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Hello, this is Advice~Gurl. I wanted to respond to your question. I figured you deleted it which is fine but I wanted to let you know that I didn't ignore you when you asked me that question but I have been sick that last couple of days and haven't been able to answer. I also have a habit of reading a question that someone has asked me and I will walk away thinking of how to answer then i will forget to get back to it. Heh, Thats me.
And yes as girls and boys we do find faults about ourselves and focus on them. Me especially.
Its cool your homeschooled but I am literly not taught. Thats not a joke.
Well I just thought I would respond, though I couldn't remember much of your question. Sorry.
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thats cool lol
i am homeschooled, but i have a different education than other people my age. i am in two different grades (the one i am supposed to be in - 8th - in math, spelling, and language; 9th in history, science, reading, spanish, arts, home ec. and PE if you have a grade for that lol) you see, from the picture (not being weird or anything) i think that you are a pretty girl. that is not a joke either. i am a year younger than you, but that shouldnt matter - most of my friends are at least a year older than me. i hope you feel better soon lol. i use my faith as a block against negative thinking, like using Jesus to say, "HE made me the way he wants me to be, and i am not ugly. God made me just right!" he made you just the way he wanted you to be!
dont put yourself down, bring yourself up! God loves you!
-FunnyCide
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i am directing a play . i don`t know what one i should do . can anyone think of a googd play (link)
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ok. i can answer this AFTER i know what kind of play you want to do. love, shakespeare, christmas, comical....
-FunnyCide
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one of my best friends is really going down hill. lately she has gotten really deep into drugs and drinking. it is not like her at all. lately it seems like she wants me to be mad at her and she gets really mad when i try to help or tel her i understand and am not mad. has anyone got a suggestion or have gone through a similar situation? (link)
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i have been through something similar, but to a lesser degree. your friend may want you to be mad at her because she feels that everyone else is mad at her. she may have family problems going on - people like this sometimes are victms of abuse - sexual, physical, and mental. mental is the worst kind b/c it deterorates a proper and true way of thinking. someone in her family may be telling her that shes worthless, ugly, stupid, fat... and she gets drunk and high to cover it up. she may want you to be mad at her b/c she feels like shes not worth having a friend. she may not want you to get involved and get drunk and high and get addicted like she did, so she trys to get you mad at her so that you wont hang out with her; thus keeping you away from such things. she may be upset about something else. was she in a serious, long term (like, a year or more) relationship with a guy and he broke up with her? she may be having propblems at school. bullys or whatever. try to talk to her. ask her what she wants you to do. tell her that you will leave her alone if she comes with you to one place. if she agrees, take her to a counselor with you. just be patient, she may get mad at you because you did this, but it sounds like what she needs. she sounds like she has a lot of anger stored up and doesnt know how to release it. is her family kinda abusive? abusive fathers, mothers, and siblings can have effects like this on an otherwise perfectly normal teenager. if you can answer my questions that are scattered throughout the answer, i can help you in more detail. is she of a certain faith? are you? if shes a Christian, she may be doubting her faith. feel free to ask any other questions of me, this is a really hard question. i hope that i can help you more in the future, and that this helped you! i will be praying for you!
-FunnyCide
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I'm a 13 grl and I'm really self concious about my body. I always think I'm fat but my friends say I'm not.. But I think they r just being nice.. I've thought about becoming anerexic. I know how it hurts ur body and stuff but I dont care. I've eaten less in tha last few days. Am i becoming anerexic? How do you know if you are?
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ok, im not gonna get sappy or whatever - thats not my thing. but heres how it sounds to me: you are probly not fat, if you think that you are overweight, it may be like, 3 or 4 vanity pounds. if you think that you are seriously obeise and overweight, dont get anerexic, that can kill you. it will kill your life (social life - you will lose your friends) and people will think less of you. you could be on your way to becoming anerexic, but trust me - thats not what you want. you need to eat right (that doesnt mean a leaf of lettuce for supper only that you dont eat the cake, just a salad thanks) and exersize. (dont over do it!) just ride a bike or do areobics etc. 30 min a day at least 3 days a week. its not a good idea to do heavy streneous exersise every day, leave sunday to rest (well, any day is good, but because God rested on the seventh day - sunday - and said to remember the sabbath and keep it holy and that we shouldnt work on sunday, that is a good day to choose) if you are craving a snack, get an apple instead of a cookie. fruit is loaded with natural sugar that will keep you going and digests more slowly than junk food so that you have a longer waiting time between times that you are hungry. you may want to tell your best friend and she can help you keep this on track. you can even join a gym that can offer classes to help, if you think that you are becoming anerexic, tell your parents and see a doctor.
