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My mom found out we're dating.
I have been with my boyfriend for about three months now. Of course, my mom doesn't know. Only because my past two relationships have ended badly and she doesn't want me dating because she doesn't want to deal with the breakup depresson I go through. That, and I'm very emotional with guys. I've gotten in some bad situations in the past with my exes.
Today she told me she found out by making a comment that was quirky. I was talking to my friend on the phone outside, and my mom asked what I was talking about. I told her I would tell her if I wanted her to know. And my mom said, "You didn't tell me you and Semaj were dating." I told her we aren't and we're just close friends. Now, I know what you are saying. I shouldn't keep secrets from my mom. I understand that.
My mom didn't seem angry or upset when she supposedly found out, but I am a little anxious. I don't know what she'd do if she was upset about it. Any advice or assurance?
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Your mum will always be looking out for your best interest and from experience should know what is best for you - they say experience is the best teacher, and it is always best to learn from your experiences and take hind so you don't make the same mistakes again.
Different people take advise differently, some of us learn from someone else’s experience and some will like to learn from their own mistake so if you have been involved in breakups in the past you should site back and learn from those experiences and think of how you can make things better so you don't end up putting yourself in so much depression, this might help avoid unnecessary breakups….
You do not have to lie to your mum, let her know the truth and i believe she will only give you advises that are good for you and at the end of the day it is up to you the way you want to utilise that advise.
Know that you can't always see the way you live your life only someone who is close to you will see you like you see yourself in the mirror and advise you with love.
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The fact that your mother didnt seem upset or angry should show you that she's approachable to talk to. The fact is that you're going to have a few heartbreaks in your life, it's inevitable. You know it and so does she. She knows you're seeing someone now and i think it's just best you get it out there with her. Be honest about it. Confirm that you're seeing this guy, reassure her that you know what you're doing and you've learned from past relationships, and that even if things do go wrong you'll need her support.
Your mum is concerned and for good reason. Parents will do anything in the world just to make their child smile. Despite seeing you in such a state after bad break ups, she knows that you gotta go through it. Its part of growing up. She's giving you the benefit of the doubt by giving you the freedom you have to date. So do her the same courtesy.Just because she's concerned by no means renders her untrustworthy. I think she's shown you that.
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