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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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ok well im SORRY..really im just really frustrated right now and i didnt mean to be offenseive at all about your picture im having a really tough time tonight with my family..and i took it out on you but yeah sorry..

Apology accepted, thankyou. I'm sorry about whatever is going on and I appreciate the apology.

ok w/e it just says my friend rebecca and me ..so your the biggeR one or what..hmm thanks for NOT ANSWERING

I answered when I edited the other one. Apparantly yes, I'm the "bigger" one.. Rebecca and ME... as in her then me. If I were the first from the left I would have said me and Rebecca, no need to give me the attitude, no wonder you've been banned... this will be deleted too in about a minute or so because I don't like the attitude and don't want it on my column...

If you would like to continue being rude then I am in the chatroom right now, feel free to come in...

ehhhh
which one are you?

read the caption to find out

10 prettiest girls on here?
i will rate if you give me names!

SweetXlove, this isn't advice related in any way, I am a girl so I don't usually judge other girls, and I am not going to answer this question. You will have to ask it to other peoples inboxes, which I am sure you have. Goodnight :)

Hi this is the same person that asked about what teens want in a magazine. I was reading your profile and I noticed that you said that you used to be anorexic. I want to know how was this experience. I want to write an article on girls who have been through these types of illnesses. I won't mention your name. My ultimate goal is to see how these illnesses start, what are some of the things that caused it, who did you first tell(no names just simply "friend","mom", "dad", "school counselor",etc.)how did you recover, and anything else would be helpful. If you don't feel comfortable telling me this then I completely understand. Please don't feel pressured.

Well it first started towards the middle of the 5th grade, I don't really remember what caused it (I'm now in 10th grade) I actually didn't tell anybody. My teacher eventually called my parents telling them that I didn't eat lunch and if I did it was just a bite or two of pudding, something very very small. My parents confronted me about it and I admitted that I wasn't eating. I think the reasoning was when my brother and I were fighting he called me fat, I wasn't fat, I know that for a fact, I was actually quite thin at the time, it's just one of those things that happens. But then I remember at one point I was going to start eating again and when I first decided I wanted to eat again I took a bite of food but I couldn't swallow it, I started choking and it made me think that maybe I shouldn't be eating. So then I just wouldn't eat. My parents took me to one "shrink" but I didn't like her, she was strange to me and I just didn't like being around her. They took me to another one who I took to right away, she was easy to talk to and seemed more like a friend than an adult. I remember playing all sorts of games when I went to see her. After about a year it had gotten rather serious, I started eating a little bit more at a time though. I would eat cheese because it was simple, it would melt in my mouth and I simply liked it. Then gradually I would start eating the broth of soups. Then all I would eat was tomato soup. One of my neighbors tried to help a lot. Anytime they went out to eat they would invite me, they were really concerned. All I would get was a grilled cheese sandwich though, I would only eat the cheese and maybe tiny bites of the bread. At one point my psychiatrist (or psychologist, not sure what it's called) told me that if I didn't start eating more I would have to be hospitalized, I don't know if it was true or if she was just scaring me. I remember that towards the end of each visit she would weigh me, but I was not allowed to look at the scale. I do know that I got down to a very small amount. If you would like I could try and find some pictures of when I was anorexic, I could scan them and save them to my photobucket account. I do remember I was in the 6th grade and I wore jeans that would fit a 7 year old, I was 11 turning 12. It was a hard time for me, my parents tried to get me to eat, but I just wouldn't. Eventually the doctors said they would have give me vitamins and stuff because I wasn't getting the nutrients I needed. I had to start drinking these drinks called Boost. They tasted horrible so my dad would put them in a blended with milk or ice cream or something, it was the only way I would drink them. Then I, for a reason I still don't know, had to change "shrinks". It was a man this time. He seemed nice, very polite, but he kinda creeped me out. I was just going into the 7th grade at this point. I was prescribed medicine. Nobody knew it, but I wouldn't take it. It was a pill and I was, and still am, afraid to swallow pills. Sometimes I would chew it, other times I would just hide it or throw it away. Eventually though I talked to a few friends who helped me through it. Midway through the 7th grade I started to eat again, and I stopped seeing the "shrink". During the 8th grade I almost became anorexic again but then I remembered all the Hell I had gone through (excuse the language) and talked myself out of it.

