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17/f
So many people say I look 12 to 14 years old. I'd really like to look more my age but I don't want to over do it.
(I'm sorry, I have no photos.)
I have chin-length brown hair and bangs. My eyes are dark brown. And my measurements are 36-27-34. Bra size is 36D.
I'm not quite sure what kind of shirts I should be looking for. I haven't bought anything in a while. I mostly have tank tops that I don't wear outside. They show a bit too much. I often wear t-shirts (fitting or large) when I go out. If you can suggest anything, links please.
Also, I don't really know all that much about make up. If I wear any at all, it's a little bit of eyeliner.
I've tried so many brands, but it always smudges. How can I prevent that?
And do I go for natural colors for eyeshadow? What about blush?
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Dress a little more your age and all will be well, most likely.
Make-up can make you look extremely childish if you don't know how to apply it properly. If you're clueless, chances are you'll end up looking like a NYC hooker on a friday night or a 3 year old who found mommy's make-up while she was sleeping.
I don't wear any make-up and I look my age, to the best of my knowledge. My mother will wear make-up and look trampy. My older sister wears make-up to look younger. My younger sister wears make-up to look older. Make-up is to create an illusion of something you simply aren't. Many men really despise the fact that their girlfriends wear make-up anyway. A lot of men feel deceived even.
T-shirt are fairly childish in all aspects. This means all t-shirts, all the time. Sure, you could wear a t-shirt around the house but in public it gives the illusion that you're so childish that you don't know how to dress any other way but "comfortable and sloppy."
Jeans and t-shirt is fairly slack and not lady-like or professional. You're at a stage where you're more than a 10 year old but less than a working-class mom. This means you should look for things that are colorful in the right aspects. So, ditch the jeans and t-shirts. Look for things like:
Dresses, because you're a WOMAN:
http://images.smarter.com/blogs/Ellen%20Tracy%20Crinkled%20Silk%20Dress.jpg
http://www.omiru.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/calvin-klein-voile-party-dress_042808.jpg
http://z.about.com/d/teenfashion/1/7/P/4/-/-/jc_scoopneck.jpg
http://slimages.macys.com/is/image/MCY/products/4/optimized/451894_fpx.tif?bgc=255,255,255&wid=327&qlt=90,0&layer=comp&op_sharpen=0&resMode=bicub&op_usm=0.7,1.0,0.5,0&fmt=jpeg
http://www.storeappeal.com/images/Ditsy%20Floral%20Sundress.jpg
http://www.seenonstyle.com/img/product/cats/00024994-639232.jpg
http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b16/eribunk/redwhtdress.jpg
Try for a little brighter, playful colors rather than dark or "earthy" tones, as they tend to age you somewhat (although, the aging is more professional so if you're looking for a good job then go for those types of dresses).
But AVOID these types of dresses (seriously, these are for LITTLE girls) even though they may seem to be "cute" -- they are NOT the type of "cute" you want to be!:
http://z.about.com/d/teenfashion/1/0/p/4/-/-/Heart_Jumper_Dress.jpg
http://z.about.com/d/teenfashion/1/0/q/4/-/-/Heather_dress.jpg
http://z.about.com/d/teenfashion/1/7/Q/4/-/-/jc_smockedtunic.jpg
http://store.saltychix.com/catalog/savannah-spaghetti-strap-dr.jpg
Also AVOID very silly things like this:
http://z.about.com/d/teenfashion/1/0/u/4/-/-/Taylor_Jumper.jpg
AVOID shirts that have sayings on them--or something that is "cute and funny", like:
http://z.about.com/d/teenfashion/1/0/v/4/-/-/Unicorn_onthe_Cob.jpg
Sure it's cute, but you're not 5 anymore. Think back to elementary school when everybody wore characters on their shirts. You're not into the power rangers any more. Sayings and cute little drawings are OUT.
Not-too-long but not-too-short skirts!--long makes you look short while too short makes you look like like you're selling your body. Basically, you're looking for just-above-the-knee OR touching-the-knee type of skirts. Try skirts like these:
http://www.theage.com.au/ffximage/2006/08/05/knSKIRTS_narrowweb__300x471,0.jpg
http://www.eco-local.org/img-0000052317.jpg
http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b16/eribunk/v2951-2.jpg
http://www.annebocciboutique.com/0_0_0_0_150_237_csupload_43430.jpg
http://homepage.mac.com/maritsurimoto/.Pictures/skirt-02.jpg
http://www.funonthenet.in/images/stories/forwards/business%20world/business-dress-7.jpg
Dress pants and dress khakis the way. These can be more stylish with patterns, variations of colors, and new cuts. They can help you look super classy if you dress appropriately:
http://www.catwalkqueen.tv/nojeans1.jpg
http://grooven.net/modules/osC/images/women_hemp_loose_fit_pant_plum.JPG
http://www.naturalcollection.com/images/products302/s302p17611-1.jpg
http://slimages.macys.com/is/image/MCY/products/9/optimized/434789_fpx.tif?bgc=255,255,255&wid=327&qlt=90,0&layer=comp&op_sharpen=0&resMode=bicub&op_usm=0.7,1.0,0.5,0&fmt=jpeg
http://www.getprice.com.au/images/uploadimg/374/250__1_24501.jpg
Buy your clothes to fit you right. This means that they should NOT be tight or "form fitting" but have a little bit of slack for daily movements. This also means that they shouldn't be oversized or baggy to where your shape is lost.
Don't use plastic, colorful, and shiny jewelry. Just don't. You look like you're a little girl who bought some things from the $.50 machines because your mother had to stop you from taking her nice pearl necklace all of the time.
Style your hair. Curl your bangs a little. Part your hair to the side more than in the middle. Flip the ends in or out for a little sass. Little girls don't do anything with their hair--you're not a little girl anymore.
Lastly, embrace what age you look because when you're older you wish you have it then. You have the body of a woman and you should dress that way. A good wardrobe costs money, too, so be prepared for it to take a decent amount of time to get some of the best outfits you'll ever have.
