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Camping with new boyfriend and my toddler - ???
My Mum thinks it is far too soon (we have been dating for about 4 weeks and my son has got to know him) and camping would be in 3-4 weeks from now.
Do you think this is ok? We would all be in the same big tent, my son has just turned 2yrs old...
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I would be concerned about the short time you have known him. Your mom has a right to be concerned for both you and your son.
Camping with a toddler can be a frustrating experience in the best circumstances, and it can also be a real joy as well. The difference will have a lot to do with the other person you are there with. If he has no experience with kids, (and, no, 4 weeks doesn't count as experience, but nice try... ;-) ) then this may not be the best way to get to know him.
On the one hand, you may find out more in a single day about his possible parenting abilities, or lack thereof, but on the other hand, if he doesn't have any, he is going to want nothing further to do with you.
It is good to get rid of a bad match quickly, so that is one good thing that could come out of it.
If you do decide to do this, here are a couple things you MUST do:
Make sure that at least TWO people know where you are going to be, and for how long.
Make sure to arrange a ride back without him. Have someone you can call to get you if things turn ugly.
Take a cell phone with you. Buy a pre-paid one if you don't have one. It may not work where you are going, but it is a good idea to try.
For a first camping experience, I would not advise going anywhere isolated. A campground with other people will improve the odds that you will be able to get away from the situation if it goes badly.
I know this all sounds bad, and you must be thinking something like: "He isn't like that!" ... BUT, you don't really know him yet. At 4 weeks, nobody truly KNOWS anyone yet. I know it feels like that, but having been there, and done this, I would like you to know that it only feels like you know this person.
Good luck, and if you go: Happy camping!
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