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Mind games or maybe im just confused?
hey
i work at mcdonalds (have been for ages..my coworkers are my best friends), and i like my manager.. i am 16 and a half and he just turned 20 which is okay, and hes not store manager or anything.. he always makes fun of me as a joke because im really clumsy and trip over alot, and he tells people i laugh alot and get embarrased easily. we were messaging each other last week and he asked me what qualities i liked in a guy and i told him, and then he replied saying "It sounds like youre trying to drop a hint..I can get fired for fraternising with crew" and i replied saying "Ha dont flatter yourself :)" and then he replied saying "I never do, but is it just coincidence that i loosely fit what you just described?" and i said: "I guess it is a coincidence because i dont know much about you" then he said "Well i say that rules are there to be broken, you just cant get caught" and i said "Yeah true"
does that mean that he rejected me in a nice way..?
at work he acts the same as before but he always puts me on the position i like to do most and he kept looking at me and staring.
i texted him on new years saying "best wishes for 2009" but he didnt reply, and he didnt reply to the message i sent asking him how long he will be staying as manager for.
does he like me ?
thanks
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In the begining, all secret relationships are great. It is exciting stealing looks and trying to pretend there is nothing going on.
The fun doesn't always last so long, though. I'm not saying that this will happen to you, but there are other things to consider.
1. How are you going to feel if you see another coworker flirting with him? You won't be able to say, "Hey, back off...That's my man!"
2. What if things go bad? You like this job and your coworkers, so would you be willing to give it up if things don't work out?
3. How are your friends going to feel? Is it going to piss them off if he is constantly favoring you?
4. What will he do if the secret gets out? Deny everything? Make you out to be some desperate school girl?
He is 20-which is a lot more mature than you. It will be hard to keep him from playing games with your head.
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Please re-read these two lines and I think you'll understand more clearly what he meant.
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...what qualities i liked in a guy and i told him, and then he replied saying "It sounds like youre trying to drop a hint..I can get fired for fraternising with crew"
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"Well i say that rules are there to be broken, you just cant get caught"
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Yes, he is interested, but he wants things to be secretive if things DO blossom or he may end up being fired for seeing you and you being an employee.
What he is talking about is:
The rule is that he cannot date members of the McDonalds crew that you belong to.
He then says, flirtatiously, that rules are only there to be broken really...as long as the people breaking the rules aren't caught.
So, you didn't answer so well when you said, "Yeah, true." He was probably look for something like, "I'm good at keeping secrets!" or something to the effect that you are also interested in seeing him outside of work.
Any way it is, if he is asking you what you like in a guy, that alone is a sign that he's interested. If the guy was not interested, he would not care what you liked in a partner. If, for some completely insane reason, he DID ask such a question while not being interested in you then it is highly doubtful he would put himself in the position of "the one" you described to him.
He didn't reject you at all.
He was looking for your acceptance to begin seeing each other even.
Decide what you want to do and let him know. He is probably insanely confused now--that or he feels like YOU rejected HIM.
I hope you figure out how things are going to go between you and your manager (maybe you could switch to another store location so you two could begin seeing each other and not have to have it be all secretive?). If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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