselves. That is called being selfish. So take yourself out of the equation and consider him. Leave him alone and let him be with who he loves. Unfortunately it isn't you, but you will find that guy someday. Just give it time. The fact this guy said you are like a sister is a clue in that he doesn't like you like that and he never will. Unless he is into incest. So move on hun. Things will get better.
~Sherah
PS:) Hun, I'm not on this site for ratings, so rate me a one. Do I care? No. I am not a jerk, I am just honest. Don't ask a question and expect to get the answers you are wanting to hear. Should you break the guy and his gf up? No. Why? Because it is selfish. I'm sorry I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear. But the truth hurts. So learn to take advice critically.
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Honestly, considering his feelings, if you really care about him as much as you say you do, then you would want him to be happy, weather it be with you, or the girlfriend he is mad for.
Breaking them up for your own personal gain would be breaking his heart in the process. We don't deliberately hurt or break the hearts of those we love and care about.
Is it really worth that to you? I certainly hope not.
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I think that breaking them up would be very selfish of you. He already told you how he feels about you, and that's like a sister. He really cares about his girlfriend, and if you broke them up,.. he would be misrable. I know that it's hard not being with him because you really do care for him, but you need to move on. It's not going to be easy, but just try. You're lucky that you guys are even close friends because it's better to have a friendship with him rather then nothing. Just be happy for him that he found someone who he really cares for. He loves you like a sister and a friend so just respect that from him.
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I think he pretty much already told you how he left about you - he thinks of you as a sis. In which case trying to break them up would be pointless. Would you be able to live with yourself knowing you broke them up just so you could have him? If you put her in your place how would you feel if someone came in between you and someone you really loved and deliberately broke you both up? More to the point you need to ask yourself what will happen if you did break them up and he found out you were responsible? How would it make him feel about you? For now he sees you as a sis but after finding out something like that (considering how much he loves her) would he be able to forgive you? There's never a simple answer in situations like these - there's always a lot to consider. It is strange however that he said if he ever broke up with his girlfriend he would go out with you but then said he sees you as a sis. That part is confusing so that might be something you could ask him to clarify so you know where you stand. Once you know that you can decide what the next step is from there.
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