I hope you find what you're looking for. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I know that it's behavioral as I recently got a female kitten and he started doing this shortly after. He's been doing this for 6 months now with no end in sight. Here's what I've done to try to correct the issue so far. The cat has a clean bill of health. He has his own kitty litter and food space. I clean kitty litter daily and use a non-scented brand. Used just about every type of over-the-counter medicine to improve disposition. Use sprays that discourage cat from pooping in that place again. Show plenty of attention to him so he doesn't get jealous. Any other advice of what I should do would be much appreciated. (link)
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Some cats are VERY particular about where they poop and if another cat has used that area before them. This being said, it's usually suggested to have AT LEAST FOUR litter boxes for two cats.
You use the same litter in each of the FOUR litter boxes, but you always "scoop" the urine and poop out as frequently as you can, especially after the young kitten since the older one is having problems with it.
If four doesn't do the trick then you may have to resort to drastic measures--at least one litter box per room in the house (except your kitchen, of course). Some cats will find that more appropriate, but it takes a lot more maintenance since you have to scoop frequently, again especially after the kitten.
Change each litter box every three days. That way the scents won't build up so much but there will be enough scent for them to become accustomed to each other.
Next, if the cat STILL isn't taking a liking to the litter box situation, you may need to have two per each room the cats frequent. This means that if they are rarely in the bathroom then just keep one in there--but if they're usually hanging out in the living room then place TWO in there. If you choose to have two cat litter boxes per room then put them on opposite sides of the room. Still scoop frequently and change the litter every three days or so.
If the cat poops outside of the litter box then remove the poop and place it in a litter box. This puts his scent there so he knows it's a "safe" area that is "his". THEN, go back to the spot he had pooped on and clean it very, very well (method below).
The cat didn't have problems before so go back to the original litter he was used to. The problem is NOT the litter, but the scent of the new cat urinating and defecating in "HIS" litter areas.
Make sure the clean the areas he's pooped/peed on the floor very well with cleaner specially designed for animal urine and scents. We have a really great brand here at home that we've purchased at Wal-mart, it's Out! Stain and odor remover (first one):
http://www.outinternational.com/productline/so_removers.html
After you treat the area with that product (let it dry, give it time) you may have to put a solution of vinegar and water (put 3 cups of water to 1 cup of vinegar) and rinse the area well and blot up as much as possible after you've cleaned the areas. If you, by chance, have a carpet shampooer then put the 3 cups water to 1 cup vinegar in it and "shampoo" that area of the rug with it.
Using sprays that would cause him to be unhappy about a certain area is something you definately should not be doing right now. Do as I've listed and give him time. If he comes around and starts using the litter area then GOOD! Leave the large amount of litter boxes around the house and after a few months and you can start to remove one at a time (1 each month).
Give your cat plenty of time before getting rid of any of them or doing anything drastic like that. He's scared that another cat is taking over his territory. Sometimes all it takes is plenty of opportunities to potty in the RIGHT areas :)
I hope all goes well with your kitties and they get along well enough that this issue stops. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. ALL of the litter boxes that you end up placing out should be well away from all food and water sources that the cats use or may use. We don't like to poop were we eat and neither do our pets!
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do you personally think its slutty for a girl (age 17 if it matters) to have sex with a guy she is not in a relationship with? ...can you go too far on the first hookup? (link)
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It can definately be slutty, as it fairly demeaning of yourself. The only issue is that now it seems to be popular, or a trend to an extent.
The truth is, when you engage in a friends with benefits "relationship" you never do learn how to communicate effectively for a true relationship. This is why a lot of men and women who use to be in that sort of "relationship" always end up in the same place, without a personal attachment to their sexual partner.
A person that engages in those types of relationships tends to already have low self esteem and a low self concept of themselves. They are seeking what they feel is the only "love" they are able to get because they are just so unworthy of other types of care. These relationships tend to bring the person down further, to where they will circle the same path over and over in life. They tend to be the ones that never marry, or do not marry until very, very late in life because it takes them that long to figure out how to un-do the bad things they had taught themselves in poor relationships before.
Being friends with benefits has the drawback that one side usually ends up developing feelings for the other side. Typically the female of this sort of situation ends up doing this. Young guys, who tend to be driven by their hormones, key in on this and take it for what it's worth--just the sex. The young men tend to lead the women through an ordeal of issues, having her believe that some day she'll magically be "the one" he was looking for. In reality, he doesn't want the girl or he would seek her out as a life-long partner.
You see, if you are only having sex then the other person simply does not see you as boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner type for them. To them, you are lower than the boyfriend/girlfriend they have or may have had (or will have). A lot of people tend to be sucked in by this, hanging on for that one day the person says, "You know, I kept saying that I just needed some more time before hopping in a real relationship, well...it's time for us..." That simply does not happen. Ever. If it does, it burns out very, very quickly because the entire basis of it is sexual.
Yes, this relationship is hurting you as a person. Being young, you probably won't see the reality of what has happened to yourself until you're years down the road. I know I didn't see what was going on when I was having sex with someone that I knew wasn't right.
For the last note, if you question an activity as being "slutty" then it is, nine times out of ten, a slutty behavior. If you have to question it, then there's a reason why you feel that way. Sometimes your conscious is screaming at you even when you don't want to listen. Most people who ask questions like this to a pool of people they feel do the same thing are simply looking for psychological relief for their guilt of being perceived as a slut for the bad activities they do. (Associates degree in psychology taught me this.)
For going "too far" on a "hook-up"--yes. Sex can leave deep emotional scars. Any type of sex. If you're not physically, mentally, and emotionally prepared for the worst case possible then you're risking a lot. The situation makes a person very vulnerable to a large number of things--pregnancies, STDs, "rape", physical abuse, etc.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. You should always care what other people think in situations like this. If you are being seen as a slut then why continue the behavior? That stigma will follow you through life and people will think less of you because of one past mistake that you did not alter in time. You're simply not taken seriously and you're a horrible role model. To say you shouldn't care what other people think is very, very immature--obviously, people who think this have yet to be in "real world" of life.
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i dont even want to talk about this anymore, im handeling it. theres too much to be described here. my dad is an officer and i told him and he is taking care of it or whatever. and idk who u are, and youre just randomly allowed to look at any question you want to because you're a paid user, so are you certified or something? (link)
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Sure, don't talk about it anymore. Obviously what's done is done.