I apologize for how confusing this may be, I just kind of said things as they came to mind, I tend to do that a lot. I don't mind answering questions, actually I have more that I can add.

Last year, my freshman year in high school, guidance had these groups, one of the groups was about girls and their appearances. A friend wanted to join, but was embarrassed to do so alone so I joined with her. We would meet once or twice a week to discuss how we felt about our appearances, eating disorders, and other things that most teenage girls think about. I was able to share my experience, it was a lot of fun, and I got out of class for an hour :-P. But another thing I learned in that class was a very touching song, it's a wonderful song and it's called Beautiful by Bethany Dillon, here are the lyrics.

I was so unique
Now I feel skin deep
I count on the make-up to cover it all
Crying myself to sleep cause I cannot keep their attention
I thought I could be strong
But it's killing me

Does someone hear my cry?
I'm dying for new life

[Chorus]
I want to be beautiful
Make you stand in awe
Look inside my heart,
and be amazed
I want to hear you say
Who I am is quite enough
Just want to be worthy of love
And beautiful

Sometimes I wish I was someone other than me
Fighting to make the mirror happy
Trying to find whatever is missing
Won't you help me back to glory

[Chorus]

You make me beautiful
You make me stand in awe
You step inside my heart, and I am amazed
I love to hear You say
Who I am is quite enough
You make me worthy of love and beautiful

If you have any other questions feel free to ask, I don't mind sharing!!
Kate A.K.A Southern_Chickety

I am male/14

Next year I'm starting high school. Everyone who goes to my school now is going to another highschool than I am. Should I be worried about starting all over? I mean, I'm going to be losing a lot of friends soon. It's just going to be sad on the last day of school when I have to say good bye to all my friends. Help me Please!

Ahhh I went through that a year and a half ago when I first started high school. Almost all of my friends were going to one school and I was going to another. As much as you say that you will remain friends forever, it's not always the case. Now when I see my old 2 best friends it's as if nothing has changed, but it has. One of my other friends who goes to the same school as me keeps in GREAT touch with one of our old best friends, that's how I stay in touch with my old friend, through her. But it's not goodbye, goodbye means forever, it's more of a "see ya later" type of thing. I'm sure if there is a local mall or cinema you guys can go hang at the mall or see movise or something. Seeing each other less makes it more fun when you do see each other :). Don't stress too much. I felt this same way and I ended up making a really good friend the very 1st day of high school. It's a lot better than you think. High school is way more fun (though way more dramatic) than middle school. Just don't befriend the wrong people. If you start hanging around with the stoners or the drunks and stuff you'll get a really bad reputation and it's not something you want. But really it's the same as every year. I mean you almost always have a friend, or at least someone you know, in one of your classes, but you never end up sitting near them and you always end up friends, or at least civil, with the people in you class. It just takes time. Bring a camera your last day of school so you can save the memories, I took two cameras my last day of 8th grade and I still have most of those pictures. A lot of those friends have gotten myspace since then, also instant messenger helps to keep in touch. Go to as many sporting events against their school as possible so you can see each other that way, that's what I have to do since one of my old friends is a cheerleader. Also it's a fun way to meet people, my friend met one of her ex boyfriends (in your case I suppose it would be girlfriend) at a football game haha. Well I suppose this is long enough, if you have any other questions feel free to drop one in my inbox.

Ohkay, let's say im sick, just congestion. Like my nose is all stuffy. And i go out and by a naysel spray. if i take too much of that even by accident, can i permenantely damage my brian or body?

