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i want more friends but i like being independent
recently i've found myself a little sad because i hear or see people having fun with other friends like going to parties and hanging out etc.
I don't really have many friends. I have 1 best friend and we hang out a lot, he's a dude, i'm a girl. we're both 18 in high school still. i'm not really any stereotype. i'm like a mix. i'm weird but pretty. smart but kinda ditzy. athletic but girly. i'm having a really hard time finding a group of friends/or even a friend. i'm not a big fan of girl friends.. i used to have a lot of girl friends in my past but i always find myself so frustrated with girl friends because they cause so much drama and problems. thats why i dont have many friends, because most of my friendships are so full of drama and i get sick of it. thats why i like to hang out with guys, because they're so chillax and don't cause problems and i have so much fun just hanging out with them :)
but like i said, i have been finding myself a little sad. i hear about girls in my school going to get mani/pedi's and going shopping together and having a girls night out. i get sad because i don't really have friends like that who i can do things like that with..
but at the same time, i'm glad i dont have girl friends because i dont have to deal with drama like fighting over boys and jealousy etc.
i'm really torn in this issue. i miss having a girl friend to talk to about girl talk and going shopping together etc. but at the same time i kinda like just being independent and hanging with guys.
what do i do??
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Dear Being Independant,
So finding friends can be difficult, and everyone faces this problem, i've seen a lot of girls go through this, even i did. I tried being friends with one girl, and even had to fake smile so much during it, that i decided after that to stop hanging out with her, it's pretty tough, but a few days later i started hanging out with a new best friend, and she still is today. It's sort of just a shyness thing you have to get over in order to make new friends. No one can tell you exactly how to make friends, it varies per person. The thing to remember is try talking about girl things, you know perfume and shopping, and how you need someone to go with. I promise they won't look at you funny or run around with a bra and wig on.
hope this helps!
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guys are always trying to show who is the toughest. Most guys who are your friend still think of you as a girl too. You should be open to having decent friends who are girls and at the same time are afraid of being hurt. That's life.
live and learn. You also miss mom. Your looking for a female confidant. Go get some friends girl.
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Try connecting with your old friends,.
Unfortunatly No matter what girl friends you havee,. they will always bring at lease a little drama.
I donno what it is about girls.. its like their code rule of being a girl. baha
But Just because your one of the guys doesnt mean you wont meet girls and become friends. you are still very young.
maybe try something new? a new club or meet or something
~Hope this helps
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