Q: Im 16/f and I do not get the whole fascination with dressing up, lots of makeup, dying hair etc. Like all the girls at my school are starting to wear these pretty dresses and doing their hair and they all look so beautiful..but its like i dont give a shit about any of that. Ive always been decent looking without doing a whole lot so i never really got into fashion or lots of makeup..I would like to tbh. Today i tried doing a smokey eye, and it kinda looked like shit lol. And i also tried looking up skirts and dresses that i could buy and they were all ugly and expensive. And all that stuff seems like a lot of work to keep up looking really nice everyday. I just dont get it, why is it so important? To feel good about yourself, sure but why else? I like looking nice but at the end of the day it doesnt really matter.. i dont wanna spend so much time on something that wont really get me anywhere and idk i just dont get it.

Q: I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...?

Q: I am a 20 year old female. As the title sums it up, I really can't stop lying. I make up stories about almost anything and about the silliest things. sometimes I don't realize that I'm lying but now that I do I see how much it is affecting important aspects of my life. My relationship with my boyfriend is being jeopardized by this, and recently my lies have been catching up to me. I don't want to be this person, any advice on how to stop?

Q: I started masturbating when i was around 15 by sticking foreign objects like highlighters washing pegs and colouring pens up my vagina as well as my own fingers. At the time i didnt know much about stds and i dont think i washed these objects before i stuck them in. My hands were fairly clean from what i remember and to the best of my knowledge i had no warts or anything on them. However since i turned 18 two years ago Ive noticed these papules on my fingers which weren't painful unless u pressed them hard. Now the same patches r dry and hardened. Also Ive noticed random pustules near but not inside my vagina first filled with just pustule then later with blood... Am i being paranoid?

Q: I'm looking for something like Hard Rock-ish. Not too heavy, similar to Breaking Benjamin's "Saturate" album, and Chevell's "Wonder What's Next" Album. Where it's not too dark but kind of angry, with singing and a scream or two hear and there. I'm not into the screaming metal. But I like a single scream or two after mostly singing normal and or soft. Any similar bands. It'd be great if they're not that popular too.

Q: I am really afraid all of the birds suddenly dying in large numbers are a sign that the End Times are here...what can I do if this really is It?

Q: For a really long time now (probably ever since I was 10 or so., I am now 26) I've talked to myself- like having conversations with no body, as though someone were there listening. I only do this when I'm by myself. It's almost like having company, even though I am well aware that I am alone, and there is no body listening.

I have no mental illness to speak of, am totally normal (I have my quirks, but it's nothing abnormal), enjoy hanging out with people...but I have a tendency to be self-reliant, and just be on my own. I don't have a lot of friends (but I have a few close ones), and don't go out a lot, so I do spend much time alone. I have always been calm, and pretty much okay with being on my own (as a kid, I could just keep myself occupied with drawing or whatever, and was okay with spending time alone). I have always had friends, and do enjoy socializing...but am still able to just be on my own, if that makes sense.

I think that my habit of conversing with, well, no one, stems from me spending a lot of time on my own- and as human beings, we are programmed to be social. So...

I am well aware that I talk aloud quite frequently, when no body is around (never when people are around), and if I were to see someone doing the same exact thing, I would be taken back. So I do understand that there is something quite...weird about this, and if not weird, then unusual.

Do any of you do the same, or know of someone totally normal who does? Any thoughts/opinions are appreciated.