I am a PAID user. That means I paid real MONEY to get special features. One of the special features if that I can look through all of your past questions you've asked. (For note, any authority can do this as well and I'm positive that DangerNerd would happily link any question that would be asked for to authorities at any time. So, if your past questions are an indication of a mis-truth then be prepared for it to be uncovered. Oh, and since DangerNerd owns the site, surely he has a copy of the questions.)
It costs $10 for an entire year of paid-access on Advicenators. As far as membership is, $10/year is VERY cheap.
Under "Miscellaneous" on the left side bar (
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15 / F
With the first black president in office and all this stuff going on, my family started talking about this date.
My family has a very strong spiritual background as Christians, but mine isn't as strong. I have accepted the Lord as my savior, been baptised, yadda yadda, but still. I have doubts about religion. What if it all really DID just start out from dust and particles and stuff?
I'm almost sixteen and I'm worried that IF anything significant should happen on that date, I won't be ready. When the signs show, I'm scared that everyone will be raptured up to heaven and I'll be left behind :[
I lie, I lust, I *ahem* pleasure myself. And I feel TERRIBLE for it. I don't read any of the books on young girls and God that I get for Christmas. They all seem kinda boring. But I don't have the time to read the bible cover to cover, even though God doesn't care. He wants us to MAKE time for him!
I just don't know where to start. HELP! (link)
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We aren't God and that's the first thing we should realize. We don't know when the end of the world is coming. We don't when the things in the Bible are to come. We can only guess based on the clues around us.
That being said, December 21, 2012 might be a regular day--or not. We don't know for sure. Tomorrow might not be a regular day. A year from now could be the end for this world. We really don't know.
God knows we sin. We sin in a lot of things we do, even. He is well aware that we aren't perfect--and we shouldn't expect ourselves to be perfect. He is the only perfect being.
This being said, that's why we have prayer. That's why we can drop to our knees and say, "God, I am SO sorry I did that! I wasn't thinking. I wasn't serving You. Please, forgive me for that sin! I'll do better."
Cut down on your lying. Pray for forgiveness. Ask God for help to stop lying. Try your hardest to stop. Prove to him that you're improving and I'm sure He'll make that easier for you.
Do that with your daily life. Go through your day and notice your sins. Most people simply don't realize how many times they sin each and every day. Most people don't realize how much they need God's forgiveness.
God knows we're beings of pleasure. Try to serve Him though. Try to stop doing the daily sins you do. Try to cut them out. When you're tempted, pray. When you're angry, stop and pray. When you're disbelieving the Bible and God so much--pray. Pray for your soul, your mind, your body, more time, and others. If you keep questioning God, then pray for enlightenment. God doesn't grant everything we want, obviously, because He knows best and we simply don't--so don't expect all to be better after you pray, but know that He listened.
You don't have to read the Bible cover-to-cover all at once. You could read a couple of pages each night before bedtime. Make 15 minutes to read a couple of pages. What is 15 minutes, right? Even if that is too much to ask, then read 15 minutes out of the Bible once a week--or however often you can manage. If you set down a certain time/date to do this then it is easier to stick to it.
Read the Bible for knowledge. Don't read it JUST to please God--read it so you know what has happened and what is to come. Read it for information.
Books about young girls and God are, really, whatever. Some of those books have underlying information that is NOT God-like or God-approved. Some of those books are absolutely useless to your soul. The Bible is the only book you should be upset about not reading through sometimes.
It's like church. Going to church isn't going to send you to Heaven. Going to a specific church usually isn't going to change whether or not you are going to Heaven. It's YOU. Not the church. Not reading books other than the Bible. Not wearing crosses all over yourself. It's just...YOU. You have the power of prayer. Use it.
Sit down and relax. Think through what you can change and start doing it slowly. Pray as much as you can. Ask God for strength, wisdom, and everything you feel you're lacking. Try your hardest to become the person you, obviously, want to be.
I hope you find the truth you're looking for soon. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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i really want to have sex with my boyfriend of a year....i absolutely love him but if i got pregnant it would be the end of the world...im so afraid of getting pregnant i dont think i ever wanna have sex until im married =/
what should i do? (link)
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The statistics you get on contraceptive methods are for PERFECT usage. PERFECT is something we are not so you should always be aware of the TYPICAL percentage of effectiveness:
Hormonal birth control pills are only 92% effective with typical usage.
Condoms are only 84% effective with typical usage.
The "pull-out" method is somewhere between 25% - 70% effective, typically.
Spermicidal lube CAN increase a condom's effectiveness UP TO 5%.
The "morning-after" pill is actually only about 70% effective on average.
None of them protect against STDs or STIs. None. Virgins can have STDs and not know it--actually, A LOT of virgins have STDs and don't know about it. I can prove this.
Even if you use ALL of the above methods, you can still wind up pregnant. I'm serious. Just because you used "protection" doesn't mean you're protected. Although doubling up on protection is good (and, NO, I don't mean putting two condoms on--that is a BIG no-no) it doesn't mean it'll be impossible to become pregnant. Many women wind up pregnant each year after they've used hormonal birth control pills and a condom with spermicidal lubrication on it. Some of those women even had partners who "pulled-out" while he was ejaculating into the condom, just as an added precaution.
The "morning-after" pill isn't all it's cracked up to be. It doesn't mean you can go around, having sex with whoever, whenever, and expect to be covered in the protection department. There is a very large percentage of women who end up pregnant even after using the "morning-after" pill. For another note, the "morning-after" pill is actually an extremely early abortion. If you're against abortion, you should be against this pill. If you don't understand what I mean, inbox me and I'll further explain.
For another note, you can get pregnant if you're on your period. You can get pregnant right after your period. You can get pregnant right before your period. You can get pregnant at any time of your cycle. Heck, you can even get pregnant if he does not ejaculate into you!
A baby might not be the only thing you should worry about. Sex comes with a lot of responsiblity, adult-decision-making, and leaves you open to very large emotional scars--sometimes more than you are able to get over.
Next, many women never orgasm or actually enjoy sexual activity. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be. Your friends? They, most likely, lie about how "awesome" and "mind-blowing" their sex is.
