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Six or seven months ago i found out i have herpes aka my bad friend that never gets blamed.... it never really hit me until about 3 days ago ... i tried to be strong but i met this guy and i have been speaking to him on the net and he is amazing ... everything i have been asking for its like its almost to good to be true ...oh yeah it is... i have Herpes... smh... How do i tell him such a thing...not the right way but the way that would make us both at least feel comfortable... i almost always cry for everything(emotional but dont want to be in front of him) and im getting alot of different feed back ... but not quite sure what to do ... i feel stuck and like im branded like a cow...Im afraid if i tell him to early it would hurt me... and if i tell him to late ... it would hurt him ... i need to make this decision very soon because he has invited to a trip with him and we have been talking for about a month and met once or twice for casual dinner or lunch. Mentally and emotionally we are connected ... but im afraid if i go away on a trip with him and he wants to move to the next level(which i kinda do too) how would he feel i push him and say no or stop him and tell him "HEY I HAVE HERPES"...still want to get it on :(..... he already expressed about someone in his family that has herpes... I seriously need advice or someone to talk to me... this is hard when its something you dont deserve or didnt ask for .... especially from someone you once cared about...Thank you in advance for your thoughts and help Sincerely Girl with the friend that never gets blamed... ONLY ME (link)
My goodness are you in a tough spot.

Well, having been through something like this, I can tell you that you have to tell him before you go one single step further.

The minute this turned romantic, that info became his business.

In my situation, the girl was too busy cheating on me to give me herpes, or things might have gone worse for me.

It is a really hard thing for you to expect him to deal with when you haven't dealt with it yourself yet.

Your original title for this, indicated that you got herpes from a friend who never gets blamed for anything? Any chance you would ask me a question and explain what that is all about?

It seems to me that it would be a good idea for you to seek counseling to help come to grips with the situation you find yourself in now, regardless of who may have given you herpes, it is your problem now, sadly, and most people will need help adjusting to their new life.

Aside from you getting help, there is the original question about how to tell him... Well, directly would be best.

Don't expect him to take it well. Volunteering for a lifetime of bleeding puss-filled sores is a lot to ask of someone you have never met in person.

You never know, I think, for the right person, a guy would sign up for that duty. Love is an amazing thing.

Having this conversation is going to be hard, I know that, but I can promise you that the longer you put it off the harder it will be. I think you already figured that part out. :(

I feel so bad for you in this situation, and I hope that everything works out for the best.

If he chooses to pass on the situation, I wanted to let you know that there are dating services for people with herpes. A great many souls have found love and a common cause there. You are welcome to write again and ask about that if things go south.

Be strong, and do your best. He will respect your honesty.


They say all good things come to those who wait.

And I am in such a situation. Although it has only been three days broken up from my boyfriend, it's very hard. He says to wait for him until Friday, and he'll tell me whether he wants to get back together or not.

But really, is waiting worth it?

I've waited for someone before and it ended terribly. I'm aware because my boyfriend treats me so respectfully even if we broke up, I shouldn't treat him as a past boyfriend. I know if he makes me happy then waiting IS worth it.

But I don't know. I'm afraid I will put all my hopes in the scenario he will say yes, and then be let down. So stumped. (link)
Well, look at it this way: He asked you for time to figure things out.

If you asked him for time, and he refused, you would think he was an ass. If he said yes, but then went on the net and posted something like this, what would it mean to you?

To me it would mean that you weren't willing to give him a couple days to figure out some way to continue dealing with your insecurities without you driving him away any further than you already have.

It would also be different if he was asking for a month instead of a couple days.

If he isn't worth waiting a couple days for after ALL the craziness you have put him through so far, then please let him go... but choose to be honest with your next boyfriend and tell him all of the insecurity you bring with you before he falls madly in love with you like this guy obviously has.

How do I know he is in love with you? Simple, after all your questions here, you should know that I have never even MET anyone who would put up with what you have been putting this guy through. Not one, ever.

Good luck in life. Please be honest with yourself, and get some counseling before you destroy the next relationship with the neediness and insecurity that destroyed this one.




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Please ask a more complete question including some details of exactly what you are trying to do.

Thank you.


what did u mean bout sources of error am in 9th grade here in jamaica and help!!!!!
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The person you were writing doesn't allow questions from people without accounts here.

Please ask another question to everyone which includes your new question, or sign up for an account and try asking the person again.

