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trisspoke (7:31:17 PM): make me your forum link!
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should I ignore this man going forward? he sent me a text which stated " Too bad that I don't meetup to his standards Now I feel terribly hurt & used
Ignore him and find someone who checks where his texts are going before he sends them.
If a married woman is cheating with a married man and she hears him tell his wife he loves her and 5 minutes later is having sex with the other woman what does this mean?
It means he's a fucking asshole.
Ive been staying at work later than usual some nights, drinking with my boss. We've always talked about hooking up but bever did so. Last week, we had a little too much and actually went through with it and had sex. The thing is, I thought I'd feel a lot worse about it than I do. I don't feel guilty or ashamed at all. Is that weird? I'm not sure if something has to be wrong with me to not care that I slept with not only my boss, but a married man at that. I need opinions. I know there will be negative comments towards me, but that's ok. I want your honest opinion on what you think about this situation. So maybe i can understand why I'm ok with this. Thanks
Recently, my boyfriend cheated on me. Because of my current position, I have zero sympathy for cheaters or homewreckers, like yourself.
You acted like a fucking moron. Brutal language, yes, but this is the truth. Sleeping with your boss was a dumbass move and would have been even if he was not married. You acted unprofessionally and now must deal with the consequences. If word gets out around the office, which it probably will, there's a very could chance you will lose your job. You will at least lose the respect of your fellow coworkers. The best thing you can do right now is prepare for the worst. Start working on your resume in the event that you may lose your job.
You should probably also apologize to your boss. Tell him you realize you acted foolishly, and you regret what happened, even if you really don't. You need to do what you can to gain your boss' respect back, as it's doubtful he has any left for you. If your boss does confess to his wife, you need to prepare to speak to her in a mature manner. Remember, you and your boss were the ones that ruined her life- she has every reason to be pissed. Be as tasteful as possible in this situation and apologize profusely if you are contacted.
And for the love of God, grow a damn conscience. You probably feel no remorse because it's never happened to you. Remember that karma exists, and you are most certainly going to get yours.
Hi, my bf and i are planning to have sex and we are both very cautions about our decision and hence decided to take this safely. I wanted to know:
1) which birth pills should i take - the best quality ones?
2) How often should i take the birth pills?
3) Do birth pills affect the periods?
4) Is it safe - are there any side affects?
Any information on the birth control pills would be great!
Thx
You will have to meet with either a doctor or go to planned parenthood in order to get birth control. Your doctor will probably prescribe you Loestrin24fe or Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo. These are the two lowest dose birth control pills, and they are commonly given to women taking the pill for the first time. You have to take the pill everyday. Your period will often be shorter and lighter. Birth control is safe, but there's risk of stroke, heart attack, or blood clots, however, this is more common in women who smoke or are over 35 years of age. You might find some non-life threatening health issues associated with your birth control like weight gain, chronic yeast infections, or loss of sex drive. Talk to your doctor about switching the brand of birth control if this occurs.
Hi. I’d really appreciate it if you’d bother to read my post and help me out.
For a couple of months now I’ve been friends with this girl from my faculty – we occasionally hang out in the hallway, text each other every once in a while etc. She does seem to enjoy talking with me and she’s very friendly but I don’t suppose it’s anything more than friendship from her side because she treats everyone else mostly the same.
However (as you may have guessed) I’d really like to hook up with her; so just a few weeks ago I worked up the nerve to finally ask her out for a drink. (This, by the way, was the first time in my life I’ve aksed someone out)! I felt like a total schmuck – all red in the face, stuttering, bashful – but she said YES. We said we’d go out sometime next week and, naturally, I was exalted. But next week when it was actually time to do it, she said she had to study (the lamest excuse by far) so we should do it “some other time”. (I also happen to know she DIDN’T study at the time of our appointed date, but I won’t go into that). So anyway, we just kept hanging out as usual and I didn’t bring up the respective subject again; nor did she.