Because of this, many unmarried sexual partners end up with sexual problems. One person might be into some kink the other one finds absolutely disgusting. One person may want sex more or less often than the other one. Not being able to please a woman is one of the greatest fears of men--if you're unmarried it leaves the door open for them to say, "Hey, you should find someone who can please you!" Someone may want more that someone cannot give. Someone may become obsessed and seek it more and more when the other person is bored with the same old thing. Someone could be so dissatisfied that they leave the relationship to look for "better" sex.
If you don't believe me about the:
"Someone may become obsessed and seek it more and more when the other person is bored with the same old thing."
I can prove it. There is an Advicenator question that I answered at one time--about a girl who is going to cheat on a guy because she's bored with sex. Now, she says she LOVES him oh-so-much and doesn't want to hurt him so she's going to keep it secret--but she "NEEDS" to have sex with someone else. Hmm...doesn't sound to happily-ever-after, does it?
Lastly, prepare yourself for the worst in case you're faced with it. Here are some links. Even if it seems stupid to read and look through these now, you may end up in a situation where you'll be thankful you did...
Read through my answer here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548961
Virginity...is it worthwhile?:
http://www.tagnet.org/adventist.fm/youth/virgin.htm
Is ANY sex safe sex?:
http://www.prolife.com/LICKONA.htm
Here is a link about pregnancy costs to know about:
http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php
Here is a link that has some really freaky STD facts:
http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm
Here is a link to photos of STDs you should research so you're aware of what they look like on the body:
http://www.healthac.org/images.html
My answer, here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543907
If you need anything above elaborated on, please jot me an inbox question. I have more to say about each and every one of these but I figured you wanted a quick overview. I only speak the truth to you because I once was in your position.
I hope you make the right decision for you.
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hes had sex before with a 15 yr old girl, he kept asking me questions about sex, my vagina was getting hairy anyway and i had never really shaved it and i didnt want to do anything stupid to it. He took me to this place where i had no idea where i was, i was at my horse barn and we were to go to taco bell and home, he took me to this lake at a parking lot and it was completely dark. He pulled down his pants eventually, and i was looking away asking him to stop, and i dont want this. Techincally he kidnapped me. I was scared. He has been involved many times before too, and he scares me...! He's 18, he should know not to mess with 15 year old gurls like he has before, i want to put an end to him so he stops hurting other victims. (link)
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This makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
If he asked you about your vagina and you weren't interested--WHY did you engage in such conversation? And WHY did your question say that you wanted to remove the hair so that your friend (that you admit is this same guy) could play with you since he liked hairless vaginal areas. Sounds like somebody is playing an innocent role here when she may have pursued a sexual relationship at some point.
He took you to his place...but, uh, you didn't know where he lived? You met the guy online, arranged a meet-up which your mother approved of, and you had NO CLUE where the guy lived? And then...uh...he lived at your horse barn? Please, if you want to give me information, rephrase this because it's very confusing.
You WILLINGLY went with him...AND your mother approved! You are of age (13+) to decide who you can, legally, choose to go places with. You didn't feel he was a threat at all. He did not kidnap you, please stop saying he "technically kidnapped" you. He didn't, plain and simple. If you told that to a lawyer, he'd throw it away as useless information. You felt comfortable enough to get in a vehicle with him and trust him enough to drive you wherever.
...you're telling me that he just randomly pulled his pants down? He didn't SAY anything sexual before it. You didn't SAY anything sexual before it. You two are just sitting in a parking lot and he was just like BAM! PENIS!..right? Yeah, right. That NEVER happens. He would have to be retarded to keep his pants down if you freaked out like that and you two hadn't had any sexual talk before he pulled his pants down. If you want to make the story believable, throw in that he had been drinking so it makes more sense as to why he wasn't that brilliant when he randomly exposed himself and you started screaming for him to stop.
Who cares if he's had sex with a 15 year old before? Do you realize that just saying that a couple of times makes you sound like a very jealous girl who is trying to stab a guy in the heart because he went out with another girl or something? Plus, you couldn't do a thing even if you knew for a fact he had sex with a 15 year old girl unless the girl was you. Seriously, that "information" is also completely useless unless someone could PROVE he did have sex with her and he wasn't just messing with your head or something when he told you. I mean, heck, I can claim that YOU had sex with a 2 year old but that means absolutely nothing unless I can somehow prove that...see what I'm saying?
Look, your story doesn't read right at all. I'm sorry if you were touched inappropriately but it really sounds like you're trying to get some attention and make a guy's life a living nightmare while you're at it. If you're serious, then feel free to give me information. If you're just after a little bit of attention then, please, stop before things get way out of hand. You may have regretted some things you've said to him or done with him but please don't regret making his life horrible because of this.
Like I said, it's really okay if you started to let him touch you or something and you feel bad, guilty, or upset now. A lot of girls do that sort of thing. You're young. Your hormones can get the best of you. Your body can act before you can think things through. It happens. Please, think this through before you decide to do anything drastic, that's all.
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hey
i work at mcdonalds (have been for ages..my coworkers are my best friends), and i like my manager.. i am 16 and a half and he just turned 20 which is okay, and hes not store manager or anything.. he always makes fun of me as a joke because im really clumsy and trip over alot, and he tells people i laugh alot and get embarrased easily. we were messaging each other last week and he asked me what qualities i liked in a guy and i told him, and then he replied saying "It sounds like youre trying to drop a hint..I can get fired for fraternising with crew" and i replied saying "Ha dont flatter yourself :)" and then he replied saying "I never do, but is it just coincidence that i loosely fit what you just described?" and i said: "I guess it is a coincidence because i dont know much about you" then he said "Well i say that rules are there to be broken, you just cant get caught" and i said "Yeah true"
does that mean that he rejected me in a nice way..?
at work he acts the same as before but he always puts me on the position i like to do most and he kept looking at me and staring.
i texted him on new years saying "best wishes for 2009" but he didnt reply, and he didnt reply to the message i sent asking him how long he will be staying as manager for.
does he like me ?
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Please re-read these two lines and I think you'll understand more clearly what he meant.
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...what qualities i liked in a guy and i told him, and then he replied saying "It sounds like youre trying to drop a hint..I can get fired for fraternising with crew"
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"Well i say that rules are there to be broken, you just cant get caught"
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Yes, he is interested, but he wants things to be secretive if things DO blossom or he may end up being fired for seeing you and you being an employee.