Q: Well as of last week I was Invites to my bestfriends birthday party/sleepover and we all were going to practice for cheerleading at her party because we all wanted to try out. I Hurt my leg really bad and my mom said I wasn't aloud to do any of that at Her party, so I told my friend about it and it was fine with her. Well as of yesterday afternoon she texted me and said hey you know how you said you couldn't do gymnastics at my party, and I said yes well she said we did a lot of gymnastics last year and we will probaly be doing more this year. So I said ok why? Lol then she said well I don't want you comming and just sitting on the couch! And not do anything. By then I was getting upset, so I said I'll be with friends I can watch and not everyone wants to be a cheerleader so they won't want to do that If you don't want me to come fine. Them she text back and said I want u to come I just didn't want you to leave. Well after that I said why would I leave and she said well I just talke to my mom and she said I am only aloud to have 10 people and you were the 11th and I sai so I can't come? And she said yeah sorry bye. Ok well by then I felt so upset that she had did that because she told me at school o was invited and her mom said she could have 12. So I knew she was lying. I was so excited about the party I thought she was my bestfriend. Also she is the only friend I have and scared to go back to school this Morning we didn't have school though because it snowed and I get upset and worry a lot and I got depressed my m was worried about me. I'm really upset I need advice - thanks. 13/f

Q: 16/f

I have liked my friend for over a year now. Almost two years. We're really close...or we were. He's 18 though. I've known him since I was a freshman and he was a junior. I'm a junior now and he's in college. He left to go to college like last week.
In September we told each other we liked each other and all that. We wouldn't go out because he was gonna leave and all that. We would talk all the time and then it went on to the sweet stuff like he cares about me and could picture marrying me, ect. So before we even told each other how we felt I was crazy about him. I had a boyfriend and I still couldn't get over him. So pretty much, I liked the guy so much. I don't want to say love because I'm never too sure but he's the guy I've felt most for.
Well one night we ended up making out.
We were cool after that. I found out he also liked another girl but that didn't really bother me too much because he knew I liked someone else also. I thought about it a lot though because I liked him so much and he started texting her like he texted me.
Well then it started going back to normal again with us. We'd talk on the phone all night and text but he told me he liked me but only as a close friend. I was confused but I went with it.

He eventually would bring up sex and stuff. He knows I don't want it. He always knew about my problems with guys because I told him about what guys have done and all that. Anyway, he would eventually start texting dirty to me and stuff. Then it went back to I like you. Actually he was telling me he loved me and wished he was with me and that I was older. Not like that whole in love kinda thing. He said not like a girlfriend but he did love me and care about me.

Ok so I never understood how he felt. I just assumed he did like me but was confused, just didn't like me too much or maybe he was just messing with me. All I know is that he does not like me as much as I like him. I never told him how much I liked him though. You know, don't wanna weird him out.

Well I didn't talk to him all this week because he left. But he texted me last night and we were talking and stuff. It seemed totally fine and it was really sweet. We texted from like 9pm to 5am. Except I had fallen asleep on him but he texted me before class and after.

He texted me today around 5pm and we texted for a couple hours. It was all about sex this time. Well then later he texted me around 9 and it was the same. Some of it was nice and stuff but then it was like what he wanted to do with me and all that.
Then he called me so we talked on the phone for about half an hour. He tried starting with all that again but when he started like asking questions, most of my answers were, "I don't know" or "maybe". He told me he loved me though and I was like, "mhmm sure I believe it." Then he started going on about my trust issues. He was going on about I didn't trust me two last boyfriends. I mean I think I have reasons not to. One almost raped me and the other cheated. So he went on about how annoying it was when all I said was "I don't know" and "maybe".
Well then he called me a tease. Jokingly, he's brought it up before. He says I am because I only let him make out with me and only have a taste of me and not the whole thing. Anyway, he called me a jerk. I don't know why and he started talking about how he was a player. I agreed but then he was like, "Yeah I break your heart?" I said, "mhmm" I was kinda crying when he was saying this stuff. He couldn't hear it though, thank God. But he was talking about how I'm one of the few girls he's been talking to, ect. He told me I was the 2nd girl he's ever made out with though. I already knew that but still. This stuff kinda hurt because he kept saying he wanted to ask me out when he got back in May. I was like, "Yeah..because that would soo work. Only like 3 months together." He said, "Yeah but you're graduating." I said, "Yeah, in like a year." He asked if I liked him and I said, "Idk" and if I wanted to talk to him. So eventually I got off the phone and he said, "Good night. I love you" Then I just said bye.
All those things he was saying. I don't understand and he's being confusing. I don't even know if he cares or if he just wants sex out of me.
So he texted me after that saying, "I'm so done with you." I said, "I don't even know wth I did" He said, "Your so ugghh anyway, I'm done talking to you." I said, "All you want is sex and I actually kinda liked you. But do whatever you want." He said, "Yeah I know all I want is sex its so wrong so I will get it right." I said, "Just don't do that to me again." He said, "Do what?" I said, "Make me that upset." Then he sent this long message saying, "I'm sorry this is 100% my fault. I feel so ashamed about what I have done with you and to you and all those bad things I said. I'm asking God and you to forgive me and I will never do this to you again. I am sorry I hope I didn't hurt you."