Thanks.


Long story short, I asked a friend to prom who wasn't my boyfriend. The Thing is, I knew my boyfriend didn't really want to go, although he offered to take me. He hates dances and wouldn't enjoy himself, I didn't wan't to force him into a situation that makes him unhappy. We also have a long distance relationship, so I would have to pay a lot more money to take him when he wouldn't really want to be there in the first place. I genuinely thought that he would be relieved not to go, but I made the mistake of assuming he would be okay with it. However, when I told him he was really upset. We have been going out for almost a year and never fought until now. I feel terrible and want to make it up to him more than anything. Please, I need some advice on how to fix this ad apologize. (link)
Given that prom has, sadly, become synonymous with having sex... how would you have felt if he told you that he was taking another girl to sex-fest?

I thought as much. ;-)

Now, as for making this right, I think you are half-way there. What you told us here, is a good starting point for what you should be telling him.

He may not believe you at first, since, as you can see from what I pointed out, it makes no sense unless you wanted to have sex with the guy you decided to go with instead, but you may be able to convince him if you honestly meant no harm when you did this.

If you did want the other guy more than your boyfriend, then you should be honest and just tell him that, break up and be done.

As you can probably tell now, the message he was giving you was: "I really hate dances, but I love you so much I will put you before my happiness."

With that in mind, tell him you understand, but you did the usual thing girls do in a situation like this: Make a decision based on what you think is reality of another person's feelings... without consulting them at all.

I have had this done to me before. It is one of the most maddening things ever. My last go-round with this was about something as simple as exploring a new store. She decided that I was never going to go with her, so she went herself.

Didn't ask me if I was ever going to go, just assumed I wasn't.

It wasn't the store issue, that almost ended the relationship, it was the fact that if she would do this...

... then what other things might she just go ahead and do since she thinks she knows what I am thinking without so much as asking me what might be in my head?

Trust in a relationship, is everything. Ours made it through this issue, and I hope that your relationship does too.

Remember: This isn't about prom. Not at all. This is about him never being able to trust you won't make a relationship ending decision on a whim because you think you know his thoughts without asking.

Good luck!


Ok...so today I was in class and all of a sudden my
Left side above my hip bone starts hurting MASSIVELY
I thaught it was just constipation but I have been
Going to the restroom normally,I got off my period
About 4 days ago,and now the pain is on my lower
Right side above my hipbone,everytime I stand for long
Periods if times it hurts,when I touch it it hurts
When I move back it hurts and now the pain has
Only gotten worse because noe the pain is the middle of
My stomach too it's like a throbig pain and a cramat the
Same time...could it be my appendix?!?!? I need
Your heLp please I also have nausea when I eat
And I have no more symptoms....?!?!?!?!?! I don't want
To go to the E.R and waste my time if it's constipation
Can people with previous appendicitis experiences
Help me?!?! I NEED UR HELP!!!! ASAP (link)
Having recently ended up in surgery, could you please take some advice from someone who didn't do this the right way?

Call 911 or get someone to take you to the ER. NOW. I hope it is nothing, but you need, NEED to get this checked out.

There are no doctors here to answer your question, but PLEASE... get yourself checked out.

If it is your appendix, letting it burst could be the end of you.

Please write again after you have been seen by the Dr. and are ok. I am very worried for you.


Ok befor I begin I want u to know that I'm not selfish just a little needy! I have been in a serious relationship for some time now, I love him but I sometimes feel like I want more from him. I want him to want me to be there for special occasions and important times in his life, and although I know he'd like me to be there if I say I'll think about it he says it's ok don't worry about it. I want him to show me he wants me to be there or needs me. He's still a little bit of a mommas boy and I know it's his mom but I think it's time for him to grow up and need her less! Makes me feel like sometimes I need go compete with her. Buy the better clothes or choose the better movies! Now I might sound super attached but I love this guy and I want our future to be me and him not me him and his mom. I just seem to always need to feel needed and I dunno if it's my problem, his or both of ours I just want to know how to make it better!

Btw we r great on communicating this is just a really sensitive topic, I don't want him to choose between 2 people. his mom is great and I love her like family I just feel like I need him not to be a mommys boy! (link)
You haven't been fair here. You admit that you know they are important times in his life, yet when he asks you... you say you will think about it. That would make him think you didn't want to. He isn't going to ask again... simply because he has manners and wants to give you the freedom to do what you want.

