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what can i do to help
one of my best friends is really going down hill. lately she has gotten really deep into drugs and drinking. it is not like her at all. lately it seems like she wants me to be mad at her and she gets really mad when i try to help or tel her i understand and am not mad. has anyone got a suggestion or have gone through a similar situation?
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You said she gets mad when she talks to you but all I can say is jsut tell her how she is making you feel and all
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She probably gets mad at you when you say you understand because she doesn't think you understand. I don't know if there is anything you can do. I guess just talk to her (which you have probably already done) and listen to what she has to say. Sometimes problems are too big and have to be brought to adults attention. You have to decide the severity of the situation. You wouldn't be telling on her or anything you'd just be helping her out. Sorry if this wasn't any help.
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Just tell her that you think she wants you mad at her. Just ask her what her problem is and ask her why shes getting into those bad habbits. People wont lisen if you nicly try to talk to them. You have to get agresive lol. Hope i helped!
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yeah my friend ended up going into treatment and that helped her.. maybe you should talk to her and just let her know what she is doing to herself and that you dont like it and you really wish she could get it all back together.. maybe she is depressed.. i know it might be hard to do but you should tell her parents.
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You have to get her some help RIGHT AWAY! Don't let her stop you, no matter how mad she is at you. Believe me, she'll thank you in the long run. Tell a counselor, teacher, or another trusted adult about her problems, or call a local hotline. If you have a health teacher, ask him/her for more suggestions.
Good Luck!!
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Aw hun. I was in the similar situation too. My brother was a hardcore drug user and drinker. His friends and me tryed everything to help him stop. But, nothing worked. You be there for her and at least try to help her and talk to her. Because, she might get worst and have something bad happen to her. Like what happened to my brother. He always though that nothing could stop him, like he was invinceable. Which he wasn't. He got stupid high one night and though he could drive home, like nothing was wrong. He ended up in the hospital the next morning on life-support, due to a car crash. His car was a total mess, wrapped around a telephone pole, no joke. It took him realizing that his life almost ended, because of his bad habits. Ever since, he hasn't been near drugs at all. So hun, I know how you feel. All you gotta do is be there for you. She's probably gunna tell you she doesn't have a problem, but try to make her believe that she does. Try going on sites about drugs and drinking. Getting facts of what it does to your life. And what kind of harm she may be in. Good luck!
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Yes, Ive been through this kind of situation with someone who was once my best friend. It was pretty hard for me, but I got through it and I know you can too. You've done your best at trying to help your friend through this, but she's either
(a) angry at herself for what shes doing
(b) frustrated etc
(c) extremely confused
You've reached out to her time and time again, and she keeps rejecting you. Why subject yourself to that? Its sad to drift away from a close friend, but until she sorts things out and decides what path to choose, I think you should hang out with other friends who wont do this to you. Its extremely hard ..but life is full of changes ..
hope i helped and i hope your friend sorts things out and decides drugs and drinking isnt for her
-melissa
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i have been through something similar, but to a lesser degree. your friend may want you to be mad at her because she feels that everyone else is mad at her. she may have family problems going on - people like this sometimes are victms of abuse - sexual, physical, and mental. mental is the worst kind b/c it deterorates a proper and true way of thinking. someone in her family may be telling her that shes worthless, ugly, stupid, fat... and she gets drunk and high to cover it up. she may want you to be mad at her b/c she feels like shes not worth having a friend. she may not want you to get involved and get drunk and high and get addicted like she did, so she trys to get you mad at her so that you wont hang out with her; thus keeping you away from such things. she may be upset about something else. was she in a serious, long term (like, a year or more) relationship with a guy and he broke up with her? she may be having propblems at school. bullys or whatever. try to talk to her. ask her what she wants you to do. tell her that you will leave her alone if she comes with you to one place. if she agrees, take her to a counselor with you. just be patient, she may get mad at you because you did this, but it sounds like what she needs. she sounds like she has a lot of anger stored up and doesnt know how to release it. is her family kinda abusive? abusive fathers, mothers, and siblings can have effects like this on an otherwise perfectly normal teenager. if you can answer my questions that are scattered throughout the answer, i can help you in more detail. is she of a certain faith? are you? if shes a Christian, she may be doubting her faith. feel free to ask any other questions of me, this is a really hard question. i hope that i can help you more in the future, and that this helped you! i will be praying for you!
-FunnyCide
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yeah she wants you to get mad at her..so she can hate herself even more..and get YOu to hate her too.
She needs help..it may not be within your power to help her except to listen to her.
She needs professional hlep to dry her out..ok...if you can get her to at least SEE somoneone that will be the first step.
But she may want to drive you away so she can sink deeper despair....
So..do NOT leave..her ok..be her friend
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Hey don't worry, you're friend is just going through something that's hard for her to handle! Try to be there for her, even if she doesn't want you to! She will eventually over come this stage when she wants to! Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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