So this was really long and I'm sorry but I am so confused and hurt. I might be kinda pathetic for crying for so long but yeah. I still like him so much but what should I do? I don't want to lose him but I'm afraid he really didn't care about me like that. Thank you sooo much

Q: Kay so I'm still in high school, there's this girl that my friend likes alot. But the girl asked me to star texting her so I did I haven't met her in person yet but I think I already like her, I know weird huh? But I dunno what to tell my buddy cause I gave him a hard to for going out with her when our friend liked the girl as well, what should I do? As well I'd like to know how should I start a conversation with her that won't bore her or be weirded out? Thanks for help!

Q: I'm a senior in high school now, male, I used to be grounded since about 7th grade because of C grades, last year I had a sudden realization that with me being grounded all the time I'm missing out on so much in high school and life in general. So when I got ungrounded last year half way through I said I was sick of being grounded all the time, so when the next quarter started a teacher put in the wrong grade so right off the bat I was failing already a class, when my mom looked up my grades she flipped out big time, she kept telling me to give her my phone because for some reason she assumed I was "hiding something from her" so I threatened to kill myself so I wouldn't have to deal with being grounded again, she then said I dare you thinking I wouldn't, so I grabbed a razor and slit my arm pretty bad it needed 22 stitches, now after awhile we calmed stuff down about grades (present), but lately I've been way depressed and have been having those thoughts again and I don't know what to tell people why I'm depressed or what's going on only 3 of my closest friends know the real story, should I let my other close friends know as well because they keep asking and how should I do it? What should I do in general to help the way I feel? I haven't always been depressed like this it all started because of the death of someone close along with my ex girlfriend dumping me with a text for my friend. I don't know what to do any more

Q: I saw a picture of Miley Cyrus with the word "LOVE" on her ear. I think it was her right ear and it was in black letters. I think it sounds like a really cool idea for a tattoo but I kind of want to know if this celebrity did it first, you know? Did she or was it a photoshopped thing?

Q: I am a 22-year-old female college senior and the "black sheep" of my family. I do not believe my family has a good reason to label me the "bad" daughter when I have never done anything my 25-year-old sister (now a stay-at-home mom) has not done before me. My heart is broken over this. I try and try to do well in life, but somehow nothing I do is ever good enough. I make A's and B's in school and am more financially responsible than most people my age. I don't do drugs, and I drink but I don't get drunk. I'm tired of trying to please them when nothing I try is or will ever be good enough to do so. I don't know if I can ever let go of my bitterness toward my family for treating me this way. If it's relevant, I'm the youngest, which I think may have something to do with it. I appreciate any advice you have to offer on the subject. Thanks

Q: Hey. So I'm an 18 year old girl and I have never been in a relationship before. I really don't give care about that, It will happen when it wants to. But I'm worried about what may happen when I do finally get a boyfriend. I hate having people touch me. I can't wait for hugs to be over most of the time and I enjoy my personal space. Im not a bitch if your wondering, Im actually nice and friendly in a very shy way, it's just the space thing. What I'm wondering is, do you think that I will still be like that if I'm with a guy I really like? or do you think my space issues mixed with my horrible shyness can/will effect my relationships? I'm leaning towards I won't give a shit anymore... but still I tend to notice when people sit too close to me or I freak mentally when hugs last way too long. Ughhh :/ Help?