Then the winter break came around and I thought I wasn’t going to see her for a whole month, until she invited me to the movies last week! So what I’m trying to say is, even though she got out of the date it looks like I still might have a shot there.
I thought asking someone out for a drink is pretty self-explanatory. They say yes – they want to go on a date with you; they say no – they’re not interested. So I’m thinking she either didn’t pick up on my intention, or she just said yes so as not to hurt my feelings… I don’t know.
So what does this mean - does she want to go out or not? How do I tell her straightforward I want to take her on a date without making an idiot of myself? I’m afaraid if I try to say something I am just going to ruin the moment… and we don't get to have that many alone moments with each other.
Oh, and for what it’s worth, we’re both 21.
Any advice appreciated.
Thanks.
If she asked you to the movies, it sounds like she definitely does want to go on a date with you. As long as it's just one on one, her intentions are the same.
For future reference, some women may agree to a date then cancel plans out of free of what would come if they were to say no. Many women fear aggression from men if they refuse to go out on a date with them. I know it may seem silly, but especially in the office, there can be a lot of unwanted tension if a women says no to a romantic encounter. It sometimes seems easier to just say yes and then cancel. However, since she's making an effort to ask you to hang out another time, it looks like you have nothing to worry about.
me and my boyfriend are both teenagers and live together most of the time. my boyfriend says that hes completely in love with me, he even has a tattoo of my name; but he has strayed from me a few times in the past and ive seen him jerking off a lot when he could be doing "stuff" with me i know he thinks im beautiful and stuff and we do have sex a few times a month but when were at parties i can tell hes cheeking other girls out. i know he has sexual needs im not fulfilling and hes just harmlessly enjoying himself, but i feel like i need to give him more, so im thinking about getting breast implants im only an A and all the girls he cheeks out and jerks to are this beautiful Cs and Ds. do think this is a good idea; if not what else would you consider i do?
Don't get breast implants- at least not yet. You're a teenager, so your body is still developing. In a few years you might grow to be a C or D. Wait until you're 25 and then consider if you still want one or not. Also remember that breast implants tend to lose their perkiness after 15 years.
In the mean time, work on your self esteem. This isn't really about you wanting larger breasts. This is about your insecurities. Most people still masturbate while in relationships. It's healthy and you don't need to be hurt by it. By exploring oneself, many people discover what they enjoy sexually so they can share it with a partner. When your boyfriend checks girls out at parties, it can definitely hurt. But do you ever check out other guys? People in relationships are human: they're always going to find other people attractive. As long as he isn't dwelling on other women or cheating you have nothing to worry about.
Start finding worth in yourself. Realize if he says you're beautiful, he isn't lying. Find what you love about yourself and cherish it. Larger breasts won't make your boyfriend love you more, and they won't make you love you more. Appreciate what you have now and love thyself.
