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im 18 female and i cant seem to find any way to pleasure myself. Ive tried fingering myself and touching myself but its not pleasant to me at all :( the only thing that seems to give me any sort of pleasure is 'pillow sex' where you basically rub yourself against or ride a pillow. Even then i cum but i can never have an orgasm. Im worried that (being a virgin) that the first time i have sex or let a guy finger or go down on me that i will be left with a very embarrassing situation, and that i wont be able to orgasm in any form of sexual activity. I do however know that a large percentage of women arent able to have orgasm through penetration, and that it usually involves foreplay to make a them orgasm. But i dont know if even that will work on me! Im also worried when the time comes that the guy im with will ask me how i can get him to pleasure me, and i wont know!
help :(
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There is nothing to worry about hun. There are so many ways to pleasure your self through toys and that but having an intercourse is a total different feeling which when you experience doesn't actually guarantee an orgasm as you know but with your partner you can get to know what stimulates and pleasures each other. Don't be hard on your self because you dont know, you are not expected to as everyone enjoys sex in different ways so you just need to understand what stimulates you and dont be afraid to try new things. If your partmer is patience enough am sure he will be happy to go gentle and help you realise other things that seems pleasant to you.
Till today most women are still trying different way to discover what stimulates them to orgasm. There a lots of books out there that you can also read to help.
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My ex of three and a half years just got back home for leave from the military and has been trying to get a hold of me for the past few months. The problem is he dumped me on Valentine's Day and broke my heart after waiting over 6 mths for him. Now since he's back we ran into each other at the store of course since it's a small town. We decided to go grab a bite to eat and I just wanted to see how he was doing because ultimately I still care about him. One thing led to another and we started kissing. And now he's saying he wants me back... I'm so confused... My parents can't stand him but I believe I'm responsible enough to know what's best for me. I work and go to school full time. I still love him deeply and think I want to give it another shot even though he hurt me before. Is it bad to go ahead and give it another shot, or should I just pretend like the whole kiss meant nothing? Should I let my parents views affect that of who I date. Please help me! (link)
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You parents are obviously looking out for your best interest, but if you sincere think you can look out for your self, they you need to review the reasons why he dumped you at first and why he now wants you back, if they both way positively then go with what your heart is telling you, after all everyone deserves a second chance. Be more alart so you dont get dumped again.
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What does it mean when girls "pop their cherry" ??? (link)
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A virgin, a girl who’s never had sexual intercourse before is disvirgined.
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20female Joe 19. This might be a little long but I'll return the favor! :)
So I've known Joe for about 5 years now. We used to be close but we have grown apart over the years. We still see each other but not every day like we used to.
Anyways, basically there is a lot of sexual tension between us. We flirt a lot, but we have never done anything. Seriously I would have sex with him in a second. That sounds kind of slutty but it's true. Please don't say anything about you shouldn't have sex with your friends, etc.
So here are some examples of what he does when we're together. Tell me if you think he's into me or you think he's joking around.
So we went to the casino tonight with my two cousins, Joe and his friend. Me Joe and his friend were in the back seat on the way there. First, Joe goes to put his seat belt on and purposely grabs my butt and I just look at him and he smiles at me. Then at the casino i'd be on the opposite side of him and he would be staring at me and I'd catch him and then he'd wink at me and then start kind of laughing. Then he'd ask what I was doing tonight and at the same time I said "Not you ;)" and he said "Me?" and we both started laughing. I would of said "you" being serious but I sort of panicked. Then on the way home we were messing with my Ipod seeing what song we wanted and he was like here let me pick one, and I was still holding it but basically his hand was over mine kind of holding it. THEN we were sitting in the car and i layed my head on his friend cause we were tired and i stretched my legs on Joe and he put his hand between my legs and started rubbing the outside of my vagina through my jeans (for like 30 sec) and then he just left his hand there for about 5 min but then when his friend left and we were still in the car i was laying all the way down with my legs still on him (his hand wasn't on me anymore) and he had the chance to do whatever he wanted but he was playing some dumb game on his Ipod. And then he was like alright I think it's time to go home, and he left.