Q: This guy and I have been going out for four months now. Before we were together I was a virgin, and i planned to stay that way until marriage. He forced me into having sex with him. I kept telling him no but he kept on doing things to turn me on. At times I would try to push him off and he would pretend to stop and then start back up again. I was so stupid not to walk away, I should have. I should have broken up with him,and the thing is I have tried many times. I prayed about it for help and i kept firm, but the thing is he won't give up on me (or lets say let me). I guess he says I'm his first real girlfriend because his past relationships were all just hit and quit. He never took any of the girls seriously. I feel that he is too controlling. I understand the situation I'm in, but I just want to get out of it. I told him before that what he did was wrong and he knew it was true and apologized and tried to show it, but it didn't last too long because each time he forced me. I could even run at times trying to get away, but he would chase me. And then everytime he would pull my pants down, i would pull them back up. Its just too much for me. I feel that he just wants me for sex..and that is the way it is. I told him this before but like anyone like him they will deny. I want out, but at the same time i'm scared..i'm not sure why...and then i feel like i love him..but then i feel like I don't...i just want my normal life back....and all the things he does for me like buying me three phones when mine broke or got stolen....or him being faithful to me and just being so clingy...its just too much for me...or walking over to my house everyday just to hang out (not do anything)....It just feels like he is doing it for something in return...i'm so sick of it...I know this is an unhealthy relationship...I just need to be strong and get out of it as soon as possible because he will keep on forcing me to do things I don't want to...and thats going to be unhappy for me....I just need some advice on how to get out...I do want to but i'm not sure what is holding me back....thank you for your advice

Q: Guys are nice to me And if I ask them out they say sorry. That is about it. What should I do to make guys like me and not say that I am stupid? I am a 13 year old female. I am the onlyone in my grade that hasn't ever had a boyfriend.

Q: ok i have a crush on this guy at school and i realy like him but im not sure if he likes me, he often smiles at me randomly if i pass him in the passages on my way to class and if i walk past him at break my friends say he looks at me with a smile and not a look like ow its her but more like his face brightins up, im not the kind of girl wich all the guyz have a crush on and some people say he is always friendly with the girls but some say they think he likes me.if he sometimes walks past me he will start a convosation, come to think of it 9 out of 10 times he ussualy start talking to or he give a smile and softly starts to laugh,the problem is im not sure if he likes me or if he realy likes me or if he is just being friendly again,i realy like him please help.
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Q: i found this guy on facebook. he's so cute and i want to meet him really bad. we have like 10 mutual friends. would it be weird if i friend requested him and then started talking to him? and like what would i say? not to sound conceited but i'm a pretty girl. so what would is ay? i don't want to sound desperate and/or creepy. thankyouu.

Q: Ok, this may sound strange, even cliche, but lately I've been getting let down, and right now I'm all out depressed. For no reason! I don't understand! The slightest thing can tick me off, and it's not even something I'd usually get upset over. My mother says it's just "teenage hormones" but I highly, highly doubt that. I'm debating going to the doctors on my own, and asking about some medication I could be put on. It'd be great to not feel this way anymore. I really hate it, and it's wrecking my relationship and friendships. Please help! Thanks!

Q: 16/f
My bf is so asking for it,I don't know what to do...Every time we're on a date we both get turned on like crazy and it's been like this for a while.We want to have sex soon and it's gonna be my first time,but I'm a bit scared.I told him that and he said he'll be gentle and careful with me...I really love this guy but I'm quite insecure and indecisive about this.Should I have sex with him if I feel like it?I know only I can decide when's the right time for me to do it.Still there are so many dilemmas,like,what if the condom breaks? that causes insecurity...what should I do? I really want him and can't hold back anymore.

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