What he is talking about is:
The rule is that he cannot date members of the McDonalds crew that you belong to.
He then says, flirtatiously, that rules are only there to be broken really...as long as the people breaking the rules aren't caught.
So, you didn't answer so well when you said, "Yeah, true." He was probably look for something like, "I'm good at keeping secrets!" or something to the effect that you are also interested in seeing him outside of work.
Any way it is, if he is asking you what you like in a guy, that alone is a sign that he's interested. If the guy was not interested, he would not care what you liked in a partner. If, for some completely insane reason, he DID ask such a question while not being interested in you then it is highly doubtful he would put himself in the position of "the one" you described to him.
He didn't reject you at all.
He was looking for your acceptance to begin seeing each other even.
Decide what you want to do and let him know. He is probably insanely confused now--that or he feels like YOU rejected HIM.
I hope you figure out how things are going to go between you and your manager (maybe you could switch to another store location so you two could begin seeing each other and not have to have it be all secretive?). If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I've totally understood now however
can you take if like lets just say
you're going on holiday but your period is due then..so if you take the pill would it skip it for you until next month or something?
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Thank you very much for asking me a question! :)
Answer: Maybe.
It really depends when you start the pills and when your cycle is naturally due. During the first month -almost- all women end up spotting a little when their period would have been.
Some women will be on the pill for some months and "stack" the pills--meaning instead of taking the last week of hormone-free pills they go on and start a new pack. Many women believe that this will make their period not come but they usually end up spotting for a lengthy period of time. Doing this frequently can damage your body so it isn't recommended, really. The hormonal birth control pill wasn't designed to work that way. There IS a pill that makes your period come once every so many months so if that is something you're interested in then please get the pill that is designed to be used in that manner. (The depo shot also tends to make your periods non-existent for some time but has some nasty side effects that come along with the shot.)
You typically start hormonal birth control pills the sunday when you're having a period or the sunday directly after you've had your period. The period will then slow down to a halt in a couple of days--which might make it shorter than you usually experience. [SOME women may spot that entire month while their bodies try to adjust to the new hormone level.] Then, from that date, you should have about 28 days or so before you shed the lining of your uterus again. Like I said, many women spot a little during the first month of usage anyway and there really isn't any way to tell if you're going to or not.
So, in short, probably not but it COULD happen if it's timed just right. A good thing about the pill is that you always know when your period is going to come weeks in advance (months, really, if you want to sit down and calculate it up--which would really take little effort). This being said, if you know WHEN your period is going to come, you know WHEN it's "safe" to go on vacation and not have a visitor with you ;)
If I've made myself unclear please let me know and I'll try to rephrase the information. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I've heard that many vegetarians become sick after not eating meat for a long period of time.
What sicknesses do they get and what are the symptoms.?
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The reason vegetarians become ill is because their blood iron gets too low. Women are more prone to this as we bleed once a month and our bodies have to build up the blood again that we lose during that time. This lack of iron is typically referred to as anemia.
People tend to get their iron from meat sources, but there are plenty of green leafy vegetables (like spinach and broccoli) that are fairly good sources of iron. The problem is, sometimes vegetarians don't like those either or they simply don't eat enough of them to begin with.
Iron supplements are commonly used if one is to become a vegetarian. Some women have a natural low-iron level anyway--vegetarian or not--and have to take the iron supplement anyway. This is usually indicated by dark circles under the eyes and fatigue (those are the most common signs, mind you).
Other symptoms of anemia may include headache, fatigue, weakness, and difficulty concentrating. With severe anemia, other symptoms, such as shortness of breath and rapid heartbeat, may be experienced.
So, it isn't all vegetarians that become ill. My boyfriend has been a vegetarian his entire life (38 years) and he is very, very healthy. Both of his parents are vegetarians as well. I, personally, don't eat much meat at all and I haven't gotten ill yet (I do take iron supplements though).
So, it isn't the lack of meat itself that makes someone ill, but the lack of the nutrients they usually get from the meat. The nutrient can, obviously, be substituted so there really isn't a reason why someone should become ill simply because they don't eat meat.
So, simply put, a vegetarian will be just fine if he/she eats plenty of leafy green vegetables that are good sources of iron and/or takes an iron supplement regularly. With all of the growth hormones and antibiotics that are fed to farm animals now, vegetarianism is well worth an iron pill a day!
I apologize for such a late answer but I was running through old questions and found this not properly answered. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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if you are at a mall and you shoplift and the shop person catches you what happens?
do they call the police and send you to jail or just ban you from the shop or something??
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I work at Wal-Mart and there are actually procedures they go through to determine the punishment.
For one, if you're caught shoplifting--even something worth $1--they call the police. Always.
The police officer will handcuff you, even if you don't act like you're a threat and you are cooperative. Always.
Next, they take you into the back office and get your name and stuff. The police offer checks you to see if you have any other merchandise on you--this, I would assume, is him patting you down and stuff, but I'm not entirely sure if the process involves the removal of some clothing.
Then they add up the amount of merchandise you have taken that is on you. if the amount is over $50, they send you to jail. If the amount is less than $50, they ban you from the store for one year. If they catch you in the store within that one year, you go to jail for trespassing AND shoplifting.
If you go to jail, you'll have it put on your record. You'll be fingerprinted and the whole works.
For the record, Wal-mart is very slack about shoplifters. Most places will put you in jail regardless of how much you've stolen from the store and ban you for lifetime at the store. Seriously.
Just don't shoplift. It isn't worth it.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I am a bank teller and spend most of my day counting cash, or typing. I have found that my fingers are starting to hurt ALOT and lock up on me. I want to know what this could be a symptom of. My mother lacks calcium and I have calcium pills but I do not take them regularly. The pills I have are called Calcia. What do you recommend. Are there better pills for me? Or should I take other vitamin pills as well. i don't want to suffer from bone illness so young I am only 19. What should I do??? (P.S even typing right now is causing pain to my fingers) (link)
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You need to see a doctor.
Pain like this is associated with a lot of severe issues, including lupus and fibromyalgia. This is not a bone problem but a joint problem, most likely. Calcium pills are probably not enough to help this, especially if it's within the joint and not the bones themselves. Any way it is, you should already be taking a daily multivitamin for general health so you probably should pick something up anyway.