Just at times it seems like he doesn't really want me, because it seems like he has chances but doesn't take it. When he touches me I don't push his hand away or anything. But when he asks or brings up sex or something I freeze up. And I know a lot of the times he's like joking around when he says stuff like that, but is being serious about it too. But then other times he does all that stuff and will touch me and everything.
Do you think maybe I'm giving him mixed signals? I feel like he is giving me mixed signals. And to be honest, I would be like let's go and start making out with him and whatever but I don't know if that's what he wants! I'm too afraid to make a move, I want HIM to. But I never know if he's being serious or joking. I'm almost 98% sure he would hook up with me, but then there is that 2% that has doubts. What should i do, am I not putting myself out there enough? The only time I have brought up sex with him was in September when I texted him and he was like "you wanna have sex with me?" And I was like "Haha i don't know if you can handle it though ;)" And he was like "Oh please! Yes i could!" But nothing ever came from that. So I feel like if we're together one of us has to make a move, rather than planning it out or something awkward. I feel like we're both too afraid to make a move, in case the other one doesn't feel the same.
How can I put myself out there, and maybe make a subtle move on him that's not really obvious but would get things going? And we're usually always with friends, so it's hard sometimes. (link)
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hmm, this sounds like quiet an intense situation between you and Joe, it is obvious that you two have some form of attraction for each other and sometimes when one is too shy or afraid to make a move then it leads to all of those senerio that you are experiencing.
Most girls will be upfront enough to make the first move because it is an obvious situation that Joe wants you but i will rather let the guy make the first move but i see that both of you are in fear of being rejected, again with what you have said you can see that it is certain thet very soon something could happen..... but when?
Joe obviously wants a piece of you and doesnt know how to put it, the little moves he makes here and there when you are with friends is what he is forced to do to keep you for himself and when that competition is not there he is relaxed.
I think you two should go out for a meal or a movie alone then you both can talk about your feelings, you are both adults so stop messing around like kids....
If Joe is not going to say anything, then tell him that you have noticed all of those moves he makes, the sexual signals and that, when you are around with other friends and that you need to know whether they are true feelings or not, because you feel an attraction towards him and the sexual signals are really distracting you.......
I hope this helps break the ice.
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I mean really? Lately, and before people have started stuff saying my boy friend was cheating, or doing something wrong, when he's not the type..and I'm tired of it.
I want it to stop, because it's making me so paranoid ..and I already worry so much.. I love my boy friend and we've been dating a year and 4 months I'm not ready to let go..
How do you deal with this? (link)
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People will say loads of stuff whether true or false but what matters is the way you handle it.
Don't let what they say bother you because that is their intention. Good you have such trust on your boyfriend that you know what he can do and can't do so dont act based on what someone else says until you see with your own eyes.
Most importantly dismiss such conversatioon and don't give ears to it, you are only bothered because you heard...
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what should i do for our talent show at school? (link)
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What you do depends on what you know how to do or what you can learn to do, there are various entertaining talents, a list you can choose from:
Singing (If you have a good voice)
Dancing
Potery
Jokes
Fashion design
Art exhibition
Baking (You could bake a cake, brownie or cookies and pass round to every one with a plate of it served to the judges) - reading out your ingredienst and process of baking to the audience...
What ever you deceide to do make sure you practise and practise before the D day because practise makes perfect and builds up your confident. Good luck
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Okay , so i told you about kyle twice in asking you a couple of questions . So i've come to realize its never going to work , EVER ! im giving up on love , i feel like ' Fuck Love , Im Done Trying ' i don't know what i else i could do to get his attention anymore at all or just with any boy i don't know . . . its like if im not ugly than why won't anything good happen for me my personality is great so why !! i just quit on life i've been feeling that way for a while . . . and you guys are probably judging me not that i care with you perfect little lives . i Give UPP . please don't say talk go talk to a friend no will understand . (link)
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We somethings forget that the love we are looking for lies within us - Forget about guys who are not worth having you, start concentarting fully on your self, on making your self happy, pampering your self, have things in other area of life going for you and see that you will start feeling good within and outward and when you feel this way you come out glowing with so much courage/self confience and i tell you guys always notice a women with self confidence then they will be approaching you and it will be upto you who you want to end up with.