He is putting your needs above his own, and you are on here complaining about that? What? :-)

You didn't really mention any specific things that make you feel he is a "mama's boy" so it is hard for us to know what you mean. This might be worth a separate question with examples of behaviour you don't like.

What I am getting out of this question is that you are feeling threatened by his mother's love. That you feel the need to compete, when there is NO way to compete with that, nor is there any reason to try. Why? Because they are COMPLETELY different kinds of love.

Again, the example you gave about answering "I'll think about it" to something that you KNOW is important to him is a very bad thing to do. You are faulting him for respecting your wishes.

I know you want him to beg you to go... so you will feel special, right? Problem: When someone makes it clear that they are NOT interested, which is what you did here, why would they force themselves on you unless they are a control freak?

So you see his choice is to become some crazy person who begs you to do everything, or to be a mature human being and respect your wishes.

He chose to be respectful, and you don't like that.

You can't have it both ways.

The question makes you sound incredibly insecure and needy to an outside person. Have you had any counseling to help you deal with your insecurities rather than taking them out on your boyfriend?

If not, would you consider seeing someone who might be able to help you work out why you treat people this way?

I hope everything works out for both of you.


I just got a new Boxer puppy. Shes 3 and a half months old, and she used to live with her two parents and 5 other dogs which she got to play with everyday. So I know it's hard for her to not always have someone to play with. Today, (Sunday) I spent the day with her and she was mostly outside with me or sleeping on my lap inside. The only issue is that my mom doesn't want her walking around inside the house (but when she's not home, I let her) because she can't deal with the puppy peeing and pooping all over. So, sometimes, we put her crate in the garage which is heated (we don't keep cars in there.)She also sleeps in there at night. I put her in there and tied her leash to her cage so she could move around a few feet surrounding her cage. I also put toys and a bowl of water. 15 minutes passed, and she was still howling and barking. It really bothers me, and as much as I'd like to let her keep sleeping on my lap, I'm incredibly tired, and I'm in high school, so I have work to do. I don't know if she's barking because I'm teaching her wrong, or if she misses her puppy friends. I have no idea how to make her okay with being in her crate. The first two days that we had her, she was fine in her crate and slept after whimpering a little bit, but now she is full out barking and howling for much longer than normal. Help???? (link)
Please consider getting a good book on crate training. This isn't something you can do half-way. If you don't crate train correctly, you can end up with a worse behaved dog than you might have otherwise.

If you just can't manage to abide by the rules, and I understand from experience how hard it is, then please consider talking to someone from an obedience school. Make sure that they have experience in crate training before you bother with them.

As for the barking, yowling, howling and carrying on... it is part of the process. A bit like eventually having to let an infant cry themselves out so that they don't feel like they own you.

There is a time, place and specific way to do this. Please do some reading in the subject, and/or talk with someone who has already been through it. This isn't something you should have to do on your own.



Me and my current boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and things are good. But recently I've been talking to my ex a lot and we even ended up kissing. I think I'm starting to fall for him again. What should I do? (link)
Well, since you have already cheated on your boyfriend... and you still aren't sure how you feel, it would be a good idea to come clean with your boyfriend and end the relationship.

It isn't fair to hurt him any more than you already have while you figure out what you want.

Until you know, for certain, what you want out of life, you have to stop this.



I am a male who is going to give oral sex to another guy. We have a date next week. He is much older then me, he 46, me 20 so he is much more experienced at this then I am. This will be my first time doing this, I have never been with a guy and want to please him as best as I can. What should I know to do this right? Also he wants me to do him without a condom and wants me to swallow and wants to video this so I can watch myself afterwards. (link)
This answer has nothing to do with homosexuality, it has to do with you safety and the rest of your life, or your early death.

Condoms don't protect against everything even when they work perfectly. HPV (genital warts, throat cancer permanent loss of vocal cords when the warts are removed...) and both strains of herpes are things a condom isn't going to help you with.

Also, in case you were unaware, you CAN get HIV/AIDS from oral sex.


Secondly, that video taping thing is a really bad idea. Once he has that tape, you will have two choices: Do whatever he wants, because you WILL be blackmailed with that tape. DOn't think for one minute that when you decide to end the relationship, he won't use it against you.