I'm not a pharmacist or doctor so I wouldn't know for a fact so I will not say yes or no. Probably not as long as you don't take TOO much, like I know when I take medication I may take a little teeny tiny bit over the teaspoon dosage, you'll live. But if you OD on it then that could affect you.
Your best bet is to call a pharmasist (sp?) at a local drug store and ask them. The number should be on the container that holds the naysal spray. The only nasal spray I have ever used was flonase, I don't know what kind you use and I'm not authorized to give out such information, so really you'll be better off calling the pharmacist.

whats a bagger?
like a guy called me that but he was totally kidding. thanks. i rate.

I did a yahoo search for a dictionary with slang terms, loooked up bagger, and was given a good site. It does have a few definitions for the term bagger and if I were called a bagger I would punch the person who called me that! Oh yes, the link...
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bagger

do myspaces have viruses on them? i dont have one personally but i look at them! ahhhh thanks i will rate!

I don't know for a fact if it does or doesn't, I've been on myspace for a while now and I haven't gotten one. The only time I ever get viruses is on AOL IM. But It's possible, just try not to click on popups and stuff and you should be okay. You really should have a virus protector though. We have norton anti virus, I hear mcaffee is pretty good too. But no, I first got a myspace the begining of last year, then I got a new one, but that whole time I never once got a virus from myspace. Tom does a decent job with the site!!

Hi everyone I am planning to start my own magazine company. I wanted to know from teenagers what do you'll look for in a magazine. If you have any suggestions or comments let me know I will greatly appreciate them. But I don't want comments on celebrities because I already have that covered.
Thank you :)

Personally I LOVE the embarassging stories that the readers submit, they are the first thing I look for when reading magazines such as seventeen and cosmo. I also like the quizes. Ummm enjoy reading stories about how people overcame certain things, like in one magazine I read how a few girls were out drinking and they got into an accident, one dies the other survives... I like to read about them, only if they're interesting though. Now is this directed towards teenagers in general, teenage girls, or teenage boys? Because I'm a girl you're not going to get everything from me, the guys are going to have different opinions. I like reading reviews about movies and stuff, it helps me decide which I want to see, but you can get those in newspapers and stuff also. Sometimes I'll take a look at the makeup tips, or styling tips.
I think it's awesome that you want to start your own magazine company. That's really ambitious of you! I would take suggestions from some of the popular magazines, like read through a Seventeen magazine or a Cosmo Girl or something, see what they seem to have. Don't copy them or anything, just take a look to get better ideas. Also maybe you can have like an advice thing in it. Like readers will send in questions and you'll post a few (depending on how long they are) in the magazine, but you will still answer the ones worth answering. I think that would be cool, I mean I wish there was a job out there where I could just be a columnist or something.
Anyway, good luck with everything!!
~~Southern_Chickety~~

How do you become a fitured columnist?
& what is a fitured culmnist?

♥

Not sure how this question was approved, but anyway...
http://advicenators.com/faq.php?t=7

Also if you have any more question about the site make sure you read the FAQ first, please.
FAQ is located at the top where it says home|get advice|topics|colunnists| -!START HERE!-
Click start here, that's the FAQ. Anyway, if you just click the link (or copy and paste to a new page, not sure if you can just click it) it will bring you directly to where they tell you how to become a featured user.

hi my name is jess im 13. well i constantly have these feelings that i wamt to die and i have no purpose for life. i play as many sports as u could think okso thats not really helping. i get really stressed easily and i cut myself once over a boy. I really need the best ways to handle it im getting really stressed and i cant enjoy myself. if theres any way i can handle it without having to talk to someone because i would sound stupid. please help
jess

I know I can't add as much as the rest, but I can assure you that I've been there. Maybe not for the same reasons, probably not for the same reasons, but I've been there. A friend of mine passed away due to drunk driving and I blamed myself for it. I won't go into details because I would like to help you instead of waste your time with my story. But I wanted to kill myself, the best thing I ever did was talk to an adult. She didn't think I sounded stupid at all, she was willing to help and probably saved my life. You can do it anonymously just like this website. Do you have any reasons that you would feel this way, or do you just feel the way you do. If you have anything going on in life that can cause it then do whatever you can to fix what's causing these thoughts. Everyone's life is worth living! I also used to cut, it's very addicting and it really messes with you! I would suggest if you can help it to stop. I can offer you a pretty good source of help. Teen talk! Have you ever heard of it. I know every year at school we get the brochures, most people just throw theirs away but I find that it's more helpful than you would think. The number is something like 1-800-650-TEEN (1-800-650-8336) They might have a website too, I would suggest googling for it.

