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boyfriend problems...
ok im an 18/f.. whenever my boyfriend and i get in arguements i start screaming and cussing at him when im really mad. i usually feel bad about it later cuz i can be so mean.. but i cant calm myself down when i need to. when im really pissed off i dont think about it, i just start yelling. sometimes i feel like its the only way i can get him to listen even though i know it only makes things worse.. what should i do to stop doing this?
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Well...everytime you wanna scream at him and kill him, just calmly stop yourself. Then. just start making out with him, I promise it works! ;) You two will be argument-free in no time.
-Emmy Boo-
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when you feel your temper rising, breathe in and out real deeply. just try stay calm... its also good to take up some kind of sport that you can use to vent your anger through... if your not into that, when you go to bed every night scream into your pillow. u need to do something to let out al that bottled up anger or even the slightest thing will set you off and that will scare off your b/f
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Play games with yourself, try to get over it by trying a new way every time you get mad until you find something that works better. One argument, maybe you should try whispering or something, ease the frustration, next try something with the bad words edited out (i.e f*ck becomes "F" etc.) whatever you have to do, don't look directly at him when you're yelling, maybe pause when you're arguing, take a walk, anything to just feel a little less heated. Ask him what he thinks, together you guys should be able to work things out. Hope I helped. -Angel
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First off, talk to him about it, tell him that i dont want you to missunderstand me when i yell, i am truly sorry everytime i yell, i cant help my self! Ask him how he thinks you can stop!
♥ Michelle
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Two words. Anger management. Everyone needs a little.
Don't listen to people who think you're a pyscho. A lot of the doctors who teach how to control your anger really know what they're doing and they probably can help you. If your boyfriend already dealed with all your current bullshit, he'll probably stick through with you through your conseling (sorry if i didnt spell it right). I'm not trying to make you feel bad because believe me I went through this too.
Good luck!
Jacki
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hmm... if i were you... and i was in a fight with my boyfriend ... i would take a deep breath and think of all the good times i'd had with him... then i would count to five (in my head) and in a calm voice tell him how your feeling and than let him have his turn... after that compromise and make up... but if fights keep happening and you keep yelling.. i think your boyfriend will want to break up with you... sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear... but if you think about what i just said... you'll want to stop yelling so that way you can be happy together.
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