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I let a good guy go.
15/f
So there's this guy that I met at the beginning of the school year. Me & him became great friends. I can tell him everything ,from guy problems, family issues, & even random things that came to mind. I can be my total self around him.
On New Years Eve he had a thing with my best friend Sarah*. Sarah really fell for him. He told me he was drunk that night & regretted everything & he wished she had noticed he was drunk & stuff. Anyways ... she's liked him for the longest time.
Unfortunately, he started really falling for me during spring break. I too, started liking him. I told him I couldn't take it any further than a friendship, because I didn't want to ruin things with Sarah. He told me that "Sometimes when you really like somebody ... You just have to take a risk & hope for the best."
Well, I never took that risk. Me & Sarah's friendship ended because of other things. And I started realizing that I really let a good one go. Of course this guy is still my good friend, but he now has a girlfriend. I can tell he still likes me at some points. But I know it will never be the same.
I'm so sorry this is so long, and I thank you for actually taking the time to read through this whole thing.
Basically, I don't know what to do. I like him, but I'm really not a good girl for commitment. And that's why I'm so scared. I don't want to hurt him. Should I take the risk? I don't even know what to do. I'm going crazy here. :/
By the way, like I said ... I could tell him everything. So he knows how I am with commitment & stuff. So I guess that's good.
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So, I once had a guy like that. I could tell him ANYTHING it was amazing! and he wouldn't judge and he always new what to do. And we were about to date when I just called it off. And he's like crazy liked me since 5th grade. He's proabbly the only guy that was ever REALLY there for me. And I let him go. He also eventually moved on and got a gf, but he always told me he would always like me and everything. From my mistake I learned that you have to take risks. So, I think you should just tell him you you feel, and he might not want to dump her right away, but he will know how you feel. And things will work out! They always will. It's better to say how you feel, then keep them in and always wonder what could have happened. Hope I helped.
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I don't think you should take the risk seeing as he's got a girlfriend already if he didn't have one
then that'd be a different story you don't want to risk coming in between him and his relationship and
have problems happen if your scared then it's probably not a good idea to try and get his attention seeing as you don't seem confident and your afraid you'll hurt him everything happens for a
reason just because this one thing didn't work out
like you would of liked doesn't exactly that the same thing will happen next time anything can happen..i'd wait till you feel ready and your confident about commitment(:
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Honey, you are 15 years old, I wouldn't be too worried about commitment right now. Just focus on being a teen and having a good time, if you happen to find the person you are supposed to be with then so be it. But don't go looking for it, don't worry about commitment. Most boys at your age aren't looking for commitment anyway if you start stressing about that then you will never want to go out with anyone. I think that you should have given him a chance, but now it seems as though the time for that has passed so forget about it. You aren't looking for someone to get married to right now, look for someone that you like to be around, that you can talk to, and who makes you laugh, screw the rest of it for the time being. Love will find you, when IT is ready to find you. My husband and I got together and fell in love when I was least expecting it, I was 16 and had known him for years. He was always so funny, honest, and was always always respectful of me, thats what you need to look for. Don't worry about getting your heartbroken or finding Mr. Right.
If you speak to this guy and he still likes you then I think yes you should give him a chance, if you like him and he is as great as you make him seem. But don't break him and this girl up, make that his decision. No one likes a boyfriend stealer :) If he doesn't and is happy where he is, let him go and the next time you like a boy and he likes you go for it and stop thinking about the future and commitment in relationships. Trust me, its more important to be a teen and experience it :) Im speaking from experience, I was with my ex-boyfriend for 3 years, from 8th grade to 11th. I don't regret it, but I wasn't worried about being commited, I cared about him and wanted to be with him, it works that way. But if you are stressing about commitment and such then it will ruin highschool and your teen years.
Hope I Helped :)
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