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my friend wanted to suck my blood because he claims hes a vampire. so i thought, cool! why not? well, when the time came for me to slit my wrist, i dug a little to deep and went a little fast, because it CUT MY WRIST, WIDE OPEN. i had used a razor and it made a very fine, half-inch-wide cut on my arm. i freaked out, and had to show my parents. but to keep them from thinking i needed help, i told them it was blodlust. but now the think im losing my faith in God, and my moms mad cuz she knows i wasnt raised this way. i was raised in a christian environment. and i know that. im not losing my faith, im still a christian. but i do have a fasination with dark stuff. eg: im emo/goth. i wear all black and really thick eye liner and i dyed my hair black. ive been severely depressed for about 3 years. i used to cut, and they found out. i also enjoy twilight and other vampire stories. i like scary movies that have to do with demons and vampires and stuff that really would not please my parents. i dont know why i like that stuff, but its a lot better than romance novels and chick flicks, in my opinion.
but my dad is sort of in shock about the whole bit on my wrist, and for today, at least, they have locked me up in the house and i cant leave unless its to let out my neighbor's dogs. i dont think what i did was a very big deal, and i dont think they care about my well-being at all. i think they just dont wanna look like bad parents because their oldest daughter slit her wrist so some guy could suck her blood.
they think i need help and i know there is nothing wrong with me. so now they barely let me out of their sight and im sick to death of it!! all i can do is schoolwork and get on my computer or read and im totally done.
what do i do? how do i convince them that nothing is wrong?? why cant they just let go?
im 16/f, btw. (link)
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Vampirism is actually VERY anti-God. As a matter of fact, God says (in the Bible, of course) that we should never, under no circumstances, consume the blood of other humans or animals.
"ACTS 15:19 Wherefore my sentence is, that we trouble not them, which from among the Gentiles are turned to God:
ACTS 15:20 But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and [from] fornication, and [from] things strangled, and [from] blood. "
That being said, it's also a very big thing that the Satanist religion does on a regular basis to prove their following of Satan and what-not. Really.
So, in short, participating in this sort of activity is a sin. God specifically tells us to NOT do this sort of thing.
God says the blood is the life. By allowing someone to drink your blood, you are allowing them to consume your life. Do you think God would be pleased with you allowing another human to consume your life?
" LEVITICUS 17:10 And whatsoever man [there be] of the house of Israel, or of the strangers that sojourn among you, that eateth any manner of blood; I will even set my face against that soul that eateth blood, and will cut him off from among his people.
LEVITICUS 17:11 For the life of the flesh [is] in the blood: and I have given it to you upon the altar to make an atonement for your souls: for it [is] the blood [that] maketh an atonement for the soul.
LEVITICUS 17:12 Therefore I said unto the children of Israel, No soul of you shall eat blood, neither shall any stranger that sojourneth among you eat blood.
LEVITICUS 17:13 And whatsoever man [there be] of the children of Israel, or of the strangers that sojourn among you, which hunteth and catcheth any beast or fowl that may be eaten; he shall even pour out the blood thereof, and cover it with dust.
LEVITICUS 17:14 For [it is] the life of all flesh; the blood of it [is] for the life thereof: therefore I said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall eat the blood of no manner of flesh: for the life of all flesh [is] the blood thereof: whosoever eateth it shall be cut off. "
Vampirism is becoming popular, I know, but it's very dangerous because it puts the "vampire" in the position as to where he/she thinks he/she is God. You see, they get immortality just for consuming others' LIFE. The only immortal being is God, you see. Taking it into your hands to change that is going against the will of God. Vampirism also has to do with being resurrected--sound like someone only one very important being could actually do?
So, you see, your parents are very concerned for a very good reason. They probably have read the scriptures where God prohibits the consuming of others' blood. They probably also know that the Satanic church consumes human blood regularly in Satanic rituals.
My suggestion is to stop letting people consume your life (life = blood), especially if they think they're going to become immortal--or that they just NEED the blood--to thrive properly.
Pick up the Bible more and read.
Follow God and your parents will calm down.
PRAY FOR FORGIVENESS!
Lastly, you'd be surprised at how many romances you'd enjoy if you cut out all of the horror flicks. I know someone who watched horror flicks because it was their favorite and when they stopped "cold turkey" and started watching other types of movies they found that the horror films were ridiculous.
I, personally, went through a short phase where I LOVED to watch gorey war films (seriously, the more death, dead bodies, explosions, and blood--the better!). Then, one day, I stopped watching them altogether and started watching other types of movies (like action, adventure) and now I think war movies seem a little over-done.
Thinking something that is anti-God is "cool" is REALLY bad thinking.
Thinking the only decent movies out there have to do with "demons and vampires" is REALLY bad in the eyes of God.
God is who matters most.
God should be coming first.
Please pray.
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hi peeps :)
well you answered a question for me before. i'm the one who had to wear a tampon like everyday! so anyways, i have my period right now but when it's done i'm going to try my hardest to stop the tampon craze! i was just wondering though, can me wearing a tampon everyday cause it to be smelly down there? i was talking to the doctor about it, how i thought it kind of smelt weird and she asked if it itched or burned and i said no and she said i was okay. but i wash it with water everyday, and it still has a weird smell! i was just wondering if wearing one would cause this? is it also bad to wear a panytliner everyday then? (link)
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Hi! Thank you very much for asking me another question! :) I am very happy to help you!
You probably have disturbed your natural balance down there. It sounds like you have a yeast infection or a bacterial infection.
While a yeast infection is usually just an uncomfortable, odd-smelling nuisance, a bacterial infection can really hurt you--even leading to constant pain for the rest of your life and/or complete infertility. Yeast infections can will usually go away on their own if you discontinue the reason why they began anyway--but a bacterial infection REQUIRES medication. If you have a bacterial infection then the longer you go without treatment, the more your body will be damaged from it.
