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ok so why do we need movie ratings if parents let kids go see them any way or let them watch them at home alread (link)
People know what their kids should do. If you don't like the parents letting them do it, or the lack of parenting, find out what source is really aggravating you. Do you have a child with friends who can't/can watch some movie. Are you a kid who thinks your parents are unfair? Some people do what they do and hopefully the kids won't be scarred


hi guys, i have been very stressed lately and i raelly dont know what about. I guess relationship things, family stress, and school stress. Does anyone have a good way to just sit home and relax? Just to let everything escape from your mind that you havent been able to go a day without thinking about in a few months. To have a completely empty head. I've been thinking so much for the past few months, the things i think about follow me to my dreams when that was the only place i could escape them, and ive had a constant headache for about 2 or 3 weeks. how do i compltely relax my brain, and my body and forget everything just for a day while staying at home? Thank you so much to who ever answers this, it will be highly apperciated! (link)
READ THE POWER OF NOW. You need to escape your thoughts and just look around you. Take deep breaths. In nostril out mouth. Focus on one thing in front of you. Everything about it, notice. If your mind wanders, refocus.


well i'm 17 years old and i'm a 26A i have been the same size since i was 12 years old and i haven't grown yet i was wondering weather my boobs will grow or they will stay this size forever (link)
There are exercises you can do to increase your size. Search online. If your worried about getting bigger boobs. Dress them up in a waterbra. Any guy who loves you will take whatever you got. Look on webmd.


Its driving me nuts! I know lots of guys at school like me-alot. But no one has ever asked me out! My bestfriend gets all these "oohs" and "ahhs" whenever she talks about me and shows them a pic, but ive never been asked out. WHen i was little everyone made fun of me, so i dont really have any guy friends, but now im one of the hottest girls in school. Still no boyfriend. My bffs tell me i should ask myself, but im too nervous to do that. My biggest guess is that all the guys are afraid im too good for them. Im pretty sure of that. But if they knew me, theyed c how happy go lucky i am! How can i get a boyfriend??? Guys, ur welcome to give me some answers too bcause this question relates to u. so plz! HELP! (link)
Your in highschool and you have your whole life ahead of you to worry about boys. If you really want to meet someone not "intimidated" by your looks, start meeting guys from surrounding highschools.


I am a fifteen year old girl living in Hell. My parents fight constantly. Over the dumbest shit ever. I am smited and cursed at and beat because I can't do a lot of things the way my parents want because I have never learned. For instance, today, my stepdad strangled me because I walked away when he was telling me to go get something. My mom pulled me by my hair because I accidentally got the house wet with the hose when I was cleaning out the cat box. They treat me like shit. My mom tells me I'm ugly and she gets very angry because I am quiet and I am a little bit difficult at learning things. She complains that I can't do anything right. It makes me feel like I will never ever amount to anything at all. When I try to be what they want, I can't do it right. When I want to be who I am, they treat me like shit. They don't listen to what I have to say, they think I am a complete failure, and nothing I ever do is ever perfect for them. Somedays I just feel like killing myself, or running away, or even calling child services. My life is off and on happiness. I was happy and now I am getting depressed. They expect so much out of me when I don't know what they want. I need help. I don't know what to do anymore. They threaten me and my sister, and they abuse us when we don't say or do the right thing. We are sick of it. My sister is 9.

Anything will help us. I just need some guidance. (link)
speak up to a counselor ASAP be prepared to be afraid of change and learn to live a new life. I noticed for someone who doesn't comprehend well, your grammar and writing skills are excellent. Your path in life might be to go through the storm of doing what's right and getting out and writing about it and sharing with others.
You must tell yourself everyday, you are wonderful. Believe it. There is a purpose in all this happening/


recently i've found myself a little sad because i hear or see people having fun with other friends like going to parties and hanging out etc.

I don't really have many friends. I have 1 best friend and we hang out a lot, he's a dude, i'm a girl. we're both 18 in high school still. i'm not really any stereotype. i'm like a mix. i'm weird but pretty. smart but kinda ditzy. athletic but girly. i'm having a really hard time finding a group of friends/or even a friend. i'm not a big fan of girl friends.. i used to have a lot of girl friends in my past but i always find myself so frustrated with girl friends because they cause so much drama and problems. thats why i dont have many friends, because most of my friendships are so full of drama and i get sick of it. thats why i like to hang out with guys, because they're so chillax and don't cause problems and i have so much fun just hanging out with them :)

but like i said, i have been finding myself a little sad. i hear about girls in my school going to get mani/pedi's and going shopping together and having a girls night out. i get sad because i don't really have friends like that who i can do things like that with..

but at the same time, i'm glad i dont have girl friends because i dont have to deal with drama like fighting over boys and jealousy etc.

i'm really torn in this issue. i miss having a girl friend to talk to about girl talk and going shopping together etc. but at the same time i kinda like just being independent and hanging with guys.

what do i do?? (link)
guys are always trying to show who is the toughest. Most guys who are your friend still think of you as a girl too. You should be open to having decent friends who are girls and at the same time are afraid of being hurt. That's life.
live and learn. You also miss mom. Your looking for a female confidant. Go get some friends girl.


Okay well. I recently made up with a guy friend of mine and it's been great :) but when one of my friends, lets call her "Lisa", talks to him I get jealous. (We used to like eachother).


"Lisa" always starts the conversations and today it seemed like she purposefully went and stood next to him.

I don't know why I feel like this, and I really wanna stop!

What can I do?
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He said he liked me a few weeks ago, but he says he doesnt THINK he likes me anymore. What does he man by "think"?