Your other choice will be to let him out you to your family and friends. Once he has that tape, he will own you until you decide that letting him send that tape to your family is better than doing what he wants you to do.

Ok, please understand: You can say: "I don't want to take video." and he can promise you that he will not. BUT, you already told us that he gets off on having that video of his encounters (you aren't the first in his collection most likely) and so he will record you without your knowledge or consent.

I know you are going to have doubts about what I am telling you, but I have years of life experience on you, and while I have never been in this position, exactly, I have seen this exact scam run on hundreds of people. This website is littered with stories of young people doing what you are talking about, and having to live with the consequences.

If you listen to only one thing, let it be this:

PLEASE, don't do this. It WILL be the largest mistake of your life so far.

In a little while you will be looking back on this, once the heat of the moment is gone, and you will thank me... if you will only listen.

Please don't throw your future away.


i think i might have a computer virus.
i was on facebook, and all of a sudden a popup comes up and it says that i have 7 viruses found, it's come up about 5 times tonight, and it's not my regular virus protection software. i tried to open up my regular one, and it wouldnt let me. the popup is called " MS Removal Tool" i tried opening the control panel to see if something got downloaded, and it's not on there. sometimes when i close out of the program, it talks about registration, and when it finally closes, my home screen will be blue. i'll click on the personalize tab, and then the desktop background tap, and it'll go back to normal automatically without me having to change the picture. can anyone help me? (link)
Hi there,

This is part of the massive web defacement that has been dubbed "lizamoon."

It goes like this: A piece of code is added to a regular webpage by means of a security hole. That code redirects you to a fake anti-virus scam. If you fall for it and download it, then you are actually choosing to install the bad software that you were thinking you would get rid of. :-(

This is an old, old scam that is still going around. This is the largest number of sites to be defaced at one time, which is why it is all over the news:

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&rlz=1T4GGLL_enUS378&tbs=nws%3A1&q=lizamoon&aq=f&aqi=g-z1&aql=&oq=

... It is in your best interest to run REAL anti-apyware tools to scan your computer:

MalwareBytes:

http://www.malwarebytes.org/

SuperAntiSpyware:

http://www.superantispyware.com/

... are two that have free versions. I highly recommend running BOTH of these, one after the other.

If you do not have an anti-virus program on your computer, there are several free programs available to you.

AVG:

http://free.avg.com/

Avast:

http://www.avast.com/

These are probably the two most common ones, but there are several others. You might contact theymos:

http://www.advicenators.com/question.php?u=38985

... and tell him what system you are running. He might have a suggestion. He did a comparison of most of the free AV programs out there, but it was a while back and I don't know if he is doing a new version of his ranking or not.

In the mean time, since you ran the program and installed this fake program on your computer, you may need help getting the machine cleaned.

You should try cleaning your system with the tools I linked above, but if that fails, you may have to have a bit of help.

Some of these bugs install themselves in a way that makes it nearly impossible to boot from the same drive you want to clean.

The usual way this is handled is to remove the hard drive from your machine and hook it up to another machine that already has all the cleaning and repair tools installed on its own hard drive.

Those tools will then be used to repair your drive's operating system.

The drive is then re-installed in your computer and a few more steps are taken to get everything back to the way it was before this all happened.

In case you have any doubts that this thing you were tricked in to installing is related to the lizamoon injection attack against websites, then have a look at this video where someone infects their computer on purpose:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKI5dg1cs74

... look familiar? :-(

Hope that gives you all the info you need. If you have any further questions about removing "lizamoon" from your computer, please let me know.


drink alcohol everyday
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If this was supposed to be a question, try asking a question instead of making a statement, or I suppose, in this case, issuing an edict.


school A is offering me a teaching job immediately.
Accepting means i cannot seek a better school (B)for the next 2 yrs.
Rejecting means i can seek job at school (B) with 50/50 chances of getting a job there but still get school A but forego 2 months salary in school (A).
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If you are absolutely CERTAIN that you will still be able to get this job in education at school A then I would wait the two months if you can afford to do so.

These days, a person is lucky to have any job at all. Don't hold out for school B unless you are sure A will still be around.


My Mum thinks it is far too soon (we have been dating for about 4 weeks and my son has got to know him) and camping would be in 3-4 weeks from now.

Do you think this is ok? We would all be in the same big tent, my son has just turned 2yrs old... (link)
I would be concerned about the short time you have known him. Your mom has a right to be concerned for both you and your son.