Sorry if it doesn't work. If you need someone to talk to then please don't hesitate to ask me stuff to my inbox, I'll try my hardest to help. Also I haven't read through everything TheOldOne has left you but I know that he is a very good columnist plus DN gave him some information to share with you so PLEASE try to take his advice.
I know you said you don't want to talk to an adult because you are afraid you will sound stupid. Well I can tell you what I did because I too was afraid of sounding stupid, I think I may have been more embarassed too. I sent an anonymous e-mail to about 5 people asking for help, the one who helped the most I kept in contact with, she ended up helping me a WHOLE lot (I knew all 5 people) but just a suggestion. I'm here for you if you need me. I do encourage you to use the teen talk number. I'm pretty sure it's anonymous, though I'm not sure whether or not it's anonymous or free or any of that which is why I suggest checking things out on the website!!

ok im going to a basketball game today with my friends & idk what to wear..like should i wear a long sleeve, a hoodie, hair up, hair down, hair straight, hair curly, make up, no make up, etc etc. if you have any ideas let me know.

thanks!!

Okay well I'm always at our schools basketball games and stuff, it's indoors (duh) so it's not like you really need long sleeves. Just a cute short sleeve tee shirt with jeans (not too tight, not too baggy) a hoodie would be fine. How do you normally wear your hair? I guess up would be fine. Make up is okay but don't go all out. Really just eye makeup, but not extravagent, it's a sporting event not your senior prom :-P/ Soo maybe some light eye shadow and some mascara, even a little bit of glitter is OKAY.
If my hair was long enough and was easy enough to put up then I'd wear it up, I always wear hoodies (well almost always) and then just normal jeans, not skin tight and not too baggy. I don't wear sneakers (tennis shoes if you're southern) but if you do then wear them, otherwise just wear flip flops or something. My makeup usually consists of light blush, glitter, light colored eyeshadows and mascara... I go to all of our home basketball games too... but yeah, you shouldn't really worry much about your appearance. I think we have one today and I'm just going to throw my hair up in a ponytail put on a hoodie over a cami and toss on a pair of jeans I got at Kohls haha. Probably wear my rainbow shoes too. I also live in the south so the weather is nothing for me, at least nothing comparible to when I lived in NY...
this answer seems to be long enough for such a simple question so I'll just finish now :-)

Does anyone know if the boys like the smell of britney spears curious perfume? I just got a box of it and lotion for christmas. So i was just wondering.

Well this guy my sister has been hanging around a lot told her he liked the smell of her perfume and that is what she was wearing. Then again I think he likes her so that could be why he's saying it :-P. But yeah, guys like it.

I also know a few guys who like Jessica Simpson's dessert sprays and lotion-- but that is for a completely different reason :-P

if you get fingered, is that considered loosing your virginity???

i'm 14/f. thanks

Sexual Intercourse: the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man's penis is inserted into the woman's vagina and excited until orgasm and ejaculation occur.

Loss of virginity is when sexual intercourse occurs. The above statement is the definition (at least one of many) of sexual intercourse.

Unless something like that occurs, you are still a virgin.

In shorter terms no, being fingered is not considered losing your virginity.

can you think of a screenname i can use that has the word 'star' or 'wish' in it... please?

i'll rate 5s

Not sure if you meant AIM or not, but for AIM you can have like what, only 16 characters? So I'll try my hardest to make it that

xOxStarGazerOxO

Wishing On Starz

StarLight 79 (or whatever number you'd like)

xoxo Wish 4 YoO

WiShBaBy 49

WishfuLxStarZ

PiNk x0x StArZ

StArRy NiGhTs x0x

Wow, I HATE typing like that, hope you've had enough!!

