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quittin time?
people say that you can't really be in love until you've tested each other, till you've hit your lowest points, till you've been there with each other throw everything, till you've really wanted to just leave, but would do anything to not let that person go, and still survived. but other people say that you shouldn't have to fight for your relationship, you should want that person and be happy together. but how do you know when to draw the line? when you're really not meant to be together? when you should just let go? or when you should keep holding on?
we are in love, and we hardly ever fight, but over the weekend, we hit a pretty rough patch, and now we dont know what to do. we thought about a break, but we're scared to lose each other forever. we want to be together, and he said he'd rather force this to work than to lose me. i dont wanna force this though, that'll only lead to a worse, future break up. i think we should be together because we wanna be, and we do wanna be. but... i just dont know what to do. we've lost each other once and we dont want that again. but we have things to work out if we stay together. we've talked about getting married, living together, everything. how do we if it really is our time to throw in the towel, or if we should give our all to this relationship?
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No, you shouldn't have to fight for relationships. That means one person should not be fighting with another to stay with them. Getting through things and fighting for a relationship is completely different. Getting through IS what makes relationships stronger.
What your trying to do is fight the decision that you truly want to make. You BOTH want to stay together for all the right reasons. Don't fight the right decision.
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There is always work to be done in any relationship. ALWAYS.
It seems you have both talked this through. Thats a good thing and a very important part of your relationship. It comes down to your feelings. You say you both love each other. If you do, you keep on going and get past the bad times. You talk about what needs to change and you actively do your best TO change and work things out.
You call it quits if you just can't stand it anymore and you really don't feel you love the other person anymore enough to even try to work things out.
There is one acceptation to the rule of staying if you love someone. You do not ever stay with someone who hits or verbally abuses you, regardless of your feelings for them.
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i dont know if you two are right or wrong for one another. i won't even guess. but the best test o how good a relationship is and how strong it is, isn't how well you get along with each other. it's how well you can argue. if two people can have differences and can discuss them, not use that moment to say hurtful things, and work to resolve stuff they have a chance. it sounds like you two just had a fight and aren't any closer to finding an answer. sometimes 2 people just won't ever agree!!! that doesn't mean you have to hate one another though. if you like chocolate ice cream and i like vanilla, well we aren't going to agree. but mabe a compromise can be worked out. maybe both people will have to let the other have their way or just put the argument away until you are both cooler. your guy likes you and wans this to work. if you feel the same then you should try. you talk having to fight to make a relationship stick. i have to disagree a bit. i think it's not so much needing to fight, it's needing to restrain. it's needing to maybe take a moment to find the right words as opposed to the words you really want to say. a good relationship is usually effortless. the people are in sync most of the time. of those couples the ones that can disagree without hurting one another have the best chance. as far as when to throw in the towel it depends. i mean , are you happy? are you usually stressed out when together. do you have enough time together? do you spend too much time together? do you have your own life and get to do things of your own? do you eel yourself obligated to him? are there still sparks? there is just a lot to think of. it comes down to how happy you are and the frequency of being sad with him. if you find yourself unhappy more and more then maybe things are coming to a close.
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