-FunnyCide
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I have this really weird fear of phones, I don't know why it is because I'm naturally a very outgoing person and talking to people in public is just fine and dandy, but when I dial somebody's number my heart starts racing and I get all tongue-tied and start blushing. This is really bad considering I have a boyfriend and I believe that communication is key in every relationship. It's especially bad because his phone clicks over to answering machine after two rings so that they can know who it is, and I have a tendency to ramble when I'm on an answering machine. Is there any way I can get over this? I REALLY need to! (link)
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yeah, i know how you feel. i hate telephones (the only person that i am comfertable calling is my best friend of 6 years) and answering machines are worse! lol yeah, you are not the only one. just tell your boyfriend "please call me *monday, tuesday, wednesday pick a day* so that we can talk" then you can talk to him. i havent found a way to not be afraid of phones, just buck up - and call. who says you have to leave a message? i never do. you will just have to make yourself think over what you will say ahead of time then (dont think - just do it) DIAL! (the most dreaded word) there isnt really a way to get over it, i think it may be fear of embarrasment - if thats the case, than i am doomed LOL. the weird thing is, i dont really mind it (as much anyway) when someone calls me. it still bugs me and makes me a little nervous (like i am afraid that i will screw up) but its easier. anyway, good luck and happy chatting!
-FunnyCide
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Gosh, how can I make myself STOP procrastinating??? I mean I've got it bad. I come home from school and don't even start my homework till' about ten at night or after. I get on the computer...eat...clean my room...shower...anything but do homework, and it's making my grades suffer. If I would just start studying for tests a few hours earlier, I would do so much better. Any tips? (link)
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get a friend to help you, or your parents. you can "reward" yourself, like: if i get my homework done by *a set time* then i will let myself *some reward..tv, internet, have dessert..* if you get a friend to help you, they can call you at a set time each day and ask you how much homework you have gotten done. you can ask a parent to make sure that you sit at the table and do all of your homework before you do something else (tv, clean up, eat..) i am homeschooled, and i guess that effects my work some, but i am almost always done by 3:00 pm, most the time earlier, but just about always by 3:00. because the way the school systems are set up, you dont have the "work-at-your-own-pace" thing, you are in a class. your grades are/will suffer(ing) you will just have to get forcefull with yourself and say "i wont get on the computer until i can say the periodic chart of the elements back and forth in my sleep" (that is a little extreme, but it got your attention - did it not?) but an accountability partner (a friend who will help you study and makes sure you did your work) is amazing.
-FunnyCide
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Does anyone have any sad songs... because I am in an extremely down state right now... and that would probably help me cry out my problem... (link)
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sad songs wont really help, when i feel down, i like to turn on some really loud music (Relient K usually does the trick) otherwise, i call my best friend and we talk about the day, our feelings and whatnot. she and i are tight, and we understand each other. talking to someone is such a stress reliever, it helps you to get your feelings out and you will feel amazingly better after about an hour or so on the phone with your closest friend. its better to cry on someone elses shoulder than to cry on your own shoulder. ("it seems to get much colder when you cry on your own shoulder" - Relient K - jefferson Areo Plane) it helps to have sympathy. you may need to write your feelings down. that may help too. (i have written more than one 5 page letter to a friend) you may find comfort in sitting down on your bed with a pillow or something (bear, blanket...) and just cry your heart out. everyone goes through stages like this (i guess) but right now you're going through something that you need to share with a friend. i cant give you a good list of sad songs because i dont particurally like emo songs, and i dont listen to them on a regular basis. i think rock music is a lot better to lift the mood and help settle the spirit out so that it is more even. (believe me - i have seen it first hand, you can cry over rock music) if you need a place to get rock music or some songs, ask away, i'm sorry that i dont know of any emo pop songs, hope your spirits are lifted soon!