Please do not waste time lingering around people who do not notice or appreaciate you for you are worth more than that. I hope this helps.
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Long story short, I asked a friend to prom who wasn't my boyfriend. The Thing is, I knew my boyfriend didn't really want to go, although he offered to take me. He hates dances and wouldn't enjoy himself, I didn't wan't to force him into a situation that makes him unhappy. We also have a long distance relationship, so I would have to pay a lot more money to take him when he wouldn't really want to be there in the first place. I genuinely thought that he would be relieved not to go, but I made the mistake of assuming he would be okay with it. However, when I told him he was really upset. We have been going out for almost a year and never fought until now. I feel terrible and want to make it up to him more than anything. Please, I need some advice on how to fix this ad apologize. (link)
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I know how it feels to realise that you have made the wrong move but don't hit on yourselve too much, no body is perfect at the point you probably thought it was the best thing to do, let your boyfriend know that your intentions were not to get him upset and why you decieded to go with some other guy, and then apologize to him, let him know you know that the decision you made was wrong and would not repeat again. Am sure you will learn not to take such decisions alone but always ask your boyfriend's view because what might sound right to you might not be to him such as this situation.
If the prom haven't been, then i suggest you cancel it with the other guy - For your boyfriend to initially offer to come along even though it is not his sort of thing shows how much he loves you, am sure your boyfriend would have even offered to assist you with a bit of money if you told him that was an issue but now you've blown it so dont. Just plead with him and let him know how much you appreciate him offering to come along and how much it will mean to you, it will be a lasting memory.....
If the prom has been, then you have to apologies and find a way of making up to him and also let him know there is nothing going on between you and the other guy you decided to take....
Good luck
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I recently broke up with my first boyfriend, and I just had to because I felt we were growing apart, even though he had went on vacation. Now I'm really upset and have cried a little bit, and I think I miss him! He was really upset today, the first day after spring break and told me he wanted me back, even though our break up was 2 fridays ago. Although, a big part of me really wants him back, but then again, I dont know if I should just let go, considering the fact that we will be going to different schools next year, I am SO confused, please help me. (link)
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Aw, breakups really sucks, it's the same feeling most people experience when you decide to part with someone you love because one thing or the other isn't right. At the end of the day whether you want to get back with him or not is all up to you because you know what you've been through being together, is it all worth it? know that your happiness is most important, dont consider getting back because he wants to, We women could sometimnes really get emotional and make decisions out of pitty but you need to look into the future especially when you two will be heading to different schools next year, does that leave you enough time to patch things back up and build up your trust and love or you could move on and just remain friends. Being apart might make you realise other interest or could bring you two together again.
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Okay well i was friends with this girl and we were really close. and then we got into this argument and we were mad at each other for a couple days. and then i told my other friends about the fight i had. and when i was talking to my friend about it i was saying how the girl i was fighting with annoying and stuff and how she always treats me like a third wheel. then me and the girl i was fighting with were talking and becoming friends again and i told her i was mad and starting now to like her but i guess were okay now. *so should i mention that i called her annoying too? and that was like 3-4 weeks ago. and then i hungout with her this past weekend and started getting really close again. then the friend that i was telling that stuff too got mad at me and i dont know why. *what do i do? (link)
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People say all sort when they are upset, but we have to try and stay matured in such situation because you won't be upset with them for long and may even become closer friends when you make up then if you have said horrible things about the person you were initially mad with then you have no way of taking those words back, so you have to be really careful.
If this is going to hurt your new friends feelings when she finds out that you said this about her then you have to let her know (because especially when you are becoming closer friends words will spread about what you said about her in the past)so let her know that what you said about her was out of annoyance and that you are glad it is now in the past, then also put things straight with your old friends, let them know that things are now better between the both of you.
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Hello all!
I need some style advice.
This is my prom dress:
http://www.cache.com/cache/control/product/~category_id=0901/~product_id=K8021M73013868
What do you think would look better, gold or silver jewelry?
