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Please give me advice or your opinions or friendships and life.
lately ive been feeling like ive been drifting away from my friends. i know that every body has this feeling but i feel like we have different morals now. I know that you have to get through differences to have that real relationship. Most of the time i feel like its my fault because i dont think i can hold a relationship very long. I always mess up and that one little thing can make a big diffence and let things drift away. I know a friendship or any relationship is two sided and not just ones fault but i just feel different and things are changing. I recently turned 18 and i think i am slowly revealing who i am but yet to fully show it. Life is to short to lose relationships over little things but yet i feel annoyed and want to get away. I dont particularly have a question i guess i just want you to give me advice or your opinions or friendships and life. Thanks
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You've asked a wonderful and complex question. As someone who is old enough to be your grandfather I must have asked myself this same question dozens of times throughout my life. My feeling as to what life is, is just that; my feelings, yours will be somewhat different.
When I answer different question concerning life questions I usually start with: Life is what we make of it. We can be successful or we can blame others for our lot in life. If we choose to be successful then we will make a plan for ourselves. This plan is a road map to follow along the way we may want to make some detours to try other things, to sight see or we find a road hazard forcing us to make a detour. The one constant remains that we keep an eye on the goal and work to achieve that goal.
As we travel down this road we have mapped out for ourselves different things happen to us. We mature, our interest change, we educate ourselves to the ever changing environment we exist in. This could have an effect on how we see the goal we set for ourselves. We may even reevaluate our goal and rest our goal. This could happen; there is nothing wrong with extending your goals just as long as you remain goal orientated.
One thing that does not remain a constant is that as you mature and educate yourself some friendships will change. I believe there are two types of friendships, there are the friends of the moment, such as neighbors who are friends while you live near them; and lifelong friends who are among the fewest as they are the rarest. These are the friends that want nothing of you but your friendship and you want nothing of then but theirs. They may be childhood friend, someone you meet in college or someone you meet at work. They are someone you do not have to see every day or even speak to every day but know when you need comforting or help they are there for you.
Most childhood friendship don’t last into adulthood. They tend to start breaking up at just about the age you are now. You go off to different colleges; you start to find different interest and new friends with those same interests. Jealousies start to appear because someone was accepted to a college they did not get accepted to.
When we finish with high school our lives start to go off in different directions. Based on what you wrote I see a person that is a planner and not waiting for the moment. This tells me you may be more mature than some of your friends. Everyone matures at different rates. Some of your friends may be forcefully holding on to their childhood as they have no plan for being an adult. Being an adult means changing in many different ways, among them is moral standards. As your present friends mature you may reclaim some of them. For now the best thing for you is to continue to move forward; set your goals and map out a path to follow. As you travel that path you will make new friends.
From your writing I see a bright articulate young lady. If you set goals for yourself you will have a successful future. There is nothing wrong with you; you are maturing and becoming the adult you are meant to be. Please set your goals and follow your heart and you will never go wrong.
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