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got mad at me and i dont know why.
Okay well i was friends with this girl and we were really close. and then we got into this argument and we were mad at each other for a couple days. and then i told my other friends about the fight i had. and when i was talking to my friend about it i was saying how the girl i was fighting with annoying and stuff and how she always treats me like a third wheel. then me and the girl i was fighting with were talking and becoming friends again and i told her i was mad and starting now to like her but i guess were okay now. *so should i mention that i called her annoying too? and that was like 3-4 weeks ago. and then i hungout with her this past weekend and started getting really close again. then the friend that i was telling that stuff too got mad at me and i dont know why. *what do i do?
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People say all sort when they are upset, but we have to try and stay matured in such situation because you won't be upset with them for long and may even become closer friends when you make up then if you have said horrible things about the person you were initially mad with then you have no way of taking those words back, so you have to be really careful.
If this is going to hurt your new friends feelings when she finds out that you said this about her then you have to let her know (because especially when you are becoming closer friends words will spread about what you said about her in the past)so let her know that what you said about her was out of annoyance and that you are glad it is now in the past, then also put things straight with your old friends, let them know that things are now better between the both of you.
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Sounds to me like all your trouble started and continued by discussing the sitch with outside parties. Girls like discretion, just hearing anything third party will anger them. If she starts to get that everything said stays between the two of you, she will gain a respect for you that is a powerful thing to earn. Also, the mature way of handling something like this does not go unnoticed. I remember breaking up with a girl I loved with all my heart. The way I handled it gave me a good name in the circles we all travelled in. You might just be building a good reputation you can put to good use in the future.
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I think you should just let everything be, if she says something about it just admit to her you said it & it was just because you was mad. I wish you good luck & I hope everything works out for you! :)
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You both said things about eachother both in person and behind eachothers back. It happens. Im sure she said you were annoying or vented to someone about you behind your back. But you're both moving on in your friendship and rebuilding buggered bridges. you're moving past this and there's no reason to feel guilty. Youre doing nothing wrong.
As for the friend thats mad at you, why dont you just ask her whats wrong? How else will you know why shes angry at you? As far as youre concerned - and so it semms - you have done nothing wrong to her. So be a friend and ask her if you've done anything to offend her and try to resolve the situation from there. None of this is worth losing friends over.
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