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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angel

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ok im having my sweet 16 in a couple of months. I made my guest list and came up with about 40 - 44 girls and only about 33 guys. I want to kind of make it a ratio but i dont want to invite just anyone so its even! my one friend invited a bunch of people to her party and some threw the invites on the floor. i dont want to be dissed..but at the same time i kind of want it even. SHould i leave my list as it is..invite more guys...any experiecnes where guys to girls wasnt even but the party was still good?

well, most guys wont go alone, so when you make the invitations, have it say that they are allowed to bring a friend, most likely, it will be another guy, or their girlfriend. you dont have to just invite anyone, just tell your guy friends that they can bring a friend if they're not on the list. hope i helped -angel

im like so worried u no evryone nows like you have to be naked when you do it.. but i hate my bodie. i dont want to have sex then evryone runs away!!!!! k i need help does anyone no of ways to have sex without being naked?!?!? sry if this is uncomforible but hey i cant ask my freinds. they'll think im a freak! k im so enbarressed so plz help! before i make a bigger fool of myself!

um, leave your clothes on, if you dont want to take them off, you dont have to, but its pretty hard to have sex with your pants on, but yeah, just keep it under the covers if you dont want people to see you, i just dont see why you would have sex in front of a crowd, but yeah thats the best advice i can give ya. hope i helped -Angel

okay, I am freind this guy who has gas, he like the star or cleb in school. plus makes the room hot, he really smelly and foul. thing is this girl he flatulated to in class and he knows I like him and other girl that flatulated with him, he always farting with her in front of me and everthing. she always stare at me werid look after he dose.I know i don't seem make since, its my style of writing becouse i am blind. it i want show that it not borthering me and plus I don't like him that way, i want show i want to be good farter too. but sometimes i think reason why i like him becouse everybody esle like his loud noises like he a flatulator.. he everything Drama, chapen of the bathroom, he msuch of the leader in contests, so hope you guys get it. if not i try to explain better, this all i smell of.
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Ok, I am way lost on what you're exactly trying to say and how you're planning on reading this if you're blind. Maybe I'm not hip enough to understand why you would want to be a good "farter," because that makes no sense to me at all, whether you're blind or not. I don't know if "farter" is code or not, but besides that, so it sounds like you like some guy that "flatulates" with this other girl and you want him to know that you dont care that he "flatulates" with her. Just don't pay attention to it I guess? I don't know, I think you should explain more because I'm crackin up here. Hope I helped though, have fun flatulating. -Angel

I told my boyfriend that I'd never kissed anyone and that I wanted him to be my first kiss. He said he wanted to kiss me, too. But that was about a month ago and nothing has happened. I told him I wouldn't make the move. I'm too shy. I don't know what I'm scared of since I know he wants to. I'm just scared I'll do something wrong, I guess. Any advice?

Don't be so nervous about it, the more comfortable you are, the better. Maybe when you two are alone, like at the movies or at one of your houses, just kiss him on the cheek and cuddle with him a little bit, grab his arm or something. He should get the message, if he doesn't make a move on you, then you've already broken the ice a little so it's less pressure on you. Chances are you won't do anything wrong and if you do, it's not that big of a deal, nobody's perfect on their first kiss. Hope I helped. -Angel

ok..i stole a bottle of perfume,earings,keychain,lipgloss,2 rings, (this was formyself) i also helped out my friend steal her stuff and she helped me steal mine. I never stole anything before..and im kinda feeling bad now. the stuff i took was probably worth $15 or $20 altogether. is there a way i can make myself feel better and get rid of he guilt..besides returning it. And is it true that people steal stuf until they get caught? because ii dont want to make a habitt out of this. have any of you stolen anything before?

Everyone has stolen something at least once, just say to yourself that it was a one time thing and it will never happen again. As for feeling less guilty, pretend you bought it, whatever you gotta do, but when it comes down to it, it's not something to feel too horrible about, at least you aren't out doing worse things like stealing cars. Just do what you said, don't make a habit out of it, because when I did, I got caught and had to pay a $325 fine and I can't go to that store for 2 years. Always think about the consequences. Hope I helped. -Angel

I'm very shy and quiet, and I not a geek or anything but I'm not exactly popular either. There's this guy that I think might like me.. but he is really popular and outgoing, so I'm not sure if he really does like me or if it's just my imagination. Is it possible for a popular, outgoing guy to like a shy, not-so-popular girl? What are the chances? I don't know what to do because of my uncertainty.. should I flirt back or not?? Thanks in advance!! :-)

yeah definitely flirt with him a little bit to see if he's interested. Just be yourself, I know everyone says that but it really works, or if it doesn't work, then at least you know that you're not being fake. There are definitely pretty good chances of him liking you, not all popular guys are shallow popular girl-loving airheads. Hope I helped and good luck. -Angel

how did you do that thing where its all backwards?? by the way, its ana, (from WCI!!) thnx
~*ana*~

some HTML codes, i dont have the site right here cuz im at school, but look up HTML codes, buddy4u profiles, something like that, there's a couple of pretty good ones. Hope I helped ana. -Anq3L

Hey , I have a question. I have this like lump sort of thing inside of my breast. I'm not sure what it is. I don't think that it is breast cancer.. but I really don't know what else it could be. Help please! I'm freaked out.