If i did gold, I kind of like this bracelet because its wild and my dress doesn't have embellishments.
http://www.betseyjohnson.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11218752
And any shoe suggestions?
Thanks! (link)
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The dress looks lovely.
I couldn't see the jewelry..
I think silver jewelry will go well:
Long shoulder level silver ear rings, a simple silver necklace, a silver (bling bling) band bangle and ring and a black pair of shoes and you are ready to rock and roll....
I hope this works for you.
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So while my boyfriend was in another state, I went to a party and ended up very drunkenly cuddling with another guy - my friend that likes me but I have NO INTEREST in him, in his bed all night, with my panties off. I told my bf everything the next morning and also told him I think we might have kissed. There is still one thing that is eating me up, I am pretty sure that at one point I was touched down there, the thing is I don't exactly remember if I touched myself or if I pulled the guys hand to touch me thinking it was my bf or maybe I just wanted it, but I remember as soon as I felt it getting touched I stopped it. Now we talked about it twice and he is over it but I feel like I am lying to him if I don't tell him this one thing-
should I just let it go because it might not have even happened and I'll be worrying him for no reason and possibly break up and it was just a dream (I have very vivid dreams) or should I tell him and risk losing this amazing relationship? I'm so torn right now... I don't want to lose him but if I don't tell him I feel like I'm lying but maybe it didn't even happen! AHHH what do I DO??!?! (link)
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Lol, this must have been a very interesting night...
Well done for having the courage to tell your boyfriend about the night, being truthful builds a good relationship but also this inccident might put fear in your boyfriends mind on whether he can trust you to be good whenever he is away or when you are drunk... The fact that you have already told him the story without mentioning that one thing, at the moment you are even unsure of what exactly happened, i will say forget it, there is no reason to point that out if your boyfriend haven't asked you but if you think for one reason or the other he will find out about this, then i will say it is better you tell him yourself. Accept that what you have done is wrong without blaming it on the alcohol, (we all do silly things when drunk) promise to be more careful.
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My teen wanted to post some videos he made on YouTube. We felt he was too young, but after MUCH fighting we tried to compromise under the conditions that he would show us the videos first, before loading them and would only load them if we approved. To make a long story short, 35+ downloads later, he is putting on material that is not appropriate for a 14 yr old and could very likely attract an older audience that could cause bigger problems. I want his site shut down. It is not visually provacative - it's verbally provacative - swearing, sexual language, etc. How can I shut down his account? Please don't tell me I can't. I am very worried. Thank you. (link)
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Try making it clear to your 14year old the sort of problem he could cause and the danger he faces, let him know you will report to YouTube and he could be ban from using the site. if he still refuses Am sure you should be able to contact YouTube, you will probably need to confirm that you are the parent and they should be able to look into it for you.
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what are signs that a guy might like you ??? (link)
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He looks at you in admiration with a smile, also flirts if possible, there are so many signs – He will always make himself available to see or help you, some will buy you little gifts, basically he will be doing things to impress you….. oh, and he could also appear to be shy around you.
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okay so im in love with my ex boyfriend still and he still loves me but says he doesn't want to go out with me again because we fight too much. i have tried to plea with, do i just give up? any quotes or advice would be good.
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You need to know that no relationship is without a fight: I will say give up for now... Take time out and work on those areas you are normally at fault with in the fights, come out refurbished in your appearance and ways. If your ex haven't got a new girlfriend by then, ask him out for a friendly chat, let him know that you have changed and ask for another chance, if he still refuses then move on hun - When my boyfriend and i started dating we fought a lot but because of the love we have for each other we stock together and sorted it out, now we are understanding each other better with less and lesser fights.... Am sure you will find someone who will understand and appreciate you.