THANKYOU! (link)
Your friend is trying to see if she out ranks you. believe it girls are catty! He has a penis and doesn't know where he wants to put it first.
1. Act like you don't care.
2. Find someone who is actually worth talking to
I bet she wants them too.
3. Jealousy is an ugly thing, get control over it early.


How does a developing friendship online compare with a developing friendship face-to-face?
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Do yourself a favor. Type a letter and then write one. Which one was more personable. The letter that was written. Seriously, there are things you must deal with face to face 90 percent of the time. this is one of them.


hey everyone 13/f I love watching old movies on tcm and up to date movies in old time surrondings like in a different time period like the Notebook in the 40's. I was just wondering is there men still like that these days like noah from the notebook and similar characters. I just really can't explain I mean like that aren't trash. Like thats sweet old fashioned and things? I hope I'm not making A fool outta myself I just hate it when I think about it that guys aren't the same now as when they were in the 40's and 50's ? So do you think their are still guys like that?? Thanks you guys(: Please help! (link)
the notebook was a book. fiction. it's a wonderful concept but what made it sooo beautiful was the pain they endured and still stuck it out. You want romance, shivelry? Look in diff. place and grow up first. Enjoy you and learn who you are before who you are looking for.


Okay so I have a bf, and we have been going out for 2 months. And I have a guy friend that asked me to give him a picture of me in my bra, should I? (link)
Come on, really? NO!


no love for me ever. heartbroken too many times. you told similar man to take 10 beers 40 percoset and 100 xanax. i am afraid that i will either vomit out such quantities but more that it wont work. i will be paralyzed drooling piss and crap in pants always,blind, and be aware of all this. (link)
Stop it now! You would hurt only your loved ones not the assholes who hurt you. And by the way, pain is life baby. Deal with it!


14/f

Sometimes I can feel a pulse in my abdomen, not hard but just there, (not pregnant) and I thought it was normal until I looked online and saw that it's a symptom of an AAA which I forget how to spell. Anyway it scared the living crap out of me as I fear surgery. Are there other symptoms I should look out for? I know it's more of an elderly thing but I'm paranoid sometimes. Is it normal? Thank you! (link)
It could be gas. see a doctor don't freak out, you need to get checked and stop worrying.


Just curious for people's thoughts. (link)
Yes. We meet people for a reason. All people, family, friends, enemies, etc.. The love someone your talking about is just another one of those people you can learn from. So if you want lifetime love, get ready for livetime work. It isn't easy at all. There are no perfect relationships, but love does show up where we need it most. If your lonely, look to yourself first to fulfill your happiness.


Ok...so my mom is pissed...well she has been pissed since one day this week I got up at like 1 in the afternoon...I'm on sprin break though.....and now she is gtting mad me for whateveri do....I got a haircut and she is like "you made me spend money on that!? Why didn't you cut it shorter!?" And stuff like that...its like whatever I do she is getting mad at me and I don't know what to do...obviously I can't talk back or tell her what I fee because she will just take it all wrong...and so I don't say anything...its very depressing having her scream and get mad me...to the point where I just wanna cut myself everytime because I feel likes its my fault...this has happened before, when I was in 6th grade....so I just don't know what to do! Any suggestions that can help me out? (link)
first of all, if you can'' get a job'' to have your own cash to use as you'd like. Also, the 1 in the afternoon, well half the day is almost gone to a mom. She might appreciate your help to release some tension she's been dealing with. She is probably going through something too. Either depression, anxiety, etc.. You can't please everyone, you need to focus on handling pain another way. It's an addiction like food,alcohol, drugs, etc... It's just detering it. Journal, once you start, it's easier to focus on the issue. If she makes you that miserable because she is that miserable...... you need to be honest and tell her maybe show her some past examples. She's your mom, she should want whats best for you and just doesn't know how to express it.


(I have posted this before, but I need more details and advice. This is revised.)


I have been with my boyfriend for about three months now. Of course, my mom doesn't know. Only because my past two relationships have ended badly and she doesn't want me dating because she doesn't want to deal with the breakup depression I go through. That, and I'm very emotional with guys. I am grateful that she wants me safe, but I'm grown now. She can't keep me safe forever.

Yesterday she told me she found out. I was talking to my friend on the phone outside, and my mom asked what I was talking about. I told her I would tell her if I wanted her to know. And my mom said, "You didn't tell me you and Semaj were dating." I told her we aren't and we're just close friends. Now, I know what you are saying. I shouldn't keep secrets from my mom. I understand that.

My mom didn't seem angry or upset when she supposedly found out, but I am a little anxious. My family members have also asked. They ask how my boyfriend is, and such things as that. I never know what to say.

I say that he's not my boyfriend, but now that everyone knows I want to speak out. Still, I wonder why my parents aren't so concerned. Nobody has protested against it, but why not?

Any ideas why? Thanks. (link)
your parents want you to live your life but also don't want to see you hurt. Its like they want you to grow but also worry about the pain they may see you go through in fear for you and your well being. talk to your family and let them know you appreciate their concern and still want them around when you are hurt because that's what life is all about. Growing up and finding the right person while your family supports you and loves you no matter what. also, think of it this same way when facing a break up. Your one person closer to the guy you may end up with. Learn to deal with it and not sooooo dramatically around them.


I had unprotected sex yesterday, and when i went home i noticed there was blood in my underwear. At first i thought it was just my period but then i realized there is a chance that my cherry may have been popped. Im not sure how to tell the difference, so, can you help ? (link)
you lost your virginity the hymein was broken. You could start your cycle also.
UNPROTECTED SEX NOT EVEN KNOWING IF YOUR CHERRY WAS POPPED IS RETARDED!!!!!!!! WRAP IT UP WHEN YOU ARE READY, UNTIL THEN GROW UP!




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