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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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If someone was a virgin, (most definitely)!, and their parents had not had the disease (indefinitely), because the fact they themselves are fine and they've had three healthy children (oldest of which is in late teens), is it likely to say that one of the children could have an STI despite being a virgin? I know they can be passed on from mother to baby but I would have thought that the mother, after so many years would show some isgns of infection, as would the child.

If it is possible, what are the chances, do you think?

Thank you very much :)!

It's very slim.
If the mother had an STI or STD when she was pregnant they would have taken special precaitions before birth. If you're planning on having sex with someone it's something you should know though, so ask them if they have anything.

i recently broke up with this guy. and about an hour after he broke up with me he went and asks another girl out. He was only my second boyfreind, so i dont know if this is common or not. Can you guys tell me some of your thoughts?

Classic rebound situation. I'm not a guy so I don't know what's running through their head. My best guesses are they're trying to prove their desireability ("I could get any girl I want") or they're getting with another girl to make you mad/show off/jsut date someone else.

Either way, you broke up & he seems like a jerk, or at least immature. My ex did the same thing only it was a few days, hah. So try and forget about it =)

-LM
[16/f]

where can i get a nice good blue wig: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v318/letsrunawayx/DSC00998.jpg

Lots of places (you might be stuck ordering online because it's not Halloween)

-LM
[16/f]

Okay so about a week and a half ago, I got dental surgery. I had 5 teeth yanked, so for the past week, I've been eating soft foods. A few days ago I started eating regularly again. But the day I started, I almost threw up. Like I had a little in my mouth and I swallowed it quickly and washed out my mouth. Today, just about 5 minutes ago, it happened again, and it tasted like the coco puffs I had for breakfast. But it still tasted bad. But what's going on?? Why do I just all of a sudden throw up in my mouth?

Your body's probably not used to regular food yet.
Stick to bland, "light" things for now, like cereal instead of bagels. Eat in small quantities & gradually re-introduce normal foods a little at a time. If they gave you pain meds or whatnot after the surgery (which I hope for you sake that they did =P) a side effect of nausea/stomach upset is more than likely.

If after a few days you're still feeling like throwing up, invest in some Alka Seltzer or Pepto Bismol & give your dentist a call. But I'm sure you'll be fine =)

-LM
[16/f]

Ok so i have looked everywhere and i cant figure this out. i have homecoming tonite and i cant seem to find what size curler this is here is the picture

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2z82gep&s=3

If you could help me as soon as possible that would be great im just not sure which size curling iron this is thanks in advance

Use a small curler (3/4" to 1"). It's probably the size you already have.

The curl will appear tight at first, but you can loosen them with your fingers too (not a brush) and they'll look more like waves. Plus, a few hours into a dance & the curls will eventually start to fall out, so a smaller curl to start is better =)

Have fun at your dance!
-LM
[16/f]

Why does my mom want me to stop being a tomboy so much she is doing anything she can she is even buying me the fake football jerseys instead of the real ones she wants me to stop so much does anyone know why??

I'd say it's because most moms want a daughter they can "spoil", go shopping with, and do other "girl" things with. She doesn't want to change who you are, just make the way you dress & act a bit more girly. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's part of her job as your mom to make you act like a a proper young woman & she may be worried that you aren't.

So don't change who you are, but at the same time compromise- if she wants to do your hair one day, let her, but you don't have to consent to a full head of foils & a full makeup either. Know what I mean?

-LM
[16/f]

I just put a semi-permanent color in my hair and was told it would take 4-6 weeks to fade out. Does anyone know if it will completely fade back to my natural color or will it just be a lighter shade of what I put in?

It depends on your natural hair. Dark hair it will wash out completely. Blonde hair; it'll have a tint of that color for quite a long time (i.e. light pink for a red dye, golden brown for a mahogany brown).

I've heard that dish soap and clarifying shampoo (I've actually used the latter) will remove dye faster.

-LM
[16/f]

i never thought i would get enjoyment out of 2nd base and my bf wants to go there and i told him it wouldnt do anything for me but i just read that women normally find it very pleasurable so now im confused. i havent done it so might i find it pleasurable even if i dont think of it as pleasurable now and it doesnt seem like it would? esp. because i dont want him to hurt me cause my breasts are very tender. thanks!

Tell him to be gentle, and if you end up not liking it for any reason, you tell him to stop. It's your body, and if he's a good guy he'll respect that and your boundaries =)

-LM
[16/f]

my bf slobbers when we make out and i will tell him he does and its ok we talk about everything and he wants to be a better kisser but i dont know what to tell him to do so he doesnt. even when we arent frenching there is too much saliva! thanks!!

Tell him to swallow his saliva once in awhile.
It's not as awkward as it sounds, I promise.

-LM
[16/f]

Ok here it is:

Everyday I go on the computer to watch videos, chat with friends and just surf the net.

Heres my problem though

I have like a schedule but like . . . ok for example I say I want to do my hw at 6pm but then I watch something so interesting I want to watch the next episode then its like already 6 and then I say I'll do my hw at 6:30

etc etc then its already 11 and I just completely forgoted about my hw

What should I do?
I'm so addicted to be on my computer I just don't have the time for my hw?!?! T___T

Thank you if you've gave me advice I galdly appreciate it thanks :D

Unplug the modem. Seriously. Quit cold turkey, at least for now.
Make yourself do your homework, THEN go online.
It takes discipline but it works.