Hey guys, do any of you know a recipe for fake blood that doesnt stain or at least stains very little? thanks

I tried google and yahoo, not too much help, at least with the non staining, but here is an okay site...
http://chemistry.about.com/cs/howtos/ht/fakeblood.htm

try this

(sorry if I typed it wrong, it's a new thing)

How would I properly say this sentence -

If I were you.
If I was you.

If I were you.

Yeah it actually took me a second and I'm in an honors english class! Pathetic huh? haha. But yeah, it's "If I were you".

Ok theres this song, could you tell me whos it by(like the singer or w/e) and whats the song called?thx!

Hey laidys drop it down,
Just wanna see yall touch the ground,
Dont be shy girl go bananza,
Shake your body like a belly danca...

(sorry about the spelling lol)
if you could give me the lyrics too that would be awsome, oh and garanteed 5's

AHHH! Now it's stuck in my head!! That's okay, it's much better than the song that was previously in my head :-P.

Anyway, it's...

AKON LYRICS

"Bananza (Belly Dancer)"

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza (hey girl)
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Yo, excuse me, beg your pardon girl
Do you have any idea what you starting girl
You got me tingiling, come to me mingiling
Steppin off lookin bootylicious and jingiling
When you walk, I see you baby girl
When you talk, I believe it baby girl
I like that, thick-petite n' pretty
Little touch is a ditty
Love to work the kitty like purrrrrrr
She loves to stirr it up purrrrrr
I can hear her purring up
Cause shes the type that'll get arousy of
Get you excited and call her boyfriend up (ohh)
What's the man without the plan B
We can meet up at the hutter house for the tiki
So stand by like a butty pass
While I watch this beautiful thing shake that ass

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Girl I must say you the flyest thang in here
So hot I gon' need some rain in here
Type to make ex-gangstas bang in here
Girl you could do anything you want in here
Clown if you want to, frown if you want to
You ain't even gotta drop down if you want to
Cause I'd rather see you shake it standin
Either way you do it girl you look outstandin (uhhuuuhh)
And now you got me spending (uhhuuhhh)
The way you got that body bendin (uhhhuhh)
Ass like that girl you gotta be kickin
And we goin to church next day repentent
Lap dancing for my FA crew
Slide it ova to boo cause he want some too
Up in the VIP with no fee
Blessing you with the G even tho we gettin it free so

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Girl shake ya body body
With somebody body
Whatever you do don't break your body body
After the party party
Grab a hottie hottie
In the back seat of your Maserati-ratti
Jiggle jiggle it to the left (ah ah ah)
Jiggle jiggle it to the right (ah ah ah)
Jiggle it to the front then jiggle it to the back
And jiggle jiggle it all all night (ah ah ah)

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

Hey ladies drop it down
Just want to see you touch the ground
Don't be shy girl go Bananza
Shake ya body like a belly dancer

on my aim if i am away for a long time, it makes me come back when i dont hit come back or anything.. anyone have any idea why this is and how i can stop it???

thanks.

First that toxic paradise person is wrong because they have the new setting that allows you to IM people while you're away if the box is checked (I do it all the time, I'm much too lazy to come back :-P)
Anyway, it's done that to me before too. I share the computer, we have windows xp, emachines or something. But see I'm able to switch users so my brother/sister/mom/dad can sign into their names. Even if I don't stick an away message up it will automatically say I'm away from my computer, like if I switch users without putting one up just when I come back the away message is gone. Do you have that type of computer? Where you can choose to log off or switch user but all your programs will still run (unless you log off) because if so it could have something to do with that. I'm no computer genioys, but I can tell you that it's not just your computer or your program. I tend to notice it more when I go to the mall, then a movie, then shop, then come back, like I'm gone for hours before it will do that. It's never done that when I go to bed and wake up, but that's usually because my dad signs me off in the middle of the night or when he wakes up. But that's besides the point. There really isn't much of a way to stop it that I know of, this answer I suppose it a possible explanation of it just being the type of computer that you have, or some reassurance that it isn't just you!! yeah, this was kinda of confusing to me so sorry if I confused you... Happy holidays!

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