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My family is pretty new to a town (2 months) and our neighbors baked us a cake when we moved in. Since then, I haven't interacted with them. I'm 16 and there's a girl who lives there who's 17 and we're on friendly terms at school but I haven't hung out with her outside of school. How do I initiate that? Should I just go ring on her doorbell and ask to hang out at her house? Cause at my house there's literally nothing to do but watch tv and go on the computer... thanks parents. Im pretty socially inept and have trouble initiating things like that. But I want to change as the new girl here, and become more social, because I'm very social but by social inept-ness is making things difficult. I rarely ever initiate hang out days, which is maybe why nobody really hung out with me. But what should I do? Ask her to go see a movie or something? Id probably feel awkward in that situation too, ugh. But shes really cool and really nice, and she has younger siblings too.. what should I do? Thanks for the help btw (link)
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well you say you're on friendly terms at school, and that you're new to town? I say, you start at school, say hi, ask how she is, etc etc. Then maybe ask "whats there to do around here?" because, im assuming you're not fully adjusted yet, and so asking her what there is to do in the area, is like an invitation for her to show you around.
You could go around to hers- the common link here is school. You both go to the same school, so you both know the boring teachers, you both know of the good looking guys etc. The fact that school is the common link, is a good starting point. From here, theres tonnes to talk about like the above, but also, homework? assignments? tests? extra curricular activities? This way, she may introduce you to her normal circle of friends, and be friendly with them, and hopefully you will become part of their circle of friends, which will make you confident. Hope i helped, if you need more advice or have a follow up Question, just ask :)
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I have a lump in my right armpit. It doesn't feel like the right one. It hurts when i touch it. And it isn't discolored at all. I'm not positive what it is. I looked it up, and it said it COULD be breast cancer.
Does anyone know what this could be? (link)
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its probably a cyst, which also happened to me. It will usually go away, and then come back, and so you can get it operated, or just leave it. But go to the doctor anyway :)
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i was on facebook and i found a picture of this really cute dog. its light brown with dark ears and it has a dark nose bridge http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=152341&id=742252292&ref=pb#!/photo.php?pid=3910195&id=742252292&fbid=377397512292 you could put this on your URL to see. (link)
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the link says its currently unavailable? maybe try again or send me a link? it sounds like the type of dog i have - jack russel/westie mix
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I want to do international relations when I'm older. I'm 16 and its summer vacation, so I want to do a job or community service thats relevant to where I want to be. Would it look better if I did community service or got a job, too? And what kinds of things could I do that would be relevant. Trying to create world peace? lol. When I was younger I did a People to People Ambassador program but they are expensive so I can't do them every year. Should I try and form a Student Chapter in my area, or what?
Also, would it be impossible to make it into Oxford University if I am applying from America? I was thinking about doing the PPE course there. I have British citizenship as I was born there, if that helps. But I'm confused on what I'd need to know in order to go to a school abroad. I'm sure there's different procedures. What should I know ahead of time? Do I need to take different tests?
And my freshman + sophomore years haven't been that great. How much would that influence getting into a great college if I can turn it around and get straight A's in the highest ranked classes at my school for my Junior and Senior Year?
In the past, I've been in regular classes and generally got A's and B's. I nearly failed a few classes, too. It wasn't cause I wasn't smart enough.. the its cause I had problems with procrastination that I've delt with for several years. I was able to get away with pulling allnighters when I was younger but with more work in high school and everything, it got to a point where I couldn't do it anymore and I had to make a lifestyle change. I'm still in the process of getting where I want to be. Next year I'm taking the highest ranked courses I can take - all Dual Credit and Honors. (it's a new school in Texas with no AP. Is AP the same as Dual Credit?) So I have to really be serious about getting work done.
So would I still have a chance for Oxford if I could really change things around? And what do I need to know about applying abroad for college? What kind of community service/paying jobs could I do around Dallas, TX? Its not exactly Washington, DC hah. What are websites that have programs perhaps, in this area, aside from People to People?