You are never suppose to "self-diagnose" when it comes to the vagina, especially. Both of the above infections share very similar symptoms. Both oft he above infections produce an odd odor (yeast is usually slightly yeasty and the bacterial is usually somewhat fishy). Only a doctor can truly tell you if something is going on.
For note, having an infection doesn't mean you're going to have all of the symptoms that are listed as, well, symptoms. Some people have extreme itching when they have an infection while others have no such sensation. Some people smell different than others--some don't have a strange odor at all! The only way you KNOW if you have an infection is if you take a trip to the doctor and have them do a few swabs...
Yes, the tampon can definately cause strange smells if it has disrupted your natural balance. Yes, I highly recommend you tell your doctor that you'd like to be checked out for vaginal infections because you have odd odors.
It isn't bad to wear a pantyliner every day. The only way it could be bad is if you wore it until it was soaked and the never changed it (ie: going days without changing a pantyliner). You'd, most likely, get a bit of skin irritation if you did that though so you'd be well-aware that you were doing something wrong. Pantyliners are, for the most part, non-harmful to the human body.
If your doctor finds no signs of any infection in the vagina then it's possible that the lining of the vagina is being ripped away from the tampons so much that it cannot heal in enough time--leading to A LOT of dead cells that need to be expelled. Any way it is, I do believe that's why you're having an exceptional amount of discharge--you're making your own body over-produce because you keep soaking it up. Please remember that vaginas are suppose to be wet/moist constantly for health.
So, my thinking is:
Yeast infection
or
Bacterial infection
or
An excessive amount of dead cells and unhealed tissues.
See your doctor about getting checked. If she says something stupid like, "Oh, but you don't have all the signs...you're just fine," then remember that this is YOUR body. If you want to make sure you're safe then she is suppose to help you--she gets PAID to do that sort of thing. Don't listen to her if she blows you off--hold your position of wanting to be checked and be firm about it.
I hope things are well with you and you find yourself to be healthy. I do very much worry about you and I've prayed for you for a few nights now.
Please, feel free to ask me questions at any time.
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OKay...umm can you get pregnant from dry sex....i mean if the guy his has penis out but the girl was wearing underwear AND pantyhose...my friend told me that her bf didn't ejaculate but h di earlier when she gave him a handjob but it went in the toilet...then like 10-15 mins later they did the whole penis showing/underwear & panty hose thing.
Please answer she's FREAKED OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Yes, yes you CAN get pregnant from "dry sex." Especially if the male has recently ejaculated.
You see, the semen are still in the tube of the penis long after the initial ejaculation. When the male is aroused again, it's even MORE likelier that he will release some of those semen, just slightly, from his penis. If the fluid is enough to moisten the area at the vagina then it's enough to impregnate someone. Seriously.
ONE sperm fertilizes an egg. ONE. It doesn't take a lot.
Read my answer, thoroughly, here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=555746
You can also contract STDs and STIs from this sort of sexual interaction, please note that.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Is it ok to be a virgin at an age of 17? (link)
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First off, you should hold your head up high in knowing that you are a virgin. Virginity still is special and it should be cherished a lot more than it is now.
I completely understand when people say that the media keeps telling you that it's safe to have sex with anyone you have sexual desires for. This is very untrue though and you can be left with many scars because of it.
Engaging in sex puts you in a difficult situation. You can be left with emotional issues but nobody really talks about that. The reason why your peers pressure you to have sex is actually fairly simple. They aren't having good sex and they feel bad and let down from what they believed was going to be awesome, and it's human nature to want to be socially accepted. They will pressure you to have sex because subconsciously they feel bad and want you to relate to them so they don't feel alone. These people simply want others to be like them so they know they are accepted.
The people who are telling you to have sex only want you to do it too because they are either hoping your sexual experiences are just like theirs so they won't feel alone and jipped, or so you give them something to talk about for awhile.
It's TRUE! I have had girls my age confess this very thing to me: "I pressured her into having sex with him because I had lost my virginity and, well, I knew it really wasn't great and I wanted her to feel bad with me."
In reality, sex was never that great for me with the boy I lost my virginity to. I regret it every day. It left me feeling inadequate--like something must be terribly wrong with me. Because of this I still feel like my vagina is wrong and weird. Just as a note, I lost my virginity about 7 years ago--YES, I STILL feel like my body is messed up because sex wasn't good and fun like everyone said it was.
If I could, I would take it all back and would keep my virginity. I wish I wouldn't have made that mistake years ago. What's crazy is that I believed the whole "wait until you're in a long-term relationship with someone you love and loves you" bullcrap. Yeah, I waited and was with the guy for a year and a half or so and was STILL left, STILL heartbroken, and STILL empty. Sex did not add fun like so many people claim.
Instead of making meaningless sex-memories, I wish I would have made true fun memories with my past. There are so many things I wish I would have done with my youth then (which, hey, I'm still youthful but you know what I mean probably). I wish I would have actually connected with my partner, heck, I wish I would have had enough sense to find a good partner that wouldn't deceive me. I wish I spent time learning about someone instead of trying to make something meaningless into something exciting.
If you have sex and something goes wrong then you will be scarred for the rest of your life. If things get out of hand, pregnancy occurs, you're hurt in some way, or you contract a STD from the activity you cannot take it back. You will have to carry that onto each and every partner you have after then. I'm not even talking about the emotional hang-ups that can develop from ONE activity.
Married couples simply do not have the problems that other sexual partners do. Also, giving your virginity to your partner on wedding night shows a huge amount of love--to save yourself for that special day, for that special person. Married couples never fear they're being used or will be left. They're able to open up and tell each other what they desire without fear. They know that if a pregnancy happens that they will get through it together with each other's support. They also aren't fearful of catching an STD from their partner because they know they're their only partner. Both partners tend to be fully satisfied because they're able to communicate well with each other and they're able to feel emotionally secure.
