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i wanna have sex but cant get preggers
i really want to have sex with my boyfriend of a year....i absolutely love him but if i got pregnant it would be the end of the world...im so afraid of getting pregnant i dont think i ever wanna have sex until im married =/
what should i do?
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The statistics you get on contraceptive methods are for PERFECT usage. PERFECT is something we are not so you should always be aware of the TYPICAL percentage of effectiveness:
Hormonal birth control pills are only 92% effective with typical usage.
Condoms are only 84% effective with typical usage.
The "pull-out" method is somewhere between 25% - 70% effective, typically.
Spermicidal lube CAN increase a condom's effectiveness UP TO 5%.
The "morning-after" pill is actually only about 70% effective on average.
None of them protect against STDs or STIs. None. Virgins can have STDs and not know it--actually, A LOT of virgins have STDs and don't know about it. I can prove this.
Even if you use ALL of the above methods, you can still wind up pregnant. I'm serious. Just because you used "protection" doesn't mean you're protected. Although doubling up on protection is good (and, NO, I don't mean putting two condoms on--that is a BIG no-no) it doesn't mean it'll be impossible to become pregnant. Many women wind up pregnant each year after they've used hormonal birth control pills and a condom with spermicidal lubrication on it. Some of those women even had partners who "pulled-out" while he was ejaculating into the condom, just as an added precaution.
The "morning-after" pill isn't all it's cracked up to be. It doesn't mean you can go around, having sex with whoever, whenever, and expect to be covered in the protection department. There is a very large percentage of women who end up pregnant even after using the "morning-after" pill. For another note, the "morning-after" pill is actually an extremely early abortion. If you're against abortion, you should be against this pill. If you don't understand what I mean, inbox me and I'll further explain.
For another note, you can get pregnant if you're on your period. You can get pregnant right after your period. You can get pregnant right before your period. You can get pregnant at any time of your cycle. Heck, you can even get pregnant if he does not ejaculate into you!
A baby might not be the only thing you should worry about. Sex comes with a lot of responsiblity, adult-decision-making, and leaves you open to very large emotional scars--sometimes more than you are able to get over.
Next, many women never orgasm or actually enjoy sexual activity. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be. Your friends? They, most likely, lie about how "awesome" and "mind-blowing" their sex is.
Because of this, many unmarried sexual partners end up with sexual problems. One person might be into some kink the other one finds absolutely disgusting. One person may want sex more or less often than the other one. Not being able to please a woman is one of the greatest fears of men--if you're unmarried it leaves the door open for them to say, "Hey, you should find someone who can please you!" Someone may want more that someone cannot give. Someone may become obsessed and seek it more and more when the other person is bored with the same old thing. Someone could be so dissatisfied that they leave the relationship to look for "better" sex.
If you don't believe me about the:
"Someone may become obsessed and seek it more and more when the other person is bored with the same old thing."
I can prove it. There is an Advicenator question that I answered at one time--about a girl who is going to cheat on a guy because she's bored with sex. Now, she says she LOVES him oh-so-much and doesn't want to hurt him so she's going to keep it secret--but she "NEEDS" to have sex with someone else. Hmm...doesn't sound to happily-ever-after, does it?
Lastly, prepare yourself for the worst in case you're faced with it. Here are some links. Even if it seems stupid to read and look through these now, you may end up in a situation where you'll be thankful you did...
Read through my answer here:
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Virginity...is it worthwhile?:
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Is ANY sex safe sex?:
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Here is a link about pregnancy costs to know about:
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Here is a link that has some really freaky STD facts:
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Here is a link to photos of STDs you should research so you're aware of what they look like on the body:
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My answer, here:
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If you need anything above elaborated on, please jot me an inbox question. I have more to say about each and every one of these but I figured you wanted a quick overview. I only speak the truth to you because I once was in your position.
I hope you make the right decision for you.
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if you use precautions like Condoms, Birth Control, Morning after pill.. you'll be fine.
but if you want to wait till marriage there isn't anything wrong with that either. Do what YOU think is right for YOU.
goodluck.
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if you dont want to have sex till your married then dont, there are other ways to please eachother without having sex
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if you take birth control regularly, he wears a condom and he still pulls out id say its virtually impossible youd get pregnant haha
have fun
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I don't think you should be scared, I mean yes,it's a big risk. But there are always things you can do to prevent it & also get rid of it.
Plan A: Use protection.
Plan B: Take the day after pill.
I hope I helped, & good luck ! (:
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You need to make a decision about whether you want sex before marriage or not. Its not a bad thing, but some people have religious beliefs and stuff. If you really want to have sex, and know you're ready, you need condoms. And it would be a good idea to see your doctor to get on the pill.
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Ok...first of all, don't do anything that you don't want to do. Sometimes you feel like you love someone...and you have sex with them...then a few months later..you and your boyfriend are broke up but you can't go back and change what you have done with him. Guys are good at talking girls into things...if he doesn't stay with you just because you won't have sex with him...then believe me he is not worth your time.
Well I hope i helped a little!
-Alisha-
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Well, not have sex.
There is no way short of sugary to make pregnancy an impossibility. It's ALWAYS a risk. Period.
You can educate yourself about condoms and the birth control pill, and use them correctly and know that they will be VERY effective protection, but they still aren't perfect.
If that isn't enough to make you comfortable taking the risk, then don't have sex.
You might find, as you get older and more secure with your body and sexual heath choices that you WILL feel confident enough in your contraceptive measures and feel prepared to address the risk of pregnancy should it arrive, or you might not. Whatever you learn, or however your mind changes you should NEVER, ever, have sex if you are afriad of not being able to handle the possible risks assosciated with it.
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If your really that afraid, you don't actually have to have sex. I mean theres lots of things you can do with out ACTUALLY doing "the deed" you could just fool around and tell him that your nervous about going all the way for your fear, and just tell him your confortable doing certaint things... or you could always go to a planned parenting place and get free birth control, or just be very careful.
hope i heplped(:
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