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Being Left Out
Okay...I'm 18, and I have these two certain good friends that I've been friends with for a couple of years. I've been feeling left out lately, because they're going to the same college, and I'm not, and they always talk about it in front of me. We also have this thing where we wait for each other after soccer practice, and lately they've just left without me, talking and laughing all the way. I take this as a sign that they just forget me, and it makes me mad. One of the girls I was good friends with until the other one came along, and now they're best friends. And I'm left out. I keep giving them HUGE hints that they're leaving me out, but they're either too clueless to know, or just don't care. What should I say to them/do??
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yell at them, they deserve it. say "I GET THAT YOU 2 ARE GOING TO THE SAME COLLEGE BUT IT MAKES ME FEEL BAD SO SHUT UP!!"
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i think you should tell them and if nothing changes then i wouldnt know where to go from there because im having the same problem too, but i really hope my opinion helps you out.
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dear being left out
try telling these friends that you feel like you are being left out .and tell them that you don't like being left out of the actives there doing and it doesn't make you feel very good when they do these things to you.and see what they say.and if after you talk to them about it and things don't change after that.they were not good friends in the first place.
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tell them how you feel. that is the only way. just be blunt and say "hey, you know what. you have been leaving me out and its starting to piss me off." giving hints doesn't always work.
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you have to confront them. if they are purposefuly ditching you then they are not worth having as friends. if they were doing it by accident, suggest you go somwhere together... the three f you. good luck!
~ANGE
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Straight up tell them that you feel like you're drifting apart from them, if they care and they're good friends, they'll try to do something about it, which may or may not work. If you're feeling left out, maybe you could try to include yourself more, go with them to one of their school functions or something. Call them and invite them places, if they blow you off, find new friends, focus on soccer and school. Life goes on. Hope I helped, -Angel
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It always sucks to be left out, I know the feeling. You need to let them know how that they are really hurting your feelings. Talk to them together or one on one, which ever you choose, but you need to get the message across. More than likely, they haven't even noticed that they're leaving you out, and they have just been really excited about going to collage together. Also, take this time as a chance to make new friends. Having lots of friends is good, because then you know people all over and you're never left out. Good luck!
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Well, You gotta talk to them about. If htey dont get it with your hints then you just gotta talk to them. Tell them that now that they are all in the same college but not you, you feel left out and ignired. IF they really are true freinds of yours, they will understand or they at least should. If they still keeps ignoring you then you just gotta face it. YOu gotta move too just like they did, like find new and better freinds cuz you are in a new and different college. Hope I helped. :)
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It looks to me like you need new friends. Talk to them about it, be BLUNT!! Obviously, they dont want to listen or care!
♥ Michelle
ps FunkyFresh is 18 and might be able to help you out!
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Well you can't force some one to like you better than the other person... maybe you should hang out with them induvidually... and get to know them better... that will give them a chance to start liking you more. If that doesn't work than definetly tell them how you feel don't just give hints.
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