You risk STDs/STIs with each sexual contact. These can render you infertile and you won't be able to ever have children. If it doesn't do that, it could hide in you and you could end up spreading it to every partner you ever have without knowing it. Even at that, some STDs can deteriorate the brain and be so severe that they cause a long, painful death years later.
A lot of people have STDs/STIs and don't even know it. Many people don't show symptoms. You'd be amazed at how many people have accidentally given their infant a STD--especially herpes. The child grows up thinking that their symptoms are normal because the parents are so ashamed.
Along with the risk of sexually transmitted disease/infections is the risk of pregnancy. Having a child is a huge responsibility and NO "protection" is 100% effective in preventing pregnancy (or STDs, as a matter of fact). Having a child (or children in the case of twins) means being completely selfless. You have to support the child financially and emotionally. You have to tend to another human life every minute of yours.
For some shocking STD facts, check this out:
http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm
Here is also a link of photos of various STDs. Most of the photos are of males but there are a few female photos in there. Some are very scary. Don't worry about many photos popping up when you click the link, they're behind other links so you can choose which ones you might want to check out:
http://www.healthac.org/images.html
It's even tougher if you don't have a life-long partner to help share that huge responsibility. What's even scarier about that is that men and women today are just up and leaving their children with their partners to handle the responsibility all alone. This means people need to be pickier on who they reproduce with and stop sleeping with any thing that crosses their path even if they claim to love them. Making children isn't hard, it's raising them that gets complicated.
One night of sex can result in creating another life or living with a disease the rest of yours. I know many people who lost their virginity and became pregnant (or had gotten the girl pregnant) the same night. They weren't emotionally ready to have children but they made one mistake and they now have a tough road ahead of them trying to make enough money and time for their child.
Here are some facts about how much a baby costs within the first year of life; you should really check it out just for future issues as the knowledge could come in very handy:
http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php
Even if you think that you can have an abortion if there happens to be a pregnancy, think about the consequences of that action even. Some women suffer major depression for many years after having an abortion. There are cases of women committing suicide years after having an abortion because they couldn't deal with what they had done. Some women become infertile and can no longer have any children. Some really good men refuse to be with a woman who has had an abortion. Throwing a life away because you wanted to have some fun should be an unacceptable option.
The media feeds us a bunch of stupidity now. We're told that if we use condoms or the pill that we won't get pregnant or have STDs. The media tells us that we should be having sex with as many people as possible to become popular, famous, attractive, and overall liked. The media says that if we love someone that we should have sex and prove this love with that is not at all what we should be doing. We're told that we should give into our urges and that everything will be alright since we can throw away the consequences.
You should not be in a rush to have sex. You have plenty of years ahead of you. Anyone can have sex. Lots of people have sex with each other every day and don't have the slightest bit of care for their sexual partner.
Here is a link about some things you should think about before engaging in sex. The site really makes you think about things you overlooked before:
http://www.tagnet.org/adventist.fm/youth/virgin.htm
...and here is a link about virginity too. It gives good examples of what they're talking about so you're able to understand them clearly:
http://www.prolife.com/LICKONA.htm
Trust me, one night of sex can really screw you over, especially when it entails losing your virginity. You set yourself up for so many mental and physical hang-ups it's ridiculous. Please protect yourself from going through heart-ache and future sexual issues.
Sex is not what other people say, I promise you. You shouldn't rush into it because you want to have fun and "enjoy" your youth. Enjoy your youth in less-harming ways. Look back at your past and have MEMORIES of THINGS YOU DID with others and not faded-out, half-assed memories of meaningless sex.
Keep your virginity and be worth something extra-special to your husband/wife in the future.
I hope that I've helped you open your eyes to a couple of things and informed you of facts you may have overlooked.
In addition, here are a couple of other Advicenators who are also wise in keeping their virginity:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=535643
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=535823
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544381
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. It's AWESOME if you're a virgin at 17! CELEBRATE!
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that is what i see right now, weird white bumps near the right corner of my lip. and it kind hurts. it is not red when my lips are in their normal position. i want to know if this is anything serious.
if you know what this is, or what i should do, please help! (link)
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It sort of looks like a coldsore to me, but I'm not entirely sure. For a correct diagnosis, please see a doctor.
If it is a coldsore, please be warned that it is HSV-1 or HSV-2. This means herpes. 80% of the U.S. population has, at least, one of the strains of herpes. A lot of people get herpes when they're little from their parents (simple, meaningless kisses) or from other teens when they begin kissing and fooling around sexually. People have been known to go 10 years without an outbreak--which would mean you could have it and never know it!
If the sores break open, grow, itch, burn, tingle, or anything of the sort then I'm fairly certain it is herpes. If it is then please refrain from oral sex and oral contact with your sexual partner(s).
For more information about herpes, please read my informative answer, here (please read through my links too):
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543782
I hope you see a doctor and figure out what is going on with your lip because it is NOT normal. If you suspect you have herpes and you do not inform a partner and end up passing it along you CAN be sued (and they WILL win). Seriously, for your health and the health of others--see a doctor about this.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Can you get pregnant from dry sex?
Even if you and your partner have underwear and pants on?
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The only way you could possibly get pregnant from that would have to be if he soaked his own and your underwear & pants with his sperm at your vagina.
Sperm need a moist environment to move in. They are little bitty creatures with tails--the tail flutters and propels them throughout the moist area. They are very small so there IS a chance they can swim through fabric as long as it was throughly moistened. These little guys were designed to ensure reproduction--that is the only reason they are alive; they will do what they can to find the goal.
It only takes ONE sperm to fertilize your one egg inside of you. When a guy ejaculates, billions of sperm are game to finding the egg. Sperm can live inside of you, in perfect conditions, for about 5 - 7 days; however, it is definately not unheard of to find live sperm inside of a woman two weeks later. I would safely say that from the second your vaginal area came in contact with sperm until about two weeks time your egg may become fertilized and pregnancy result.
So, in short, yes, you could have been impregnanted if there was fluid contact to your vaginal area.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Can you get pregnant on your period? (link)
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You can get pregnant at any part of your cycle actually. Yes, there is chance you could have been impregnated if you had sex while on your period, even at the start or end of it.