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Ok so my whole life I had planned on going to one high school and now, 2 months from the end of 8th grade, I find out I'm moving and its gonna be a different high school. I don't know anything about it or anyone that's gonna go there. Should I try to go along with how their students are, or stick to who I am, cuz I'm artsy and this high school is very technical from what I've heard. And how should I act, I've never been the new kid and now I'm gonna be the new kid at a new high school and I'll be a freshman, as if high school wasn't scary enough. (link)
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I will say stick to who you are, everyone is cool and unique in their own different way... the school should accept you for who you are, if you try to be somebody else that you are not that will soon unvail and will be bad on your reputation
It is normal to feel the pressure of having to start with a new school but be bold and brave, it's only for a few weeks or sooner and you will blend with the rest of the kids.
It might also be worth you researching more about the school, that will build up your confident a bit..... Good Luck
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okay so I'm 17/ female
soo me and my ex have been talking for a long time we broke up last summer but we still talk as if we go out even when he has a girlfriend he still messes around with me.. which i think is wrong he has put me through hell and back in it again but its like i fell in love with him so i cant leave him alone we almost had sex last week but i got really scared i dont know if i should have sex with him because i dont want him to have everything. its really confusing should i just cut him off and not talk to him anymore? it might be kind of akward tho? i dont want any of his girlfriends coming up to me and asking me have i been messing with their man shaking my head what do i do ? (link)
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I know he is your ex so the bound will still be there but darling you have to seat back and think of reasons why you call him your ex, there most be a reason why you broke up and if you two can not see past those reasons and get back together then it doesn't make sense you two having sex or messing around with each other, At the moment you are making it ok for him to have his cake and eat it and believing me he is quiet happy receiving the best part of both worlds, he will never complain but you have to know what you want, would you rather let a man who is sharing his love with someone else mess about with you or will you rather have a man who loves you and wouldn't share you with anyone else or mess about with you?
If still being friends with him will lead you to having sex or mess about with him, then i suggest you keep your distance until you are fully out of love with him. Give someone else who will love and respect you a chance or find a positive hobby you enjoy, get on that to get your mind off this guy: know that if he has a girlfriend and is messing about with you, he will do the same behind your back should you get back together, so move on hun.
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How do u call back a restricted call?? I got a call yesterday and their like " im gonna kick ur ass at school tommorrow." and said some other bad stuff then they hung up. HELP ME!!!! (link)
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The caller i bet is only doing this to scare you but be bold and courageous, talk to your parent about this firstly who should probably inform the police and be prepared, when i say be prepared i mean:
Don't go out looking scared, look bold and don't appear to be intimidated by the anonymous call you've received unfortunately you cant call back on a withheld number, if at all they call back just avoid answering, if you have to then don't sound scared, let them know you have informed the police of this.
Try and stick to a crowd, do not isolate yourself, always be where they are people, if there is a path you walk home from school go another way and make sure they are always people walking on the same path as bullies are likely to attacked you alone in an isolated area.
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I have been with my boyfriend for about three months now. Of course, my mom doesn't know. Only because my past two relationships have ended badly and she doesn't want me dating because she doesn't want to deal with the breakup depresson I go through. That, and I'm very emotional with guys. I've gotten in some bad situations in the past with my exes.
Today she told me she found out by making a comment that was quirky. I was talking to my friend on the phone outside, and my mom asked what I was talking about. I told her I would tell her if I wanted her to know. And my mom said, "You didn't tell me you and Semaj were dating." I told her we aren't and we're just close friends. Now, I know what you are saying. I shouldn't keep secrets from my mom. I understand that.
My mom didn't seem angry or upset when she supposedly found out, but I am a little anxious. I don't know what she'd do if she was upset about it. Any advice or assurance? (link)
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How old are you?
Your mum will always be looking out for your best interest and from experience should know what is best for you - they say experience is the best teacher, and it is always best to learn from your experiences and take hind so you don't make the same mistakes again.
Different people take advise differently, some of us learn from someone else’s experience and some will like to learn from their own mistake so if you have been involved in breakups in the past you should site back and learn from those experiences and think of how you can make things better so you don't end up putting yourself in so much depression, this might help avoid unnecessary breakups….
You do not have to lie to your mum, let her know the truth and i believe she will only give you advises that are good for you and at the end of the day it is up to you the way you want to utilise that advise.
Know that you can't always see the way you live your life only someone who is close to you will see you like you see yourself in the mirror and advise you with love.
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