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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I'm 18/female.
My period was due today(March 12), Im always right on time but I had protected sex last night and my period hasn't come yet so I was wondering, If i have sex(protected of course) a night before my period is due, what happens? When will my period come? (link)
As long as you have protected sex, it should come the same time as always. Having sex the night before it is due will make no difference at all.


For my English class, I'm doing a project on the book Sybil, which is about a woman who develops sixteen personalities. However, I need a book that is similar to that in theme; meaning, I need a book about someone else with multiple personality disorder (a biography, autobiography, memoir, etc). The catch is, it must be written before 1980 and it must be by an American author. Help, PLEASE! I do appreciate it! (link)
The Three Faces of Eve written by Corbett H. Thigpen in 1957 is one.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corbett_H._Thigpen

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Three_Faces_of_Eve



how far in your vagina is your hymen


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It covers the opening. So its not far at all.
Medical pictures here. http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html


If I got a newborn baby fox and kept it as a pet would it be more...domestic, or tamed?

Also would I need some type of permit? (link)
I don't know anything about the permit issue.

I also don't dispute the fact that calling a wild
life rescue to take baby foxes is probably a good idea.

However, my grandmother had one as a pet for years.
She didn't get it as a puppy, though she must not have been real old since she lived a very long time.
I was an adult when she died and my grandparents had her as long as I can remember.

She (the fox) had been hit by a car. My granny rescued her and doctored her up as best she could.
She thought it was just a pretty dog by the way, she had no idea it was a fox. She found that out a couple of years later when she took her to the vet for something. By the way, she didn't take her to the vet when she first found her because she couldn't afford to. This was probably 40 or more years ago too.

She had pups and tolerated us grandkids. Like I said that was a long time ago. Now days there are people who at least think they know better. So, you may want to look up wild life rescue for your area and see what they recommend.


i got high with a few friends recently, and got caught. my parents never thought id be this bad of a screwup, so they dont really know how to handle it. they just said im grounded until they decide otherwise. i can use my phone and my computer, but i cant see anyone.

they said they were going to start drug testing me to make sure im not smoking anymore.

but i dont want to stop smoking weed! i know thats kind of stupid, but oh well.

is there any loophole to the test? is there something i can do to make sure i get a positive on the test, besides not smoking at all? any tricks? thanks.

also, if i smoke cigarettes or drink, will that show up on the test? again, thanks. (link)
If the test is specific to weed then cigs and alcohol won't show up on it.

Your parents are probably considering home tests.
Nothing you can do will alter the test if it is done
within a day or so of you smoking weed. You can drink gallons and it won't change a thing. No loopholes that work. A positive on the test is something you don't want, by the way. You want it to be negative.

Keep in mind also that a home test can be done at any time. No warning of when it is coming, and no chance to try and trick it even if something did actually work.



Are there any good products that REALLY help irritable bowl syndrom and constipation (I have both). I've looked at Dr. Ho's Ab Trimmer (I wouldnt use it to lose weight but to help with IBS) and everyone says its a waste of money. It can either be a new diet, a product like Ab Trimmer, a certan exercise, Id pretty much do anything because my IBS and constipation are very bad. Can anyone help? (link)
If you have IBS your doctor can give you medication for it. Here is a site that should answer all of your questions. Your best bet though would be to ask your doctor. He/she will provide the best advice for you. :)

http://www.webmd.com/ibs/guide/irritable-bowel-syndrome-overview-facts


16/Male

ok.. so a while back.. my friend sean was dating someone named starr.. well sean's cousin krysta is my ex.. im madly in love with her.. well, krysta moved on october 2nd. ever since then my life has been tumbling.. getting worse and worse..
first i tried to get with someone named elizabeth..
we began to fight so it didn't work =/ oh well..
then sean and starr were dating [sean's like my brother] so i backed off.
but sean broke up with her last friday-[Feb.27]
so me and her began to talk [sean was already with someone else and was okay with me liking starr]
well March 1st, me and starr begin to date: we were doing great... and today [March 3rd] she broke up with me cause she said "i need some time alone.." and she thought she jumped into the relationship too fast.. so iv broken down about 7-10 times total today, and can't stop.
its not because of today, today just enforced it.. its been falling ever since october 2nd. and now i dont know what to do anymore!
and i just.. ugh i wanna die..
i am in love with someone and now.. i just..
she lives so far away i have to move on, and even though im in love with krysta, i like starr a lot and everything happening to me, is tearing me apart

help? (link)
You are going through a rough patch for sure. I know its hard to believe right now, but it will get better.

There is no rule that says you have to stick with just one girl. At your age you need not be stuck to just one. Look around. There are probably a lot of girls who would like a chance to go out with you. Give them a chance!

No reason, in these days of the internet that you can't kep in touch with Krysta. Your relationship won't be the same of course, but keep in touch and stay friends.

Starr may have done the right thing. Give her some space while looking at other girls. If it was meant to be, it will work out eventually. Ask her out again in a month or two and see if she is ready. Better for her to tell you what she did now. As bad as it hurts, you want her to be good and over your friend before you get really involved with her. She may still have some feelings for him, which would be natural (think about how you feel about Krysta). Being with you right now and seeing her ex may be painful and may be taking her attention away from you.

