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I'm trapped :(
This guy and I have been going out for four months now. Before we were together I was a virgin, and i planned to stay that way until marriage. He forced me into having sex with him. I kept telling him no but he kept on doing things to turn me on. At times I would try to push him off and he would pretend to stop and then start back up again. I was so stupid not to walk away, I should have. I should have broken up with him,and the thing is I have tried many times. I prayed about it for help and i kept firm, but the thing is he won't give up on me (or lets say let me). I guess he says I'm his first real girlfriend because his past relationships were all just hit and quit. He never took any of the girls seriously. I feel that he is too controlling. I understand the situation I'm in, but I just want to get out of it. I told him before that what he did was wrong and he knew it was true and apologized and tried to show it, but it didn't last too long because each time he forced me. I could even run at times trying to get away, but he would chase me. And then everytime he would pull my pants down, i would pull them back up. Its just too much for me. I feel that he just wants me for sex..and that is the way it is. I told him this before but like anyone like him they will deny. I want out, but at the same time i'm scared..i'm not sure why...and then i feel like i love him..but then i feel like I don't...i just want my normal life back....and all the things he does for me like buying me three phones when mine broke or got stolen....or him being faithful to me and just being so clingy...its just too much for me...or walking over to my house everyday just to hang out (not do anything)....It just feels like he is doing it for something in return...i'm so sick of it...I know this is an unhealthy relationship...I just need to be strong and get out of it as soon as possible because he will keep on forcing me to do things I don't want to...and thats going to be unhappy for me....I just need some advice on how to get out...I do want to but i'm not sure what is holding me back....thank you for your advice
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yur obviously not happy & yu deserve the best. LEAVE HIM. i always say that sometimes yu have to forget how yu feel; & remember what yu DESERVE. think about it. if he truly loved yu then he wouldnt be pressuring or forcing yu into having sex. especially if he knew what yu believed was right for yu & that was waiting till marriage. yur prince charming will wait for yu.
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If he really loved you he wouldn't be treating you like this. You are clearly not happy. You need to break up with him and not go back to him. Don't answer his calls, text, anything because he will most likely sweet talk you back into the situation. He isn't the right guy for you, and there is someone out there that is so much better. And you deserve him. Trust me God will show him to you. And this is him telling you that this guy isn't the one. I hoped I helped.
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You arent happy. Break up with him. Its really that simple. If you break up with him, and dont listen to him trying to convince you not to, then its over. Some guys will beg or cry or make promises about how they will change, but you have to stay strong and just remember, that no matter what they say, it wont happen.
If he is forcing you to do things you dont want to do then he honestly doesnt care about you. He is using you.
Tell him you dont want to be with him and then stop talking to him.
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If you are unhappy in a relationship it is not worth your while. He took away something very special to you that you weren't ready to give away. Break up with him in a public place so that you can stay safe and after that try not to be alone wiht him at all. If you are really upset you can call the police because what he has done to you is ILLEGAL. He can be arrested and you won't be at fault AT ALL becase you didn't wanted to do something and he did it anyways.
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You seem like you really like him and that's good but he really isn't treating you well. He is forcing you to do something you don't want to do and if he really loved you then he would like you for who you are and be willing to wait. If you do think you love him, then you should be able to talk to him about it. You need to say.. 'You are treating me badly and making me do what i don't want to, if it keeps happening then we will have to break up' or if you really don't want to give it another chance then just tell him you can't go out with him anymore. Hope this helps.
Jazzy x
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