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my friends dad is beating him
15/f & my friend greg** is 15/m .
My friends dad beats him. And according to court his dad is allowed to give him "spankings" & there's no proof that he beats him. This may be hard to follow.
Gregs mom would take his father to court, so that he would never have to see his dad again. But Greg has been to rehab before & his father could use that against them in court.
I'm so scared my friend is gonna get seriously hurt. I'm talking to him right now on face book & he's telling me how his dad left him on the stairs bleeding and he couldn't move what so ever.
What if his dad takes it too far? I don't even know what to do. My mom would take Greg into our home in a heart beat, but him & his mom would get arrested for him running away.
WHAT DO I DO ? :'(
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well i mean i agree it is not right what his father is doing to him and hes trusting you enough to tell you this,the worst thing you can do is not say anything,so i suggest that you do call the police or some other individual that can help-Yazeed
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I agree that your friend or his mum should phone the police. His father cant get away with abusing him and that is what it is, child abuse. In the Uk his father would be arrested for doing this to a child but Im not sure how they handle these kind of situations in the US. If it carries on let Greg move in and if the police do get involved say that he was being abused and he was scared for his safety. However I would get the police involved first and greg could ask if it is possible to stay at your house with the permission of his mother and yours. Im sure they would not oppose to this.
I hope things get sorted for your friends sake and I understand that you are worried about him
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your friend Greg has to call 911 when he's being beat. It needs to be documented by police and the hospital. When it comes to your friend being in rehab that has nothing to do with child custody, that only matters if a parent was in and what it was for. The courts know that kids have many different ways of dealing with a divorce.
Keep talking to your friend and make sure that your friend is talking to an adult that can help like your mom or his mom. If he doesn't call 911 or police he can also tell his school, they will have to investigate it and report it.
I wish you and your friend the best.
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It is very nice that you care so much about your friend. There are many things that can be done. I think the best thing would be for him to go to court. It is true that that could be used against him but after what he has done he might win. But also there is childline. They will not care that he has been in rehab, just that he is being abused.. This is the link for their website.. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) and the calls are free and confidential. Hope this helps.
Jazzy x
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
If Greg’s’ father is beating him to the point that he is bleeding and unable to move; that is not corporal punishment or parental corrective punishment. That is assault and child abuse. Greg should, and may do so without parental permission, pick up the phone and dial 911 and ask for help. Police and EMS will be sent to his home. EMS will take him to the hospital where his injuries will be treated and documented. If he is fearful of calling from home then he should go to the nearest fire station. Fire stations in North America are safe havens for children. The firefighters on duty will care for him until the ambulance and police arrive. If it is an unmanned volunteer station there will be a phone on the front of the building with a direct connection to the dispatch center. They will call for the volunteers and dispatch the police and ambulance.
While being in rehab may have something to do with a parental custody battle. Having been in rehab should have nothing to do with his having to accept the beatings you describe. What is needed is documentation of the beatings to show the court. That documentation can only be obtained from Police and Hospital Emergency Room reports. If a beating is severe enough or x-rays show repeated beatings, the hospital will call in the local child protective service as well as the hospitals own Social Service workers.
No child or adult for that matter should have to take the kind of punishment you have described. It is against the law for one thing and there are services out there to help him. All he needs to do is ask for that help. There are three ways he can ask for that help:
1. Call 911, even if his father rips the phone out of his hand and hangs up, someone will be sent to investigate the hang up.
2. Go to the nearest Fire Station for help.
3. Someone like you or your mother, a neighbor, or other friend takes him to the hospital. No one gets in trouble but the wrong doer that being his father if the doctors deem he has been beaten beyond what is deemed corrective parental punishment.
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You need to talk to an adult about this. If his mom is willing maybe she could get custody of him and leave. I don't know if this is completely legal, because you might have to have someone's permission to video him, but maybe your friend could put a hidden video in the house, so that they could cath their dad doing it. Look into if that's legal or not. And then bring it to court. I hope you find a way to help him! I have a guy friend that went through the same thing, but his dad stopped. Hope that helped.
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