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Rebound, Horny, or possibly attraction?
Hi i'm 15 and a girl. you see when i was 13 i met this guy and really fell hard but i never told him how i felt and eventually i got into a different relationship and moved on and he started dating a friend of mine and we got close as friends. Recently his relationship ended like HARD it really hit him. you know how first break ups are and she wouldnt just leave him she'd still flirt and send mixed messages. I stopped being her friend and spent all my time helping him and such. these past two days he told me he was depressed and really just wanted to do something physical with anyone really to possibly distract him. He asked me first if i wanted to just basically make out and such without the relationship part. but you see i'm in a relationship now with another guy so i kinda said no. However now i cant stop staring at him and just wondering what it would be like to kiss him just once and etc. Today we were waiting outside an office to get some forms signed and he was really flirting. he stepped on my shoes one on top of the other and i was like 'stop i'll fall' all giggly and he was like 'not if i catch you.' and he put his arms around me and gently tried to knock me back and he was so close my heart was racing so hard. and now i've like not been attrated to my current boyfriend at all but i would hate to hurt him cause he tried so long and hard to get me and i just dont know what to do....help
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No matter how attracted you think you are to this former crush, you need to remember he is only looking for one thing. Sex. He wants no relationship, no girlfriend. He will leave you hanging when someone he considers better comes along. So don't even go there unless you want to be hurt.
Its always nice to get some extra attention. Don't take it that he likes you and wants a relationship. He doesn't. Hes just looking for a good time only.
I suggest you stay away from him all together. If you just can't, then break up with your boyfriend. You will end up liking him less the more you pay attention to the old crush.
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Hmm if you feel like you are having sexual or any type of feelings for this guy friend, and our afraid to hurt your boyfriend.. Don't you think if you slip up with this friend, and your boyfriend finds out that it'll hurt more?!
Or even if you don't perhaps slip up, but you begin to pay less attention to him, it'll make him feel bad. So, considering your young, and you apperently don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with this boyfriend, just let him know you want to take some time apart, and play witht he friend! You're only young once, enjoy it!! OH AND USE PROTECTION! =D
Have fun!
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Look, i do not think it is a good idea to get physical with this guy if your a girl with sensitivity issues, coz then u might just get hooked onto him. But if you feel you can stop your emotions from moving forward, do it. It will stop your curiosity. But then there might be consequences like if he turns out to be better than your bf, you might not be attracted to your bf. Then not only will you lose your bf, this guy wil not be with you coz he's already said that he doesnt want a relationship.
Whatever you do, think of its consequences. If I were in your place I would have stuck to my bf, and tried to make the other guy less important in my life.
Best of Luck, Sweetie...
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