There is a common misconception that if you have sex while you are on your period that the blood coming out of you will push all of the sperm out. The thing is, the sperm are made to do everything they possibly can to reach the goal--your egg. They are designed to be able to "swim against the current" so that they can make it upward into your uterus and tubes.
Now, if the egg has already been expelled it sounds as if there wouldn't be a problem; however, there is always another one on it's way and the sperm will fertilize it in while it's still in the fallopian tubes if they can make it. Sperm can live in your body for days (5 - 7 in normal conditions, longer if excellent conditions).
So, yes, there is a chance that pregnancy could occur. There is ALWAYS a chance pregnancy could occur. You should always be using some sort of "protection" to lessen (they don't prevent) pregnancy and STD/STI risks.
On another note, you ovulate roughly midway through your cycle. So, if you have a normal 28-day cycle you ovulate 14 days into it. For three or four days there you are at your most fertile state. However, if your cycles are abnormal then it's doubtful you'll be able to figure out when you're ovulating; although your internal temperature and discharge would tell you a lot (you expel more sticky discharge for these days).
To make it a little more clear, you are pretty much equally as fertile throughout your entire cycle, only when you ovulate you are a little more fertile than usual. There isn't a time when you are not fertile or less fertile than usual.
Anyway, back to discharges:
1. Before ovulation- There will be a small amount of (mostly) clear discharge.
2. Closer to ovulation- Discharge is wet and sticky. It is usually white/lightly cream colored. There is usually some mucus but it isn't as stretchy as it will be during ovulation.
3. At ovulation (roughly midway from your last period)- There will be a noticeably larger amount of discharge lasting a few days. It resembles stretchy egg whites. You are most fertile here (high risk pregnancy) and sperm entering your vagina will be able to survive slightly longer than other times.
4. After ovulation- Discharge is sticky but not as stretchy. Mostly clear, dwindling back to the "before ovulation" stage.
Many things can change the discharge you experience so it's best to not try to figure it out that way, to be honest. If your periods are irregular, you take hormonal birth control, have been taking an antibiotic, have been under a lot of stress lately, and many other things can all cause your discharge to change.
Anyway, a woman can get pregnant at any point in her cycle. It is always best to practice safe sex to reduce these chances if you are going to engage in such activities. It may also be a good idea to get yourself completely informed before participating in sex ;)
Here is a link about pregnancy costs to know about:
http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php
Here is a link that has some really freaky STD facts:
http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm
Here is a link to photos of STDs you should research:
http://www.healthac.org/images.html
And here is just something simply for you to read and think about. I read it and thought it was pretty neat and gave some good points:
http://www.tagnet.org/adventist.fm/youth/virgin.htm
Better to be informed and knowledgeable of something in case something goes wrong--you won't be caught off-guard then! Take some time to get yourself informed before jumping into things.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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17/f. i have had an eating disorder before but i got better and got over it. is it back??? =s
i dnt eat much. somedays i barely eat anything but i always end up eating at least one thing each day so its not that bad.
but sometimes i go a bit crazy and eat lots and lots until im completely full and then i throw it up. wats wrong with me?
i will go for heaps long hardly eating anything to eating everything in site and then throwing it up.
how can i stop myself thinking of food and stop myself eating heaps at once.
[i think its called bindge eating not sure but the i throw it up cos i eat too much] wen i eat lots i cant stop myselft from eating until i make myself sick. i dnt get it!!! =[ PLZ HELP!!! (link)
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You know what you're doing is not healthy and is wrong or you wouldn't be asking this question on Advicenators. I'm glad you're realizing that your current habits are not good and are cycling back to a problem you had awhile back, but it also means you need to take some steps to get healthy again.
If you are going days with barely eating and, suddenly, one day you binge until you vomit--something is wrong. Most people with eating disorders will do this at some point, especially the gorging so much they vomit routine or binging and forcing themselves to vomit.
Seek out a good therapist and start there. They will help guide you through underlying problems that may have caused you to resort back to this sort of damaging behavior.
Eating disorders are, obviously, a mental issue. You cannot "catch" it and wait for you to get over it like people do with colds. You cannot just keep doing what you're doing either or you may end up in a casket. You know what you're doing is wrong and self-destructive, so, please, get some help for your problem.
No matter what "tip" I give you to get healthy, it may not help. You may end up doing what you've been doing or altering the behavior enough to feel better about it. The problem is, you are sick. When people get sick, they need doctors. You need a doctor. Preferably some sort of therapist :)
If you're able to, open up to a parent or guardian about your recent behavior. Let them know that you feel you need to seek help from a professional to overcome this. Tell them everything that you told us so they know how serious this is and how harmful it can get. Then, when you see your therapist--tell them EVERYTHING. They will be able to help you relax in life, de-stress, manage yourself better, and overcome this disorder.
To overcome an eating disorder, you have to do the same things you do when you actually have the eating disorders. This basically means that when an anorexic girl is counting calories and making she is only having 100 a day, to get better she has to count calories to make sure she gets a healthy amount each day. It is very, very hard for people to do this because it's very, very easy to slip back into the routine of bad habits.
You can't just stop exercising, right? Many people with eating disorders over-exercise though. They figure, "I'll do this for 3 hours then take a break for 3 hours and then do another 3!" Instead, to get better and stay healthy, you have to time yourself in a better amount, "I'll do this for an hour today and then I will stop so my body can rest." It's hard, you see.
Eating disorders are very difficult to get over and many people never do completely recover. It's as simple as I've listed above. You have to do the exact same things only alter them to healthier ways of living. This is why a therapist is desperately needed. Usually there are some major things going on in the person's life that is overwhelming them and they feel they need to control something more.