P.S. I'm 13.

that's completely normal, you're still qrowing and that may happen from time to time, if it lasts more than about a month, talk to your doctor. Hope I helped. -Anq3L

Can any one tell me how to shut little sisters up and also i keep a diary and it's impossible to have any privesy in my house does any one have any good ideas to stop little brats getting their hands on my diary! Thanks for any suggestions Joolz (plus i rate high)

Ask your parents to get you a little lock-box, or a trunk with a pad combination lock, so you can keep your stuff in it. They should be pretty understanding. As for your diary, maybe you should get a diary with a key and a lock or something. To get your sisters to shut up, ignore them, don't let it bother you, they will have nothing better to do than to shut up, or you could just get them back. Hope I helped. -Angel

I sweat under my arms a lot. I do wear deoderant, and I bathe regularly. Do you have any idea about what deoderant I should use? or help? It's really embarassing.

use anti-perisperant, something that smells good too, I would reccomend secret platinum. Hope I helped. -Angel

I think I have depression. I've read about symptoms, and I have almost all of them. I've been feeling like this for about 4-5 months now. My dad has depression and I think it runs in his family. But I don't know how to tell anyone. I'm really shy, and I don't think anyone will believe me because I act happy around people even when I feel like dying, if I need to cry then I won't do it when there are people around. If I tell my mum she'll probably say I'm just feeling down or something. I don't know where I can find a counsellor and I'd probably have to tell my mum where I was going if I did. I'd find talking to someone horrible because I feel sick when I talk to people I don't know. I also think I have social anxiety but I don't know what to do about that either. What should I do about this depression problem because I don't know how to tell someone. Sorry this is so long, thanks :)

It's hard to talk to people about depression, I had no idea I was clinically depressed until I talked to someone. It would be best to first tell the person you are closest to, and just slowly open up to that person, that will help you get over the social anxiety. It's really hard to deal with, but with support of family and friends, it's something that can be dealt with. Just keep your head up, hope I helped, good luck and keep me posted. -Angel

What different things can I do to lose weight in my face, stomach, legs, butt, I guess everything..?? I can't really go out and run though because there's kind of snow on the ground :p but..so what can I do to lose weight? People recommend like jump roping and stuff but would that even work? I mean it sounds kind of worthless because you arent really doing anything..your just jumping..but once again what can I do?? Please help :o) Thanx!!

Try to manage a low-carbohydrate diet, eat lots of vegetables, protein and dairy rather than breads pastas and starchy foods. Any type of cardio workout will definitely help, jump-rope, stairmaster, crosstrainer, treadmill, anything to get your heart rate going, even if it's one of those exercise videos. If you exercise 4 times a week and maintain a low-carb diet like that, then you should see results fast. IM me if you want more advice on the subject Sillyangel869. Hope I helped, good luck. -Angel

Ok..I use liquid foundation by maybelline but every time I put it on it like gets "crusty?" and its like gross and it makes my face look weird. Its like it separates into little pieces..my mom says its just "dry skin?" but like i try scrubbing it off with those stridex pads but it takes the makeup off but not the skin stuff. i also used to use noxema but that didnt do anything with it either. i have found out that apricot scrub stuff kind of works. but it seems like it will just come back after my face dries. i have also tried using other kinds of foundation..for instance that new dream matte mousse stuff and also powder kinds. ugh this really makes me mad to see my face all like this. should i put lotion on it?? what kinds?? i have tried some but grrr! also..i dont have bad acne all over but i have kind of a lot on my chin and like one teeny one on my forehead..but is there any good products out there?? sorry for this being so long. Please help! :'( Thanx!!

As far as the dry skin, go with a deep moisturizer, something by clinique maybe, or when you go to bed every night put vaseline on it, after you wash your face, put lotion on the dry skin while it's still wet. As for the acne, go for the Neutrogena products, they make a certain facewash that works for every part of your face, dry skin, oily skin, breakouts, etc. they also have an on-the-spot treatment that works pretty well. As for your foundation, try something water based and oil-free, i like Loreal true match, don't wear powder foundation unless you have oily skin. Hope I helped, good luck -Angel

My fourteen year old daughter has been going out with this nineteen year old boy since the beginning of January, first of all she lied to me saying that he was sixteen. I am quite worried about this. Can somebody help me and tell me what I should be doing. She is my only daughter, in fact my only child. I am worried. Help.