And are jobs in International Relations hard to come by? And do you think its worth it? How much money do they make anyways? How often do they get to see their relatives if they're always traveling around? I mean I'm very interested in doing the job but I'll want to see my family for vacations and stuff, even if I have to travel by airplane.
What language should I learn next? I know English (obviously) and am currently learning Spanish. I want to add a third to the list.. I was thinking French, but idk.
Sorry this question is pretty long. Thanks for the help! (link)
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Im in the exact same position as you...the only difference is, that i live in england. To answer your question about Oxbridge- its EXTREMELY competative to get into either of them. I know a girl who had straight A's, and she still didnt get in. She was the perfect candidate - studious, extra curricular activities were present, but still nothing. This is partly due to pressure from the government to allow fewer students, and a couple years ago, universities over enrolled, and this meant the government had to fork out more money, and because of the budget deficit the UK government has, even more pressure is being put on universities to prevent excessive enrollment. And i dont think its a hard choice for OxBridge uiniversities, as 14% of students now achieved the highest possible grade, and so they have a big pool of students to choose from.
I really am interested in the voluntree/community service aspect of your question, and so ive saved this question as a favourite, and hope you get some good answers. Maybe we can trade ideas at some point :)
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i need help.my ex bf broke up w/ me on valentines day. i'm still madly in love w/ him. i told him i missed him and he said he misses me too... i was like why are we doing this to ourselves? he said i dont know... i am so confused! help please! (link)
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he sounds like a deuch! well i wouldnt' get back him cause will probably do it again
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I'm going to Europe this summer for two weeks (London, and then Dublin), however it is a little chilly there (especially at night) and I am looking for a cute jacket to take with me. I was thinking maybe a trench coat (but not a long one, like a hip length one). Does anybody know where I can find a super cute one (it doesnt necessarily have to be a trench coat).
I am looking for one under $200. My style is preppy, but not over the top. I usually love Jcrew jackets- but at the moment i dont love their selection.
Thank you so much for your help!!! (link)
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i live in london, i dont know about the jacket or anything, but i just want to tell you that recently is has been like 11-16 celcius at night, which is killer hot here, so dont get nothing too thick. You'll only need it if it rains to be honest.
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this is really intended to be for guys 20+ but anyone could answer i guess.
what do you think about girls waiting until marriage? like say if you're engaged to a girl and she tells you she's a virgin and has been waiting for you, is that a turn-on? any comments on it is great (link)
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yeah I guess it is sort of, because she's saving herself for you, and only you- not passing it out like free samples. And when a guy takes a girls virginity, there's something about it- like she's yours, and only yours. Of course you'll be tighter so it'll feel better for him. So I would be rather happy if who I was getting married to was a virgin- as long as the gap between engagement and marriage isn't too long (ahaha joke....sort of)
hope i helped :)
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This guy and I have been going out for four months now. Before we were together I was a virgin, and i planned to stay that way until marriage. He forced me into having sex with him. I kept telling him no but he kept on doing things to turn me on. At times I would try to push him off and he would pretend to stop and then start back up again. I was so stupid not to walk away, I should have. I should have broken up with him,and the thing is I have tried many times. I prayed about it for help and i kept firm, but the thing is he won't give up on me (or lets say let me). I guess he says I'm his first real girlfriend because his past relationships were all just hit and quit. He never took any of the girls seriously. I feel that he is too controlling. I understand the situation I'm in, but I just want to get out of it. I told him before that what he did was wrong and he knew it was true and apologized and tried to show it, but it didn't last too long because each time he forced me. I could even run at times trying to get away, but he would chase me. And then everytime he would pull my pants down, i would pull them back up. Its just too much for me. I feel that he just wants me for sex..and that is the way it is. I told him this before but like anyone like him they will deny. I want out, but at the same time i'm scared..i'm not sure why...and then i feel like i love him..but then i feel like I don't...i just want my normal life back....and all the things he does for me like buying me three phones when mine broke or got stolen....or him being faithful to me and just being so clingy...its just too much for me...or walking over to my house everyday just to hang out (not do anything)....It just feels like he is doing it for something in return...i'm so sick of it...I know this is an unhealthy relationship...I just need to be strong and get out of it as soon as possible because he will keep on forcing me to do things I don't want to...and thats going to be unhappy for me....I just need some advice on how to get out...I do want to but i'm not sure what is holding me back....thank you for your advice (link)
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If he really loved you he wouldn't be treating you like this. You are clearly not happy. You need to break up with him and not go back to him. Don't answer his calls, text, anything because he will most likely sweet talk you back into the situation. He isn't the right guy for you, and there is someone out there that is so much better. And you deserve him. Trust me God will show him to you. And this is him telling you that this guy isn't the one. I hoped I helped.