this is gonna be fairly long... well, 2 years ago I went to a friends birthday party, there were a few people there, i didn't really care for much of his friends most of them annoyed me, so I was sitting alone on his porch when he was with some of his friends, and this girl there came up to me and tried starting a conversation with me... She told me her name, I was really shy so I didn't say much she kind of stopped talking to me after that. Later that night we were all sitting around a fire, she was sitting beside me, she would put her elbow on my knee and look into my eyes and i was acting extremely shy, one of the guys there asked her if she liked me and she said something along the lines of "No, i just like his reaction when i look at him" She also kissed me that night, one of the guys there dared her too, it wasn't really a kiss just a peck. I couldn't stop thinking about her throughout my freshmen and sophomore year, and i've always hated myself for how stupid i acted that night. I didn't really see her much then, though when i did she never really seemed to notice me. Now I'm a junior and she's a senior this is probably the last time i'll actually get to talk to her, i see her alot more in school, i pass her a few times in the hallway, and i have lunch with her, I used to notice her looking at me at lunch from her table, our tables are practically beside each other, she would look at me for a while, then turn away. I really wanted to talk to her, but couldn't really find the time, shes with her friends at lunch, and i don't have time in between classes (my classes are back and forth to both ends of the school takes a long time to get there). i noticed she hasn't looked at me as often lately, she still kind of acknowledges me, but not much, and i don't want to **** this up with her again, i already feel so stupid for keeping this bottled up for 2 years which is partly why I'm even more scared to talk to her. I really want to talk to her, i just don't know what exactly to say, how to start a conversation. I'm still extremely shy and i hate that, now i feel im just rambling... So anyway, how do i talk to her? what could i say? I really need advice i cant stop thinking about her, thanks :D
Since it's been so long, it's doubtful she feels the same way you do. She may have liked you at one point, but her feelings have probably faded. However, that doesn't mean they can't come back. It definitely sounds like she still thinks you're attractive if she's always looking at you. Casually approach her at lunch sometime when she isn't surrounded by her friends. Maybe if she stood up to get food or something. Ask her how she's been and such, and if she'd like to catch up sometime. If she says yes, get coffee or something comfortable. If she says no, there are other fish in the sea!
So a couple of days ago i hooked up with this boy and gave him oral. the day after i started to have a little sore throat but nothing big. As the days went on i started feeling worse and worse and yesterday i had the chills, a fever the whole deal. This morning i woke up and i felt like something was stuck in the back of my throat and the little thing that hangs down (it has a name i forget it) was so swollen it was taking up most of my throat. So i went to the doctors and i have strep. Ive NEVER had strep before and ive been sick plenty of times. My mom even said shes never seen my throat this bad. So my question is do you think its from giving oral or it's just a coincidence? Also the kid i hooked up with has gotten with a lot of girls and used to hook up with a girl who has herpes. gross but i didn't find that out until after. Do you think i could have a std?
18/f
No, you don't have an STD. The strand of virus that causes strep throat is different than the viruses or bacteria that result in an STD. If your doctor specifically found the streptococcal virus present, then it is not an STD causing your sore throat. It's just a coincidence.
I cannot seem to lose weight. I eat very well (very few carbs- I eat either half a grapefruit or a small bowl of cereal with skim milk for breakfast, either an apple or a pice of turkey for lunch (something along those lines), and then a salad for dinner which I only use olive oil for dressing and very little non fat feta cheese). I also exercise almost everyday- i know its not very strenuous but i am not in great shape- I run 1.5/2 miles and then do weights and crunchs/planks etc.) However I cannot seem to get off of my weight of 135 at 5'4. I feel flabby, and not very toned but I cant seem to change my appearence. HELP!
THanks so much!
You aren't eating enough. Though you are eating, it sounds like you aren't consuming more than 500 calories a day, putting your body in starvation mode. Your body is going to struggle to hold onto the weight you're trying to lose. Combine the half grapefruit and and bowl of cereal. For lunch have a hole turkey sandwich on whole wheat bread for lunch and have the apple as a snack. Put chicken, tofu, or a hard boiled egg on your salad for protein. You really should be eating more protein in general, especially if you want to tone up. Also, how long does your work out take? You should be working out for 30 minutes five days a week.
18/f.
I have what looks like a blister,bubble and all on my pubic mound kind of close to my leg. I only have sex with one man and haven't had sex with anyone else in a long time. I popped it stupidly out of curiosity and it had clear puss. I had a bladder infection recently and just started birth control.
What could this be?
There's a good chance it's an abscess. This is a puss-filled lump that generally has to be drained. It's usually caused by sweat and debris getting trapped under the skin. Usually a doctor drains it, but it sounds like you already have. I'd advise you to see a doctor, as it's probably unsafe for you to pop by yourself.
