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Is waiting really worth it?
They say all good things come to those who wait.
And I am in such a situation. Although it has only been three days broken up from my boyfriend, it's very hard. He says to wait for him until Friday, and he'll tell me whether he wants to get back together or not.
But really, is waiting worth it?
I've waited for someone before and it ended terribly. I'm aware because my boyfriend treats me so respectfully even if we broke up, I shouldn't treat him as a past boyfriend. I know if he makes me happy then waiting IS worth it.
But I don't know. I'm afraid I will put all my hopes in the scenario he will say yes, and then be let down. So stumped.
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If yall broke up the 1st time then what will bw different the next time? So, no I dont think that it is worth waiting.
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Well, look at it this way: He asked you for time to figure things out.
If you asked him for time, and he refused, you would think he was an ass. If he said yes, but then went on the net and posted something like this, what would it mean to you?
To me it would mean that you weren't willing to give him a couple days to figure out some way to continue dealing with your insecurities without you driving him away any further than you already have.
It would also be different if he was asking for a month instead of a couple days.
If he isn't worth waiting a couple days for after ALL the craziness you have put him through so far, then please let him go... but choose to be honest with your next boyfriend and tell him all of the insecurity you bring with you before he falls madly in love with you like this guy obviously has.
How do I know he is in love with you? Simple, after all your questions here, you should know that I have never even MET anyone who would put up with what you have been putting this guy through. Not one, ever.
Good luck in life. Please be honest with yourself, and get some counseling before you destroy the next relationship with the neediness and insecurity that destroyed this one.
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In this situation you need to worry about yourself. I was with a guy and we went through a similar situation and in that time I was thinking about him and what he wanted. You need to think of what you want...looking from the outside in I don't think its fair for him to put you in that position. Its up to you and how you feel!
Good luck!
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The truth about waiting is that it is something you do until you can't do it anymore.
If you are afraid that you will put ALL your hopes on this relationship happening -- well then you are already acknowledging it the possibility that it might not -- you've already beaten that foolish idea.
And if it doesn't happen, it will be a letdown.
It will feel awful.
It will feel like the world is ending.
Only the world won’t end, and someday you might feel you know the answer to the big question "Was it worth it?" but it might not be the same answer you've got today, or next month, and that's okay.
Quite honestly darling, making you wait for the hammer to fall till Friday - it’s not actually that respectful of him. It’s him dragging you along his emotional roller coaster ride - rather than being clear and dealing with the fallout of truly, and finally, ending things OR choosing to do the work to make things better. I know it seems more respectful than say, cursing you out, or ignoring you completely - but it’s actually a rather selfish, immature move on your exes part.
But whatever, it doens't matter to much that he could handle this better. We can almost always handle things better than we do. What matters is that right now you are deciding to wait for him till Friday. That’s fine. You might wake up tommorrow and decide not to wait. Also fine.
If you are waiting, keep yourself busy. Bake something. Play a video game. Knit. Whatever. Keep your hands occupied and your brain will follow.
Will waiting be worth it? In a few months or a few years, you tell me. Don’t be surprised if the answer changes a few times between then and now.
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