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i love my ex but she gave me the impression the love betwwen us is over! (link)
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you need to just move on. Because if she's over you, then she's over you. I know you don't want to, but it's not going to get any better. Go out and hang out with the guys, and start over.
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15/f & my friend greg** is 15/m .
My friends dad beats him. And according to court his dad is allowed to give him "spankings" & there's no proof that he beats him. This may be hard to follow.
Gregs mom would take his father to court, so that he would never have to see his dad again. But Greg has been to rehab before & his father could use that against them in court.
I'm so scared my friend is gonna get seriously hurt. I'm talking to him right now on face book & he's telling me how his dad left him on the stairs bleeding and he couldn't move what so ever.
What if his dad takes it too far? I don't even know what to do. My mom would take Greg into our home in a heart beat, but him & his mom would get arrested for him running away.
WHAT DO I DO ? :'( (link)
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You need to talk to an adult about this. If his mom is willing maybe she could get custody of him and leave. I don't know if this is completely legal, because you might have to have someone's permission to video him, but maybe your friend could put a hidden video in the house, so that they could cath their dad doing it. Look into if that's legal or not. And then bring it to court. I hope you find a way to help him! I have a guy friend that went through the same thing, but his dad stopped. Hope that helped.
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oh, here comes an original question :)
just as a note, i've never had a boyfriend (im 15...dont make fun...)
so...i have this friend...his name is "chris".
I have known chris since...maybe 3rd grade? and since the middle of 8th grade to now (very close to the end of freshman year) we have become really good friends. the thing is, and not to sound conceited or anything, but he is IN LOVE with me. no joke. he has asked me out by himself, he asked me to homecoming, he has had his and my friends ask me out, and so on. and whenever he sees me he always talks to me and hes just so cute.
me and chris get SO much crap about how we should go out...its happened all freshman year. we get it from EVERYONE. ive never really considered it...until now. and it seems like i cant stop thinking about him, and i always want to be around him...which sounds SO pathetic, i know, haha.
the thing is, i dont know if id want to go out with him. i mean, i want to SO BAD, but i feel like i shouldnt...
ive been thinking of his pros/cons...
pros:
-he is seriously a sweetheart. he always has been
-hes a REALLY good kid. doesnt drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. hes good at school, too.
-he really cares about me, hes told me many times
-hes incredibly protective, especially of me
-as i said before, he REALLY likes me
-my mom absolutely loves him. he came over my house once with a mutual friend of ours, and she loved him. my dad likes him too, as much as a 15 year old girls father could like a teenage boy.
-we know each other really really well
-he. is. gorgeous. especially his eyes :)
cons:
-some of my friends (who arent my friends. excuse my language, but the ones who dont like them are total bitches, not just to chris, but to everyone) dont like him, and call him annoying
-he has braces. nuff said...would that hurt to kiss him? just wondering
-he doesnt seem like the boyfriend type...like he just gets so nervous around me and he gets really joke-y and stuff... i cant describe it, he just doesnt seem like the boyfriend type. but then again, i wouldnt know. (fyi, hes never had a girlfriend)
-i WOULD NOT want to give ALL of those people who give us crap about going out the satisfaction that i finally went out with him. i wouldnt want them to be all smug and be like "i TOLLDDDD you".
