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guilt- help me please
So while my boyfriend was in another state, I went to a party and ended up very drunkenly cuddling with another guy - my friend that likes me but I have NO INTEREST in him, in his bed all night, with my panties off. I told my bf everything the next morning and also told him I think we might have kissed. There is still one thing that is eating me up, I am pretty sure that at one point I was touched down there, the thing is I don't exactly remember if I touched myself or if I pulled the guys hand to touch me thinking it was my bf or maybe I just wanted it, but I remember as soon as I felt it getting touched I stopped it. Now we talked about it twice and he is over it but I feel like I am lying to him if I don't tell him this one thing-
should I just let it go because it might not have even happened and I'll be worrying him for no reason and possibly break up and it was just a dream (I have very vivid dreams) or should I tell him and risk losing this amazing relationship? I'm so torn right now... I don't want to lose him but if I don't tell him I feel like I'm lying but maybe it didn't even happen! AHHH what do I DO??!?!
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Let it go. Your boyfriend has forgiven you. There's no point damaging your relationship with your boyfriend if you can't even remember what really happened. If you regret it and it won't happen again then leave it at that.
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Lol, this must have been a very interesting night...
Well done for having the courage to tell your boyfriend about the night, being truthful builds a good relationship but also this inccident might put fear in your boyfriends mind on whether he can trust you to be good whenever he is away or when you are drunk... The fact that you have already told him the story without mentioning that one thing, at the moment you are even unsure of what exactly happened, i will say forget it, there is no reason to point that out if your boyfriend haven't asked you but if you think for one reason or the other he will find out about this, then i will say it is better you tell him yourself. Accept that what you have done is wrong without blaming it on the alcohol, (we all do silly things when drunk) promise to be more careful.
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ok, it sounds like your stuck. 2 possibility's ;; one- he could get over it or two- he could be VERY upset and something bad could happen to your realationship. you have already breached his trust by telling him about being in the bead. i think it would just hurt him more if you told him that as well. and even if you dont break up, it will never be the same. the trust will be gone and he will think about that when you are with him. trust me - ive been there. so i wouldnt tell him because your not even sure it happend, BUT, if you continue to feel guilty about it your probably gonna have to tell him. this situation is a very big very difficult one and i hope i could atleast help a little bit. let me know how it goes; best of luck.
~Alana*
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