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Friends talking shit on me all the time
Im in a group of friends who constantly talk shit on each other, myself included. how can I change or influence a new group dynamic?
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if you know well about your friends you can understand well, if you not happy please change a group it is way but never ever try to change others, because each person unique in nature, try yourself to find new way. as a friend i say one thing just keep it in mind - "don't change others, but change yourself"
1. bring positive talk and shift topics in the group
2. better change a group
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You suck it up. If you don't like it, find new friends. That's how me and my friends are and we do just fine.
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Are you sure you guys are friends?
You can make much more of an effort to speak of your friends in a respectful nature and if you do have anything to bitch about when it comes to them then confront them in private if you have a problem with them, about anything, instead of this juvenile passive-aggressive behaviour that you have all indulged in in the past.
If you find your friends doing it in your company then perhaps make a comment that you're not comfortable talking of your friends like that - its not how youre supposed to treat a friend - and you find it a little unfair or unnecessary. Having people treating you like that really isn't nice and if they're not going to treat you with respect then perhaps it's time to reevaluate your friendships. But make it known that you don't want to be doing this and maybe talk a little about it. Fin out why you all started doing it in the first place.
Instead of focusing negatively on eachother maybe you can all pull together as a team on something positive like a makeover project or planning a friends upcoming birthday bash? Put that energy you use to bitch about eachother and collectively use it to do something positive for you all.
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