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need advice, do i let him go?
okay so im in love with my ex boyfriend still and he still loves me but says he doesn't want to go out with me again because we fight too much. i have tried to plea with, do i just give up? any quotes or advice would be good.
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Guy here.
Let it go. You're attached to him because you see something awesome about him, but you must understand that a relationship takes two. If he can't build one with you, then you cannot build one with him. Relationships aren't without conflict, but he has told you in no uncertain terms that the level of conflict that he's been a party to are beyond what he can tolerate.
It's not you - it really is him - and by severing, he's done you and himself a favour. But it's up to you to skip past the denial and bargaining stage and to come to terms with the fact that the relationship, as you knew it, is dead.
There is one hope for you however: While guys notoriously dread starting in the friend zone, he's accepted that he could maintain a friendship with you. If you can love him as a friend rather than as a life partner, you can continue to be with him on that level. But if you cannot, the next best thing for both of you at this point is to simply severe.
Good luck.
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Of course you should let go its not right for you to be doing that to yourself.It's clear to me that he is only playing games with you don't continue with heart break just stop hurting yourself and fine focus on something else that is important in your life. Lke mine would be catching up on my painting. Guys like that don't desirse the time of day girls like us give them. I didn't say much but I do hope that I helped a little.
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My advice is to let him go. Today we are bad about dating and staying in relationships that do not work. When you date someone, make sure it is someone that you could one day marry. If you know there are things about that person that you would never want as a husband or as the father of your children, then do not waste your (or his) time. Most marriages end in divorce because as soon as they are not working, people quit and get out of them. In a marriage, it takes a lot of work, even for couples that are truly in love and committed to each other - it is still hard work. So.... if you are already having problems while just dating, it probably is not a relationship that will last. Lastly, I do not now your age but if you are young, enjoy life, enjoy friends, enjoy your family (as boring as that may sound) grow in your religion, sing, dance, travel, try something new, believe in yourself - don’t spend so much time forcing a relationship to work. There are so many things in life people miss out on because for some reason, we all think we “have” to center our thoughts, energy and time around being in a relationship. Look in the mirror and know that you are so worth it and that one day you will meet that special someone that doesn’t have to question if they want to be with you or not! Thanks.
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You need to know that no relationship is without a fight: I will say give up for now... Take time out and work on those areas you are normally at fault with in the fights, come out refurbished in your appearance and ways. If your ex haven't got a new girlfriend by then, ask him out for a friendly chat, let him know that you have changed and ask for another chance, if he still refuses then move on hun - When my boyfriend and i started dating we fought a lot but because of the love we have for each other we stock together and sorted it out, now we are understanding each other better with less and lesser fights.... Am sure you will find someone who will understand and appreciate you.
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If he doesn't want to date you, Then it's a waste of time trying to get him to reason with you to make it work out. I agree with the user below me, If you two really loved one another you would find a way to work it out. You can't force someone to be with you, If he doesn't want to date you then it's his loss.
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If you guys really love each other, you will make the relationship work no matter what. All couples fight and no one is perfect, which is why you should not let little things get to you guys. You and him need to talk about how you could make the relationship work this time. If you see things aren't working out, then at least you will know you tried.
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