Please, see a doctor as soon as possible so they can check you out. The longer you wait, the more these symptoms could progress into something more severe--maybe to the point where you are unable to move your fingers properly for days.
Please.
I'll be praying for you. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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my boyfriend always calls me beautiful and gorgeous and i never know what to say back except "aw" or smile... what do guys like being called by girls? i asked him and he said he didn't know...but theres gotta be something.
were both 16 (link)
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Not very feminine things. I've seen some really, really strange "pet names" for boyfriends on here that would make men cringe at the thought of someone saying them in public. For the most part, men like the basics:
Honey/Hunny / Hon/Hun
Sweetie
Sweetheart
Baby (some men don't approve of this one)
Perfect (some men don't approve of this one)
Handsome
Darling
Beloved
Love
Sexy
Lover
Hot Stuff
Hunk
Stud
You may or may not be able to get away with the name:
Honey Bunny / Hunny Bunny
Cowboy
Angel
Prince
Chief
In general, guys do not like to resemble girls. Names like:
Pinky fluff
Cutie bootie
Wittle kittikins
Sweetikins bottoms
Cootchie Poo
Pookie Wookie
...and anything that is, for the most part, feminine sounding is NOT appreciated. Seriously, men aren't women and even if WE think it's cute--they think it's embarrassing when it's said in public and not in a playful, cute, naive-female way.
Personally, I would find something I could say often and enjoyed calling my partner and then ASK him if he approves of it to make things clear. That way if it's something he feels would be embarrassing then he can let you know and you can find something else to refer to him as.
Throw some ideas at him and see if anything sticks. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Is there a difference between
- THE pill
- The contraceptive pill
Regardless if they are the same or different - they both delay your period right?
I just need some information on their REAL purpose , and if there is a difference etc etc. (link)
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The pill is also called the contraceptive pill and the hormonal birth control pill. They're all the exact same thing (of course, there are different "brands" of the pill though).
The pill actually prevents your ovaries from releasing eggs by changing your hormonal balance. The body then thinks that it has already released an egg so it doesn't do it "again". Many people get confused with this and think it means that the pill "tricks" your body into thinking you are pregnant--that is NOT true. It "tricks" your body into believing that an egg was released and that's about it.
So, your body then doesn't release the egg that is to be fertilized by sperm. Then the issue is having your period--without the egg being released, how would your body know when to shed your uterine lining, right? (meaning: period)
If you take your hormonal birth control pill correctly--at the same time each and every day--then the hormone balance SHOULD be enough to prevent the egg from releasing. Now, there are always accidents where the body releases another anyway, the hormones are not enough for your particular body, or maybe you've been experiencing an abundance of stress and it's throw your body off. Any way it is, by taking the pill the goal is to keep your hormone levels fairly stable throughout the month. Instead of having a sudden drop (when the body naturally releases the egg) it gradually drops so that the body thinks the releasing of said egg has already been done.
Now, as fertile females we MUST have a period on time or it can hurt our bodies in the end. Simply put, our uterine lining is healthier by being shed regularly.
So, during the last week of your pills (typically they are colored something different from the other pills) your hormone level drops dramatically. This spurs your body into thinking, "OH! That egg we released early is ready to be expelled! It's been long enough now!"
Sometimes this also causes your ovaries to release an egg. Remember, the hormonal birth control pills is only actually about 92% effective, with TYPICAL usage, on preventing pregnancy. There are always "accidents" with the pill, you see. When this happens, the woman MAY experience "break-through-bleeding" during the time of her cycle where there shouldn't be a period.
Now, if you had your period--naturally, without the pill--every 20 days then the pill will make your time between that ~28 days or so then. If you were having your period every 45 days then it will make your period about ~28 days then. See, it just REGULATES the shedding of the uterine lining. It doesn't necessarily lengthen or shorten your period times.
Another reason that people take the pill is if they have a growing cyst on an ovary. When you allow the ovary to rest and stop having to release eggs for a short period of time the cyst will typically shrink.
Another reason why people take the pill is if they have horrible menstrual cramps. Cramps are caused by your body trying to release and expel your uterine lining. When you take the pill, your uterine lining becomes thinner from the hormones. This makes your body able to release it without less discomfort. Personally, it NEVER made my cramps just go away.
So, the pill is for preventing pregnancy, reduce cyst sizes, and lessening the severity of menstrual cramps. That's really about it.
There is also another pill, typically referred to as the "mini-pill" (or Progesterone-Only Oral Contraceptives). These pills are only about 82% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage. The only think they do is cause the mucus in your vaginal area, cervix, and uterus to become thicker. This slows the egg down from being released from the fallopian tubes on time and the sperm from being able to swim quickly enough (within their lifespan, as they do not live forever) to reach the released egg. Periods are not regulated with this and the egg is always naturally released.
The last pill that I'm aware of is the "morning-after" pill or the emergency contraceptive. This gives the body a very quick burst of high hormone levels, resulting in it being forced to expel the uterine lining. This is used for when a woman feels she may have been impregnated--pretty much it's an early, quick abortion because if the egg has been fertilized then it is discarded before it has a chance to grow properly. The effectiveness ranges from 70% - 85%, depending on many factors.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. Different "brands" of the pill work, pretty much, in the same way. Some of them use different hormones, some of them have a slightly longer time between periods, some of them drop the hormones more than others, etc. They all operate in, pretty much, the same way.
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I want to work in this clothing store.. but a few of the questions, I'm not sure how to answer.
Position: (Floor-sales person? ..what is the proper name? What are all of the positions in a clothes store? It's like a boutique.)
Date You Can Start: (How do I say whenever?)
Salary Desired: (What is reasonable?)
What do they mean by:
Subjects of Special Study/Research Work, Special Training, and Special Skills?
What are some "Subjects of Special Study/Research Work, Special Training, and Special Skills" that a would be useful in a store?
Help! Please! Thanks.
I'm 16 and female.
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WHOA! There are appropriate things to put on an application that will make you look, well...not so...young, naive, and desperate.