It's likely you won't get better on your own. It's a very hard path to go down. Please, turn back while you can and take the hand of a therapist and the hand of a parent. You can make it through this with them.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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wats the cheat code 2 stop the aging (link)
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I love the Sims 2! I have a whole bunch of Sims 2 expansion packs! :)
There are lots of Sims 2 cheats, but for the specific anti-aging code:
Aging off - aging off
Aging on - aging on
Remember you need to hit Ctrl+Shift+C and type in the box that appears at the top of the screen. Hit enter after typing to "submit" the cheat code.
When you use the anti-aging cheat code for the Sims 2 know that none of the family you are currently playing on will age at all. They will simply stop aging and stay the same age for the rest of your playing period or until you turning aging back on again.
If you need to make your sims younger before turning aging off then make sure to use the Elixir of Life first. Make sure to use the elixir as instructed! ;)
Enjoy! If you need any more Sims 2 cheat codes let me know and I'll list the ones I know out here on Advicenators for you! :)
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I want a small pet. I was thinking of, geril, hamster, ferret, sugar glider, chinchilla... Ferrets I heard can be aggressive, shed too much. Hamsters may not be personable enough for me. Chinchillas and SUgar Gliders Are adorable but I do not know much about them as pets. I want a pet that will sleep and poop in there own cage. A pet I can take out daily and spend some time with him/her. A pet that will be friendly and is legal to have as a pet in canada. Any ideas of which small pet I should get and what store in toronto would sell it? Thanks (link)
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I do not suggest purchasing a sugar glider or a chinchilla. They are both fairly expensive and very hard to care for. When either one of these pets get ill, they go down very quickly--sometimes in a matter of minutes from the time you notice they're ill to the time they pass away.
I had chinchillas and they are not very hearty. They have extremely fragile bones so you have to pick them up carefully. They are very, very active so they usually will not simply sit with you. They also do not like being held because of their activeness. They are nocturnal. They develop respiratory illness very easily. They have to be kept in certain temperatures or they die (temperature is needed to be around 47F to 67F--70F is the MAX they can survive at safely). Simply put, chinchillas do not bond with people like, say, dogs do--they are fairly nonsocial beings when it comes to humans. (They also shed a lot and can be VERY aggressive)
Sugar gliders can be very pricey. When you purchase one, you should always purchase another. If you don't have two then expect the single one to die shortly after purchasing him/her because they become lonely. They do not see humans as other live beings but as trees so nobody what sort of time you spend with him/her they aren't going to be happy and social with you like they would their own kind. They go down very quickly too--you can find one ill and within a few hours he/she could be completely dead. They eat specific food that you pretty much have to purchase from the grocery store (fresh) and cut/grind up for them. You have to be careful to not accidentally get a intact male and female or the breeding can kill the female and the babies she could be carrying. Also, if you get a pregnant female she may kill her babies if you startle her and are not bonded. You must spend hours each and every single day bonding with a sugar glider before they will be semi-comfortable with you--the big tree--handling them. This probably is not the pet for you, despite they're cute qualities.
With chinchillas and sugar gliders you have to be prepared to spend a lot of money on veterinary bills. Either one can rack of hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars per vet. visit, depending on what the issue may be. If you're not prepared to pay at least a few hundreds in vet. bills right off the bat then please stop considering either one of these beautiful creatures.
The issue is going to be that most small rodents that you're wanting as pets are simply not sit-still, in-your-hand, loving-humans pets. They simply aren't and you can't just find one that is because it's WHAT they are.
I suggest guinea pigs for the simple fact that they are said to be simple creatures to care for.
Gerbils run a lot and like to be active, active, active!
Hamsters are just not that friendly toward humans. For the most part they are simple creatures who like to be with other simple creatures, if that. They're fairly happy just being WATCHED instead of held in place. Hamsters would probably be your best bet in pet choices that you have listed.
Ferrets smell and are very active, as well. They're also said to not be very intelligent and injure themselves easily because of this.
May you should look into a small sized dog? Dogs are fairly social and love human beings. They can be taught to only go potty in one particular area, too.
Another idea may be a rat. I know, I know, rats SOUND like not a good pet but, from what I've read, they are excellent. They love humans and are quite social. You can even find rat breeders if you want a particular nice or handsome one. They are fairly hearty when it comes to rodents and can live quite some time just fine. They can live in just about any sort of cage just happily. Also note that I am NOT suggesting mice--just a pet rat. Look up some information on pet rats if you're interested :)
Any way it is, whatever pet you choose, PLEASE be prepared for the worst. PLEASE spend HOURS, if not DAYS looking up the care needs of the pet. So many people jump into pets that will die or weeks because they weren't fully prepared.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I've been growning my hair for a year now and it had gotten pretty long, it's pat my
breasticles". Anywayy, after last month my hair stopped growing, or as so it seemed. Is there a way to make my hair grow fater? I;m not talking pills or anything, but I don't know, you tell me.
Thank you.
Also, 17/female. I straighten and sometimes blow dry my hair, and I can stop that- I know it damages it :/ (link)
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To strengthen hair, you'll need to purchase some products (shampoos, conditioners, etc) to apply to the hair shaft itself.
A good multivitamin might be the place to start for making hair grow longer and healthier. Here is a list of specific vitamins and minerals you're going to want to take though:
* Vitamin A
* Vitamin C
* Vitamin E
* Biotin
* Inositol
* Niacin (Vitamin B3)
* Pantothenic Acid (Vitamin B5)
* Vitamin B6
* Vitamin B12
# Calcium
# Chromium
# Copper
# Iodine
# Iron
# Magnesium
# Manganese
# Potassium
# Selenium
# Silica
# Sulfur (methyl-sulfonyl-methane or MSM)
# Zinc
From:
http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/Vitamins.htm
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http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/Minerals.htm
To strengthen your hair you should buy shampoos, conditioners, and leave-in conditioners that include pro-vitamin B5 (also referred to as panthenol). It helps to heal your hair, recovering it from split-ends and helping it stay long and strong. It may also help to thicken the hairs if they are thinning and breaking, making it shorter.
