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Strippers!
Okay.. so me and my boy friend have been dating for 8 months ! Well just last week we were looking at his digital camera and a picture poped up and he was like oh look heres when they had a stripper come to my dads birthday ! Im Like WHAT ? so i didn't say anything until we got home well when i did hes like its just a joke come on i mean she was ugly and she only danced in front of everyone else ! I was like ok and i let it go away well then today i was looking thru the pictures and i seen one of her dancing all over him !! i didn't tell him i saw it but now its all i can think about i really love him what should i do !
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Bring it up, but not in an obvious way, try to make him tell you. Casually bring up strippers like "You know, I was watching this movie, about a stripper, and she was dancing all over this girl's boyfriend." Something casual, and humorous, then once he tells you, be totally serious about it and demand to know why he never told you and let him know that you can't stop thinking about it and make him feel so bad about it that he'll never let it happen again. Hope I helped. -Angel
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just tell him that you saw it and ask him why he lied to you, i know you love him and all but he shouldn't lie to you about it .. hope i helped =)
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He is a typical guy, if you pop the subject up he will be like y were you looking throu my stuff? Anyway, let it go, he loves you, otherwise he wouldnt be lieing so you wont get hurt, if you understand what im saying (sorry i cant explain it).
♥ Michelle
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i think you should just let it go. i look at it this way... she was only a stripper at a borthday party. she was hired to put on a show and thats exactly what she did. she was getting paid to do what she did. i dont think you should really be worrying about anything. nothing happened between them. the only thing she did was dancing over him. she prolly did it to everyone there.
take for example that if you two were planning on getting married and he had a bachelor party and the girls through you a bachelorette party. i'm sure that both of them would go with the tradition of hiring a stripper. none for you and one for him. it isnt anything major.
It is just a stripper. nothing less, nothing more.
you shouldnt really think about it all that much because i dont think that anything bad happened.
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its there job dont get worked up over it
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That sucks! Hes probably cheating on you. Break up with him before he makes a fool of you. I know you think you love him but dont hurt yourself. The problem is only going to get worse. Theres only one guy out there for you and cleary hes not the one.
Trust my advice and break up with him before he breaks your heart. If you dont do it soon, you could get really sick over this and we dont want that.
Good luck with your problem sweetheart...
Jacki
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Well he did lie to you... but maybe he has good reasons. Its just a stripper... its not like he's cheating on you.... you have two options:
1) talk to him and tell him what you saw... (he may get mad that you were looking through hid pictures, but it's the only way to let him no how you feel)BUt tell him that it's not a big deal... but you were just wondering why he lied.. this way it doesn't make him feel hurt... and you guys don't get into a huge fight.
2) don't say anything... keep your feelings to yourself
Maybe you should ask him why he even took pictures of her in the first place if he thought she was ugly.
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In my opinion, it was just a stripper at a birthday party, and it shouldn't be anything to worry about.
Then again, you should be upset because he lied to you.
Then again, he probably only lied to you about that because he knew it would upset you.
Then again, it hurts things a lot worse when you can't be completely honest about those things.
But, he probably felt like he couldn't be honest about it because of your additude about it. I don't think it's a bad thing for a guy to have a stripper at a party. I think it's a very minor detail. It's not as if he did anything, or felt anything for her.
But it's wrong for him to lie about such things. You need to talk with him and make sure he knows that you both need to be completely honest about such things. It might help to tell him that you will not be mad if he tells you, but you will be mad if you find out he's lied to you.
Honesty has always been the most important thing in a relationship to me. Having a stripper dance in front of him should be a small unimportant detail. The fact that he lied about it is important.
It would be a little hard to tell him that you saw the picture. Were you looking through the pictures because you wanted to snoop, or was it simply harmless looking. Either way you should be completely honest with him, just as he should be completely honest with you.
Good luck.
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