-i'd be afraid of what people would think...and i KNOW i shouldnt care, but come on, EVERYONE is at least a little self-conscious. its unavoidable. its annoying as hell and i wish i could do something about it
could someone PLEASE help me? this has been bothering me for a long time now...i just want to make my mind up about him.
thank you SO MUCH
PS. sorry for the length!! (link)
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Okay I personally think you to would have a good relationship. Because you both like eachothe and you have that wonderful friendship on top of it. Don't worry about what everyone else says. It's not their relationship, and they aren't you. And no it wouldn't hurt to kiss him with braces.
You need to do what you think is right, and if you really like him, it wounldn't reall be any different then how you to are now. Except you'd have that official title. So i think you should go for it. And tell him you really like him. Hoped I helped. Tell me what happens ;)
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i have this friend and she talks to this quy but she isnt sure if he is right for her he is always hiddinq stuff from her & he doesnt seem to respond to most of her textes . i dont know i really care for her i quess wanna know how to help her outt
siqned :
helpless
p.s can you help quick please (link)
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OKay this is totally dangerous grounds, because alot of times when i try to help my friends with guys they get mad at you. But based on what your saying he's DEFFINATLY not right! Especially because he's doing all this before they are even dating. Major red flag!! You need to just tell her you don't think that he is right for her and she deserves much better. If other people say he's not a good choice either you could say what all those other people say about him too. I mean they can't all be wrong..But, overall the choice is hers. So if she still doesn't listen you can't keep pushing it, you have to let her make her own choices. But, you need to be there for her, and not be mad. Hoped I helped.
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Okay , so i like this guy and hes in grade 11 but im in grade 8 , were great friends but idunno if he likes me . he gives me signs that he does but then again im not too sure . idunno what to do . should i ask him out , or let him to it ?
but theirs another problem , he has a girlfriend, its not going to work out though . His girfriend is a total slut .. she did stuff with my other giy friends . plus shes not that pretty . She kina look like a gorilla and hes soo cute . HELP ! (link)
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I dated a guy in the 10th grade when i was in 8th grade. But, you need to let him come to you. Especially since he has a girlfriend. You dont want to be the girl that he cheated on her with, because people will think you are a slut, b/c of it. Even though you arent. And it looks a whole lot worse cause your in 8th grade. So, just let me him come to you, and just keep doing what your doing. Just be careful. Hoped I helped.
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How much do u think i would lose if i stoped eating for awhile, and drunk nouthing but water? (link)
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the problem with doing this is that you'll lose weight, but when you start eating again you'll just gain it back. And if you completely stop eatting then you'll die from all kinds of health problems. So, just eat moderatly and work out.
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15/f
So there's this guy that I met at the beginning of the school year. Me & him became great friends. I can tell him everything ,from guy problems, family issues, & even random things that came to mind. I can be my total self around him.
On New Years Eve he had a thing with my best friend Sarah*. Sarah really fell for him. He told me he was drunk that night & regretted everything & he wished she had noticed he was drunk & stuff. Anyways ... she's liked him for the longest time.
Unfortunately, he started really falling for me during spring break. I too, started liking him. I told him I couldn't take it any further than a friendship, because I didn't want to ruin things with Sarah. He told me that "Sometimes when you really like somebody ... You just have to take a risk & hope for the best."
Well, I never took that risk. Me & Sarah's friendship ended because of other things. And I started realizing that I really let a good one go. Of course this guy is still my good friend, but he now has a girlfriend. I can tell he still likes me at some points. But I know it will never be the same.
I'm so sorry this is so long, and I thank you for actually taking the time to read through this whole thing.