I was on lo loestrin fe for a couple months and then i switched to aviane (generic of aleese). About a month ago I switched back to lo loestrin fe and just finished the pack today. I had sex 2 days ago. I have been taking some form of birth control pill everyday (no missed days) and I finished the aviane before I switched back to lo loestrin fe. I was just wondering if this would affect my chance of a pregnancy. My doctor said my period will probably be iregular until my body gets used to the lo loestrin fe again because they are different hormones than the aviane.
As long as you've consistently been taking birth control, you should not be pregnant. Remember there is always a .01% chance your birth control pill fails, but it's highly unlikely it did in this scenario.
I am 13 and I'm going to be 14 in a few days. I am 5' 1 1/2" and about 90lbs. I have a 34B bra size and I was wondering if this was normal or small or big. My mom and my aunts say that I got the "big boob" gene and my boyfriend and my friends all say that I have big boobs for being so peteit and skinny. Is this true? Thanks!!!!!!
Your breasts are somewhat large for your age. Many of your friends may only be A cups right now. That being said, you won't really know how big your breasts are going to be until you're fully developed, so you've got a few years of waiting ahead of you.
Ok so Im 12 and I currently have a wonderful boyfriend but he kinda flirts with my best friend. When Im aorund him he doesnt givve me any special attention though. He is my first boyfriend, and slow dance. Then theres this other guy who is a year older than me (13). He IM's me 24/7 he admitts to me that he kinda likes me but likes other people too. I kinda am falling for him and I dont know what to do. We were playing truth over IM the other day and he said that he reall wants to kiss me. I have never kissed anyone before but he has kissed alot of other girls. I asked him for one of my questions if he would ever kiss me while im still dating ___? and he said yes. I have something in side me that wants to kiss him but the other part of me doesnt because i already have a boyfriend. I dont know what to do because the other guy said 'It would be worth kissing you even though I might get slapped'. PLEASEE help, I dont know what to do :(
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=601503
I answered a very similar question here.
Edit: In response to your feedback, why would I give you another answer? My advice remains the same, regardless of how you reword it.
I just wanna understand how women look at guys and what qualities they look for.
Physical qualities like how they look and how strong/attractive they are. How much does money matter? Do you like guys who are more aggressive or laid back? Do you want a man to be territorial and maybe even jealous over you? Protective?
Do you like guys who are more mature? How much does sex matter? What kind of style do you like in guys? All that kind of stuff.
Everyones different so I like to hear all different answers no matter what age.
As you said, everyone is different. All girls have different tastes. This is really a result of biology, as women seek partners with a different biological make up than their own, in order to produce healthy children. Take every preference listed with a grain of salt.
I'm an 18 year old female. I'm generally attracted to taller men, usually 6'0 and up. Physical strength doesn't matter too much to me. I like guys who are thin or buff; I'm not particularly attracted to the teddy bear type, but if you are larger plenty of girls love that! Money doesn't really matter to me, as long as I don't have to pay for everything. I like guys who are laid-back rather than aggressive. Showing aggression can make a woman fear for her own safety. Jealousy and protectiveness are major turn offs. I'm a human, not a piece of property. I can make my own decision on who I'd like to associate with, male or female.
Maturity matters to a certain extent. I like a guy who had a great sense of humor, but knows when to act like an adult.
I'm confused by your question "How much does sex matter?" In what context? If you mean would a women still date you if you chose to save yourself for marriage, I'd advise seeking partners who have those same morals in mind. Most women who are already sexually active would like to remain that way. Partners will have different libidos though and the desire for sex is extremely variable.
I like frat bros and preppy guys. Give me a guy in a snap-back or a button up, and I'm set. It's probably my college mind-set talking.
Why do they say "high school is the best 4 years of your life?" Why? Isn't that only in the movies, cause everyone in high school says its all homework and tests and extremely hard. Why is it the best?
Im 13/f and i go to high school this year but next school year (in 8th grade)
I've rarely heard people say high school is the best four years of their life. Most people find college to be much more enjoyable, as do I. Some people enjoy high school if they have a fun social life, but more often than not, kids struggle in the transition from childhood to adult during this time. Boys will hurt you, you might not do as well as you did in middle school grade-wise, and you'll be struggling to accept the changes your body goes through. However, it is a very care-free time and you get your first taste of freedom. I'd say I enjoyed my last year of high school the most.