Remember that leave-in conditioners are your friend when it comes to dyed, dry, and damaged hair. Also, try to use products that help to protect against heat products if you are a user of blowdriers, curling irons, and even straighteners. Protecting your hair will allow it to be long and not break off easily so make sure you take good care of it.
I use a wonderful shampoo with heat-protecting additives. The heat-protecting shampoos tend to help lock in moisture for your hair to remain healthy. You can also purchase an entirely separate spray for heat-protection. So, in short, look for heat-protecting, moisture-sealing, and panthenol-containing in hair products.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Answer this:
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=157yejl&s=5
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2w5st1u&s=5
(Sorry, the pics arent that good)
Be honest i can take it trust me!
But i was kinda fooling around with cutting my hair, and decided to try for the Hayley Williams look. Can you guys please tell me if i did a good job, if not tell me what i can do to make it look better.
( My hair used to be the bright red but faded, im dyeing it like that soon) (link)
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Personally, I really despise the scene hairstyle that is so in fashion right now; however, like I said, it's very popular right now. I bet it's the most popular hair style right now, as a matter of fact. You achieve "scene" to perfection.
Anyway, I think you did a good job on looking Hayley Williams from Paramore. I'd say you'll fit in nicely at school with the new hairstyle too, so, kudos to you. Good job on looking like Hayley Williams.
I think the hairstyle looks like your brother took a pair of your mother's scissors to your head while you were sleeping. This is not to down YOU at all--for your own hair cutting in this style you did just as good as going to a professional stylist--but the style itself is, to me, awful. It seems like someone wanted to be oh-so-original that they just whacked off their hair here-and-there in a fit of delusional rage and claimed they did it on purpose. That's just my opinion, of course, and has absolutely nothing to do with you actually--just today's odd trends.
Anyway, as I said, you did achieve your goal of the Hayley Williams hairstyle.
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im a bit self concious about having sex because my v area smells and im not sure if thats normal or not. sometimes under the flaps i have white stuff, and last week my v area itched a little, but it was also dry so i fixed it with putting water down there. help? (link)
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First, you must realize that you will always have some sort of odor. It is natural for females to have a bit of an odor down there because your body is constantly cleansing itself. If the odor has recently changed then it could be a sign of a bacterial infection--something only a doctor can determine and supply medication for.
Around the vaginal opening it is normal to have a bit of white goo. This white stuff is actually your natural lubrication--only dried up a little bit. It's commonly referred to as smegma. There is no problem with having a little bit of this but if it appears on your panties in excess and looks similar to cottage cheese then you should see a doctor. The way to "remove" the smegma is to take a washcloth while in the shower or bathtub, soak it, and lightly wipe the inside of your vaginal "lips" a few times. NEVER use soap.
Some light itching is usually no big deal but if it seems abnormal then, again, it could be a bad sign of an infection. If it itched a lot or burned then it isn't normal.
Your vaginal area should not feel dry. I am concerned about this because it isn't natural, really. If you are on hormonal birth control pills then that could be an issue that you would need to speak to your doctor about. They now make lubrication capsules to insert into the vagina when this sort of thing happens, but it is always best to speak to a doctor about this sort of problem before seeking such methods. It's okay to put water on your vaginal area, but it likely isn't going to make it all better from being dry.
Make sure you're hydrated. Drink a lot of WATER. Try to drink at least 6 glasses of water a day, hopefully 8 if you can do it. You can also drink other things but remember that they do NOT count as water.
I suggest seeing a doctor to make sure everything is healthy. Even if you're not sexually active, you can definately develop an infection. If you have never been to the doctor for this sort of thing remember that there is no reason to feel embarrassed. You are taking care of your body by seeing a doctor and there is absolutely no shame in that.
Please, see a professional to ensure your health. If you have any more questions feel free to ask me! I apologize for the response wait but I have been very, very busy at work lately. You can ask whatever, whenever to me and I PROMISE I WILL answer it--in time.
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thanks for answering my question!
but i was wondering, i have a pretty heavy period. and the days i want to wear tighter pants, i need a thong for, waht would i replace a tampon with?
thank you!
15/f (link)
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This is a very easy answer :)
Many women like to wear thongs now during the entire month and not "granny panties" during their menstrual cycle. Personally, I see no problem in wearing a pair of "granny panties" each day of my cycle--but, as I said, I'm aware of the times.
A great alternative to tampons is the menstrual cup. The menstrual cup is not bleached out like tampons they are not linked to cancerous cells. Menstrual cups can be worn up to 14 hours safely--then the only REAL reason you want to remove it is to empty it from the fluid it has gathered. It may take a few tries to get use to, but the menstrual cup is easy and simply re-usable. The reusable quality means you do not have to continue spending money on waste products for your menstruation.
Menstrual cups do not remove the lining of your vaginal canal either. They do not "stick" or "rip" anything, really, because they are held in by natural suction. They are safe to use, being made out of a soft surgical material that can be sanitized easily. They are SO safe that you can use them every single day if you wanted to--meaning, even if you weren't on you period you could insert the cup and not be at risk for something nasty!
For brands of menstrual cups and a little bit more information on these from me, check out my response on this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541269
Please consider doing away with tampons for the safety of your body.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! I apologize about the wait time but I am extremely busy lately--if you ask me a question I promise I WILL get to you in time.
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hi! :) i've read something you've answered about discharge and i do have a question...
so i know you said DONT wear a tampon because your discharge is alot or whatever, but it's like im addicted to using them? okay that might sound over the top but i've went to the doctor twice because my discharge is so heavy, all the time! so recently my doctor put me on a different birth control maybe thinking that it was the birth control i was on that was causing this. i had to take a break from birth control for a month, so right now i'm not on it but in a couple weeks i will be taking the new one i was prescribed. anyways i still cant NOT wear a tampon. if i try to just wear a pantyliner, without a tampon i'm always so paranoid and i always feel like there is a big amount of discharge and when i go to the bathroom, there is not at much as i thought there was. it's like in my mind or something, that i am having alot when i'm not because i'm so paranoid about it. trust me, i do not want to be wearing a tampon all the time but i dont know what to do!! i cant be worrying about it 24/7 when i'm not wearing a tampon, and i always feel like i have to go to the bathroom to wipe the discharge from my pantyliner. i just hate that feeling!! (link)
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You need to realize that it IS all in your head. There is no way that you're going to discharge so much that a pantyliner is going to be filled to the maximum of it's ability. They are specifically designed for this sort of thing and for light menstrual bleeding. Please, consider using a pantyliner.
