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how far is too far when youre single?
I've been hanging out with this guy for almost 2 months and we've hooked up 3 times (only made out.) The last time he asked me if i was ready to take it further (i assumed fingering?) but i said no. Its not that im not ready for it, but were not together officially and in my school im not really sure how far you can go with a guy when youre single without being called a slut. I really like this guy though, please help me!
hes almost 17 and im 15 if that makes a difference
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Sad.
You shouldn't be doing anything more than kissing anyone.
Let me parrot something back to you.
"Its not that im not ready for it, but were not together officially and in my school im not really sure how far you can go with a guy when youre single without being called a slut."
You aren't ready for it. This is not a reason to have or not to have sex. Just because you think you can fuck someone without breaking down crying doesn't mean you're ready for sex.
Why are you single and "hooking up" anyway? Seriously, you aren't together but you're thinking about having sex with him? Doesn't that just seem a bit wrong to you? Especially at 15?
Even better, why do you "like this guy" and "want to fuck him" but remain with the single label? Whats the point? Why is he good enough to fuck but not date? And yes, I repeatedly have used the word "fuck" to hammer a point home. If you let this guy get his dick in you it isnt going to be romantic, or loving, its going to be the human equivalent of dogs fucking in the back yard because they're horny.
You are too young. You should be focusing on dating, finding a guy you like to spend time with for the sole purpose of spending time with him. Sex is supposed to be part of the progression of a relationship, not the reason you are together, and you get to know each other enough to not feel like you're fucking a stranger.
Close your legs, and don't let anyone past first base unless you're both interested in wearing the boyfriend/girlfriend labels.
And not because other people have an opinion about it, because you actually want this person to be your boyfriend.
Few things sadden me like children pretending to be adults. Thats what you're doing.
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If you were to take it further with this guy and people found out you probably would be called a slut. Not only that, girls perceive sex from the emotional part of the brain and you would end up wanting more from him and it seems as though he is just looking for a quick root. Talk to him about getting into a relationship. Maybe in the future you can take it to another level.
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Well i would say that doing stuff with him and not officially being with him will probably give you a bad reputation. If he really likes you then he will ask you out...tell him that you want to be "together" before you get serious. Hope I helped. If you have any more questions then just ask :] Good Luck!
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Your awful young to be thinking about that. I am not going to lecture you on it because i have a child and i am 17. although it sounds as if he just wants to be friends with benifits with you.
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