-FunnyCide
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I have been going out with this guy for about 2 months and he bought me a bracelet and necklace and my friends all think the bracelet is real gold or w/e idk. Anyways i told one of my best guy friends (who happens to be my ex bf) that I was planning on dumping him (and they are friends him and my bf) and he said he wouldnt tell him i said that but instead he told my bf to be a better bf to me and not be so shy around me so that night my bf invited me somewhere but i couldnt go then the next day he got me a really cool necklace so if I dump him that would be mean after he got me stuff and i heard he really really likes me! But I told my best friend about me dumping him and she told our other friend and our other friend told my bf so my bf was all i heard u were gonna dump me is it true and i was freaked so i said no so now if i dump him he'll no i lied and he'll be torn! what to do?? plz help sry this is long ill rate ya thanx love ya! ps. he seems more like the friend type!
pss. i cant help myself very much i have had 8 bfs and never been dumped i dump all them im not a player really i just get bored easily!(i no its stupid) im 13/f!!! (link)
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ok, well you need to get straight with your boyfriend. personally i think that its crazy that you have had that many boyfriends and you are 13, but that is your descision. you will either deal with your boyfriend for a little longer, or face the music and tell him that you dont like him. you are very well likely that he will be torn and probly angry that you lied to him. he will also be upset because he probly really likes you. he might also be upset because he spent money on you and got you a gift. but if you dont like him, you dont like him. i would be gentle as possible in this situation and offer to "be friends".
-FunnyCide
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ok so i asked you guys adivce earlier on what i should get my bf of 2 years for x-mas, and most of you said i should make a scrapbook. i think that's a really good idea, but i really have no idea how to make one! i was also thinking about taking 12 pics of us to kinkos and making a calendar out of it. guys opinions here would be good, but girls are welcome too. which do you think would be better? how should i go about making the scrapbook? thanks (link)
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a scrap book is an ok idea, if hes into pictures. otherwise i would go with something like a gift card to a music store (if hes into music) or get him a cd of his favorite band, or the kind of music he likes. or you could get him a gift card to a gamestop store if he likes gameboys better. a gift card to a movie rental place if he likes movies....you getting the picture?
-FunyCide
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I am having my 17th birthday party on friday and the theme is pink. I invited guys and they don't care that the theme is pink lol. But this is my first party where guys can come and I am worried something bad will go wrong or that my mom will stay downstairs or something. And what are some games we can play or things we can do that will be fun for both guys and girls? thanks and any other ideas will be great thanks (link)
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get a great movie - a chick flick may not be the best idea - unless those guys dont mind that either lol. i would get some board games that are for a big group, music is a good idea too. if you need ideas for some movies or games ask me and i can give you a list! hope you have a happy birthday!
-FunnyCide
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Ok, well, my guy friend's dad just past away a few days ago. My friend is really hurt and it's weird cuz usually he comes to me to comfort him when he needs it, but he doesnt wanna talk about his dad. Doesnt wanna talk period. He wasnt close with his dad, they didnt live together and didnt see eachother for the longest time. I know he's hurt becuz at his grad (a few months ago) he told me how he was jealous that all his friends dads were there except his. I just dont know how to be there for him, what should i do? I wanna be there for him, Ive always have and now something like that happens, I just really dont kno what to do..HELP! (link)
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i had a similar situation once; dont talk about the desceased person unless he hints at it first. if he starts to withdraw from all life, not seeming to care, not talking to anyone, seems angry all the time; you need to talk to him more forcefully then. he may want to write a letter to his father - even though he passed away; you know - tell his father what he wanted and should have been. it may help to get his feelings out on paper. you just need to be there for him. talk to him alot, call him or e-mail/IM him just to say, "hi, whats up?". he will appreciate this a lot b/c right now hes probaly feeling really down, and like no one cares - that life doesnt matter anymore. even if he wasnt close to his dad, he was family. and it hurts. let your friend know that he can talk to you at anytime, no matter what. he may not want to talk about his dad right now, the wound is too fresh. you just need to be totally supportive and there for him. hang out with him, go see a movie or go out to eat with a bunch of friends. he needs to be surrounded by people so that he feels loved and included. he doesnt need to be left out or he may try something stupid like suicide. he might not of been close to his dad, but he probly wishes he was and hes feeling bad b/c he didnt try harder. just be really supportive, and tell him that you want to hang out with him and that he can talk to you about anything. you dont want to be "bubbly" b/c he might think that you dont care, but you dont want to be like a monk and monotonous b/c that can make you seem uncaring too. just be kind, polite, and pray for him.
