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Fear of phones and answering machines
I have this really weird fear of phones, I don't know why it is because I'm naturally a very outgoing person and talking to people in public is just fine and dandy, but when I dial somebody's number my heart starts racing and I get all tongue-tied and start blushing. This is really bad considering I have a boyfriend and I believe that communication is key in every relationship. It's especially bad because his phone clicks over to answering machine after two rings so that they can know who it is, and I have a tendency to ramble when I'm on an answering machine. Is there any way I can get over this? I REALLY need to!
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Are you worried about what to say because you are not face to face with them? Practice by writing down what you are going to say before you make the phone call and it will be easier as when ever you then become nervous then look at your piece of paper and get ideas from that. It will get easier I promise, but practice.
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yeah, i know how you feel. i hate telephones (the only person that i am comfertable calling is my best friend of 6 years) and answering machines are worse! lol yeah, you are not the only one. just tell your boyfriend "please call me *monday, tuesday, wednesday pick a day* so that we can talk" then you can talk to him. i havent found a way to not be afraid of phones, just buck up - and call. who says you have to leave a message? i never do. you will just have to make yourself think over what you will say ahead of time then (dont think - just do it) DIAL! (the most dreaded word) there isnt really a way to get over it, i think it may be fear of embarrasment - if thats the case, than i am doomed LOL. the weird thing is, i dont really mind it (as much anyway) when someone calls me. it still bugs me and makes me a little nervous (like i am afraid that i will screw up) but its easier. anyway, good luck and happy chatting!
-FunnyCide
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just keep trying to call people eventually it will just go away or when your calling someone dont think about it
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haha...i'm sorry i think thats really funny. dont worry i used to have the same problem but i fixed it! i stopped leaving a message or just said hey *name* its... call me back! and then hung up! so don't worry everything will work out! i promise!
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Well in order to get over it i think you should start by talking to people you are confertable talking to. Gradually start talkin to your freinds that you don't talk to on the phone that much and you should overcome this fear. Secondly in refference to the answering machine. Make it so it doesn't answer to fast because i also hate it when i am over the machine I feel like everyone can here me. Well if that doesn't help tell me so i can think of something else.
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Just think about it as you are talking to that person face to face when on the phone, and nothing has changed.I have that prob too and thats what I do. As for the messages, I do that also. My advise would be to kind of plan out in your head first what you are going to say in the message. That way if he doesnt pick up, you will not be rambling or stumbling for words.
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