Give it all time. Its hard to do but it will work out. Good luck.


Hi i'm 15 and a girl. you see when i was 13 i met this guy and really fell hard but i never told him how i felt and eventually i got into a different relationship and moved on and he started dating a friend of mine and we got close as friends. Recently his relationship ended like HARD it really hit him. you know how first break ups are and she wouldnt just leave him she'd still flirt and send mixed messages. I stopped being her friend and spent all my time helping him and such. these past two days he told me he was depressed and really just wanted to do something physical with anyone really to possibly distract him. He asked me first if i wanted to just basically make out and such without the relationship part. but you see i'm in a relationship now with another guy so i kinda said no. However now i cant stop staring at him and just wondering what it would be like to kiss him just once and etc. Today we were waiting outside an office to get some forms signed and he was really flirting. he stepped on my shoes one on top of the other and i was like 'stop i'll fall' all giggly and he was like 'not if i catch you.' and he put his arms around me and gently tried to knock me back and he was so close my heart was racing so hard. and now i've like not been attrated to my current boyfriend at all but i would hate to hurt him cause he tried so long and hard to get me and i just dont know what to do....help (link)
No matter how attracted you think you are to this former crush, you need to remember he is only looking for one thing. Sex. He wants no relationship, no girlfriend. He will leave you hanging when someone he considers better comes along. So don't even go there unless you want to be hurt.

Its always nice to get some extra attention. Don't take it that he likes you and wants a relationship. He doesn't. Hes just looking for a good time only.

I suggest you stay away from him all together. If you just can't, then break up with your boyfriend. You will end up liking him less the more you pay attention to the old crush.


Im planning on giving a bj this weekend but im abit nervous about what exactly to do, it'll be my first so im very unexperienced and i was just hoping someone would have some good advice and a few tips ?
thank you so much :) (link)
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people say that you can't really be in love until you've tested each other, till you've hit your lowest points, till you've been there with each other throw everything, till you've really wanted to just leave, but would do anything to not let that person go, and still survived. but other people say that you shouldn't have to fight for your relationship, you should want that person and be happy together. but how do you know when to draw the line? when you're really not meant to be together? when you should just let go? or when you should keep holding on?

we are in love, and we hardly ever fight, but over the weekend, we hit a pretty rough patch, and now we dont know what to do. we thought about a break, but we're scared to lose each other forever. we want to be together, and he said he'd rather force this to work than to lose me. i dont wanna force this though, that'll only lead to a worse, future break up. i think we should be together because we wanna be, and we do wanna be. but... i just dont know what to do. we've lost each other once and we dont want that again. but we have things to work out if we stay together. we've talked about getting married, living together, everything. how do we if it really is our time to throw in the towel, or if we should give our all to this relationship? (link)
There is always work to be done in any relationship. ALWAYS.

It seems you have both talked this through. Thats a good thing and a very important part of your relationship. It comes down to your feelings. You say you both love each other. If you do, you keep on going and get past the bad times. You talk about what needs to change and you actively do your best TO change and work things out.

You call it quits if you just can't stand it anymore and you really don't feel you love the other person anymore enough to even try to work things out.

There is one acceptation to the rule of staying if you love someone. You do not ever stay with someone who hits or verbally abuses you, regardless of your feelings for them.


i have a black eye and need to get rid of it quickly ... taking family pictures and it needs to be gone by then (link)
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I have no idea what I did. I didn't install anything or do anything I don't usually do.
I turn on my laptop, it goes to 'Disk Check' due to some error. It doesn't even move from 0% in 30 minutes so I shut down and turn on my laptop again and skip the disk check.
My desktop loads up and I get this message:
http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u140/bumarse/Crap/Error.jpg?t=1235829184

Everything seems fine except my laptop speakers don't work anymore.
When I go to Control Panel, it says that there are no speakers.
But there are, and they were working on earlier on this morning.

What now?
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I have had this happen on my computer. I know twice now something had been caught or stuck in my outbox.
Letting the disc check run it course when you restart the computer takes a while but it does help.
I'd suggest restarting it and letting it run while you are off doing something else or overnight maybe.
I have put it off a day or two and it doesn't seem to hurt anything.

Yesterday I also lost my sound. How weird is that?
I looked and looked and could not fix it. What I did was a system restore (found under pc help & tools in start up menu for windows XP) I restored it back to the day before when I knew it was working. It works fine now!


If a prisoner is transsexual where do you send them? with their old sex or with their new sex?
(Just a question that popped in my mind.) (link)
There is no special prison. If they have completed the operation, they would go to whichever prison their new sex made them. If a male becomes a female,
for instance, they are considered a female and would go to a female prison.

Now, using the same male to female scenario, If they
are living and dressing as a female, but haven't yet had the change operation, they would go to a male prison. They are still a male legally as far as the law is concerned.