Position: Sales
(Available positions would probably be: Sales, Stock, Cashier, Manager, Assistant Manager, Maintenance. Then there would also be: Daytime Sales, Evening Sales, Morning Sales, etc etc if you have a preferred time. Don't be afraid to list one or two.)
Date you can start: Immediately
(Immediately means, "I NEED this job." Otherwise you can say a certain date that is within a week away (then list: DAYOFWEEK 0#/##/2009)--but usually if you're looking for a job and you don't already have one then immediately is the case.)
Salary Desired: Negotiable.
(NEVER put minimum wage. NEVER. This means that will be all you get, even if they usually start you with $.50 more than that. This means that you KNOW you're not really qualified for anything. Negotiable means that you will see what they have to offer before you make a decision on how much that position is worth to you. If they're interested after you've put negotiable then expect them to start an offering of minimum wage but be VERY open to giving you more than that if you request!)
Special skills and what-not would be things that you have done that are, well, skills. Usually this can be simple things like the your WPM (words per minute) typing average, if you have office equipment training (ie: can operate a fax machine, photocopier, printer), if you can do spreadsheets. etc. If you have good communication and people skills then tell them (good for this job). If you have awesome organizational skills then let them know (good for this job). If you work well under pressure then let them know (good for this job). Don't lie though because you could be asked the dreaded question:
"What do you feel is your weakness?"
In your interview that can absolutely kill you if you've lied about your skills already.
After an interview, ALWAYS call them back within 2 days. That lets them know that you really are interested in the job.
Here's some information on Thank-You letters after an interview:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=497921
And here is some basic interview preparation:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=553121
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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3 or 4 weeks ago, this is a long story, i'll try and make it short. My friend(no longer) touched me in very inapropriate places. My mom thought she was cool by letting me go with him places, im 15 and a half, and he is 18. Thts illegal right? And I didnt really want him to touch me, I was scared, and we were alone, and i was afraid if I tried to get away, he'd hurt me, and if I stopped hangning out with him, he would come and get me, or something. And I just told me mom..I was so afraid, but she realizes tht my so called friend was playing her. She feels horribly bad, but we both cant decide if we should tell my dad. For one thing, my dad is a police officer. Second, my dad already hated my so called friend and offered to arrest him before. And the guy is really creepy, who touched me. He was a ponytail on the back of his head, and is just plain...looks like a child molestor. I was so stupid, talking to him, txting him, hanging out with him, i dont know why i continued to do things with him. He even asked me to have sex and brought condoms on night, when it was dark, he pulled into the parking lot at a nearby lake in some place i didnt know and parked the car. And of course I said hell no, im not on pills, condoms break, hes ugly, im scared, im smarter than this, i dont want to be pregnant, bingo. I wanted to go home. And if I tell my dad, that hes touched me in "wrong" places, my dad WILL arrest him and put him in jail. And I'll have to go to a testimony/trial. And I have been stupid and have been giving his phone number to random people on the internet and my friends, to call him or txt him, saying tht hes a creeper, or giving it to random people, one which sent a picture of their own penis to him, which wasnt entirely my fault, because my friends were over. Is that considered phone harrasment? Im so scared way beyond belief. i live in Ohio (link)
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As a paid user, I can see the past questions you have asked. Now, I can't see who you are actually (as in, username) but I can very well see some of the past things you've been curious about and what-not.
Now, in this past month (not even a month long, at that) you have asked questions similar to:
"My male friend wants to "play" with me a little but likes a shaved vagina. Can I get some tips on how to shave my vaginal area for him?"
and
"I'm planning on having sex soon but I'm nervous about pregnancy and stuff like that...is there anything I should know about having sex for the first time that I might not already know?"
Now, chances are that your "male" friend in these questions happens to be the same guy you're talking about here. Chances are, he knew your "plans" to engage in sexual relations--fondling and actual intercourse--with him (especially since you knew what sort of vaginal area he desired most of all). Chances are, he thought all systems were go-ahead when he thought the sexual play was initiated in some form.
If you take this guy to court then your history of questions on this site can be used against you in the court room. You would have to somehow prove that the guy you talk about in your other questions is NOT this same guy. You would have to explain who you were planning to have sex with then if it was not this guy.
If you did something you regret now there is absolutely no use in causing this guy to go through Hell for the rest of his life. Honestly, were you, AT SOME POINT--ANY POINT WHILE KNOWING HIM, leading him to believe that there would be sexual relations involved in your friendship? Think very hard about this.
For a last note, it isn't going to stand up in court when you say, "Well, he tried having sex with me--even brought condoms once--and I was like, 'No, you're ugly!' and then went out with him another time after that..." I think if someone tried to persuade me to have sex with them when I thought they were too "ugly" to reproduce with then I wouldn't be going out with them alone anymore. Hmm...
Really, it's okay to regret letting a guy go further than you were ready for. Sometimes our bodies get ahead of our hearts and minds and we end up in positions we really were not emotionally ready to deal with. If this is the case, please just leave the poor guy alone. If this is the case, he really meant no harm but thought it was something you both desired. If this is the case, please stop putting this story out there like you were some innocent victim and not an initiator and planner.
Stop harassing the guy any way it is. Just. Stop. It. NOW. That alone doesn't look good in a court room because usually the innocent victim tries to stay far, far away from the attacker (almost always the victim NEVER initiates contact with the attacker). The victim is usually the one that is harassed by the attacker. The victim is usually so upset that he/she tries to totally forget about their attacker in all ways possible. You are going to have to explain why you dwell so much on your attacker to actually make verbal contact with him on a fairly regular basis.
A ponytail does not constitute child-molester appearance. Actually, there is not a specific LOOK of a child molester. They come in ALL sorts of shapes, sizes, heights, and races. For proof of this, type in any zip code and state to search for on The National Sex Offender Public Website:
http://www.nsopw.gov/Core/OffenderSearchCriteria.aspx?Advanced=1
Think about what you're saying. A lot.
...and pray.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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I want to buy nair - is it effective "down there" ? thanks (link)
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Do not use hair removal cream. Many women end up with chemical burns on that sensitive area when using those types of creams. Some women are lucky and do not have a problem but some end up with infections or a trip to the emergency room.