Camping with a toddler can be a frustrating experience in the best circumstances, and it can also be a real joy as well. The difference will have a lot to do with the other person you are there with. If he has no experience with kids, (and, no, 4 weeks doesn't count as experience, but nice try... ;-) ) then this may not be the best way to get to know him.

On the one hand, you may find out more in a single day about his possible parenting abilities, or lack thereof, but on the other hand, if he doesn't have any, he is going to want nothing further to do with you.

It is good to get rid of a bad match quickly, so that is one good thing that could come out of it.

If you do decide to do this, here are a couple things you MUST do:

Make sure that at least TWO people know where you are going to be, and for how long.

Make sure to arrange a ride back without him. Have someone you can call to get you if things turn ugly.

Take a cell phone with you. Buy a pre-paid one if you don't have one. It may not work where you are going, but it is a good idea to try.

For a first camping experience, I would not advise going anywhere isolated. A campground with other people will improve the odds that you will be able to get away from the situation if it goes badly.

I know this all sounds bad, and you must be thinking something like: "He isn't like that!" ... BUT, you don't really know him yet. At 4 weeks, nobody truly KNOWS anyone yet. I know it feels like that, but having been there, and done this, I would like you to know that it only feels like you know this person.

Good luck, and if you go: Happy camping!


Okay, so recently my computer is being really stupid. It likes to make 'error' beeping noises randomly for no reason at all while I'm in the midest of typing or something. I checked for viruses and whatnot, but nothing's there. Also, while I type, sometimes it'll have me stop typing and it'll make more error noises and I have to retype because what I typed didn't show up. Or it will drag out the last letter through a whole paragraph and it's very irritating. Any ideas of what could be going on?
I hope it doesn't have anything to do with the fact that I keep my computer on all day and all night, except on school days. (link)
Hi there,

The very first thing to do here, is power off the computer, un-plug your current keyboard and replace it with a different one for testing.

If the computer does the same thing with a new keyboard, You may have a serious hardware issue. Odds are in favor of your keyboard being on its way to death.

If the new keyboard doesn't do the job, I would have it looked at by a professional.


Me and my boyfriend had anal sex and it slipped into my vagina. Can u get an infection from it? (link)
Yes, you absolutely can get an infection from first having anal and then vaginal sex.


Hello to all and thank you for your interest; this question is open to all! :)

I would like to know your brutally honest opinion about girls with dread locks.

Hot? Gross? Don't care? Let me know!

Thanks for your time!

Blessings :) (link)
Brutally honest? One word: Revolting.

Longer answer: The single ugliest, most disgusting thing a woman could possibly do to her head short of setting it on fire.

Here is a piece of info from the male side of things: A woman with a hairstyle a guy finds attractive, will be percieved as stunning. Same woman, different haircut... total turn-off.

So, while this is an individual preference, and will differ for each guy: If you sport the style that is viewed, in this country anyway, as the only hairstyle less attractive on a woman than corn-rows... your odds of being attractive to the guy you are interested in will be reduced. Something to think about anyway. :-)

I should add in here, that I went to school with a stoner who was so ripped he literally, no joke, wouldn't be able to answer you if you asked his name... his dream girl? ANY girl, just as long as she had dreads like him.

I added that in there, just in case that is your dream guy. If so, he is probably still single. ;-)



My boyfriend and I broke up but he wants to get back together. He's still making his decision because he's the type of person that has to think hard about decisions.

He said there are still reasons why he hasn't decided yet. Supposedly I'm still a little depressing sometimes. I am a very emotional person and a little bit pessimistic. When we established this relationship, he and I said we'd work on it together, and I say I have gotten better with my negativity. Of course this morning I cried in front of him and I do complain and whine sometimes, but only about little things. I'm a girl. I can't help it.

I can't be perfect. I can't change every little flaw. Sometimes little flaws can't be changed because that's what makes up a person. I don't get it. I don't know what to do. I really love him and if he lets me go because of my negativity I will be beyond depressed. I can't lose him. (link)
Hi there,

You know, I am tempted to delete this question. Would you like to know why? Because you are manipulating the people here to tell you something that will make you feel good. You know, better than I do, that you are only telling half the story here.

How would I know that?

Donating users have the ability to click a link and see other questions asked by the same user. It never reveals who the person asking the question is, but it lets them see the history of the person so that they can give better answers.