I've looked all over the web for an answer, but i can't find anything.
On the bottom of my foot, the skin is pitted, like swiss cheese, and moist and decaying around the ball of my foot. It's NOT athlete's foot, I've tried creams and powders for that, and it causes an odor so bad I have to change my socks periodically throughout the day.
I can't see a doctor right now because my I am temporarily without health insurance,
but it's been here for about a year, now,
and it's driving me crazy.
Has anyone experienced anything like this, or found an answer as to what it is?
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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You really need to see a doctor. You should have a local health department or clinic that will see you for free or at a very low cost. I would try the health department first because they are usually free and can provide you with information on where to go for treatment if needed, that you can afford.

I know you don't have health insurance, but you will need your feet for a long time to come! Its important that you find out what is going on.



I am 21 years form India and my girlfriend 27 we had oral sex but I never had the actual sex, I dnt know how to describe, but I fingers her down many times and my spam was on my fingers the main problem is she got her late on her periods, this days her mood is so bad and she always feel sick and tired and have no sleep at all……I am really worried for her …IS she pregnant now?
when we were discussing about the results, she dnt want to have abortion if she get pregnant and we really cant have baby this time.
Please help me to knw her situation.....

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She probably is not pregnant. It could happen with
sperm on your fingers, but it would be something that didn't happen very often.

To ease your worry, have her take a pregnancy test.
If it comes back that she is not pregnant, have her see a doctor for those symptoms she is having. They are more symptoms of someone who is worried than someone who is pregnant.


My last period was on January 16th, my fertile days was on January30 to february 3th,i have intercourse on january 29th after on or two hours i start having some cramps on my lower abdominal through now(4.5 weeks), i supposed to have my period but no period,you think i might be pregnant?
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If you had sex without protection you could be pregnant. Using the calender/ovulation days as birth control is the most unreliable thing to do.


okay everyone always tzlks about how sex hurts the first time but what about the second time? Is it painful or pleasurable? just somethingIm curious about... 13/F (link)
If you want a completely honest answer, sex will not be "pleasurable" at age 13. I don't say that to be mean, its just that sex, like most things, is better with experience. Most 13 year old guys only know how to please themselves. Pleasing their partner is something they learn with experience. It most likely will not happen anytime soon.

First time sex is not always painful. A lot of the pain girls do experience is because they think it will hurt so they tense up. If a girl still has a hymen intact, it may hurt a little. Usually it is over quickly and not bad pain. Most girls have had their hymen broken already without even knowing it.

After the first time, while not necessarily pleasurable, it shouldn't hurt. There are cases where a girl with an extra thick hymen may not have had it completely torn away the first time. causing some pain after the first time. That is a rare thing though.

Always be sure a guy wears a condom. Having a baby, now THAT is painful! :)


Ok, Im a sixteen year old male.

Me and my girl friend decided it would be romantic to lose our virginity on valentines day- I don't want any lectures about underage sex and what not. We did use a condom.

But she has been complaining about her chest and lower stomach hurting...I'm not wanting to think about it but could she be pregnant? There wasn't a break in the condom so I have no idea...

But I really hope not, I'm not saying that to be mean...But my parents told me if this happened I would be kicked out of my house...HELP.
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Since you did use a condom, she probably IS NOT pregnant. She may be worried about it and making herself sick about it, but her complaints are not even pregnancy symptoms.

Not wanting someone to be pregnant is not being mean. It is being responsible. :) That is a good thing. Not just because you could get kicked out of the house, but because it would be a life altering
experience that neither of you are prepared for.

No lectures, just continue to use a condom if you do have sex. Don't be tempted to even try it for a minute to see what its like without one. While rare, pre-ejaculate could contain enough sperm to cause pregnancy.


okay well the past tow days my lower abbs have been hurting really bad, i went the the bathroom and my uraine came out very slow and painfully,than as the day went on it started to hurt more and i always felt as if i had to be when i didnt. when i went to the bathroom their was a ridiculious amount of pain while peeing like something was trying to come out that couldnt.I look in the toilet to find out i was peeing and blood was comming out it happend twice today.im not a virgin .Green tea is the only thing i drink and people in the past i know have had kidney stones from it.
i researched it, im not sure if its a urinary track infection or kidney stones. Im not too sure of anyof this because it had never happend before,if anyone has any idea what this is please help! thank you so much! (link)
There are some things you just don't rely on answers from the internet for. This is one of those things.

Internet sites might give you some ideas of what it could be, but it just can't cover everything. It is also very easy to misinterpret something you read unless you have a medical background.

Anytime your body does something that isn't normal for you, see your doctor. It may be nothing real serious, but if it is not normal for you, its a warning that something isn't right and needs attention. Either way, it will probably require something more than an over the counter remedy. See, or at least call your doctor about it.


I was just wondering if anyone knew of any sex positions for women with shallow vaginas. When I have sex it feels like its poking me in the stomach and its very uncomfortable. I tried searching for info on yahoo but I couldnt find anything. Thanks alot. (link)
We don't give this kind of info on the site.
Try this search for more answers.

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