You should actually see if you can find a place that does body waxing near you. You can start by asking around (especially asking in beauty salons) if there is a place that does body waxing. If you want a completely bare vaginal area you should ask for something called a complete brazilian wax at the waxing place. Waxing will help get all of the hair follicle out so when it begins regrowth the hair will be thinner and more sparse. You will have a good long time before you'll need to be waxed again. The professional can do this in a manner that you feel little-to-no pain and little-to-no discomfort after the procedure. It usually runs from $30 - $50 in US money here in the US, depending on how business is in the area where the waxing salon is located.
A razor tends to be your best bet if you cannot afford wax. The only problem is that many people end up with razor burn for some months when first starting to shave their pubic region. The skin is very, very sensitive so the scraping motion tends to irritate the skin very much. Razors are cheap but remember to always use a new one each time you shave. The hair will grow back in thicker and darker with shaving so you will have to shave frequently to keep maintained.
Remember to never ever use soap on your vagina. Soap can enter the vagina and cause very bad infections that you will need to see a doctor for treatment. Always wash your vagina with a clean rag and fresh water--no soap!
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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So I was wondering, when you ask a question on here, why does it just show up on the advicenators homepage like 3-4 days later? Im sure this question will come up in like 4 days too. (its Jan 2) (link)
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Although Matt is partially right, the truth of the matter (from what I understand DangerNerd has said in the Moderator Forum) is that, simply put, people are not answering questions fast enough so they stay in the section that shows longer--and only a certain amount of questions can show at a time.
Someone asked (in the moderator forum):
"how is it decided which questions are shown on the right table?------------>
I mean, it used to be anytime I asked a question, it was over there, but lately I haven't gotten any answers, I suppose because they aren't showing up over there anymore?
Dangit, when I start asking questions that really matter, they don't get answered :/ how does this all work?"
DangerNerd answered:
"The short version is: If you want your questions displayed sooner, answer some existing questions.
As for your other question: Unanswered questions stay there until they get an answer, or a given number of days elapse. This number varies based on site conditions. It can be from three days to three weeks depending on the site load at the moment."
Sometimes it seems to take a few days before the question is shown to the public. The process slows down at times because there are tons of questions that are waiting for answers--that nobody is actually answering properly. If the side bar is never answered (as I've noticed some questions go days, even a week or better at times, unanswered) then there isn't "space" to show the newer questions.
If all of the questions--new and old--that weren't answered showed up immediately, I'm sure the side column would be HUGE, as there are lots of columnists on Advicenators.
So, take some time and research the answers to the questions you don't know and ANSWER THEM so yours shows up. Sometimes it's pretty interesting when you go searching the internet for something you would have NEVER thought to ask (or something you really don't even care about but you want to give a good answer anyway).
Hope that answers your question thoroughly enough! If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I have already applied to ECE but now I am thinking about social youth worker. i am confused. I want a career where I can work with and help children. I cannot go to university because I did not take academic courses in highschool. Social youth worker pays a little more but I can only really advance if I go to unversity right? Where as ECE I can maybe one day own my own business or advance in someone elses business with only a diploma. Working for the government would also be good. Where can I work for the government with a ece diploma? What can I do. Please help, what do you think are the pros and cons with each career? (link)
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I deeply apologize for this late response but I felt I should make some effort at it.
I am neither an ECE or youth social worker; however, I highly recommend you speak with people of both professions to get an idea of what they like and dislike about their job.
In addition, ask a school counselor about occupations within each field. If you specify that you'd like to work with the government or your own business I'm sure they can give very good suggestions.
Advicenators is a pretty young crowd actually. Most users aren't even thinking this far ahead in life yet, which is pretty sad. I would love for you to come back to this question when you, yourself, find out the answer and click "Answer this Question" and answer it as if you were another user. This would help many other Advicenators as they mature and deal with this issue.
I apologize for not having the answers other than to seek out someone that is a professional of said fields. I'm sure they'd love talking about the pros and cons of each occupation and what they wish they would have done differently. There are a lot of factors that are involved in such informative answers that you pretty much have to be BE that person before you KNOW it.
Just take a few weekends and get with some people that could help :) Start with your counselor if you need to. I'd guess that you could go to ANY college and speak to a counselor about this--even if you didn't plan on actually going to college at their specific school. Just walk in and ask questions left and right and expect their best answers they can give. It wouldn't hurt to visit a few campuses about the same question even!
I hope you find what you're looking for!
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im reallly scared that i have herpes. and i dont want to have to deal with putting coverup on my lips when ever i get a sign of it.
im scared of doctors. and my mom knows i get coldsores. but they always start out as white small round things before they.. "activate?" idk how to say it. but its like.. hard to explain.. i dont know.
what should i do? what would you do if you thought you had herpes? should i go to the doctors? my mom gives me round pills from the vitamin world store and she said they would help me.
i dont think this is herpres personally... idk! helllllp im so confused i keep questioning myself. (link)
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Okay...
Coldsores ARE herpes.
Always.
Every single time.
Whoever has told you that some coldsores are not herpes is just not knowledgeable on the subject. I, however, am fairly well informative about this sort of thing.
Your first step is to take a deep breath and relax. Really. This will all be okay.
Next, you need to go see your doctor. Seriously, you NEED to. They can do some swabs and a BLOOD TEST (request this to be done, actually) so tell you for sure which strain--if any--you have. Yes, you can get oral herpes on your genitals and genital herpes on your mouth. No kidding. That's why this is serious enough to merit a doctor's visit for a proper diagnosis.
The procedure isn't bad. They would probably swab your lip if it's currently experiencing an outbreak and they'd take a tube of your blood for testing.
No medication will make herpes go away--they will only make the symptoms lessen for a bit. I gave you the links before, PLEASE READ THEM ALL! I give very, very important information in each and every single one of those links. This is an important thing, please don't dismiss it like many people do.
If you've forgotten the link to your question before where I answered, then here it is:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=555868
What would I do? I would see the doctor for a proper diagnosis. If my outbreaks were severe and often then I'd ask the doctor what they recommended to take to reduce the severity of the outbreaks. Then I would re-read all of the links that the other Advicenator girl (me!), who know about this all too well, gave me before I asked THIS question.
Lastly, having herpes is NOT the end of the world. Trust me.
If you have any more questions--herpes related or not--please feel free to ask me! :)
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