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Does she want to go out on a date or not?
Hi. I’d really appreciate it if you’d bother to read my post and help me out.
For a couple of months now I’ve been friends with this girl from my faculty – we occasionally hang out in the hallway, text each other every once in a while etc. She does seem to enjoy talking with me and she’s very friendly but I don’t suppose it’s anything more than friendship from her side because she treats everyone else mostly the same.
However (as you may have guessed) I’d really like to hook up with her; so just a few weeks ago I worked up the nerve to finally ask her out for a drink. (This, by the way, was the first time in my life I’ve aksed someone out)! I felt like a total schmuck – all red in the face, stuttering, bashful – but she said YES. We said we’d go out sometime next week and, naturally, I was exalted. But next week when it was actually time to do it, she said she had to study (the lamest excuse by far) so we should do it “some other time”. (I also happen to know she DIDN’T study at the time of our appointed date, but I won’t go into that). So anyway, we just kept hanging out as usual and I didn’t bring up the respective subject again; nor did she.
Then the winter break came around and I thought I wasn’t going to see her for a whole month, until she invited me to the movies last week! So what I’m trying to say is, even though she got out of the date it looks like I still might have a shot there.
I thought asking someone out for a drink is pretty self-explanatory. They say yes – they want to go on a date with you; they say no – they’re not interested. So I’m thinking she either didn’t pick up on my intention, or she just said yes so as not to hurt my feelings… I don’t know.
So what does this mean - does she want to go out or not? How do I tell her straightforward I want to take her on a date without making an idiot of myself? I’m afaraid if I try to say something I am just going to ruin the moment… and we don't get to have that many alone moments with each other.
Oh, and for what it’s worth, we’re both 21.
Any advice appreciated.
Thanks.
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If she asked you to the movies, it sounds like she definitely does want to go on a date with you. As long as it's just one on one, her intentions are the same.
For future reference, some women may agree to a date then cancel plans out of free of what would come if they were to say no. Many women fear aggression from men if they refuse to go out on a date with them. I know it may seem silly, but especially in the office, there can be a lot of unwanted tension if a women says no to a romantic encounter. It sometimes seems easier to just say yes and then cancel. However, since she's making an effort to ask you to hang out another time, it looks like you have nothing to worry about.
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