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i dont know what to do
hi my name is jess im 13. well i constantly have these feelings that i wamt to die and i have no purpose for life. i play as many sports as u could think okso thats not really helping. i get really stressed easily and i cut myself once over a boy. I really need the best ways to handle it im getting really stressed and i cant enjoy myself. if theres any way i can handle it without having to talk to someone because i would sound stupid. please help
jess
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Sport is an excellent thing to do when you are feeling like this. You need to fight it!
Why dont you write down how you are feeling, a diary is the most understanding thing in the world and it is theraputic. You need to take care of your physical health, did hurting yourself help? i suspect not, it gets you nowhere believe me.
You should really consider telling someone? You may believe you sound stupid but letting this go on can just make you feel worse, there are lots of people who would take you serious, there is nothing stupid about your situation and infact epression is more common than the common cold.
I'm fighting it and so can you!
All My Love
Anniie
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Ok, there is no need to cut yourself over a boy. They come and go. And THERE IS A PURPOSE OF LIFE! You just have to find what it is. And I know this sounds corny n all but you should think about talking to your parents. And if you are on drugs, GET OFF OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They can really hurt you and won't help with the problem you have at all, just make it worse. Don't kill yourself, since it is almost new years, so make a resolution to not die!
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Your thoughts are not truly suicidal.
Your strongest source of personal identity has been playing sports. It sounds as if you haven't tried much else, and you've become bored with just being a "jock", hence your lack of a sense of purpose.
Right now you are adrift in the sea of identity formation. Who are you? Who will you become? Once upon a time you cut yourself over a boy because you wanted to try it out, see if that's who you are, a cutter. You found out it did nothing for you. So you aren't a cutter.
You play sports, perhaps well, but that isn't enough for you. There's more to you, Jess, and you are desparate to discover yourself.
Free yourself from the rigid role you have been playing. Allow yourself to pursue whatever interests you, regardless of the stereotype.
My advice is to cut back on athletics and try some other extra-curricular activities.
Keep searching, don't give up, and you will come to know yourself like never before. It's all a part of adolescence. Everyone goes through it.
Dr. Chad
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how bout when you get those feelings you can ..:
1.punch a pillow [:
2. Scream
3. Look your self in the mirror and say : what would my family do with out me?!
4. Compliment yourself every day :]
5. Write a song or poem about your feelings?
hope i helped?
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first off,you are very young and you have a long life ahead of you!why would you wana die yet?everyone has a purpose in life,and you do to.
my advice to you is you should talk to your mom are dad about this.they can get you help
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dear jess i think you need to try talking to someone even if you feel stupid try your fsmily or bff cuz they will probally understand
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I know a lot of people who have cut themselves. And trust me it is not a good thing!! I mean it helps at first but when you think back on it there was really no purpose I mean cutting yourself IS NOT going to solve your problem at all. The best thing you can do is to find someone who you can REALLY REALLY trust and talk to them about it that is what helped me. Also find something that makes you happy for example music or reading that always helps. You will start to feel better in time but it wont happen all at once. Also writing down your feelings really helps. You can also try this trick when you feel like you want to cut yourself put a rubberband around your wrist and snap it and it will hurt just as bad but wont physically hurt you. I hope I helped.
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I know I can't add as much as the rest, but I can assure you that I've been there. Maybe not for the same reasons, probably not for the same reasons, but I've been there. A friend of mine passed away due to drunk driving and I blamed myself for it. I won't go into details because I would like to help you instead of waste your time with my story. But I wanted to kill myself, the best thing I ever did was talk to an adult. She didn't think I sounded stupid at all, she was willing to help and probably saved my life. You can do it anonymously just like this website. Do you have any reasons that you would feel this way, or do you just feel the way you do. If you have anything going on in life that can cause it then do whatever you can to fix what's causing these thoughts. Everyone's life is worth living! I also used to cut, it's very addicting and it really messes with you! I would suggest if you can help it to stop. I can offer you a pretty good source of help. Teen talk! Have you ever heard of it. I know every year at school we get the brochures, most people just throw theirs away but I find that it's more helpful than you would think. The number is something like 1-800-650-TEEN (1-800-650-8336) They might have a website too, I would suggest googling for it.
Sorry if it doesn't work. If you need someone to talk to then please don't hesitate to ask me stuff to my inbox, I'll try my hardest to help. Also I haven't read through everything TheOldOne has left you but I know that he is a very good columnist plus DN gave him some information to share with you so PLEASE try to take his advice.
I know you said you don't want to talk to an adult because you are afraid you will sound stupid. Well I can tell you what I did because I too was afraid of sounding stupid, I think I may have been more embarassed too. I sent an anonymous e-mail to about 5 people asking for help, the one who helped the most I kept in contact with, she ended up helping me a WHOLE lot (I knew all 5 people) but just a suggestion. I'm here for you if you need me. I do encourage you to use the teen talk number. I'm pretty sure it's anonymous, though I'm not sure whether or not it's anonymous or free or any of that which is why I suggest checking things out on the website!!
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hey give your self a break don't kill yourself expessally overa boy you kill yourself and you'lln go to hell for murder
because hell is hot and do you think that boy is goingto care no
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jess, life can at many points be too stressfull.... its normal... but go easy on yourself..live day by day, dont worry about tomorrow when its only today!! try to go out with a good friend for ice cream... or go rent one of your old favorite movies... remember you only have one life to live...and about the cutting, sweetie boys arent worth that much stress... just wait for the brighter day honey!!!
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The best way to enjoy yourself is go out with your friends because when you have them, you have everything. They cheer you up when you're down & help you through everything. Never cut yourself anymore, especially over a guy, because you're only 13 & you're gonna date many more guys. Cutting doesn't solve anything either & it only hurts the people around you, so just don't do it anymore.
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First, let me give you some quick resources:
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There's also a toll-free number, if you're more comfortable with that:
Youth Crisis Hotline: 1-800-448-4663
Please believe me, you won't sound stupid - you'd be amazed at how many people need therapy at one point or another. In any case, what you've described certainly sounds serious.
It's a common mistake to think that because a problem is mental, it's somehow not "real". But it IS real, as real as a broken leg. You wouldn't try to heal a broken leg on your own, would you? No, you'd go to a hospital and see a doctor. This is no different.
Remember, there are professional people out there who can help you and will ABSOLUTELY not judge you. Right now you're in pain, and you feel alone, with no one to help or talk to you. If you can get someone to help you, you'll start to feel better almost right away - because you'll be DOING something about the pain, and you'll have hope.
And the good news is that there are a lot of effective treatments for behavioral problems. The odds are excellent that you can lead a happy, normal life, as long as you can take the first step and ask for help.
Talk to your parents. If you're not comfortable with that, talk to your doctor. Or talk to any responsible adult that you trust: an adult relative, teacher, school counselor, minister, rabbi, or priest.
Please get some help. You don't have to live in pain and sadness.
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aw sweetie im sorry! eveyone has a purpose in life =)
the best way to handle stress is
FRIENDS ♥
they are always there for you! you and your friends should go to the mall, go to a movie go out to eat..anything! please dont cut yourself again..its not worth it!! just go out and meet new people..have a good time! hope this helps. if ya need anything else let me know hun!
♥ Kristen
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