-FunnyCide
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Hi. Ok, I have this little problem! See, I really like this guy & all but he's throwin me mixed signals! Like.. I've only known him for like 4 months & we became good friends fast. I was the first one to go and talk to him & he's new at our school this year. All my friends were to chicken to go & talk to him because they were like, "He's soo hot what if I say something stupid?" Ok.. well, I'm an outgoing person so that was easy for me! Anyways.. he'll say stuff like, Stephanie's gay!, so the whole class hears it but I dont care because I'm not gay & he's just kidding & he's always asking me about my boyfriends and how far I've gone with a guy. When I dont talk to him at all, he gets all sad like, "You broke my heart", but then he starts laughin. I dunno if he likes me likes me or if we're just good friends. What do you think? (link)
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you might have something there, but it might be just a friendship thats close. if you really want to know, you will have to ask him; it will probly be kinda scary or make you nervous, but since you said that you were outgoing, it shouldnt be hard. i guess i am kinda biased cause i am a Christian, and i dont think that girls should ask guys out, but thats me. i dont advise you to go ask him out, if he hears from you that like him, he may ask you out. if he doesnt like you, just go on with your life. it may be a little uncomferatable for the first few days after you tell him that you like him if he doesnt like you, but if hes outgoing too it should be fine. if hes a little nervous acting and shy after that, its probly cause you told him something that was new. hope it all goes well!
-FunnyCide
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Hi! It's around christmas time and my best friend has been talking a lot about what she got me...EEK because I'm HORRIBLE at pressies and I have NO idea what to get her! Can somebody give me some ideas? She's 15/f btw...thanks a bunch! (link)
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ok, well, take something that she likes (my best friend likes ballet) and give her something along those lines - for example - if she likes volleyball, get her a key chain that has a volleyball on it and a gift card to a store. if she likes to read, you can get her a bookmark and a gift card. a bookstore gift card is a good idea if she likes to read, and a music shop gift card if she likes music, if she just likes to shop, try target, goodys, or (yes) wal * mart
-FunnyCide
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Okay, does anyone know if when you just wear studs when you get your ears peirced, will the holes still sag? or is there any kind of dangly earrings that don't pull on your ears? I'm clueless and not sure if I want my ears peirced or not :/(sorry if I spelt peirced wrong...) I rate high ^_^ (link)
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you just need to carefully see how much weight your ears can handle before they "sag". most dangly earings now are down to the shoulder, and wearing that all day will kill your ears in a heartbeat! (you dont want to look like an indian with huge holes in your ears do you?) so i would pick some cute dangly ones that are a little bit smaller - not as long - that dont weigh a lot. the length doesnt really matter, its just how heavy they are. be careful and happy....shopping for earings.
-FunnyCide
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well. me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2 months. i like him a lot! but how can you tell when you're in love? (link)
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it will probly take more than 2 months to decide. how "far" have you gone with him? the general way that you know that you are in complete love is this: you try to spend as much time as possible with them, you talk on the phone, e-mail, and/or AIM almoast(or every) night, when its time to go to bed you wish that he was with you b/c you miss him so much; you see something like a sticker(bumber sticker etc.) and you think about him, you think about him just about every waking moment; you talk to him about just about anything and you compliment each other frequently. you must talk to him about this too, if he loves you and how much he loves you! i hope that this helps, and if you want to know more, ask another question and ill get back to you!
-FunnyCide
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For our next dance at my school, me and my friend decided it was getting seriously old to wear dresses. So we are going to were high heels, jeans, and a hopfully very pretty "blouse" i guess. Where would i find one thats appropriate for a dance.. 14/f (link)
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hit the mall, buy something that is a little eye-catchy and cool, but not obnoxiously bright lol. dont worry, i cant stand dresses either. i wear jeans and a t-shirt just about everywhere.