Set the timer on your cell to remind yourself when a half-hour is up. Plan not to go online until, say, nine at night. Whatever will work for you.

Good luck =)
-LM
[16/f]

well, i have real bad acne on my back and on my chest and i want it all gone. im kinda self concious to wear a bathing suit or a shirt that buttoms up that ure supposed to leave open.

i was wondering if anyone had any known cures for it, like natural not store bought. store bought is fine too but it can't be too expensive.

thanks for anything.

Use the same kind of products that you'd use on your face. Any face wash with salicylic acid, benzoyl peroxide, and the like will do. Neutrogena makes Body Clear Body Wash, which is basically the same thing as face wash, but is designed to foam up like a regular soap. Also use spot treatments once or twice a day, like Clean & Clear Advantage. Another thing- when you're outside, make sure you're wearing sunscreen/sunblock. Not only is a sunburn bad anyways because of skin cancer and wrinkles, a sunburn will make your skin produce more oil, which will cause more breakouts. Not fun.

In the meantime, a bit of concealer will make zits less noticeable. Just make sure it matches your skin.

-LM
[16/f]

If you are under the age of 18, let's say 17, are you allowed to fly with an adult that's not your parent, let's say your friend who is 20? As long as your parents have consent and all?

Yeah, you'll just need the usual identification (passport, license, etc).

You could technically travel alone, so who's in the seat next to you doesn't matter in the slightest.

-LM
[16/f]

i wanna lose weight, so i go on the elliptical.
but i hear the treadmill is better.
the thing is, i have really bad stamina, i can't run for long periods of time without running out of breath, and i need to improve this a lot, and quickly.
any ideas on how to improve my stamina a lot, and quick, and also just how to lose weight.

thanks.

Ellipticals are fine.
As for building up your stamina, just run until you can't anymore, and slow down to a walk BUT DON'T STOP. Then, gradually go back to running. You'll see with time that you'll be able to run for longer periods of time. Good luck.

-LM
[16/f]

k so my boyfriend fingered me right, and afterwards i kept getting wet like days after too and it got really itchy down there. like really itchy. well before he fingered me i also shaved down there , so can you guys just tell me whats going on? thanks so much.

The itching was probably just irritation after you shaved. Try using baby oil or unscented lotion next time you do.

i am getting my bf candy and making him a card and i wanted to buy him a nice shirt from like AE or Hollister but i dont know if he would like it. i think it would be nice and he would look good but do guys care about clothes??? thanx! :]

Some guys do. Honestly you know your boyfriend better than we ever will. If you think he will like a shirt, buy him a shirt. If you think he would like a singing teddy bear from WalMart, buy him a singing teddy bear. You get the picture. My boyfriend (and other guy friends, too) told me that guys will appreciate anything edible so you're on the right track with the candy.

-LM
[16/f]

how do i get my toenails smaller..i cut them down as far as they can go..one time i cut them so far they started to bleed. but they are really big and i hate them...this one person always makes fun of me for them..but i dont like her anyway..i cant even wear sandels in the summer time because im soo self-concious over them. please help

Trim them really short (but not so short they bleed- Ouch!) and file them smooth &rounded at the edges. Paint them a bright, cute color; the color doesn't have to match your fingernails.

A simple pedicure will make your toenails look a lot better/cleaner. Regularly trim & clean them as well.

-LM
[16/f]

Can a very powerful, pounding pulse in your neck be an indication of getting sick? All day it's been rushed, sensitive in the area and you can practically see it pounding out of my neck. My throat is sore, so I was wondering if it is an indication of your body trying to repair something. Random, I know. But I was curious. Thanks

Well, whenever I'm getting I fever my neck always feels really warm. And if any part of your body is sore (i.e. throat) you'll be more aware of it and you'll feel your pulse. Same thing happens when you hurt your finger, for example. So, I think the only thing it's an indicator of is a sore throat. If it lasts for more than a week or so without improving, I'd get checked for strep throat but for now just wait it out and drink a lot of hot tea.

-LM
[16/f]

Is there anything i can use to volumize my hair?
Like a spray to the roots to volumize my hair?
Thanks

My mom uses Matrix Amplify, and her hair comes out just lovely =)

i just lost all the songs in my itunes but i still have the songs on my ipod
how do i tranfer songs from my ipod to my itunes

Check out my answer here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=528183

& inbox me if you still need help.

i changed schools in the middle of this yr and its a super small school. i really like my friends but they are very judgemental and all have money. i have no problems with them and like them a lot but my bf is not that attractive generally and doesnt have much monay at all. i want to bring him to the dance in a month or so but im afraid my friends will judge him. im seriously not trying to be stuck up or anything but i dont want them saying something mean...i hope you understand and please im def. bringing him to Prom and this is only Sadie's but its the only other dance and i want him to so...idk thanx so much! :]

Why would the topic of money come up? It's a dance. If they're going to think less of you because your boyfriend doesn't have as much money as they do, they aren't very good friends. I wouldn't worry about it at all, and I'd go to the dance and have a good time. That's what dances are for.

-LM
[16/f]

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