In your case, that is quite a lot to read.

Here is what I am going to do: I would like you to take some time and read back through your previous questions, just like I have. If you don't see what you are doing, that is a bad sign. If you DO see what you are doing, and I think you already know it, then that means there is hope.

Listen, I have been with someone who was in constant fear of relationships ending. She had good reason to feel that way, but it is something that has to be worked through before a relationship can succeed. ANY relationship.

Read your last few questions, especially the one about all the things you said to this boy, then wrote here that you didn't mean any of them...

... Be honest for a minute and answer me this one question: If you were someone else... would you really want to be with someone who acts like you?

Hard to answer that honestly, isn't it? :-(

Being fair about this is the only way you have a chance at this relationship or ANY other relationship working out.

Fear of abandonment is a very serious issue, and it is something most people will need to seek counseling to overcome.

I know you feel like things are hopeless. I know you want to have people here say it is all his fault for not accepting you for who you are, etc... you know all the cliche things people say in a situation like this.

I am sure, someone here will say just those things. They will tell you that you are better off without him, and he wasn't good enough for you, etc... BUT, we both know that this is something that your insecurities bring into the relationship.

There is hope. Get help. If you don't, then each and every relationship you have will be poisoned by your insecurities. You know that is what happened here. Read back through your questions and you will see many references you made to how you can't understand why he puts up with you...

... but as soon as he isn't sure he wants to put up with you any more, he goes from the best guy in the world, to the guy you are trying to trick people into believing he is by this question you have asked today.

When people are sure the relationship is going to end because they aren't worthy, or good enough or pretty enough or... whatever enough to be loved and cared for... they do what you have done here: push people away. You will hurt the people who care about you because of the way YOU feel inside.

I am not a doctor of any kind, but, as someone who cares about you without knowing anything more about you than what you have written here, I am asking you to seek help.

If you go to one counselor who doesn't "get" you, then find another one.

What you are going through is extremely common. I know you probably feel like the only person this ever happened to, but I promise you that you aren't.

You are hurt, and emotionally scarred, but there is a reason that this happened. If you know what that reason is, then get some help dealing with and overcoming it.

If you have no idea how you ended up sabotaging your relationships to make people leave you... then find out WHY you are doing this, and take steps to correct it.

This young man may love you with all his heart... but that won't be enough to overcome this. If you push someone away hard enough, long enough and in enough ways... anyone with a brain in their head will leave.

It doesn't have to be this way. You CAN fix this. This isn't just "who you are." Please take the chance to get help.

You will have to start by being honest with yourself. No more half-truths and trying to make people dislike others so you can feel justified in being hurt.

Be honest first with yourself, then, if you DO love this boy, be honest with him. Tell him that you know what you have done to push him away. Prove to him that there will be a change, by getting whatever help you need so that you will be less toxic to be with in a relationship.

If he loves you, he will give you another chance once he sees that there is hope.

Please get help. It is the only way to get what you want out of life without ruining anyone else's.


i must unlink two hotmail email accounts . (link)
First, log in here:

http://account.live.com/

... Then look on the menu, which, if you have everything set at default, should be on the left side. Look for "Linked IDs" and click that.

You should then be on the linked IDs management page. Your IDs should be listed there. Just click "unlink" next to the ID you don't want linked anymore.

That should do it. If not, please respond with more detailed information.

Here is the official word from Microsoft if you want to look around the live help zone:

http://www.windowslivehelp.com/thread.aspx?postid=0e9213f0-ed31-426f-a7bc-af52c7742c87#0e9213f0-ed31-426f-a7bc-af52c7742c87


I'm a dual citizen with both the uk and us..

also could any money be deducted from university fees if i want to go to a British uni? thanks (link)
Hi there,

I left this up, hoping someone else in your situation would be able to advise you. Looks like you are in a more unique situation than you might have thought... at least as far as the users here are concerned.

I do have an answer for you, however:

Decide on a list of the universities your would like to consider attending. Contact the admissions departments at each and see what programs you qualify for.

Depending on where you live in the US, college in the UK could be very expensive compared to what you are used to. Living expenses are much higher there overall.

As far as being easier to visit there... well, customs should be easier to clear, given that you are a citizen of the UK. I don't even know if you need a visa, but I wouldn't think so.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do to further your education.




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