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Friend to Boyfriend
oh, here comes an original question :)
just as a note, i've never had a boyfriend (im 15...dont make fun...)
so...i have this friend...his name is "chris".
I have known chris since...maybe 3rd grade? and since the middle of 8th grade to now (very close to the end of freshman year) we have become really good friends. the thing is, and not to sound conceited or anything, but he is IN LOVE with me. no joke. he has asked me out by himself, he asked me to homecoming, he has had his and my friends ask me out, and so on. and whenever he sees me he always talks to me and hes just so cute.
me and chris get SO much crap about how we should go out...its happened all freshman year. we get it from EVERYONE. ive never really considered it...until now. and it seems like i cant stop thinking about him, and i always want to be around him...which sounds SO pathetic, i know, haha.
the thing is, i dont know if id want to go out with him. i mean, i want to SO BAD, but i feel like i shouldnt...
ive been thinking of his pros/cons...
pros:
-he is seriously a sweetheart. he always has been
-hes a REALLY good kid. doesnt drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. hes good at school, too.
-he really cares about me, hes told me many times
-hes incredibly protective, especially of me
-as i said before, he REALLY likes me
-my mom absolutely loves him. he came over my house once with a mutual friend of ours, and she loved him. my dad likes him too, as much as a 15 year old girls father could like a teenage boy.
-we know each other really really well
-he. is. gorgeous. especially his eyes :)
cons:
-some of my friends (who arent my friends. excuse my language, but the ones who dont like them are total bitches, not just to chris, but to everyone) dont like him, and call him annoying
-he has braces. nuff said...would that hurt to kiss him? just wondering
-he doesnt seem like the boyfriend type...like he just gets so nervous around me and he gets really joke-y and stuff... i cant describe it, he just doesnt seem like the boyfriend type. but then again, i wouldnt know. (fyi, hes never had a girlfriend)
-i WOULD NOT want to give ALL of those people who give us crap about going out the satisfaction that i finally went out with him. i wouldnt want them to be all smug and be like "i TOLLDDDD you".
-i'd be afraid of what people would think...and i KNOW i shouldnt care, but come on, EVERYONE is at least a little self-conscious. its unavoidable. its annoying as hell and i wish i could do something about it
could someone PLEASE help me? this has been bothering me for a long time now...i just want to make my mind up about him.
thank you SO MUCH
PS. sorry for the length!!
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Alright.
So you have a bunch of positive points to dating this kid, pretty much all of which are stated as reasons why you personally find him datable and desirable.
And a bunch of cons which are, to a one, reasons why dating him might cause wierdness outside the relationship. None of them were "he does this" or "he does that" but "my friends might be smug for a while"
Don't be an idiot. Your friends and not-friends will do what they do. Would you rather be called an idiot for not dating the guy, or be called an idiot for waiting to date him?
Personally, I'll pick the one that has me dating someone I liked any day of the week.
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Okay I personally think you to would have a good relationship. Because you both like eachothe and you have that wonderful friendship on top of it. Don't worry about what everyone else says. It's not their relationship, and they aren't you. And no it wouldn't hurt to kiss him with braces.
You need to do what you think is right, and if you really like him, it wounldn't reall be any different then how you to are now. Except you'd have that official title. So i think you should go for it. And tell him you really like him. Hoped I helped. Tell me what happens ;)
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In my opinion, your pros outweigh your cons, but you have to make this decision. First, and I can't stress this enough, don't worry about what everyone else thinks or says. I know you get self-conscious and worry, but if you don't do something just because you're afraid of what other people will think, then you could miss out on a great thing and seriously regret it later. Second, neither of you have dated anyone, so it's going to be a little awkward. He doesn't seem like the boyfriend type because he has no experience in that. It'll take time, but eventually you'll both be really comfortable together and it won't seem as weird.
In the end, only you can make this decision. Think about the pros and cons and really think about what you really want to do. If you don't want to be with him, that's fine, but please don't base your decision on what other people think.
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