Basically, I don't know what to do. I like him, but I'm really not a good girl for commitment. And that's why I'm so scared. I don't want to hurt him. Should I take the risk? I don't even know what to do. I'm going crazy here. :/
By the way, like I said ... I could tell him everything. So he knows how I am with commitment & stuff. So I guess that's good. (link)
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So, I once had a guy like that. I could tell him ANYTHING it was amazing! and he wouldn't judge and he always new what to do. And we were about to date when I just called it off. And he's like crazy liked me since 5th grade. He's proabbly the only guy that was ever REALLY there for me. And I let him go. He also eventually moved on and got a gf, but he always told me he would always like me and everything. From my mistake I learned that you have to take risks. So, I think you should just tell him you you feel, and he might not want to dump her right away, but he will know how you feel. And things will work out! They always will. It's better to say how you feel, then keep them in and always wonder what could have happened. Hope I helped.
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This guy i really like asked me out but a couple days ago my parents talked to me about having a boyfriend at this age. I wanna say yes but what do i do about my parents???? (link)
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So i tried that secret relationship multiple times. And they didn't find out for like 3 or so months, but eventually they will find out. Because you slip, you they catch on to u to are talking alot, or your friends slips up. Eventually some how they will find out and then they don't trust you. Even if you don't think they are right you should listen to them. Or maybe have another conversation with them and let them meet him. But sneaking around will just get you in more trouble and its never worth it in the long run. Hope I helped.
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Im 16 and my boyfriend and i have been dating for a few months now. We talk about having sex and decided not to have sex until im ready so for now we're just getting into foreplay. About a week ago i gave him a handjob and his sperm landed on my stomach and hand, all of our clothes were on. After it got on my hands we wipped it off and we went to wash our hands with soap and water. Im expecting my period and its a few days (2-3) delayed...should i be worried? (link)
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not to scare you but did you know sperm can live up to 3 days without dying :/
but no if you didnt touch yourself while you had the sperm on your hands your fine :) dont worry x
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I know blood is red but what color should period blood be? I mean, healthy period blood...
I get brown colored blood sometimes at the beginning AND at the end of my period. The color in the middle days is usually a bright red though. Red color sounds healthy but...the brown sounds...weird. Is having brown period blood normal? Should I see a doctor? (link)
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its perfectly normal to have brown blood at the beginning and the end of the period, its like a discharge to tell you that you are beginning or the end :) im a girl and im 14 years old and i get it too :) no worries x
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Plain and simple question: HOW DO I GET A FLAT STOMACH FAST?!?!?! i'm 13 years old 5'3 and weigh 146lbs. I'm not FAT but my stomach hangs about 1/2 inch over my hips. I hate it! I eat fairly well and axercise and dance all the time! i have a membership to the gym and do crunches but it doesn't burn! I won't do unhealthy crap like starve myself or whatever but i NEED to get a flat stomach!!! it makes me angry and upset and sometimes i just want to die (but i won't kill myself or anything) I just don't like my stomach! AHHH Please help me! anything that WORKS FOR SURE! within like a week or LESS. i know it doesn't happen over night but somebody has to have an idea on how to?! thanks for the advice i appreciate it :) -Becca (link)
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okay Becca, im 14 years old and i weigh the same as you nearly, but im 5 foot 5 ichs :) my stomach goes over my jeans abit and i sometimes think im fat :/ but tbh everyone says its just puppy fat and it'll go when we get old because we still need to grow in height wise :) as you say you do dance and you excersice regularly you seem to be a healthy teenager be happy :) your still a baby really and me too but you dont need to get a flat stomach at your age :) your beautiful as you are x
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13/f
how do u flirt with a guy you like...i have no idea and i really like him (link)
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talk to him, make conversation about things you know he would like :) but as the other helper said loom at him and when he looks back at you turn around and giggle :) also i would suggest on tickling his neck at the back, some boys like that, if your friends with him or if you talk ask if you guys wanna hang out with other friends, you invite yours and he'll invite his and you guys can chat and have fun :)
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