Don't stress too much on it, talk to her about it. Find out what it is she likes about him, get to know the guy for yourself, if your daughter likes him and you raised her, then he can't be all that bad. Try to let her make her own decisions, but pay close attention to the actions she takes, if you notice that she's acting different, (i.e. grades, habits, personality, physical etc.) find out why and give her some limits. If by chance something does go wrong, make them break it off, be hard on her about it, she'll thank you for it later. Don't feel bad or worried, you're just a mom that cares, one day your daughter will understand. Hope I helped, keep me posted. -Angel

ok im an 18/f.. whenever my boyfriend and i get in arguements i start screaming and cussing at him when im really mad. i usually feel bad about it later cuz i can be so mean.. but i cant calm myself down when i need to. when im really pissed off i dont think about it, i just start yelling. sometimes i feel like its the only way i can get him to listen even though i know it only makes things worse.. what should i do to stop doing this?

Play games with yourself, try to get over it by trying a new way every time you get mad until you find something that works better. One argument, maybe you should try whispering or something, ease the frustration, next try something with the bad words edited out (i.e f*ck becomes "F" etc.) whatever you have to do, don't look directly at him when you're yelling, maybe pause when you're arguing, take a walk, anything to just feel a little less heated. Ask him what he thinks, together you guys should be able to work things out. Hope I helped. -Angel

Okay.. so me and my boy friend have been dating for 8 months ! Well just last week we were looking at his digital camera and a picture poped up and he was like oh look heres when they had a stripper come to my dads birthday ! Im Like WHAT ? so i didn't say anything until we got home well when i did hes like its just a joke come on i mean she was ugly and she only danced in front of everyone else ! I was like ok and i let it go away well then today i was looking thru the pictures and i seen one of her dancing all over him !! i didn't tell him i saw it but now its all i can think about i really love him what should i do !

Bring it up, but not in an obvious way, try to make him tell you. Casually bring up strippers like "You know, I was watching this movie, about a stripper, and she was dancing all over this girl's boyfriend." Something casual, and humorous, then once he tells you, be totally serious about it and demand to know why he never told you and let him know that you can't stop thinking about it and make him feel so bad about it that he'll never let it happen again. Hope I helped. -Angel

Okay...I'm 18, and I have these two certain good friends that I've been friends with for a couple of years. I've been feeling left out lately, because they're going to the same college, and I'm not, and they always talk about it in front of me. We also have this thing where we wait for each other after soccer practice, and lately they've just left without me, talking and laughing all the way. I take this as a sign that they just forget me, and it makes me mad. One of the girls I was good friends with until the other one came along, and now they're best friends. And I'm left out. I keep giving them HUGE hints that they're leaving me out, but they're either too clueless to know, or just don't care. What should I say to them/do??

Straight up tell them that you feel like you're drifting apart from them, if they care and they're good friends, they'll try to do something about it, which may or may not work. If you're feeling left out, maybe you could try to include yourself more, go with them to one of their school functions or something. Call them and invite them places, if they blow you off, find new friends, focus on soccer and school. Life goes on. Hope I helped, -Angel

I crack my back.. not a lot.. but at least a few times a day... i know its bad... but now it's a habbit... how can i stop this and what can i do if i get the urge to crack my back?

Don't stop, it's good to crack your back, when you are unable to crack your back, then you have a problem. Just don't over crack your back.

hello!!! how do you get messages to pop up when people enter your advice column?? what's the code?? thanks for your help

search google for buddy4u HTML codes, I don't have the exact site because I'm not on my computer, but that should help. Put the HTML in your bio. Hope I helped. Let me see it when you're done? -Angel

ok last night i cut myself in the leg. its not deep or anything just like scrathes and i did it with a really dull razor. i did it because i keep fighting with my friends and i can't help it. i had a dream about it that night and i can't stop thinking about it!! i definately don't want to do it again and i most probably won't. DON'T SAY "TALK TO A PSYCHIOTRIST, CAUSE I DON'T NEED TO!!" i just need to figure ot why i would do this and why i can't stop thinking about it, i mean like i know why. i just feel really screwed up in the head and shocked that i would do this. am i screwed???

You're cutting yourself because you want attention, maybe from your friends, or something. People that cut themeselves for something other than show, don't usually talk about it, and they do it because they don't know why they're feeling pain, and they just need something to feel secure about. ("I feel depressed because, I don't know, but at least I can say that I'm hurting because I cut my leg") Something like that. You on the other hand, just need some attention, not a psychiatrist, they give you medication, a psychologist is something a little more on track. You're not screwed up in the head, and if you were, a psychologist wouldn't be a too far-off request. Hope I helped. -Angel

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