I hope you can look past the insecurities and relationship drama when you get to high school. And if you can't, remember that college is a new world of opportunities too.
How old do you have to be to buy condoms in the unitited states
There are no age limits on condoms. I used to work in a pharmacy and middle school aged kids would always come in to buy condoms to make into water balloons. They thought they were hilarious. No one else did.
If your a girl Do you still get emotionally attatched to the second person you have had sex with or is it tbat you just get attatched to the first guy you loose your virginity to
Not every girl even gets attached to the guy they lose their virginity to. Some studies show when a woman achieves orgasm, her body releases a hormone that attaches her to the person she slept with. However, there are many flaws in this reasoning. What happens when a woman achieves orgasm while using a vibrator? Obviously, she would not become emotionally attached to the vibrator. The level of emotional intimacy involved usually places a bigger role. If a girl lost her virginity during a one night stand, she'd probably be less likely to become attached to a guy she lost her virginity to while dating for years. The same goes for your second, third, forth partner. The emotional value of the relationship plays a factor much larger than the number of partners one has had.
I have a boyfriend, but I'm starting to have doubts on him.he might not be the right guy for me. A: he's not popular. B: sadly he smells. C: he's started to call me his girlfriend i don't really care about that part... so anyway, should i break up with him?
If you're having reservations, he probably isn't the right guy for you. Break up with him. Just remember one day, a guy being popular won't matter to you. However, clearly it does now, so if you feel the need to break things off, do it.
OK so I still have my first amazing boyfriend but the other guy still has been saying he wants to kiss me and so on. I try to explain to the other guy that I already have a boyfriend and I love him so much. Im 12, and my boyfriend is 12. The other guy is 13. So i absolutly love my boyfriend and would do anything for him. Im kinda falling in love with this other guy too who says he wants to kiss me desperatly. We were playing truth the other day and he asked 'Which would u do if I kissed you? A.kiss back B.push away C.slap me D.hate me' I wasnt remembering the fact that I already have a boyfriend and told him A. I didnt know what to do. Then last night, i asked him 'which would u rate me? A.blehh B.cute C.hot D.sexy E.beyond' He answered with B and C. And I couldnt speak, I was amazed. I need help though because I like both my boyfriend and this guy almost equally and the desision is killing me. My boyfriends sister asked me the other day 'Do you even like my brother or are you getting paid to date him?' I really do like him but I like this other guy too. Please HELP!!
You're 12. Your relationship with your current boyfriend probably isn't going to last forever. Likewise, any relationship that occurs with the other guy won't last forever either. So I suppose it really doesn't matter which path you decide to take. If you want to kiss another boy, chances are you relationship with the first boy isn't too stable anyway. So if you'd really like to kiss the second boy, go for it. Just make sure you break thing off with the first boy first/
Hi, I'm a teenage girl. Today, I found a love note in my locker. It was from a secret admirer, so idk who it was. I'm pretty self concious and stuff so I'm thinking the note is just a prank or something. I could tell it was a boy's writing, but why would a boy put a fake love note in my locker? Dont girls usually do that stuff for pranks? I just really wanna figure this out. And how can you tell if a guy likes you? What are some signs?
You're right. Why would a boy put a fake love note in my locker? A boy wouldn't. So it's probably not fake! It looks like there's some boy out there who really likes you! You don't need to be self conscious about it; I doubt it's a prank. Unfortunately, until the guy owns up to it, you probably won't know who it is.
You can tell when a guy likes you if he flirts with you, smiles around you, tries to make you laugh, etc. He might try to find excuses to touch you. It sounds like you're pretty young, so these are probably the signs you should be looking for. Generally, guys let it be known that they like you.