-FunnyCide
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ok i know this is stupid.But i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell my parents. They wont get mad at me or anything for having a boyfriend the thing is i just dont know how to tell them. How should i tell them?? (link)
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i would just say, "hey mom, dad. i have some great news to tell you! i have a very special friend, and we are going out! hes nice, sweet, funny, amazing...(yada yada about the dude). i want you to meet him and see how great...(another rendition of what you said above) he is! is that cool?!" just be straightforward and polite about it. you dont want to seem bossy or pushy, just like their daughter who has a boyfriend and wants to share it with her parents. hope it helps, i havent ever had this problem, so i dont know for sure. i am a Christian, so that changes it up a little too. be polite and mature about it, your parents will appreaciate you including them in your life.
- FunnyCide
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im 15 and f ... there is this guy that was "really hott" and i had a big crush on him but finally i got over him because i realized that we are two totally different types of people, he does drugs sometimes and im one of the most innocent girls ever. But now a few months later we've been talking more just as friends and he's telling me he likes me and i dont know what to do because i do still like him but i dont know if its such a good idea we go out. please help im very confused. (link)
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if you dont want to loose your virginity or be abused (in more ways than one) or be drawn into drugs and beer, stay away! he might not want to sleep with you or abuse you on purpose, but if hes stoned and/or drunk, he wont know what hes doing. to protect yourself, just say "no" in the gentlest way possible. he may like you cause he wants someone who has a good reputation or something; he may like you for being you (i hope this is the case). my advise is no, dont go out with him. good luck! hope i helped!
-FunnyCide
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Alright, my & my really good friend both work at the same place. We also dated 2 guys from work as well. She is now saying that me & her ex-boyfriend flirt alot at work these days although they've been broken up for 2 months now. She says that I get upset when she talks to my ex but that was only when we were actually "dating" but now that we're broken up, I don't see anything wrong with them two talking or whatever. I'm not looking for a relationship or anything more than friends with her ex but yet she is mad about me flirting with him. What am I supposed to do? (link)
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explain that you dont want to hook up with him, only be friends and talk. apologise for making her upset with you and angry, and ask her to explain why she doesnt want you to talk to her ex. it may be jealousy, underling feelings for him still, home problems, relationship problems, regret, denial....just about anything. you will just have to ask her to explain. be gentle about it though. she may not want you to get hurt, but my best guess is that she doesnt want her ex and you going out and her not have a date/doesnt want a guy to come between your friendship. another likely one is that she is jealous - even if she doesnt like him anymore. (this is possible - she doesnt want him, she just doesnt want you to have him) or she may still like him deep down. just ask her, it may take some prying. hope it all goes well!
-FunnyCide
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I just found out that my dad has lung cancer and things are not looking good. he lives 2 hours away and I am 24 with a family of my own but I was just wondering: What are some positive, inspirational, and supportive things I can say to get him through this time no matter what the outcome...how can I help him through this? I have so much passion and emotion inside and I know what to say in my head, but I am so bad at expressing how I feel in the moment. This is the one time in my life where it's extremely important to say and do things right, but I still seem to only cry when I'm alone or think of good things to say only AFTER a situation. I feel I'm not being what I want to be for him to my full potential. Thank you to anyone who can help!! (link)
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we can give you sweet, sentamential quotes if you like, but i think that it would be awesome if you sat down and wrote him a letter telling him how you feel. dont worry, i have problems expressing myself verbally - but i am able to easily (well, generally) express myself on writing. i think its seeing it on paper and being able to revise it and get it exactly right before the person that gets it actually reads it. that way i dont screw up and say something that i will regret later (this is a general statement, you can screw up writing too, its just harder if you read it several times and know for sure thats what you want it to say) hand written letters are a lot more personal than typed letters, but if you have less than beautiful handwriting, i would suggest a nice font and a good printer to do the job for you. if you cant (or dont feel like that will be a good option) you can call or make a personal visit; and have "rehersed" what you were going to say in general. things like "you will always be with me in my heart" are great, but almost over used. this must be really hard, with a family of your own and all. even if you didnt, it is still a hard situation. i hope your father gets better, and i hope my advice helps. ill be praying for you! oh, pray for your father to get well, the power of prayer is the only real miracle worker.
-FunnyCide
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