Next, STOP USING TAMPONS if you're not on your period. Seriously. Just stop. If you wind up in the hospital because you wore a tampon when you weren't on your period--are you going to be happy? Nope.
Try menstrual cups. They can SAFELY be worn whenever you'd like--up to 14 hours with no known issues. They are not damaging to your body in any way and are reusable so there is no need to continue the purchase of waste products. For some more information on the different kinds of menstrual cups, check out my answer here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541269
Lastly, realize you're being paranoid and that's your female. Your body is suppose to produce a lot of fluids so that it can stay clean. If you're soaking it all up then your body must produce more and more to try to clean the bad stuff out. It's in times like these you need to decide what is more important in your life:
1. FEELING better because you FEEL like you're not leaking onto yourself.
or
2. BEING healthy and living to see another day.
If you are wearing tampons when you're not on your period you are also increasing chances of cancer (information from my first gynecologist and studies that are reporting increased cancerous cells when using bleached feminine products inside of the vaginal canal). You are putting yourself at risk for serious, serious injuries. You are harming yourself more than doing any good at all.
Addictive? Absolutely. Listen to yourself. You are well-aware that this activity is highly dangerous but you do it anyway. You are well-aware that you could just use a pantyliner or a pad but you don't want to for no real reason.
Please, find another method to solving this issue. Please don't keep shoving these products inside your sensitive areas each and every single day for mental relief. I don't want to see you hurt because you were paranoid. Please, find another way.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me. You can always ask me questions, but I am sorry for slow responses--I WILL get to you, in time.
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Can you cat ravies from touching what a racoon might have touched? (link)
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If you touch an object that a rabies infected raccoon has put their saliva (or other bodily fluid) on then you could possibly become infected if you get it into your mucus membranes (eyes, nose, mouth, etc) or into an open wound.
Technically, it IS possible then, but the infected raccoon would have had to have left blood, saliva, or some sort of fluid on the object you touched.
Make sure to wash your hands thoroughly after coming in contact with objects you know have been touched by wild animals. Not all raccoons are rabies infected but it's better to be safe than sorry, in my opinion.
Rabies symptoms, in humans, develop between 10 and 50 days after exposure. Infected humans complain of loss of appetite, fatigue, headache, insomnia, depression, and have a fever. Over half of humans infected with rabies will have pain and itching, and numbness at the exposure side. Death may be sudden, and may be proceeded with signs of nervous system damage (hyperactivity, hypersensitivity, disorientation, hallucinations, seizures, paralysis). Being infected by rabies may mean cardiac arrest, respiratory arrest, coma, and/or common with life-support measures.
If you fear you may have been infected then seek medical assistance immediately--even if you're not having any symptoms. A simple test can be ran to ensure your health. If you are found to be infected then you need to have treatment for this IMMEDIATELY.
I hope all is well. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Whenevert I pee, I pee, it really hurts after, and I don't know why, maybe we have sex too often but I don't know why that is. Does this mean I got have infectio or something like that? (link)
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It does sound like a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI), which is fairly common for everyone. Some women are more prone to getting them than others for whatever reason.
Sex seems to increase UTIs because during intercourse some dirt is actually pushed into the urethra (the place where you urinate from). This is why it's always recommend to go try to urinate immediately after having sexual intercourse. Having intercourse often can, obviously, increase chances of you developing an UTI.
Please, do not try to wait this out as previously suggested. The user that "waited it out" probably simply had a yeast infection that went away on it's own (you still should see a doctor for these, by the way). A UTI can end up being very serious and you can do MAJOR damage to your bladder and kidneys if it spreads up that far. It IS serious if left untreated.
Cranberry juice also is not going to make it magically go away--it helps PREVENT this from happening if you have enough of the juice every day but it does not make it go away. So, in the future you may want to start drinking 2 glasses of cranberry juice a day, make sure to urinate directly after intercourse, and NEVER "hold it" when you have to go to the bathroom.
Please, see a doctor as soon as possible to get this taken care of. It isn't hard to diagnose, especially after you tell them your symptoms. They'll probably write you a prescription to take and after you're done with taking all of those pills you'll be better. There isn't anything to be embarrassed about either so please don't avoid seeing someone who can help because you don't want to admit to them you had sex or something silly.
Take care of your body because it's the only one you have. Please, see a doctor. If you have any more questions feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. For note, NEVER EVER try to diagnose yourself. Many women diagnose themselves with yeast infections when they have a bacterial infection--something that can totally wreck their bodies and make them infertile for the rest of their lives. Some people get yeast infections and UTIs confused. Some people have burning sensations when they have contracted an STD. For all I know, I'm wrong. I'm not a doctor but I do know the seriousness that this could be. Please, don't take chances and HOPE it goes away--sometimes the symptoms of certain illnesses will go away but it will still be hurting your body.
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what is precum?
is it what kind of sprays out when you give a guy a hand job? (link)
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Precum is a slang term for pre-ejaculatory fluid.
It typically is the slight bit of fluid that seeps out of the head of the penis during sexual interaction or arousal. This means that precum could actually come out of the penis if the guy sees a pretty girl on the street that he gets a hard-on for ;)
It looks like normal cum (clear-whitish) but it just seeps out from the head, like I said. It usually gathers at the top until there is enough to "roll" down the penis shaft or drip off.
