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Being there for him.
Ok, well, my guy friend's dad just past away a few days ago. My friend is really hurt and it's weird cuz usually he comes to me to comfort him when he needs it, but he doesnt wanna talk about his dad. Doesnt wanna talk period. He wasnt close with his dad, they didnt live together and didnt see eachother for the longest time. I know he's hurt becuz at his grad (a few months ago) he told me how he was jealous that all his friends dads were there except his. I just dont know how to be there for him, what should i do? I wanna be there for him, Ive always have and now something like that happens, I just really dont kno what to do..HELP!
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just be there to comfprt him... say if he needs anything to ask you! just be one of his better friends at the time
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You should take him out and have a good time mabye the fair, Carnivil, Concert, Movies, Mall something to get his mind off of his dad make him relize that you care about him and that he has freinds to talk to. I have been in a similer situation it should work I hope it all works out.
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Just be there for him - if he gets ready to talk, let him know you'll listen. But don't pressure him into talking about it, and if he comes to you, just listen. He'll probably need to get stuff off his chest sometime soon.
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the loss of a parent is a really hard thing for someone to go through. you should understand that he just needs time and space. he may not have been really close to him which is why it prolly hurts him more. but he was still his dad and he stilled loved him. believe me i know, i am not close with my dad at all. we are constantly fighting when we are around each other. and i know if something happened to him i would fell bad and regret saying some of the things i have said to him and some of the fights we have had. he is going through a really hard time right now so dont bug him about talking to you, just give your condolences and let him know that if he needs anything that you are there for him and always will be. other than that there isnt much you can do, sweetie. when he is ready to talk to someone he will. it may be sometime soon or it may take a very long time before he wants to talk about it. and you must respect that for him. just him knowing that you will be there if he needs anything will help out a little. it may not show but deep down it will count to him.
i am sorry for his loss.
i hope this helps.
xoxo
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Give your friend time. Losing someone that you love even if you were not close to them is always hard and it takes time to want to talk about it. Just let him know that you will always be there for him and whenever he needs to talk that you are there no matter what. These types of things are really hard to deal with, just dont try to talk him into something he does not want to talk about. When he is redy to talk he will know that you are there to talk to. Everything will work out in the end. :)
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jus don mention your dad or your family.. and just tell him that youll always be there for him.. what he needs now is support from his family and friends.. the only thing you can do now is just tell him that all of his friends love him and that you will alwaiiz be thea for him *hope i helped* love alwaiiz, aLi
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i had a similar situation once; dont talk about the desceased person unless he hints at it first. if he starts to withdraw from all life, not seeming to care, not talking to anyone, seems angry all the time; you need to talk to him more forcefully then. he may want to write a letter to his father - even though he passed away; you know - tell his father what he wanted and should have been. it may help to get his feelings out on paper. you just need to be there for him. talk to him alot, call him or e-mail/IM him just to say, "hi, whats up?". he will appreciate this a lot b/c right now hes probaly feeling really down, and like no one cares - that life doesnt matter anymore. even if he wasnt close to his dad, he was family. and it hurts. let your friend know that he can talk to you at anytime, no matter what. he may not want to talk about his dad right now, the wound is too fresh. you just need to be totally supportive and there for him. hang out with him, go see a movie or go out to eat with a bunch of friends. he needs to be surrounded by people so that he feels loved and included. he doesnt need to be left out or he may try something stupid like suicide. he might not of been close to his dad, but he probly wishes he was and hes feeling bad b/c he didnt try harder. just be really supportive, and tell him that you want to hang out with him and that he can talk to you about anything. you dont want to be "bubbly" b/c he might think that you dont care, but you dont want to be like a monk and monotonous b/c that can make you seem uncaring too. just be kind, polite, and pray for him.
-FunnyCide
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