Men cannot control when they precum or how much they precum. They are not aware of when they will precum or even if they have just released some precum. If the penis is already inserted into the vagina then you cannot visually tell if precum was released or not because it looks exactly like vaginal lubrication too.
Precum is basically the male body's way of preparing for complete ejaculation (the "spraying" you get when you give a handjob--the "spraying" that goes on during sex). Precum, typically, contains some live sperm. MANY women get pregnant each year from their partner releasing pre-ejaculate fluid in or onto their vagina.
If you get this on your hands and then touch your vaginal area you can still become pregnant--just like with "regular" cum. You can also contract STDs and STIs from this contact as well.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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okay well i am going to have sex for the second time and i was wondering if it was going to feel good this time and if i used the condom properly if i would get pregnant also we are using spermicidal lube.
thanks (link)
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1. Many, many women have sex and NEVER in their entire lifetime actually enjoy it, orgasm, or have a "feel good" time. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be.
A lot of young women keep having sex with various partners because they're looking for that magical, mind-blowing sex they've heard about from their friends. The problem is, everyone really thinks sex should be awesome the first go-around--or the seventh go around--but you need to realize that it simply isn't for most women. This being said, when young women now say they have been with 15 guys in 6 months because it's so "addictive and wonderful" it tells me that they had sex with those guys, trying to figure out WHY it isn't mind-blowing.
Of course, nobody is going to admit that, but I will. And, no, love has nothing to do with it--you can deeply love someone but always have awful, unfulfilling sex.
I've had really, really bad sex before. I've had really, really awful sex with two men. Sex I pretended was fairly good, sex I ended up figuring out as, "This must just be normal...wow...what a freaking waste of time." I never told my female friends that the sex I had was boring, uneventful, and stupid though. Who wants to be the girl that says, "My boyfriend really SUCKS in bed. He's horrible," or, just simply, "I NEVER have a good time in bed..."
After the first time, I figured it would get better but it didn't. After the 5th time, I kept expecting it to get better--but it never did. Eventually I had a second partner and I expected that sex to be better than my previous encounters--but it wasn't! Turns out, I was just finding out that what all my little girl friends at school were saying about their experiences with so-and-so-boy were all very stupid lies.
See what I'm saying? ;)
Don't expect miracles at any point. That's all.
2. Spermicide typically increases the condom effectiveness by ABOUT 5%. Condoms are, typically, about 85% to 88% effective on preventing pregnancy anyway. This being said, a condom coupled with spermicidal lube would be about 90% to 93% effective with typical usage.
Spermicidal lubrication, foam, and films are not very effective alone when not coupled with another method of "protection."
Hormonal Birth Control is actually only about 92% effective with typical usage.
The Pull-Out method is only about 25%-70% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage.
Note that NO "protection" method--this meaning condoms, spermicide, hormonal birth control, etc--are effective in preventing STD and STI transmission. This means you are still very much at risk for contracting an STD/STI.
Spermicidal lube (nonoxyl-9) has been linked to: increased urinary tract infections (UTIs) in women, vaginal yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, skin rashes, itching and burning sensations of the genitals. There is also now a large concern over nonoxyl-9 causing minor-to-severe birth defects when used during early pregnancy.
Yes, you could very well become pregnant using this method (or any other method, really).
I hope I was clear about all of the information I provided for you. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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okay so i had my period, it got over with within a week w/e and then 2 weeks later i started it again? i thought it was kinda unusual that i would start it again so fast but i didnt really think too much of it. when it got over with a week later (this morning) i started again!?? is there something wrong should i be concerned? this has never happened before? (link)
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Actually, to have a period that is only...14 days apart, is not healthy for your body to continue at. 7 days in between periods is VERY unhealthy and quite dangerous to your body actually.
Your body bleeds quite a bit of blood and uterine lining out during your period. Because of this it will take a good week and 1/2 or more for your body to get back up to "normal" if it was "normal" to begin with. Sometimes we weren't "normal" when we started our period so it will take even longer for our bodies to health back up to normal health. You may FEEL better, but remember that the uterine lining must repair itself in between cycles.
Stress can cause your period to come early or late, but it usually only does that by a few days. Sex can also do this to a period, but it's really the stress of pregnancy that causes it to be delayed or to come early. So, this being said, stress is probably NOT the problem.
Regardless if the period is light or heavy, this isn't healthy. It's hard on your body and you can develop anemia very quickly allowing this to happen. Your periods really should be 21 complete days apart at the least, 28 being ideal. You can better track your cycles at:
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com/
Please see a gynecologist for a health evaluation. When my periods did this it turned out that I had a cyst on my ovary. My ovary was also being over stimulated, releasing eggs back-to-back, which is not healthy either. My uterine lining was constantly being shed.
It isn't normal, no matter what other users want to say. NOT NORMAL! NOT HEALTHY! YES, DANGEROUS! Your body simply cannot function healthily having a full-on period with 14 days in between of no bleeding. Those 14 days isn't even giving your body enough time to heal, which will lead to complications regarding possible scarring in the uterus--no joke! A scarred uterus will not allow a baby to form properly so you would be considered infertile.
See a doctor. See a doctor NOW. This can become serious in a hurry. You can quickly regret not seeing a doctor when you needed to in a couple of years when you decide to have children and find that your uterus is scarred from periods like this.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. Regarding women's cycles synchronizing when around each other often: this means the bodies SLOWLY synchronize a few days at a time. Meaning: It will take MONTHS for the two women's cycles to be in perfect match.
Example:
One woman has her period every 21 days.
The second woman has her period every 28 days.
The second woman's cycle (if changing) will slowly start to shorten each month. It may go from 28 days to 26 days the following month, then 24 days, then 23 days, then 21 days.
The first woman's cycle (if changing) will go from 21 days to 23 days the first month, then 25, 26, and then to 28 days.
THIS IS NOT A SUDDEN CHANGE. Sudden changes = sign of underlying health problems, NOT bodies synchronizing!
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